{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Honest Path","title":"on Navigating Conflict","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/dab37e56\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3393,"description":"Podcast Guide:Research consistently shows:- 90% of top performers have high emotional intelligence- EQ accounts for about 58% of job performance- High-EQ professionals earn ~$29,000 more annually- Teams led by high-EQ leaders perform 20% better- Employers increasingly value EQ over IQ in hiring decisions.Conflict is one of the clearest dividing lines between immature men and mature men.Most men are either:- aggressive in conflict- passive in conflict- or avoidant altogetherVery few are constructive.FIRST QUARTER:  WHY WE AVOID CONFLICTSECOND QUARTER: GETTING YOUR MIND RIGHTTHIRD QUARTER: THE TECHNICAL SKILLS OF HARD CONVERSATIONSFOURTH QUARTER: REPAIR AND BUILDING LONG-TERM TRUSTFirst Quarter: Why We Avoid ConflictMost conflict avoidance isn’t about the issue. It’s about fear.Three fears drive avoidance.1. Fear of Losing the Relationship2. Fear of Emotional Escalation3. Fear of Being WrongThe Hidden Cost of AvoidanceAvoided conflict creates:• passive aggression• sarcasm• emotional withdrawal• growing assumptions about motivesAnd eventually the relationship breaks under pressure.Quarter 1 Action ReflectionWhat conversation am I currently avoiding?What am I afraid might happen if I bring it up?What will this become if nothing changes?Second Quarter:  Getting Your Mind Right Before the ConversationMost people focus on what to say. But the real work happens before you say anything.Getting your mind right:1. Determine your motive2. Assess your EQ3. Create Psychological SafetyMOTIVEAsk yourself: Do I want to be right, or do I want to improve the relationship?Your motive shapes everything: tone, body language, curiosity, patience.EQPer Harvard’s Professional & Executive DevelopmentComponents of EQ:- Self Awareness- Self Regulation- Social Awareness- Social SkillsPeople with low EQ:Often feels misunderstoodGet upset easilyBecome overwhelmed by emotionsHave problems being assertivePeople with high EQ:Understand the links between their emotions and how they behaveRemain...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0-iTCIytQEYlYB9VGmt2tMFZGYvh70L-G7jhXPVbmEA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9lNzhl/YTcyOTMxNjNlMGM5/Y2Y2ZTc3Zjc3MWYw/OWVmMC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}