{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Performance Intelligence","title":"Conflict Expert: What Swallowed Words Costs a High Performing Team | Tim Duggan","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":4046,"description":"You have rehearsed it in the shower. You have written the message and deleted it. And every time the moment arrives, you find a reason it can wait until next quarter.\nThat conversation is still making decisions for you. It decides who gets the promotion, which project quietly dies, and which good person leaves without ever telling you the real reason.\nTim Duggan spent 3 years inside one question: how do you get better at conflict? He built a media company out of a website he started in his twenties, hired hundreds of people, sold it, and was still terrible at the hard conversation. He thought he was good at it. He was not, and it took him years to work that out. \nSo he went to the people who are: Adam Grant. Oxford negotiators. Accredited mediators. An executive producer of The Real Housewives, which turned out to be the most useful conversation of the lot.\nWhat he came back with is a map. 4 terrains, and every conflict you are carrying right now sits on one of them. The move that works on one will detonate on another.\nAndrew puts it under load. The leaders who can run a profit centre and have never been taught to disagree. Performance Intelligence's own work on psychological safety and constructive challenge. And a live test Tim has not seen coming, where he places a conflict still playing out in public onto his own model, no notes, no preparation.\nListen to this one before your next difficult conversation, not after it.\n00:02 — Why are we so bad at conflict?\n03:38 — How our families teach us to avoid difficult conversations\n07:02 — The moment Tim realised avoiding conflict was costing him\n09:01 — What “swallowed words” do to us — and why silence isn’t really silent\n11:32 — The counterintuitive question: what happens if you don’t have the conversation?\n18:50 — The four terrains of conflict: summit, arena, minefield and swamp\n27:27 — What happens when emotion takes over and the “amygdala hijack” kicks in\n34:27 — The RISA test: should you actually have the fight?...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/crvu0qkU_nPKdfaX6_m4Qg8iubjexgpghzQo9EZjyAU/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83N2Fh/MWFmM2U1OTAyMDRj/ZDg3MTVjZTdiODM1/ZTVkYS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}