{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Notes to Her","title":"Note 73: Don't Let Cuffing Season Talk You Into Less","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":817,"description":"This is the note you need before you make any decisions this cuffing season. Every year, the same thing happens: temperatures drop, the holidays close in, and a lot of women start accepting things in October they wouldn't have tolerated in July. \n\nIn this episode, Yaya breaks down exactly where that pressure comes from, why it has nothing to do with the person you're considering settling for, and the repeating pattern that keeps women stuck in the same cycle winter after winter. This one's for anyone who's ever given someone three extra chances just because the leaves started changing.\n\nInside this episode:\n\n• What cuffing season logic actually sounds like, and why it's louder than you think\n• Where the real pressure to be coupled up actually comes from (hint: it's not about him)\n• The repeating yearly pattern that keeps some women stuck in the same cycle every winter\n• What settling for a season actually costs you, told through a real story\n• The reframe: why being single through the holidays isn't a failure state\n• Four practical shifts to hold your standard through the season\n• Why a pattern across multiple winters is worth deeper work, not just a pep talk\n\nIf this hit home, share it with the friend who's already making excuses for somebody this season.\n\nYaya shares her story about meeting a man who looked good on paper but couldn't show up for her emotionally. The moment things got real, she breaks down the exact realization that made her walk away instead of settling for a life that looked full from the outside. Read the Substack article here: https://yosoyyayar.substack.com/p/i-dont-want-to-cry-myself-asleep","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YSmE1jM0mc5E6hI6jBHRbXBHfMjyueQjBn7vCt4gttA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wYTNl/MzFjYzRjZGYyMDE0/NjkxNDgxZjJlOWFi/ZDhjYy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}