{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Divorce Dialogues","title":"Andrew O'Brien on Why Divorced Dads Need Community","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/decd60bf\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1831,"description":"Most divorce conversations center on paperwork, parenting plans, and finances. The loneliness fathers carry through that process rarely gets a seat at the table.\nIn this episode, Andrew O'Brien, founder of Dad Tribes, talks openly about what men actually go through when a family separates — the silence of an empty house, the loss of a social life that was built around a relationship, and the quiet guilt of feeling like your needs shouldn't take up space. Andrew is living it in real time: he moved into a new home days before this conversation was recorded, six kids and a minivan's worth of belongings in tow.\nTogether, Katherine and Andrew get into why so many fathers wait years — sometimes a decade — before leaving a relationship they know isn't working, why anger becomes the default emotion when men don't have community to process what's happening, and what it actually looks like when a dad finds his people again.\nThis is a conversation about what fathers need to hear before, during, and after divorce — and why the support they build around themselves matters as much to their kids as it does to them.\nIn this episode, you'll learn:Why \"if my kids are happy, I'm happy\" is a mindset that backfires — on the kids and the father;What happens emotionally when the social life a couple built together disappears overnight;Why men often stay in relationships far longer than they should, and what keeps them there;How to take the first steps toward rebuilding community after separation; andWhat children actually gain when their fathers stop pretending everything is fine\nHighlights: \n(00:00) Meet Andrew O’Brien and Dad Tribes\n(05:48) Rebuilding from Nothing: Andrew's Own Separation\n(08:26) Why Isolation Is the Biggest Hidden Struggle\n(13:12) When Men Are Treated Like an ATM\n(14:44) How Loneliness Shapes Parenting During Divorce\n(15:53) How to Start Rebuilding Community\n(18:21) A Father's Emotional Health and a Child's Wellbeing\n(20:11) Common Misconceptions About Divorced...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2nw2w9z7N1c6KkSwiQpiK0ES3HLZcKXStZtcdXwiYB0/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zOTJj/MmUxMzUwODUwNDM5/NjI2ZTdlMTM5OTFl/NGUwNy5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}