{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Other Side of Things","title":"The Other Side of Things Ep 03 - \"Polywise\" with Jessica Fern ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":4033,"description":"00:00 Intro\n01:55 Who is Jessica Fern?\n04:00 What is love?\n06:00 I wrote this book for love.\n08:00 Jessica's finding the language of polyamory\n10:00 Paradigms, Mindsets and Social Lenses\n11:50 Emotional Wiring from our Conditioned Mindsets\n14:00 Polyamory - different ways of understanding many loves\n16:15 What are polyintimates? Emotional connections vs. physical\n18:00  How to approach difficult discussions around polyamory?\n21:00 Parts work - what is it and how to work with our many 'parts/sub-selves'?\n23:40 Does everybody have a poly part??\n25:30 The Mono-Poly Spectrum\n26:00 Ambiamory \n30:00 Poly as a choice, orientation vs philosophy\n32:30 Working with Jealousy\n38:00 How to deal with attractions to others?\n39:00 Attraction vs. Admiring others\n41:50 We don't own other's sexuality nor do they own ours\n44:30 Current challenges socially with non-traditional relationship styles\n47:30 Parenting within a Poly Paradigm\n50:20 Monogamous guilt?\n51:15 Cautions when dealing with children with partners mono or poly\n52:52 Importance of multiple healthy secure attachments for children\n54:40 \"If you want to fly with eagles, you have to get used to high places.\"\n57:20 Jessica's journey to becoming an author and influencer by sharing her soul's purpose\n59:38 Allowing fear, without being ruled by it when making a big leap\n1:02:00 Our evolution if we allow it, never ends.\n1:04:00 Not being reactive to ourselves - the inner world is diverse and vast\n1:05:00 How to work with our inner critic?\nI first came across Jessica's work reading her book Polysecure during COVID while working with a couple who identified as Polyamorous and I was feeling at a loss of how to help them maneuver some challenging terrain.  They recommended the book, and I was deeply moved by the depth, heart, and thoughtful wise council and gut wrenching honesty she shared.  I could tell this was a life long mission for Jessica and her courageous exploration of this new terrain in our cultural landscape so...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YnH_L-OQgkULW3pyyymcS7QxXjX55uQvw8afFgyc5jA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mMWI0/YjlmZDdlNTBkYjJh/NGI5NDJjMjc2MWUx/ZWFjZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}