{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"The Shocking Truth About Toxic Relationships And Your Mental Health","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":200,"description":"\"It's just stress,\" he told himself as the doctor delivered the diagnosis.\nAnal fistula. \nSurgery required. \nSix weeks of recovery.\nA fistula is a painful opening in his rectum.\nSomething has been bugging his a**.\nWhat he didn't mention to the doctor \nwas that the symptoms appeared exactly during the peak \nof the worst fights he'd been having with his wife—\nwhen he'd swallowed his true feelings, \npretending \"It's fine\" while a storm raged inside.\nAnother client called me from the hospital. \nEmergency appendectomy.\n\"The strangest part,\" she whispered, \n\"is that I felt relieved when they told me I needed surgery. \nLike finally there was proof something was wrong.\"\nWhat she didn't say: \nthe pain had been building as she’s coming to terms \nwith the fact that she’s been abandoning herself in the relationship,\nbut chose to say nothing \nbecause she was terrified of \"making things worse.\"\nIn both cases, their bodies were screaming \nwhat their hearts refused to speak.\nEmotional safety was missing.\n“Your body keeps the score”\n- B. Van Der Kolk\n\nWe've been conditioned to believe \nthat physical illness is random, \nthat relationship conflict is separate from our health, \nand that \"being strong\" means swallowing resentment \nand carrying on.\nBut what 25 years of working with patients and clients \nin clinical practice and beyond has taught me:\nThe body is actually engaged in an intelligent rebellion \nagainst the lies you tell yourself.\nI can say this to you with a calm confidence:\nThat chronic condition, surprise diagnosis, \nor mysterious pain is actually a messenger.\n\nI spent years as a chiropractor watching this pattern unfold:\nA patient arrives with back pain that started \"for no reason\"\nFurther conversation reveals a devastating loss six months earlier\nThey insist they've \"dealt with it\" and \"moved on\"\nYet their spine, muscles, and nervous system tell a different story\nIt was only when I began to understand the science of polyvagal theory—\nthe neurobiology of safety and...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}