{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"The Fearful Avoidant Husband (FA Podcast Series)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1936,"description":"About 90% of the men I work with are fearful avoidant.  What does that mean?\nIn this first episode of The Fearful Avoidant Husband Podcast Series, Bruce Abbott looks at why some husbands can appear highly anxious when they are married to a dismissive avoidant wife.\nYou want affection, sex, emotional connection, and reassurance. Your wife pulls away, so you pursue. You explain more, initiate more, analyze the relationship, and keep trying to close the distance.\nThat looks like anxious attachment.\nBut what happens after years of rejection and disappointment?\nYou may suddenly shut down. You stop initiating. You become cold. You think about divorce. You tell yourself you do not need her anymore. Then your wife moves toward you and another part of you thinks, “Too late. I don't trust it anymore.”\nThat movement between wanting connection and protecting yourself from connection can be an important sign of fearful avoidant attachment.\nThis episode explores the fearful avoidant husband, anxious attachment, dismissive avoidant relationships, hypervigilance, resentment, scorekeeping, protest behavior, emotional shutdown, sexual rejection, and the push-pull relationship cycle.\nYou will also learn why wanting intimacy does not always mean that you trust intimacy. A fearful avoidant husband may desperately want to feel close to his wife while also protecting himself from the vulnerability that real closeness requires.\nThe goal is not to use an attachment style as an excuse or another label.\nThe goal is to start noticing your own movement.\nWhen your wife pulls away, do you chase?\nWhen you feel rejected, do you eventually shut down?\nWhen you get angry, do you start building a case using years of old evidence?\nWhen you withdraw, are you protecting yourself, or are you hoping she finally notices and comes after you?\nUnderstanding the pattern is the beginning. Becoming secure means learning what to do differently when your nervous system tells you that you are about to get hurt....","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}