{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":946,"description":"Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains how to stop people-pleasing without becoming cold or harsh. You’ll hear the story of a husband who went from disappearing in his own life to leading with calm strength and empathy — and how you can do the same.What you’ll learn in this video:✔️ Why putting yourself last is hurting your marriage and self-respect✔️ How people-pleasing is based on fear, not love✔️ The story of a man who went from passive and invisible to calm and present✔️ How to meet the younger part of you that learned to perform for approval✔️ Why your marriage needs the real you, not a yes-man✔️ Steps from The Secure Husband Process to set boundaries with clarity and compassion✔️ How to honor your truth without turning into a jerkYou don’t have to abandon yourself to keep peace in your home. You can be kind and empathetic while still respecting your needs. This shift doesn’t just help you — it helps your marriage grow stronger.👉 Want help walking this out? Sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and whether coaching might be a good fit for you.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}