{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Double Win","title":"JACOB MCHANGAMA: Disagreeing Without Losing Each Other","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3036,"description":"Most of us have an unspoken rule set for modern relationships: Avoid the landmines. But according to Jacob Mchangama, that kind of fear-based self-censorship leads to disconnection. If you can’t be forthright about what matters with the people you share life with, you may stay civil, but you won’t stay close.In this episode, Michael and Megan sit down with Jacob Mchangama—founder and executive director of the Future of Free Speech at Vanderbilt University—to explore what it looks like to disagree without dehumanizing. They talk about why today’s conversations feel existential, how identity gets tangled with beliefs, and how to build habits that keep you grounded when your nervous system wants to go to war.Memorable Quotes“It is much better to confront those differences head-on rather than try to hide them under this veneer of mutual tolerance and respect—which really is not based on mutual tolerance and respect if you can't have those difficult conversations that divide people.”“When you self-censor about issues that are deeply meaningful to you, issues that affect society as a whole, when you think that you cannot speak out on an issue where you think someone that you're close to is wrong… it breeds loneliness. And then if you can only be very forthright about certain issues with a group of people who are completely like-minded, then that might also be self-radicalizing, in a way.”“Approach discussions on social media, for instance, with a mindset of saying, ‘I'm not going into this debate or discussion to win. I'm going into this discussion because I'm passionate about this issue, but I might be wrong.’”“If you have a conversation with someone and you know that you have very different positions on a given topic, you have an opportunity to learn something. Even if that person is not able to convince you about that position, they might have points that make you understand your own position better, or maybe you tweak your own position. Even if you tweak it 5%,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/9FBQdo2WFnbBnqZuspz05VmWLofSDFutJhXEYYXsei8/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9jMDE1/OTBiM2M4NDJmYmE3/NzI3ZDlmMWQ2YWJi/ZjAyYy5qcGVn.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}