{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People","title":"Family Feuds: Navigating High Conflict Personality Clashes","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/ee7fb3c1\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1420,"description":"Navigating High-Conflict Family Dynamics\nIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute tackle challenging questions about high-conflict family members.\nHelping a Child with Emotion Dysregulation\nThe first section covers a listener question about a 6-year-old daughter exhibiting emotional dysregulation similar to the possible borderline personality disorder (BPD) traits of her grandmother. Bill and Megan explain why a child that young can't be diagnosed with BPD, but these early signs could develop into BPD without proper skills training. They recommend validating emotions while teaching healthy self-soothing techniques and impulse control. Genetics may play a role, but good parenting can help steer a child's personality development in a positive direction.\n\nResponding to False Allegations of Causing a Spouse's BPD\nThe second section discusses an ex-husband accusing his ex-wife of causing his BPD through abuse in their marriage. Bill clarifies that marriages absolutely do not cause personality disorders, which originate in childhood and adolescence due to genetics and early experiences. He advises avoiding engagement with the false allegations and projections. Megan suggests using BIFF responses like \"I see this differently\" to avoid escalating conflicts. Bill notes the ex-husband may honestly believe the accusations even though they are untrue.\n\nYou may be wondering:\nCan young children have personality disorders?\nWhat are effective regulation skills for emotional kids?\nHow do genetics play a role in personality traits?\nDoes marriage cause personality disorders?\nHow to respond to false abuse allegations?\nWhen is it impossible to have a calm discussion?\nKey Takeaways:\nPersonality disorders can't be diagnosed in young children\nTeaching emotion regulation skills early can prevent future problems\nGenetics influence but don't determine personality outcomes\nMarriage does not cause personality disorders\nAvoid...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/mMyRt1KE9ifhcy6s5OCZZIHSa3HFTTLMyzXMa0kp8z4/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzMTkxLzE2NjA0/MTU5MjAtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}