{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Dating in Your 20s","title":"Why You Ghost, Cling, or Chase: Attachment Styles with Hilary Rosenberg","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/f0d4624d\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2008,"description":"In this episode, Amelia and Lilly are joined by therapist Hilary Rosenberg for the conversation your TikTok algorithm hinted at but never fully explained: attachment styles—and how they quietly (or loudly) shape your dating life in your 20s.\nTogether, they unpack the four main styles (anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant, and secure) and explore how each one shows up in modern relationships. From the anxious-avoidant pull to the ways dating apps poke at our deepest insecurities, they explore how early experiences and emotional blueprints keep playing out in adult love—and what to do about it.\nHilary offers a refreshingly grounded take, including her signature “full-body yes” metaphor to help listeners tune into their nervous systems and navigate dating with more clarity, curiosity, and self-trust.\nTherapy-Informed Takeaways:\nAttachment styles are learned early—usually before you knew what dating even was.\nThe anxious/avoidant dynamic is common, but not sustainable without growth.\nTikTok might help you name your patterns; therapy helps you shift them.\nInsecure attachment often leads to code-switching or people-pleasing in dating.\nOnline dating tends to magnify existing attachment triggers.\nRegulating your nervous system (not your hinge profile) is the real game-changer.\nSafe relationships support healing—but they might feel unfamiliar at first.\nRelated Episodes:\nModern Love & Materialism: A Deep Dive into Celine Song’s Materialists\nBreadcrumbing, Benching, and Other Bullsh*t: Modern dating behaviors that mess with your head\nDating In Your 20s Anonymous Corner\nWe'd love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It's a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.\n\nConnect:\nLilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn\nAmelia Abernathy: Millennium | Linkedin\nHilary Rosenberg: Millennium | LinkedIn\n \nThis podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/H44aNgaEKxUG9bCQVkc0fhihSodlCy8psV4mIlCPonE/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yY2Yw/ZGU5MDQ0ZWExOWU0/N2VjZDJlZTFlMmJm/MGM1My5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}