{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Weaver & Loom","title":"Fear, Love, and Healthy Boundaries (Part 3) [E162]","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2600,"description":"Fear and Love are to core drivers to boundaries. Fear causing us to run from negative consequences and love driving us towards positive relationship and outcomes. \nOne without the other produces toxic relationships. Love or fear directed in the wrong manner produces unhealthy patterns and cycles. \nFear negative results drives us from wrong doing--but that must be coupled with love to do go towards others. \nThrough understanding some basic frameworks by which we can judge our boundaries and relationship--we are able to the see more clearly how larger system of society ought to function in a health manner. \nWe have to know WHO we are serving and WHO we are not.\nWhat is our responsibility and what is NOT.\nWhat can we expect from the other party—and what we CANNOT.\nIf we can not frame our personal worlds correctly we fall into codependent relationships (where we need others to need us) in order to find value and security. \nThis fosters FREEDOM. Freedom to know what we are pursing, purpose in pursing goals and serving others—WHILE having the independence to know are not responsible FOR other people—but we do and a responsibility TO other people.\nStay tuned for the next episode where we talk about the frame work and spheres and domains of societies and how they all are designed to function interdependently  . . . and what happens one they overstep their domains.\nSources and additional Reading:\n https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201412/codependent-or-simply-dependent-what-s-the-big-difference\n http://www.webster.edu/student-counseling/problems/codependent.html\nhttps://proactive12steps.com/codependency/\n \nUntil next time… Be a change maker, pursue truth, and own the future.\nTo take more steps to live a focus life to achieve your dreams and fulfill your destiny–get my book Anchored the Discipline to Stop Drifting.\nThank you for listening, and as always you can find me at:\nWhatsApp: +1-202-922-0220\nLucasSkrobot.com...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/oPD6kuiFIJWqsGrswc80-0ILSkpproWk9lo2ge3W-TA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hOTM0/NDgxOGUyNDkzNGY1/YWYzYTJkZmNiODE3/MWNkNi5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}