{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Good Divorce® Show","title":"Gray Divorce, Adult Children, and the Myth That They'll Be Fine — with Dr. Carol Hughes","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3314,"description":"What happens when parents wait until the kids are grown to divorce — and then discover their adult children are not fine with it? In this rich and eye-opening conversation, Karen sits down with Dr. Carol Hughes, clinical psychologist, two-time Fulbright Scholar, and one of the true pioneers of the collaborative divorce movement, to challenge one of the most pervasive myths in divorce: that adult children don't need the same care and intentionality that minor children do.Dr. Hughes shares the origin story of collaborative divorce — rooted in a single letter written on January 1, 1990 by Minnesota attorney Stu Webb, who declared he was \"done going to court and destroying families\" — and how that moment sparked a movement that has since trained over 25,000 collaborative professionals worldwide.Together, Karen and Dr. Hughes explore:Loyalty binds — what they are, how they form, and why they damage children of all agesThe five F's — fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and feign — and how our neurological wiring pulls us toward conflict when we feel unsafeGray divorce — why divorce among adults 50 and older doubled between 1990 and 2012, and what research from Bowling Green State University predicts by 2030The biggest myth about adult children — why \"they're adults, they can handle it\" is not only wrong, but harmfulFamily before finances — why starting with the children, not the money, leads to better outcomes for everyoneThe \"six-year-old within\" — how adult children still carry the emotional vulnerability of their younger selves, even when they appear to be copingCreating a divorce story — how parents can paint a picture of the future that reduces fear and uncertainty for their childrenThe statement of highest intentions — a collaborative divorce tool for helping couples get clear on what they actually want the process to look likePractical guidance for gray divorcing parents: how to involve adult children collaboratively in planning holidays, family gatherings, and...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/qRMYx_ASvhL9O9Dr6sojIwz-KNAWQmuY9p0EaKLyfVk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MjQz/ZmYyYzM2NDk5NDk3/MWUzMGVlMzFmMTZj/M2ZiMS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}