{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dad Manual","title":"Ep 14: Apologies, Accountability, and the Art of Being an Imperfect Dad","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2591,"description":"He had twins at 23, no money, and no idea what he was doing…Jeff Speer has been Tony's friend for 15 years, and this episode is one of the most honest, candid conversations The Dad Manual has had yet. Jeff opens up about becoming a father to twins right out of college during a recession, navigating the friction of two people with different upbringings raising kids together, and what it actually takes to build trust with your children over a lifetime. This is a fatherhood podcast conversation for any dad who's ever had to apologize and mean it.Key Takeaways:Every kid is different — even identical twins need to be parented as individualsLeaning on your partner's strengths isn't weakness; it's smart parentingBeing emotionally transparent with your kids models accountabilityThe goal is to raise kids who act for themselves, not for your approvalConflict with your kids often reveals more about you than it does about them\"Effective communicator\" and \"good talker\" are not the same thingLetting go of control is a skill that takes years to developApologizing to your kids — and meaning it — matters more than pretending you're perfectWorking hard and staying content are not opposites; Jeff's early years are proofYour relationship with your partner is the foundation everything else is built onIf you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to dadmanualpodcast@gmail.com.Connect with Tony Cooper: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetonycooper/","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/RhesufeLfq-KH7W3Ni1tcYfxGDlnUQ1BXbcDk7-CgJk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zMWVh/NTk0NDViNmUyYWZl/Zjk4NDk3NWVjMWEy/NWYxYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}