{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"13. The Need for Verbal Expression","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/f67565b2\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3025,"description":"What if your child knows you love them… but rarely hears it?\nIn this week’s Know Your Children, Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David draw a sharp line between ahavah nisteret (love that exists but stays hidden) and ahavah gluyah (love that’s felt because it’s expressed). Most of parenting is “industrial”—laundry, food, homework, logistics—and yes, it often comes from love. But when love isn’t spoken, kids can grow up emotionally unsure, even inside a home that’s doing “everything right.”\nUsing a mashal from marriage (“I provide everything. Shouldn’t that be enough?”), we explore why provision isn’t the same as connection, why waiting until a child is in crisis is too late, and how small, consistent habits—especially verbal expression and short, regular conversations—can change the emotional climate of a home.'\nThis isn’t about guilt. It’s about learning to say what’s already true so your child can actually receive it.\n----------\nFor more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com\nJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t\nCHAPTERS\n00:00 Opening and Sponsor Acknowledgements\n01:07 Shiur Overview: Imperfect Love\n05:28 Identifying Two Problems in Parental Love\n06:54 Guilt as a Trigger\n08:09 Patience and Compassion for Ourselves\n10:09 Emotional Layer Small in Daily Life\n13:12 Measuring Basic Needs\n21:26 Hidden vs. Revealed Love Question\n23:56 Hidden love in daily parenting gestures\n25:17 Rental car story and parental love realization\n29:08 Love often known to parents but not felt by kids\n30:27 Wife's expectations beyond financial provision\n31:33 Constant verbal communication vital in relationships\n34:56 Examining parent-child emotional connection\n42:34 Preemptive emotional conversations with children\n46:53 Love must be revealed, not hidden, with kids\n49:21 Metallica Covers and Unexpected Lullabies","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}