{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist","title":"236. No Contact: How Ideology Is Breaking Families Apart, With Noelle Mering","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":6397,"description":"In this episode, I talk with Noelle Mering, fellow at the Ethics and Public Policy Center and author of No Contact, about how \"going no contact\" shifted from a last-resort response to abuse into a normalized, even celebrated, way to handle political and ideological disagreement.\n\nNoelle offers a striking analogy: a healthy immune system expels real threats, but what we're seeing now looks more like an autoimmune disorder, where people can no longer tell what is dangerous from what is merely difficult. We explore Bowen's concept of differentiation, why chosen family so often fails the people who rely on it, and why parents can feel like an existential threat to a trans-identified young adult. We also look at estrangement over voting and COVID, TikTok psychologists, and the despair hidden in the line, \"I didn't choose to be born.\"\n\nI share some of my own story with my mother, and we talk about gray rocking, boundaries that preserve a relationship rather than end it, and why the father in the prodigal son story is a model for parents facing estrangement today.\nBooks mentioned in this episode:\nNo Contact: How a Seductive Ideology Broke Families and Friendships and How We Can Repair Them — Noelle Mering\nAwake, Not Woke: A Christian Response to the Cult of Progressive Ideology — Noelle Mering\nTheology of Home book series — Noelle Mering (co-author)\nMere Christianity — C.S. Lewis\nAll books mentioned on this podcast can be found in my new and improved bookshop!\nNoelle Mering is a Fellow at the Ethics and Public Policy Center and the author of No Contact: How a Seductive Ideology Broke Families and Friendships, and How We Can Repair Them and Awake, Not Woke. She is also the co-author of the Theology of Home book series. Her work focuses on family, culture, and the forces shaping our relationships. She lives in Southern California with her husband and is the mother of six. Find her writing at: https://noellemering.substack.com/ and her work with the EPPC at...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/7R2fJL6ksh0-aqhZGIKVghpF0n5-RelfaD139dcIBCQ/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzI1NzQ0LzE2NDQy/NzA3NjktYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}