{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Nice Guy Show","title":"The Time I Lied About Having My Car Stolen So I Could Hook Up With A Chick  - EP #83","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/fa5b4e49\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1281,"description":"Before I even knew what a Nice Guy was in terms of the Nice Guy syndrome, I thought of myself as just that—a Nice Guy. And I truly believed I was. When I first read *No More Mr. Nice Guy* about 15 years ago, it was like looking into a mirror. Every page felt like it was written about me. But there was one thing in that book that hit me hard, like a punch to the gut: as a Nice Guy, I was actually really manipulative.I had these covert contracts, these unspoken deals where I’d give just to get. I’d pretend to be whatever someone wanted me to be, but in reality, I was just trying to get my needs met. My life was a lie. I was packaging nice as a way of manipulating others. My kind and accommodating nature was often a cover for a hidden agenda—to get what I wanted without feeling shameful or risking rejection or making someone mad at me.","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/4SBcuywbFVLmE1ovKSsljgcF8GgoL6dCfGp2emfTARg/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzM4NjIzLzE3MDgx/MjI1ODEtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}