Pure Victory Podcast

Welcome to episode #264! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Tough Topic Series- Should I Tell Them? Navigating Porn Use in Dating

This week kicks off a brand-new Tough Topics series, diving into real, honest questions around porn recovery and relationships. Today’s conversation tackles a big one: Should you tell someone you’re dating about your porn use?
The answer isn’t just yes or no—it depends on where you’re at in your journey. This episode walks through how to assess your readiness for dating, why secrecy destroys intimacy, and how to approach disclosure with wisdom, honesty, and courage. If you’re navigating dating while pursuing freedom, this is a must-listen.

Key Takeaways
  • Start with honesty about your own journey – Are you actively pursuing healing, or trying to manage things alone? 
  • If you’re not getting help, dating may need to wait – Hidden struggles eventually surface and can deeply hurt others. 
  • Healing requires exposure, not secrecy – Freedom grows in community, accountability, and honesty. 
  • Don’t overshare too early—but don’t wait too long – The goal is timely, thoughtful disclosure. 
  • Take responsibility, not just intention – Share from a place of action and growth, not vague promises. 
  • You don’t decide readiness alone – Invite wisdom from mentors, counselors, or trusted community. 
  • A relationship won’t fix your struggle – Healing starts with God, not a partner. 
Scriptural Highlight
1 John 1:7 – “But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another…”
Living in the light—through honesty and openness—creates the foundation for real connection. Secrecy leads to distance, but truth invites intimacy and healing.

Action Steps
  • Do a personal check-in:
    Ask yourself honestly—am I pursuing real healing, or hiding and managing? 
  • Build your support system:
    If you’re not already, step into accountability through a group, mentor, or counselor. 
  • Seek wise counsel:
    Talk to trusted people in your life about whether you’re ready to date. 
  • Plan your disclosure:
    Think through how you can share your story simply, honestly, and responsibly. 
  • Choose courage over comfort:
    If you’re currently hiding this in a relationship, take a step toward honesty this week. 
  • Focus on healing first:
    Prioritize becoming whole in Christ before expecting a relationship to fill that space. 
Closing Thought
The healthiest relationships aren’t built on perfection—they’re built on truth.
When you choose honesty and pursue healing, you’re not just protecting yourself—you’re honoring the person you hope to build a future with.


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Podcast Host
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

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Host
Braden Hafner
Braden Is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He is also the co-host and co-founder of Pure Victory Podcast.

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Faith-based inspiration to win at sex, conquer porn, and find purpose in staying free forever.