Most couples want to try dirty talk. Most couples never do because they don't know where to start and they're terrified of feeling ridiculous.
In Episode 43, Scott and Brittney fix that. This is Dirty Talk 101: the psychology of why it works, the four styles and what each one sounds like, a practical step-by-step progression from complete beginner to genuinely confident, and the honest conversation about what not to do.
The research is clear: couples who communicate verbally during sex report significantly higher satisfaction, more intense orgasms, and deeper emotional connection. And women despite the cultural assumption are more likely to fantasize about dirty talk than men. The information gap around this topic is enormous. Today's episode closes it.
Scott and Brittney get personal about their own journey with verbal intimacy including the awkward beginning and give listeners everything they need to start tonight.
In this episode:
- The 2021 Journal of Sexual Medicine study — what it found about verbal communication and orgasm intensity
- The four styles: appreciative, directive, narrative, and fantasy — what each sounds like and who it's for
- A step-by-step progression from beginner to confident
- What not to do including why porn dialogue is the wrong reference point
- Scott & Brittney's honest personal takes on their own journey with verbal intimacy
- How to recover gracefully when something lands awkwardly
Loved this conversation? We turned it into an ebook —
Dirty Talk: Finding Your Voice in the Bedroom — with 35+ phrases and the "why it works" behind each.
It's on our Patreon.Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?
Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.