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Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness

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In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore why toddlers often seem defiant and how parents might unintentionally suppress kindness in their children.

Learn the three common mistakes—missing the care, shaming the care, and focusing on the negative—and find out how to reframe these moments to foster kindness instead of conflict.

I'll share real-life examples, exact words you can use, and practical tools for parenting.

Plus, don't miss insights from the upcoming Happily Family Conference, featuring experts like Dr. Daniel Siegel. Tune in to strengthen your parent-child bond and nurture emotional intelligence in your kids.

00:00 Introduction: Understanding Toddler Behavior
01:00 Common Parenting Challenges
01:47 The Concept of Invisible Care
04:04 Three Ways Parents Shut Down Kindness
05:28 Real-Life Examples and Reframes
12:32 Biology and Negativity Bias
16:20 Growing More Kindness
18:05 Conclusion and Upcoming Events

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course.  You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

What is Toddler Toolkit?

The complete toolkit for understanding toddler behavior (e.g. hitting, throwing, biting, pushing), navigating tantrums and meltdowns, fostering healthy sibling relationships and dynamics so your kids can get along and raising skilled resilient self-regulated toddlers. If you have toddlers that are close in age or multiple kids then this podcast is made for you! Heather helps parents transform their aggressive toddlers behavior into a calm, kind and caring toddler with a more peaceful and joyful home.

Heather is the Founder of Heather Schalk Parenting, a Twin Mama, Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, Teacher for 10 years (pre-k through 9th grade), specialization in behavior, with her M.Ed.

Heather's passion is helping moms of toddlers who have disruptive tantrums develop proactive and 'in the moment' strategies to Transform their toddlers disruptive tantrums, aggressive ‘button-pushing’ behavior into a Calm, Kind and Caring Toddler so you have a joyful family and enjoy motherhood.

Next Toddler Mom Cohort to Transform Aggressive Toddler Behavior taught by Heather is in September 2024!