WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:00.690 --> 00:00:01.000 Hello. 00:00:01.230 --> 00:00:04.370 All of you, witches hello, my mystics. 00:00:05.700 --> 00:00:09.500 I can't wait to talk about today's topic, which will be short and sweet. 00:00:10.680 --> 00:00:13.600 And today's topic is about boundaries. 00:00:14.460 --> 00:00:17.580 Which is an unfolding topic for many of us, I'm sure. 00:00:19.050 --> 00:00:20.670 And today. 00:00:22.170 --> 00:00:27.600 We will talk about how does one get those some better boundaries and why you should. 00:00:28.740 --> 00:00:32.759 I hope that that sounds like something that you want Because your 00:00:32.759 --> 00:00:34.970 life will be so much better for it. 00:00:36.280 --> 00:00:40.020 This is the She Who Is Seeking Podcast. 00:00:40.470 --> 00:00:47.760 And I am your hostess, Meena Melissa Leigh and the reason why I wanted to 00:00:47.760 --> 00:00:53.400 talk about boundaries this week is because I was really realizing that 00:00:53.400 --> 00:00:56.670 it is coming up all over the place. 00:00:57.210 --> 00:01:03.420 And for me, my life is way better when I have better boundaries. 00:01:04.140 --> 00:01:09.600 And the why of that kind of unfolds from all of the reasons. 00:01:10.170 --> 00:01:11.640 So let's just get started. 00:01:13.140 --> 00:01:17.070 When I was talking to a friend of mine. 00:01:17.100 --> 00:01:17.740 Hello, Ray! 00:01:18.780 --> 00:01:23.940 We were talking about what is it that your future self. 00:01:24.210 --> 00:01:24.940 Would tell you. 00:01:25.680 --> 00:01:29.440 What one piece of advice would your future self have for you? 00:01:30.300 --> 00:01:34.260 And my first instinct was to be like, oh, I don't know. 00:01:34.710 --> 00:01:37.110 But before I could even finish that thought. 00:01:37.950 --> 00:01:39.060 It came to me. 00:01:40.020 --> 00:01:40.740 Which is. 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:45.040 Be impeccable with your boundaries. 00:01:45.870 --> 00:01:46.540 Learn it now. 00:01:47.460 --> 00:01:49.040 Master it as you go. 00:01:49.410 --> 00:01:50.790 And do it all ways. 00:01:51.450 --> 00:01:55.740 Start today when you protect your boundaries, you'll have the time. 00:01:56.100 --> 00:01:56.740 Space. 00:01:57.240 --> 00:01:59.940 And energy to do what you really want 00:02:01.440 --> 00:02:04.120 And I thought, oh my Goddess, my. 00:02:04.920 --> 00:02:06.420 Future self as brilliant. 00:02:06.450 --> 00:02:07.420 That's such good advice. 00:02:08.580 --> 00:02:11.310 Because there are so many things that I do want to do all the 00:02:11.310 --> 00:02:13.650 time, but often I don't have. 00:02:14.370 --> 00:02:16.920 The energy left to do it. 00:02:17.400 --> 00:02:22.560 Or I don't have the time because all the slots are already taken with other things. 00:02:24.060 --> 00:02:28.710 So that is something I'm just going to get better and better at doing. 00:02:30.100 --> 00:02:37.910 And when I think about our community, Of witches and magic makers. 00:02:38.860 --> 00:02:43.390 It just really hit me on the head that if anybody. 00:02:44.650 --> 00:02:46.450 Could have good boundaries. 00:02:47.260 --> 00:02:48.310 It is a witch. 00:02:49.180 --> 00:02:50.020 If you. 00:02:50.740 --> 00:02:58.780 Create safe containers and open up portals and sacred circles. 00:02:58.780 --> 00:03:03.610 And do the kinds of work that you do as a, which you have 00:03:03.610 --> 00:03:05.410 to have the ability to create. 00:03:06.910 --> 00:03:10.720 Very strong boundaries, but. 00:03:12.040 --> 00:03:13.000 Often I. 00:03:13.600 --> 00:03:19.240 Think we all see that not translating to the real world for us in all instances. 00:03:20.590 --> 00:03:23.320 So why is that? 00:03:23.470 --> 00:03:27.250 And usually I think it's because we don't want to hurt somebody's feelings. 00:03:27.970 --> 00:03:34.570 And the thing about hurting somebody's feelings is you can't control how 00:03:34.570 --> 00:03:38.860 somebody is going to feel, and you're not responsible for somebody else's feelings. 00:03:39.280 --> 00:03:41.800 There's instances where you do have to care. 00:03:42.490 --> 00:03:44.860 Like children should have their feelings. 00:03:45.700 --> 00:03:48.940 Take into consideration perhaps a little bit more than. 00:03:49.690 --> 00:03:52.300 You know, just a friend of yours. 00:03:52.870 --> 00:03:57.070 Because adults are in charge of their own feelings. 00:03:57.430 --> 00:04:01.130 And they're in charge of managing their own energy waves. 00:04:02.630 --> 00:04:10.609 But my feeling about that was why is it that we're so concerned with not 00:04:10.609 --> 00:04:12.080 wanting to hurt somebody's feelings? 00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:15.500 I think for me, it stems from. 00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:18.850 Growing I had. 00:04:20.349 --> 00:04:23.439 You know, a Southern grandmother who really just. 00:04:24.939 --> 00:04:27.819 Kind of drilled it into our hands that you're not supposed 00:04:27.819 --> 00:04:29.139 to hurt people's feelings. 00:04:29.619 --> 00:04:37.819 And there was a lot of I don't want to say putting other people before you, but 00:04:37.969 --> 00:04:43.609 definitely taking into consideration the outcomes of things or sort of biting your 00:04:44.929 --> 00:04:47.119 If that was something that could be done. 00:04:47.809 --> 00:04:49.939 And so I've been unlearning that. 00:04:50.539 --> 00:04:51.919 Throughout my adult life. 00:04:52.219 --> 00:04:54.209 It isn't that I want to hurt people's feelings. 00:04:54.649 --> 00:04:57.409 But I also don't want to put other people's. 00:04:58.339 --> 00:05:04.549 Whimsical cavalier changing on the spur of the moment, feelings ahead of my core 00:05:04.549 --> 00:05:06.979 needs, which is a lot of what people 00:05:08.479 --> 00:05:11.059 It's healthy to take care of yourself. 00:05:11.719 --> 00:05:16.789 And it's healthy to have proper boundaries installed. 00:05:17.569 --> 00:05:17.909 In your life. 00:05:19.409 --> 00:05:22.109 And I have to say, when you do. 00:05:22.859 --> 00:05:25.799 And when you're honest with people and when you're able to 00:05:25.799 --> 00:05:30.009 say no it makes people feel safer. 00:05:31.509 --> 00:05:35.679 I think when people know what to expect from you. 00:05:36.429 --> 00:05:43.519 And they know that when you are telling them the answer. 00:05:45.019 --> 00:05:50.149 If they know that you're telling the truth and they know that you have 00:05:50.179 --> 00:05:55.219 good boundaries, then they feel safer to also just relax into the moment. 00:05:56.059 --> 00:06:00.559 When we aren't telling the truth, and we're saying yes, when 00:06:00.559 --> 00:06:02.639 we don't really want to that. 00:06:03.589 --> 00:06:07.789 Leaks through, I feel as a feeling. 00:06:08.779 --> 00:06:13.009 That is akin to like that untrustworthy feeling where you 00:06:13.009 --> 00:06:14.599 just feel like some things off. 00:06:15.169 --> 00:06:17.839 And it's because there is something off it is. 00:06:18.649 --> 00:06:20.269 You're not telling the truth to yourself. 00:06:20.599 --> 00:06:22.309 You're not telling the truth to them. 00:06:22.789 --> 00:06:27.309 And I really feel like we're all just better off. 00:06:28.809 --> 00:06:29.859 Saying what we need. 00:06:31.359 --> 00:06:32.589 And sticking to it. 00:06:34.089 --> 00:06:38.049 It really just protects It protects your. 00:06:38.979 --> 00:06:41.469 Ability to stay fully resourced. 00:06:42.189 --> 00:06:44.229 It protects you from burnout. 00:06:45.699 --> 00:06:50.649 It can help your relationships, not just in the way that we said, but also 00:06:50.649 --> 00:06:56.919 because you are not going to have those feelings of resentment creep in because 00:06:56.919 --> 00:06:59.439 you're not overextending yourself. 00:07:00.939 --> 00:07:01.989 And another thing. 00:07:02.949 --> 00:07:10.539 Akin to that is sometimes we don't follow our own rules for boundaries. 00:07:10.959 --> 00:07:14.529 And we allow things to get a little. 00:07:15.549 --> 00:07:20.349 Um, I'm going to use, I mean, I guess my favorite You can allow 00:07:20.349 --> 00:07:22.239 things to get a little amorphous. 00:07:22.599 --> 00:07:24.039 And when that happens. 00:07:25.089 --> 00:07:31.119 You're not fully in charge of what's going on in that situation or in your 00:07:31.119 --> 00:07:34.129 life or in your heart or with your energy. 00:07:35.319 --> 00:07:40.479 And eventually at some point, you're going to realize that it doesn't feel good to 00:07:40.479 --> 00:07:43.329 you and you're going to sort of retract. 00:07:44.559 --> 00:07:47.769 Whatever you had allowed to happen. 00:07:48.249 --> 00:07:50.619 And that doesn't feel good to anybody. 00:07:51.789 --> 00:07:54.829 And it is a lot easier if you just. 00:07:55.959 --> 00:08:03.649 Have clear boundaries in the beginning and stick with them, because it can be hurtful 00:08:03.679 --> 00:08:07.729 when you aren't clear about what it is. 00:08:07.729 --> 00:08:11.569 You can need, what it is you need or what it is you can handle. 00:08:12.739 --> 00:08:13.729 And then. 00:08:14.749 --> 00:08:20.209 You just sort of like change and flip the script that can be confusing. 00:08:20.780 --> 00:08:23.159 So it's better to just have them. 00:08:23.599 --> 00:08:24.469 And stick with them. 00:08:25.709 --> 00:08:33.059 You're saying no to more things and you're keeping things that are not okay with you. 00:08:33.539 --> 00:08:34.859 Outside of your. 00:08:35.520 --> 00:08:36.780 Boundaries that you've set. 00:08:38.280 --> 00:08:45.870 And that can just really help prevent mental and emotional burnout and overload. 00:08:47.370 --> 00:08:51.450 You know, if we're just going to think about sort of day today. 00:08:52.950 --> 00:08:55.300 Saying yes to everything scenarios. 00:08:55.770 --> 00:08:57.500 That never ends well. 00:08:58.290 --> 00:09:02.400 When you're doing too many things, you're doing none of them. 00:09:02.400 --> 00:09:02.600 Well, 00:09:04.100 --> 00:09:09.260 And when people decide to show up, for instance, at an event that 00:09:09.260 --> 00:09:10.700 they said that they would go to. 00:09:12.020 --> 00:09:16.580 But they've already done 50 trillion things that week and they're burnt 00:09:16.580 --> 00:09:18.090 out and they're frazzled mess. 00:09:19.490 --> 00:09:23.240 It's kind of better if they hadn't of come don't you think? 00:09:23.330 --> 00:09:30.530 I mean, It's not very helpful to show up when you're overextended 00:09:31.280 --> 00:09:35.500 . You're not able to serve in the way that you have committed to serve. 00:09:35.560 --> 00:09:40.570 So if you just start to pair that down, And learn to say no to things. 00:09:40.960 --> 00:09:43.330 Then you can show up more fully. 00:09:43.960 --> 00:09:48.390 And as a better version of yourself for the things that really do matter. 00:09:49.870 --> 00:09:51.490 And again, of course, there's. 00:09:52.720 --> 00:09:53.790 Exceptions to all things. 00:09:55.000 --> 00:09:57.190 Like I wouldn't say skip. 00:09:58.090 --> 00:09:59.190 You know, you're. 00:09:59.920 --> 00:10:03.760 Family member's funeral because you're tired that week. 00:10:03.880 --> 00:10:04.330 But. 00:10:05.020 --> 00:10:10.840 Maybe you don't have to go to every party or event or help At every 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:15.760 charity or fundraiser that there is. 00:10:16.150 --> 00:10:19.790 So just kind of being mindful of what's really important 00:10:21.290 --> 00:10:25.880 And I think that it really helps to embolden you. 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:27.800 And create more. 00:10:27.800 --> 00:10:28.970 Self-trust. 00:10:29.450 --> 00:10:35.870 When you realize that you are in charge of deciding what is in your best interest. 00:10:36.530 --> 00:10:38.900 And you are in charge of deciding what you let in. 00:10:40.070 --> 00:10:43.930 And you are in charge of what is not worth your time. 00:10:45.110 --> 00:10:47.300 And is not going to serve you. 00:10:48.110 --> 00:10:53.150 And when you start to make these choices that get you closer. 00:10:53.720 --> 00:10:58.330 To your ideal version of yourself or closer to your goals. 00:10:58.940 --> 00:11:01.730 Rather than further away, because it's going to do one or the other. 00:11:02.030 --> 00:11:03.410 Every choice you make. 00:11:04.130 --> 00:11:07.130 Either get you closer to where you want to go or further away. 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:11.300 And when you keep making choices that get you. 00:11:12.350 --> 00:11:14.330 Higher up that mountain. 00:11:15.080 --> 00:11:17.630 To sort of reach the peak of your existence. 00:11:18.800 --> 00:11:22.520 Then you're going to learn that you make good decisions for yourself 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:26.750 and that you can trust yourself in other ways, both big and small. 00:11:27.710 --> 00:11:30.930 And when you do that, that leads to things like. 00:11:32.430 --> 00:11:33.110 Feeling. 00:11:34.610 --> 00:11:36.440 Confident to do other things. 00:11:37.370 --> 00:11:39.290 Being able to let that feeling of. 00:11:40.220 --> 00:11:41.030 Maybe. 00:11:42.230 --> 00:11:44.960 You know, I'm not ready for this, or I'm not good enough for 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:47.240 this, that imposter syndrome. 00:11:47.270 --> 00:11:49.430 All those things can kind of fall away. 00:11:49.940 --> 00:11:50.580 And. 00:11:51.350 --> 00:11:57.980 It lets you make more decisions that are in your best interest as you go, 00:11:58.070 --> 00:11:59.980 even if they become more challenging. 00:12:01.190 --> 00:12:05.380 You're going to be able to make better decisions each time. 00:12:06.880 --> 00:12:10.450 Even if it's harder, even if you think you might disappoint somebody, if you 00:12:10.450 --> 00:12:15.610 know that it's in the best interestof you and essentially all at hand. 00:12:16.120 --> 00:12:19.569 'cause like I said, if you're showing up for things, And you're 00:12:19.569 --> 00:12:21.580 not showing up as your full self. 00:12:21.910 --> 00:12:24.430 If you're not showing up to be of service. 00:12:24.910 --> 00:12:27.610 You're not showing up to be present then. 00:12:29.110 --> 00:12:31.930 Is Even worth it for you to be there. 00:12:32.079 --> 00:12:32.620 Is it a good idea? 00:12:33.130 --> 00:12:33.790 I doubt it. 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:34.819 I don't think it is. 00:12:36.319 --> 00:12:38.930 I mean, you could tell me if there's some exceptions for 00:12:38.930 --> 00:12:40.939 that, but I think we all know. 00:12:41.749 --> 00:12:42.079 Right. 00:12:42.199 --> 00:12:42.680 It's not good. 00:12:43.369 --> 00:12:47.149 Just stay home and make your basket or take a nap or 00:12:47.359 --> 00:12:48.439 whatever it is you want to do. 00:12:49.939 --> 00:12:50.630 And. 00:12:51.500 --> 00:12:52.900 I am making baskets. 00:12:53.689 --> 00:12:55.300 But I did not cancel anything to make a basket. 00:12:56.800 --> 00:13:00.660 But that is why I'm learning to say no, because there's things that I want to do, 00:13:01.870 --> 00:13:04.060 that I don't necessarily have time for. 00:13:04.900 --> 00:13:09.660 So I want to do the things that are important to me. 00:13:10.600 --> 00:13:14.639 And this does harken back to that midlife crisis type thing where I'm 00:13:14.639 --> 00:13:17.339 like, I could die at any moment. 00:13:18.359 --> 00:13:19.859 And what do I have to show for it? 00:13:20.399 --> 00:13:20.789 And if. 00:13:21.629 --> 00:13:22.289 If it's that? 00:13:22.319 --> 00:13:25.239 Not only am I not. 00:13:26.309 --> 00:13:29.819 Doing the things that I want to do, but that I'm doing a lot of 00:13:29.849 --> 00:13:33.479 things that I don't want to do, but I had controller for that. 00:13:34.199 --> 00:13:34.409 no. 00:13:35.069 --> 00:13:35.219 No. 00:13:35.219 --> 00:13:35.579 Thank you. 00:13:35.729 --> 00:13:36.899 I don't want that to be true. 00:13:37.769 --> 00:13:39.119 I don't want it to be true for me. 00:13:39.719 --> 00:13:41.239 And I don't want it to be true for you. 00:13:42.739 --> 00:13:44.569 I want you to live your best life too. 00:13:44.839 --> 00:13:46.609 And then we can live our best lives together. 00:13:46.639 --> 00:13:47.989 And then if it's so works out. 00:13:48.319 --> 00:13:49.050 No pressure. 00:13:50.550 --> 00:13:54.180 You have to have your boundaries, but like you're able to do more fun 00:13:54.180 --> 00:13:56.040 things with more amazing people. 00:13:56.400 --> 00:13:57.420 If you're a resourced. 00:13:58.410 --> 00:13:59.720 And rested. 00:14:00.510 --> 00:14:01.120 And. 00:14:02.040 --> 00:14:03.150 Ready to rock. 00:14:03.300 --> 00:14:03.689 Right? 00:14:03.930 --> 00:14:04.620 That's how I look at 00:14:06.120 --> 00:14:10.439 So to really reap the benefits of boundaries. 00:14:11.939 --> 00:14:13.829 I think there's a couple things to keep in mind. 00:14:14.629 --> 00:14:15.759 The first thing is. 00:14:17.060 --> 00:14:18.859 You need to communicate. 00:14:19.189 --> 00:14:20.859 Them clearly. 00:14:22.219 --> 00:14:23.959 That's the most important part. 00:14:25.430 --> 00:14:28.099 So that means that you need to know what they are. 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:31.160 So that means you need to stop and think about what you want. 00:14:32.660 --> 00:14:39.350 And if you have sort of a wishy washy feeling about it, Then be 00:14:39.350 --> 00:14:42.020 aware that that feels untrue. 00:14:43.280 --> 00:14:48.050 And people can feel that whether they're honing in on the fact 00:14:48.050 --> 00:14:49.230 that they're feeling it or not. 00:14:50.270 --> 00:14:55.850 So when you're saying yes to things that are really unknown, That 00:14:55.850 --> 00:14:58.230 really does put in this sort of. 00:14:59.300 --> 00:15:00.730 Falsity or. 00:15:02.180 --> 00:15:06.110 Mischievous undermining kind of energy. 00:15:06.290 --> 00:15:07.130 If you know what I mean. 00:15:07.730 --> 00:15:09.370 So just be honest. 00:15:10.850 --> 00:15:11.570 If it's a yes. 00:15:11.570 --> 00:15:12.260 It's yes. 00:15:12.350 --> 00:15:13.730 If it's a no, it's a no. 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:16.520 And you don't have to sit and explain yourself. 00:15:18.020 --> 00:15:22.040 And if people want you to explain yourself, Then. 00:15:22.880 --> 00:15:24.050 It's all right to say. 00:15:25.520 --> 00:15:26.750 That's my boundary. 00:15:27.920 --> 00:15:28.699 And that is. 00:15:29.060 --> 00:15:30.380 All I have to say about it. 00:15:31.040 --> 00:15:35.689 Because there are people who they themselves don't have good boundaries. 00:15:35.720 --> 00:15:38.390 And so therefore they do not want you to have good boundaries. 00:15:38.900 --> 00:15:41.330 And they feel like they can talk you out of it. 00:15:41.480 --> 00:15:43.390 So just be aware, that's like a thing. 00:15:44.890 --> 00:15:51.670 The next Is to focus on yourself when voicing your boundaries. 00:15:52.360 --> 00:15:54.490 So to me, that would mean. 00:15:54.850 --> 00:15:57.459 Focusing on my reason why. 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:01.300 It is a no, or why it's off limits. 00:16:02.319 --> 00:16:03.449 And not thinking. 00:16:04.270 --> 00:16:08.650 Of all the myriad reasons why I think it would be a good idea 00:16:08.680 --> 00:16:09.850 if I had a different answer. 00:16:10.600 --> 00:16:13.570 Because you can't second. 00:16:13.570 --> 00:16:14.150 Guess yourself. 00:16:15.070 --> 00:16:18.310 And you can't take into consideration. 00:16:19.209 --> 00:16:22.300 All the nuanced feelings of everyone else on the planet. 00:16:23.050 --> 00:16:25.989 And again, There are exceptions to everything. 00:16:26.229 --> 00:16:28.689 So there's definitely people who you're going to want to take 00:16:28.840 --> 00:16:30.459 their feelings into consideration. 00:16:30.850 --> 00:16:34.360 That you're in relationship with, but we're talking about things 00:16:34.360 --> 00:16:36.400 that are a hard, no, for you. 00:16:37.209 --> 00:16:38.550 If it is a hard, no for you. 00:16:40.050 --> 00:16:40.619 That's it. 00:16:41.520 --> 00:16:44.919 Just like how we have boundaries about what is okay with our body. 00:16:46.419 --> 00:16:49.569 I think we get a little bit wishy-washy when we're talking 00:16:49.569 --> 00:16:52.229 about what is okay with. 00:16:53.379 --> 00:16:56.029 You know, something that's like, More. 00:16:57.339 --> 00:17:00.529 Our mind or doing something for somebody. 00:17:01.689 --> 00:17:05.029 If it's not sort of in maybe like a sexual context. 00:17:05.949 --> 00:17:08.139 It's harder to see that. 00:17:08.529 --> 00:17:13.989 It's okay for us to say Whereas, if it is in a sexual context and 00:17:13.989 --> 00:17:17.629 you don't want to do it, it's easy to realize like, no, no means no. 00:17:18.249 --> 00:17:20.829 But that carries over for this too. 00:17:22.329 --> 00:17:24.849 We don't always realize that because. 00:17:25.869 --> 00:17:31.120 People who want to get the most out of you are probably not going to tell you that. 00:17:32.019 --> 00:17:33.969 Because it's in their best interest. 00:17:33.969 --> 00:17:36.639 If you just keep saying yes, or if you feel too uncomfortable 00:17:36.639 --> 00:17:39.669 to say no, So keep that in mind. 00:17:41.169 --> 00:17:42.429 And I would say. 00:17:42.850 --> 00:17:45.459 Saying yes to your hell yeses. 00:17:46.179 --> 00:17:47.110 And. 00:17:48.189 --> 00:17:51.560 Then the majority of the rest of the things get to know. 00:17:52.810 --> 00:17:54.669 And that can sound kind of harsh. 00:17:55.120 --> 00:17:55.689 But. 00:17:56.919 --> 00:17:58.240 Working with people. 00:17:58.240 --> 00:17:58.959 I realized that there's. 00:18:00.459 --> 00:18:02.379 Pretty much everybody let's just go with everyone. 00:18:03.879 --> 00:18:08.229 Everyone has things that are very important to them that they want to do. 00:18:09.610 --> 00:18:16.830 But they don't have quote the time or the money or the space or the ability to do. 00:18:17.529 --> 00:18:18.229 Whatever it is. 00:18:19.729 --> 00:18:23.330 And I will say that those things that are important to you on a 00:18:23.330 --> 00:18:25.759 soul level, those don't ease up. 00:18:25.939 --> 00:18:29.389 Those don't just like fade into the background quietly and. 00:18:29.840 --> 00:18:30.509 Die a death. 00:18:31.939 --> 00:18:35.009 Oh, no, if only it were that easy, but it's not. 00:18:36.110 --> 00:18:36.509 The thing. 00:18:37.459 --> 00:18:42.009 Is that those will always be whispering in your ear. 00:18:42.979 --> 00:18:47.389 They'll always be sort of trying to get your attention and 00:18:47.389 --> 00:18:49.409 making you dispel discontented. 00:18:50.239 --> 00:18:50.610 So. 00:18:51.709 --> 00:18:55.909 The more, you can live in your authentic truth and do the things. 00:18:56.629 --> 00:18:58.909 That you feel like your soul was put here to do. 00:18:59.779 --> 00:19:02.120 Even if that means watercoloring. 00:19:03.139 --> 00:19:04.360 There are things that. 00:19:05.030 --> 00:19:08.480 Feel really important to you for whatever reason. 00:19:08.600 --> 00:19:09.320 And when you. 00:19:10.820 --> 00:19:12.080 Are ignoring those. 00:19:13.189 --> 00:19:14.659 You're showing yourself. 00:19:15.350 --> 00:19:15.870 That you're not important. 00:19:16.939 --> 00:19:21.350 And you're showing yourself that you can't be trusted to take care of you. 00:19:22.669 --> 00:19:23.419 And you. 00:19:24.830 --> 00:19:27.379 Don't want to have that kind of relationship with anyone. 00:19:27.379 --> 00:19:27.830 Right. 00:19:28.070 --> 00:19:29.539 But especially not herself. 00:19:31.039 --> 00:19:35.869 The only way to have bandwidth left, to have time to rest and 00:19:35.869 --> 00:19:38.539 reset, which is so important. 00:19:39.409 --> 00:19:44.239 Or to have play and pleasure, which is also so important. 00:19:45.739 --> 00:19:47.299 Is to just learn to say no. 00:19:48.289 --> 00:19:51.259 Because overwhelm can creep in. 00:19:52.309 --> 00:19:54.169 And a full schedule. 00:19:54.309 --> 00:19:59.419 will just get more and more packed, the less you say. 00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:00.859 No. 00:20:01.609 --> 00:20:01.939 So. 00:20:03.439 --> 00:20:06.949 I want you to have a great, an amazing life. 00:20:07.879 --> 00:20:12.099 And I am really aware that there's some things that are challenging. 00:20:13.339 --> 00:20:16.219 Besides all the obvious ones and ones that we touched on there's 00:20:16.219 --> 00:20:18.199 things like FOMO that is real. 00:20:19.189 --> 00:20:20.799 I know, you know, we all know. 00:20:21.679 --> 00:20:27.979 There's things that you just want to do for instance, right at this very moment, 00:20:28.279 --> 00:20:31.069 I know that I have friends who are. 00:20:32.089 --> 00:20:36.109 All hiking together in Topanga canyon on a full moon hike. 00:20:36.649 --> 00:20:37.879 Do I want to be doing that? 00:20:38.179 --> 00:20:39.019 Yes, I do. 00:20:40.279 --> 00:20:43.459 But I just didn't feel up to it physically. 00:20:43.519 --> 00:20:47.299 I felt today that I needed to have a rest and reset 00:20:48.799 --> 00:20:52.729 And that is valid and it also would have been valid if I had chosen 00:20:52.729 --> 00:20:54.539 to have a play and pleasure day. 00:20:56.039 --> 00:20:59.069 But I took into account what my need was. 00:20:59.639 --> 00:21:06.299 And I set a boundary for myself and I took a Sunday nap, and it was amazing. 00:21:07.169 --> 00:21:09.479 I highly recommend an nap whenever you can get them. 00:21:10.919 --> 00:21:12.329 Because they're awesome. 00:21:13.829 --> 00:21:15.119 And so. 00:21:15.959 --> 00:21:18.329 Just have a real talk with yourself. 00:21:19.379 --> 00:21:22.359 About what you want, what your priorities are. 00:21:23.459 --> 00:21:24.479 What you don't want. 00:21:24.719 --> 00:21:26.249 It's important to know what you don't want. 00:21:26.609 --> 00:21:27.859 So it doesn't creep in. 00:21:28.919 --> 00:21:32.959 And just realize that only you. 00:21:33.359 --> 00:21:35.789 I can get you the life you want. 00:21:36.859 --> 00:21:37.109 That's Stella. 00:21:38.609 --> 00:21:39.209 That's my dog. 00:21:40.499 --> 00:21:41.239 She has little nails. 00:21:42.739 --> 00:21:45.139 And you can hear her snorting like a little piggy. 00:21:46.339 --> 00:21:47.899 So that's about it. 00:21:48.699 --> 00:21:52.369 . You know, maybe we could have gone more in depth than we could and other time. 00:21:53.289 --> 00:21:53.709 But. 00:21:54.429 --> 00:21:55.629 There's some thing. 00:21:56.169 --> 00:21:59.739 That is important to me and that's keeping my agreements and 00:21:59.799 --> 00:22:00.869 I have an agreement to myself. 00:22:01.389 --> 00:22:04.869 That I will put out a podcast every other week, unless something 00:22:04.899 --> 00:22:10.429 tremendously preventative comes into play and then I want to hold that 00:22:11.469 --> 00:22:15.069 I'm not going to edit the transcript because that takes me a long time. 00:22:15.879 --> 00:22:18.159 All I'm going to do is send you my love. 00:22:18.999 --> 00:22:23.589 And I'm going to send you my wishes that you have. 00:22:24.339 --> 00:22:28.929 An amazing time honing in on what you want in your life. 00:22:29.289 --> 00:22:34.539 And I'm going to add music and just upload this puppy. 00:22:35.499 --> 00:22:38.919 I hope that you were able to get something out of this, and I hope that 00:22:39.309 --> 00:22:40.569 it makes you stop and think about. 00:22:41.169 --> 00:22:41.869 What is it? 00:22:42.369 --> 00:22:48.759 That you can focus on to get your life Feeling more amazing. 00:22:50.259 --> 00:22:55.419 And I'd like to remind you that if you want to call in and leave me a message. 00:22:55.989 --> 00:22:56.449 The phone 00:22:57.949 --> 00:22:59.179 Is okay. 00:22:59.539 --> 00:23:09.769 Seeking zero, which is area code ( 657)335-4640 once again, that's. 00:23:10.580 --> 00:23:17.810 Area code (657)335-4640 and you can find me over on Instagram 00:23:18.050 --> 00:23:23.029 @SheWhoIsSeeking there's some fun recipes that I'm going to post. 00:23:23.419 --> 00:23:25.249 Um, they're not really recipes. 00:23:25.249 --> 00:23:26.149 I'm going to just show you this. 00:23:26.149 --> 00:23:26.360 Like. 00:23:27.259 --> 00:23:34.159 Amazing wild witchy salad that I made from both foraged and, um, 00:23:35.659 --> 00:23:37.310 Just kind of fun. 00:23:37.310 --> 00:23:37.610 Cool. 00:23:37.610 --> 00:23:38.600 Secret ingredients. 00:23:38.600 --> 00:23:38.899 There's. 00:23:39.169 --> 00:23:44.449 Fresh burdock and dandelion greens and chrysanthemum greens and a 00:23:44.449 --> 00:23:48.739 bunch of other And, um, I use my. 00:23:50.239 --> 00:23:51.469 Totally delicious. 00:23:52.069 --> 00:23:52.769 Amazing. 00:23:53.899 --> 00:23:53.969 That's. 00:23:54.739 --> 00:23:56.469 It doesn't sound humble, but look. 00:23:56.809 --> 00:23:59.539 There's very smart people who like it. 00:23:59.569 --> 00:24:01.769 So I'm going to go with Um, 00:24:03.269 --> 00:24:03.629 My. 00:24:04.859 --> 00:24:08.349 Kind of super famous food magic elixir on that. 00:24:08.529 --> 00:24:09.249 And it was so good. 00:24:09.849 --> 00:24:13.989 And then I also have a yummy dessert that was really tasty and both of 00:24:13.989 --> 00:24:18.909 them are easy to do and you can swap out ingredients for other ones. 00:24:19.329 --> 00:24:21.099 Um, but that's kind of fun. 00:24:21.129 --> 00:24:24.399 I don't even know why I'm telling, I mean, Follow me on Instagram, basically. 00:24:24.399 --> 00:24:25.089 That's what I'm saying. 00:24:25.419 --> 00:24:26.049 It's fun stuff. 00:24:26.799 --> 00:24:28.049 We talk about plants. 00:24:28.809 --> 00:24:30.149 We make things. 00:24:30.849 --> 00:24:32.889 Um, I don't know. 00:24:32.949 --> 00:24:36.009 I'd love to have you reach out to me here, there, wherever. 00:24:36.789 --> 00:24:38.249 And I'm sending you love. 00:24:39.159 --> 00:24:39.649 And. 00:24:41.149 --> 00:24:50.239 The beautiful music is by siren in the sea and it is called snake river. 00:24:50.899 --> 00:24:51.919 And. 00:24:52.639 --> 00:24:54.139 Remember that. 00:24:55.639 --> 00:24:56.929 You're amazing. 00:24:57.709 --> 00:24:58.989 And I love you. 00:24:59.779 --> 00:25:02.989 And I hope that your life. 00:25:03.469 --> 00:25:05.509 Gets better every day and you're getting. 00:25:05.989 --> 00:25:10.099 Closer to the life that feels perfect and juicy to you. 00:25:10.909 --> 00:25:12.489 Sending you love. 00:25:12.919 --> 00:25:17.359 And like I said, I'm an upload this warts and all. 00:25:18.859 --> 00:25:25.699 And I hope that you An amazing two weeks and i will see you soon okay Bye.