{ "version": "1.0.0", "segments": [ { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "8.639999", "endTime": "22.485", "body": "Hello, and welcome, one and all. Welcome to this firebrand forum, this TikTok live session. I am TJ Haynes, and I thank you very much for joining me tonight. We're talking about ritual, darling. Ritual." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "22.485", "endTime": "50.815", "body": "What are some things you can do in your daily life to restore ritual to your Catholic experience? Ritual that takes you to new levels, new heights in your Catholic experience that elevate you not just in your day to day, but ultimately sharpen you, to take you even higher and higher at the mass. What can you do to bring ritual back into your Catholic experience? That's what we're talking about tonight. This is gonna be a short little live session here on TikTok live, and I hope you enjoy it." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "50.815", "endTime": "56.43", "body": "Hello to Obi Chad Kenobi. Love it. Love it. Love it a thousand times over. Love that name." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "56.670002", "endTime": "67.905", "body": "And hello to Theresa Marie. God bless you, lady. And Lily Lone, or if we're going real Italian on that, we would say, Lily Lone. Thank you for joining me. Big Hearn." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "67.905", "endTime": "78.065", "body": "Love you. Thank you for joining me tonight. K ninety seven, your majesty. Thank you. And Desmondo, you know, I'm saying hi to all these people, and I already know 99% of them are coming in and leaving." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "78.065", "endTime": "86.57", "body": "But still, they tap to come in anyway, and I wanna say hello. Hello, mom Jill. God bless you, lady. And booze pet. Yeehaw." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "86.57", "endTime": "97.715", "body": "Thank you for joining me. I am TJ Hayes. And tonight, we're talking about ritual in the Catholic experience. How you bring ritual, you, not your priest, you. How do you bring ritual back into your Catholic experience?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "97.715", "endTime": "111.78", "body": "We're talking about that tonight. I'm gonna give you probably three tips. I've prepared five. Let's see how fast I can get through them. This is going out live November 6 in the year of our Lord 2026, and I say thank you, Catholic church." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "111.78", "endTime": "123.305", "body": "Let's get on with it. Darling. Have mercy. Okay. Fellas, you definitely need to lock in right about now because between the two genders, the ones who are most drawn to ritual are the fellas." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "123.305", "endTime": "130.185", "body": "We love our ritual. Right? We love our routines. Not to say ladies don't, but hear me out. We love our routines." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "130.185", "endTime": "156.905", "body": "We love our he's got his rituals. Well, yeah, because we dig us some rituals. We have our morning routines, things that we have to do it that way, and we want it that way, and we have to do it in this order at this time, and so on and so on. Men who who become inclined to religion love their religious rituals, when they pray, where they pray, how they pray. Altar boys are super duper locked in when there were altar boys." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "156.905", "endTime": "180.02", "body": "Girls are not at I I know this from experience. Girls are nowhere near as locked in as altar boys, altar girls, female altar servers, not nearly as locked in, not because they're stupid or because they're dumb or because they're flakes, nothing like that. It's because boys are naturally inclined, males are naturally inclined to ritual. So you fellows out there really need to listen up. Ladies, you love ritual too." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "180.755", "endTime": "199.32", "body": "You just don't have, I don't want to say you don't have a natural inclination to it, but your inclination to it isn't as strong. You have to work harder for it. There are things men have to work harder at to get to your level. There are things that women have to work harder at to get to our level, and ritual just happens to be one of them. But it's universally important." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "199.56", "endTime": "224.95001", "body": "Okay? I'm talking about a simple yet powerful set of disciplines that can take you to the next level in your spirituality, not just for spirituality's sake, but so that you are more inclined and receptive to to the encounter waiting for you at the holy sacrifice of the mass. It really culminates to the mass. So let's get on with it. I'm going talk about, as I said, for those of you who are coming in late, I'll repeat." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "225.11", "endTime": "239.035", "body": "I'm going to do at least three, but I've prepared five. Let's see how quickly we can get to them. Okay? If you have something to say, something to ask, drop it like it's hot. If I see it, when I see it, I will get to it." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "239.035", "endTime": "252.31", "body": "Okay? And hello and welcome to those of you just joining me. Just let me just do a real quick round the room before I get started. Hello to Tiger and Ray and John Branton joining me today. Thank you." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "252.31", "endTime": "259.27002", "body": "Or tonight. Thank you. And God bless you all. And hello to Miguel, Jim, and Coco. Beware, darling." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "259.59", "endTime": "272.51498", "body": "If you know, you know. Thank you for joining me tonight on this TikTok live. You got TJaynes, the Fibrev Forum. Let's kick it. Number one, sanctify the start and end of your day." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "272.51498", "endTime": "295.05", "body": "Some of you may do this already, but hear me out anyway, because you may get a little something extra, a little nugget of wisdom here. When you wake up, before you grab your phone, before you do anything, have an encounter with God, however small. If you're anything like me, it's hard to do that in the morning. It's like in the morning, I I can't think of anything right now. I can't do anything." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "295.745", "endTime": "306.465", "body": "Doesn't matter what it is. I can't do like a scripture, nothing. So in the morning, like, as soon as I get up, I keep it real simple. Sign of the cross, and I say, a glory be. The Gloria." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "306.465", "endTime": "312.03998", "body": "Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit. As soon as my feet hit the floor right out of the" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "312.03998", "endTime": "316.59998", "body": "bed, that's what I do. And that's it. Okay? And then I" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "316.59998", "endTime": "346.74", "body": "have other morning prayer routines, but we're not getting into that right now. But you can do something that simple to bring ritual back into your day starting with as soon as you wake up in the morning. Okay? Because these little things these little things orient you to God, orient you to heaven. In these small moments, and moments matter, in these small moments, you're touching the hem of Jesus' garment, so to speak." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "347.38", "endTime": "368.57", "body": "So that throughout the day, through these ritualistic practices, however small or complex they they may be, you're touching God again, if just for a moment. And you're touching God again, if just for a moment. And then you're touching God yet again, if just for a moment. And those moments add up. Folks, let me tell you about moments because it comes to bear when we're talking about rituals." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "369.37", "endTime": "380.545", "body": "Moments have meaning. Moments are very significant. Okay? This moment now is important. This moment will have happened once, but it will have happened forever." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "380.70502", "endTime": "389.62", "body": "You can never undo it, and you can never repeat it, but it will have happened forever. Forever and ever, this moment will have happened. That's why you have it" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "389.62", "endTime": "391.86", "body": "in your memory. Your memory is" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "391.86", "endTime": "401.78", "body": "a way of tapping into the eternal, so to speak. Okay? So take in the moments, even in your ordinary life. Okay? You're playing with your children." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "401.86", "endTime": "419.03", "body": "Take in those moments. It could be a routine that you do a million that you've done a million times. Take in the moment anyway. Enjoy this moment. I can tell you stories of specific moments playing with my children in routine and ordinary things, but I remember them because I was mindful to take them in." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "419.34998", "endTime": "430.575", "body": "Take in the moments. Moments are very, very important. So ritual and moments. Rituals take place in moments, and moments are significant. Once they happen, they will have happened forever." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "430.575", "endTime": "451.88", "body": "You can never go back and redo them. You can't erase them. Take in every moment, especially the good ones, every memory of holidays with your family or birthday parties for your children. Take in every moment. Stupid little concerts you go to at their schools that you you know, even if you don't have kids, you, every day, you live moments that will never happen" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "451.88", "endTime": "458.155", "body": "again. A sunset, a nice song that came on the radio and it just hit you at just it" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "458.155", "endTime": "460.795", "body": "was just just the perfect song, it hit you at just the right time." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "460.795", "endTime": "463.755", "body": "That's a moment. Take it in. Take it in." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "464.795", "endTime": "488.58502", "body": "Because, and I want you to hear me now, because these moments will have happened forever, you bring them with you into heaven. Or, well, you bring them with you into eternity, whether you get to heaven or not. You bring them with you. They are with you forever because they will have happened forever. That includes the thing, the good things you do in these moments, such as rituals throughout your day." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "488.74503", "endTime": "489.385", "body": "They happen in" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "489.385", "endTime": "496.97", "body": "the moments. Live in those moments. Go deep in those moments. Take them in because you're gonna bring them" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "496.97", "endTime": "521.185", "body": "with you into into eternity. Pretty powerful stuff. So when you wake up in the morning, before you grab your phone and do anything else, as soon as your feet hit the floor, make the sign of the cross, offer your day to God. You can say something simple like, Lord, I offer you this day my work, my prayers, and my sufferings for my children, for my family, for the salvation of souls in reparation for my sins. Something like that." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "521.505", "endTime": "534.77", "body": "Okay? Make some kind of contact with God even if all you're saying is, Good morning, papa. Thank you for another day. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "534.85004", "endTime": "550.375", "body": "Even if it's something that simple. Because you're doing it regularly at the same time or in the same moments, that's ritual. Okay? At night before you go to bed, an examination of conscience. I might do a separate podcast on how to do a good examination of conscience." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "550.87", "endTime": "555.11005", "body": "But, do an examination of conscience. Here's a simple formula I can give you for how" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "555.11005", "endTime": "557.19", "body": "to do that. Before you go" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "557.19", "endTime": "584.32", "body": "to bed, as part of your night prayer routine, whatever you do for your prayers before bed, somewhere inside of that time, do this: Did I live my life as someone who believes in Jesus Christ? Not my words, you know, I believe in God the Father Almighty. Not the words. Not even what's in your heart, which might be sincere and earnest. Did my life" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "585.28", "endTime": "592.72003", "body": "demonstrate that I believe in Jesus Christ? Your the honest answer for" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "592.72003", "endTime": "604.65497", "body": "all of you is going to be no. That cheat sheet, there you go. Ask yourself, Where did I fail to demonstrate that I am a believer in Jesus Christ? There's your examination of conscience. Okay?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "604.65497", "endTime": "609.295", "body": "Do that. And focus on one or two of the things you and you don't have to" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "609.295", "endTime": "615.0", "body": "go make it an exhaustive process. Okay? But come up with" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "615.0", "endTime": "624.61505", "body": "a few, and then focus on one or two main ones that stick out for you, and say, Lord, I'm sorry for these failures, especially these one or two. Help me" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "624.61505", "endTime": "629.575", "body": "to do this better tomorrow. That's a good examination of conscience." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "629.575", "endTime": "636.375", "body": "It can be that simple because it's that sincere. Miranda is saying, Very little of my day is ritual. If we" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "636.375", "endTime": "642.70996", "body": "are going by timings, I'm all over the day. Yes, Miranda, I" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "642.70996", "endTime": "663.995", "body": "am with you. That is how my head works, and therefore that is how my actions are. They're all over the place all day. So I've had to force myself to grow a discipline of ritual. And I can tell you, as someone who is just like you, who has worked my way to be more disciplined about ritual, I can tell you it's transformative." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "665.77", "endTime": "678.34503", "body": "It's not a major failure if you don't do this or if you can't make it work. It's not a major failure. But if you can make it work, it is a major gain. It does level you up. Okay?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "678.42505", "endTime": "692.585", "body": "I'm with you Miranda, and thank you for joining me tonight. I'm absolutely with you. It's a discipline, and discipline for fallen creatures is hard to build. And that is what forges us and prepares us for heaven prepares us for sainthood. Let's move on." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "694.54", "endTime": "720.855", "body": "I spent a little long on that. I had some good stuff here. Folks, when I come on here to do a live, I'm going to try to do like five points of this or three things that will help you whatever. What I'm going to do, I'm going make it a ritual that I will post these notes on my publication over at Substack, Stoking the Embers. The link is in my bio." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "721.36", "endTime": "737.64496", "body": "I may not get to it right away, but as a as a matter of habit, if you see that I've gone live, just expect that whatever I'm talking about, the notes that I've prepared, I'm going to post to Stoking the Embers. Link is in my bio. Okay? Because I've got some good stuff here, but I'm not gonna be able to get to" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "737.64496", "endTime": "739.08496", "body": "all of it. Let's go" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "739.08496", "endTime": "751.17", "body": "to number two. Okay? We're talking about I've prepared five, I'm talking about three points to bring ritual back into your life. Let's talk about point number two. Create a domestic prayer corner, my favorite." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "752.37", "endTime": "756.93", "body": "If you don't already have one, find a small spot in your home, a corner or a" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "756.93", "endTime": "760.85", "body": "shelf or even a windowsill, and" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "760.85", "endTime": "783.21", "body": "make it your prayer space where that is where you go. That is that is your pedestal that you perch yourself on. It doesn't literally have to be something that you climb on. That you perch yourself on to look up to be closer to God. And every time you want to grow be closer to God in that prayer moment, that is where you go." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "783.21", "endTime": "788.01", "body": "And that's it. I I have one right over there. I have one right I've had something like this" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "789.69", "endTime": "796.585", "body": "for maybe ten years. And it is always where I go to pray, if" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "796.585", "endTime": "808.52", "body": "if I'm able to. It is always where I go to pray. This room in my home has two names. If I'm working, it's called the lab. If I'm praying and studying, it's called the temple." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "808.52", "endTime": "836.43", "body": "So if I come upstairs and I say to my family, I'm going up to the temple, they know don't bother me because daddy's going up there to pray or to study something, you know, to read theology or something. If I say I'm going up to the lab, they know they can interrupt me if they have to. Okay. So create a domestic prayer corner. It could be a God shelf, what I used to call it, which is a shelf with the most important statues, the statues of the most important saints." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "836.82996", "endTime": "857.615", "body": "The blessed mother is on the top shelf, and then I've got, two or three other saints, and I've got a crucifix or a big image of Jesus Christ on the wall behind it. Okay? And then on the shelf beneath it, I put, like, other sacramentals, some holy water. I have an incenser. Sometimes I'll burn incense as part of my prayer routine." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "857.855", "endTime": "879.165", "body": "Not, like, every time I pray, but, like, you know, once or twice a week, I'll make do something like a special prayer offering, and that involves incense. That's on the second shelf. Certain books with reflections and stuff like The Imitation of Christ, I have on the third shelf. Books like that, that's on the third shelf. You get what I'm saying?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "879.245", "endTime": "883.96497", "body": "You can have something like that. It doesn't have to be like an altar. It doesn't have to super fancy. Can be" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "883.96497", "endTime": "886.17004", "body": "as simple as a bookshelf. But it's" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "886.17004", "endTime": "913.74", "body": "a bookshelf that's configured in a way that it becomes your prayer space. Okay? And what I do specifically is I stand in front of the bookshelf when I'm praying, because I'm addressing God, there's the picture of Jesus Christ, there's the Holy Virgin Mary, and she's my queen and my mother, so of course, she's gonna be there with me as I pray. So that's effectively, that's what I do is I stand in front of it as I pray. Crucifix, very important." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "913.74", "endTime": "930.395", "body": "Candles, candles, candles, candles, candles. Incorporate candles into your prayer routine. Okay? You don't have to go to church just to you don't have to go to church to light a candle if you can find a church that uses real candles anymore. You don't have to go to church for the candles." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "930.475", "endTime": "932.235", "body": "You can light candles at home." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "932.315", "endTime": "933.83496", "body": "Okay? You have" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "933.83496", "endTime": "941.74", "body": "a choice. Now, do this safely. Do this safely. Okay? Because there's a risk that you could start a fire, so do it safely." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "941.74", "endTime": "958.115", "body": "But you can burn a votive candle for a saint, or in front of the crucifix, or you can just light a candle and burn the candle while you're praying. Okay? Well, what's the point? It's just a candle. It doesn't have magic powers." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "958.115", "endTime": "965.795", "body": "I know, but it brings ritual into the moment. It's Do you have candles lit throughout the house? No. Lighting a candle is exceptional. Right?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "966.25", "endTime": "991.315", "body": "It's something different, not only in this physical space, but in this moment. It's something that sets this moment apart, makes it different from every other moment in your day. And you can also think of it as a small offering to God, that candle, because the candle costs you money. They can't believe it or not, if you really get into, like, candle burning, which sounds like a stupid hobby, but if you" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "991.315", "endTime": "994.66003", "body": "get into candle burning, it's also a little bit" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "994.66003", "endTime": "1013.79504", "body": "of an inconvenience having to tend to the candle, light it, put it out, relight it. Try it and you'll see what I mean. When am I so I have a votive candle that's lit over there. And when that sucker And I never change it, because I don't want to take it away from the Blessed Virgin Mary. So I'll let it be until it burns out completely." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1014.515", "endTime": "1045.505", "body": "So I hate seeing that it's burned out because then it's like, Oh man, I gotta go and get another candle from the box, and I gotta unwrap the candle, and I gotta go find some matches, and then I gotta light it. And then every time I light it, this is part of my ritual, there's a set of prayers that I do in honor of God and the and Jesus Christ and the blessed Virgin Mary. There's a set of prayers that I do, and that's the only time that I do that set of prayers in the offering of that next candle that I'm burning. So it's kind of a whole thing. And sometimes it's like, Oh, I don't I can't do that right now," }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1045.505", "endTime": "1049.03", "body": "but I have to. It's the ritual. Okay?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1049.03", "endTime": "1069.1051", "body": "It's the ritual. So even the carrying out of the ritual, even if it's a candle, that's a sacrifice. Okay? And as I said before, it's something different in this moment and in this physical space in in your home or your apartment. It's something that sets it apart from every other moment and every other space in your house." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1069.1051", "endTime": "1089.88", "body": "That's that's the significance of a candle. Okay, Miranda someone said something before Miranda. Sorry Miranda, let me back up. Oh, she says she's normally in bed by now trying to get over jet lag from coming back to The UK from Hawaii to the oh, wow. That is a trip from she went from Hawaii to The UK, so suffering jet lag." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1090.505", "endTime": "1100.825", "body": "Miranda says, We have proper candles at our church. Do people have electric candles in churches these days? Yes. A lot of churches have electric candles. It annoys the hell out of me." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1102.025", "endTime": "1124.945", "body": "Because my thing is, at what point is the entire faith experience just synthetic? That we're replacing real bells in in the churches because they're too expensive to maintain or to fix when they're broken? We replace them with giant speakers and a computerized bell that goes bong bong bong every hour. And we justify" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1124.945", "endTime": "1128.705", "body": "it by saying, well, it also plays music. Okay." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1128.705", "endTime": "1139.7799", "body": "It's a synthetic bell. The candles aren't synt are synthetic. They're electric. There's a lot of synthetic stuff in the faith experience. It is starting to change back, I'm noticing." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1139.9401", "endTime": "1157.7649", "body": "All over the place, I notice it's starting to change back. But at what point does the entire Catholic faith just become synthetic? Can we just please keep real candles? No fake candles to go with the fake bells to go with the fake pipe organ? Please." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1157.765", "endTime": "1178.4451", "body": "Can we please keep the damn candles? Thank you, pastors and, parish, parish councils. This is, and yeah, this is pretty widespread, the electric candles, but, real candles are starting to come back. They're little small tea light votive candles. They're they're not very impressive." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1178.4451", "endTime": "1186.2051", "body": "They're not beeswax, I don't think. But at least they're starting to make a comeback, so that's good. Alright. Domestic prayer corner. Add a crucifix, a candle, your Bible." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1186.2051", "endTime": "1210.6749", "body": "You can put your Bible there on the shelf or in your prayer corner. Something that you could also do as a ritual is open the Bible to a random page and see where the Holy Spirit takes you there. Okay? Ritual. Something about these rituals too that's important is try to do them the same way at the same time every day or every prescribed day that you choose to do these things, these rituals." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1210.835", "endTime": "1228.0", "body": "Okay? Try to. Because by doing that, you're arranging your entire life around your spirituality rituals instead of moving your spirituality rituals to conform to your life. Do you see why that's" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1228.0", "endTime": "1231.52", "body": "different? I did an episode a long" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1231.52", "endTime": "1250.88", "body": "time ago called Building a House of Prayer, And the point I made there I'm going to make for you: Hey Old School Earl, good to see you man! Yeah, Old School Earl, I get a sense that you're a very ritualistic fella, by the way. So something I said in that episode I'm going to tell you now. Okay? Condition yourself that everything else has to get the hell out of the way for your religion." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1251.3601", "endTime": "1261.52", "body": "Except for your family, obviously. But everything has to get out of the way. Instead of your religion having to get out of the way of everything else. Oh, I have a million things to do, I have to do this, I have to go here. Got it!" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1262.365", "endTime": "1285.39", "body": "But you have to reconfigure your life so that your life revolves around your the practice of your faith, instead of your faith being moved and shapeshifted around the living of your life. It's not healthy that way. Take it from me, because I've done both at a very high level. Okay? So take it from me, it's not healthy to do it that way." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1285.39", "endTime": "1292.965", "body": "I don't know why. As soon as I go live, everyone's texting, everyone's emailing me, now's a freaking phone call. Who the hell calls me at this time of night? It's me. I'm not the president." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1293.845", "endTime": "1301.845", "body": "What could you possibly be needing to call me for? Anyway, so let's get on with it. Okay? Try to do these at the same time. I know within reason." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1301.845", "endTime": "1303.125", "body": "Okay? Within reason." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1303.7201", "endTime": "1304.8401", "body": "Try to do these at the" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1304.8401", "endTime": "1328.6151", "body": "same time every day and make the rest of your day get out of the way for it. Believe me, it changes you interiorly and it changes your orientation to God. It strengthens and clarifies your orientation to God. So Old School Oral in chat says he does this this sort of thing every day. He can't recommend Lectio Divina enough." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1328.6151", "endTime": "1345.93", "body": "That's meditating and praying on something from the scriptures, like Tio Divina. I agree. OSR Miranda said that. That is that's gonna take you to another level. Meditating, reflecting, praying on something that you find in the scriptures, something that stands out." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1348.265", "endTime": "1362.6099", "body": "Feel me? So, yeah, I'm totally with you. Number three. Link prayer to your daily rhythms. Something intrinsic to ritual is that it's rhythmic." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1362.7699", "endTime": "1393.1799", "body": "Okay? It's a rhythm in how you live your life and how you weave your faith experience into your daily life so that they're not separated. Something that I used to tell kids in in in the classroom is the reason why we fold our hands when we pray is you have to think of it this way. Our faith life is not supposed to be separated from our, I used to say, real life because that's a term they understand. Our faith life is not supposed to be separated from our real life, they're supposed to be together and inseparable." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1393.6599", "endTime": "1421.84", "body": "So this is something that I share with you, is that the rhythm of ritual helps you to weave your your your faith life, your spiritual life, into your lived daily experience instead of having them separate. Well, now I'm doing my daily life, and on Sunday I'm gonna do my spiritual life. And now I'm gonna do my daily life, and the night before I'm do my spiritual life. Well, that's all well and good. I'm not criticizing that." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1422.3201", "endTime": "1438.0651", "body": "But go deeper, go harder, lock in. Weave your faith life into your daily life every day, all day, through the discipline of bringing ritual into your lived experience. Ritual. It's a rhythm. And that rhythm keeps it tight." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1438.0651", "endTime": "1454.92", "body": "You understand? Sammy says, I heard someone deny the perpetual virginity of the blessed virgin of the blessed mother, and I was deeply offended. Why? I don't know. The perpetual virginity of Mary is denied all the time by non Catholics and even by some Catholics." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1455.0", "endTime": "1461.8", "body": "I don't know. I don't know. I don't know why it why it offended you. I would say don't let it get to you. There are worse insults against the holy virgin out there." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1461.8", "endTime": "1468.7749", "body": "Believe me, I've heard them. That's that's not the worst of them. Believe me. Don't let don't let the light stuff get you down. Okay?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1468.9349", "endTime": "1485.2101", "body": "Don't let the light stuff get you down. You know what you can do, Sammy? And I give this to everybody. If you encounter something, you hear something, see something that offends you because you're hurt by how it offends God, or and also take it easy because God is not" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1485.2101", "endTime": "1488.1699", "body": "a snowflake. He can take it. But," }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1488.89", "endTime": "1515.09", "body": "it does happen where you might encounter something, hear something, see something. Not something that you're doing, something that is being donor said by others, that you're like, Oh, poor Jesus, I can't imagine how this must ache his heart. Or, Oh, the poor blessed mother, I can't believe they said that against her blood. Sometimes that will happen where you're offended because of how it might offend the Holy Virgin Mary or Jesus, whatever. You know what I do in moments like that?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1515.33", "endTime": "1536.2649", "body": "I say the divine praises in reparation for that sin. So, if somebody says something that is really offensive to the Holy Virgin, whatever, I make the sign of the cross, and I don't even say, you know, Lord, forgive them or anything. May you could, but I just don't out of habit. I just I just don't, just because I don't think of it. But the Lord knows what my intention is." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1536.585", "endTime": "1552.69", "body": "I make the sign of the cross, and I just say, blessed be God, blessed be his holy name, blessed be Jesus Christ, your God. I do the divine praises to restore the glory that was taken away by that offense against the immaculate heart, against the sacred heart, against God the father, the trinity, whatever." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1553.085", "endTime": "1564.2849", "body": "You might consider doing that, making an act of reparation for that offense in that person's place. You understand? Try that. Maybe that will make you feel better." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1565.085", "endTime": "1571.51", "body": "It will certainly, win you a few points of judgment. That's for sure. It'll earn you a few extra points. Okay. Number three." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1571.9901", "endTime": "1585.4349", "body": "Link prayer to your daily rhythms. Start trying prayer I'm sorry. Start tying prayer to things you already do. This is a very powerful one. Say grace before meals." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1585.4349", "endTime": "1604.43", "body": "That's obvious. Even if you're eating alone, say grace before meals. Pause at noon for the Angelus. That's a that I hate doing, to be very honest with you. I hate stopping everything I'm doing at twelve to say the angel is very hard to do, and and after trying for months, twice, two separate times, I I just gave up." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1604.43", "endTime": "1615.9249", "body": "I I just can't do it. That one I just cannot do. That's a very old custom though, saying the angel is at twelve. Okay? Make the sign of the cross when you leave your house." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1617.045", "endTime": "1642.905", "body": "Make the sign of the cross as you start driving to work. Or when you hear a siren, this is an old custom. When you hear a siren, say a Hail Mary or some other prayer for the person that's being picked up by that ambulance or the person that's in that ambulance. Say a prayer for the dead when you come across a funeral procession or a funeral, motorcade. Say a prayer for the soul of the person in that motorcade who" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1642.905", "endTime": "1648.985", "body": "is being buried that day, whose funeral it is that day. You understand? These are" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1648.985", "endTime": "1665.56", "body": "very old customs and they are very ritualistic, even though they those kind of happen at random. Like, you can't plan on when you're gonna encounter an ambulance and so on. But it's still ritualistic. Okay? Ask the Lord to bless your house when you enter it." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1666.255", "endTime": "1687.6699", "body": "Ask and to bless your home and the people in it when you enter it and when you leave. Bring holy water and have a holy water font by the door and bless yourself when you enter and when you leave. If you don't have holy water or you can't have a holy water font, whatever, just make the sign of the cross then. Okay? Link prayer to your daily rhythms." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1687.9099", "endTime": "1699.995", "body": "Another thing you can do: When you're folding laundry, make every white sock a Hail Mary and every black sock an Hail Father. So when you're rolling these socks, you say Hail Mary, and a Hail Mary, and another Hail" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1699.995", "endTime": "1704.475", "body": "Mary. Holding pants? Make those glory bees. I don't know." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1705.275", "endTime": "1745.0299", "body": "Link your prayer to the activities in your daily life. When I was washing dishes, for instance, sometimes I would make large plates in our in our father, and smaller plates in other smaller dishes, a Hail Mary. I would make forks of the glory be and knives of something else. Sometimes I would recite the divine praises for the whole time that I was saying the rosary, so I would just do the divine praises, and when I finished, I would repeat it and do the divine praises again until I was done doing the dishes. I'm weird, because I actually love doing dishes BECAUSE I made it a ritual moment." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1745.4299", "endTime": "1756.1849", "body": "I made it a prayerful moment. I actually enjoyed doing the dishes, because I made a moment out of it. Remember what I said about taking in the moments? So, some moments aren't worth taking in, right? Doing dishes." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1756.1849", "endTime": "1768.1499", "body": "So I made a moment out of it. Do you understand? Ritual. Being in the moments because the moments matter. Now, before I wrap this up, let me see if I wanna if one of these are so sweet that I have to let you in on" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1768.1499", "endTime": "1771.9099", "body": "it now, because I do have two others. No, I kinda said that one" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1771.9099", "endTime": "1783.495", "body": "already. That one's not too sweet. Keep a saint companion for the week. So what I'll do is, I'm going to bring this episode to a close. I'm going to go around the room and see if anybody has a question or comment that I missed." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1784.135", "endTime": "1799.66", "body": "But reminding you, I'm going to post these notes to my substack stoking the embers. The link is in my bio if you're interested. It's not fancy. It's not a big long write up write up. It's a very simple write up for me." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1799.66", "endTime": "1809.0049", "body": "They're my notes, my operational notes. Okay? They're not just like little bullet points. It's a little bit more than that, but it's not like a very expansive writing. It's it's fairly simple." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1809.325", "endTime": "1827.13", "body": "But if you wanna read the points that I was talking about here, I will post this to my substack, stokingthembers .substack.com. The link is in my bio. You will you might be prompted to subscribe. You might get like a little pop up window. Just understand, you don't have to subscribe." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1827.525", "endTime": "1843.2", "body": "There's a link at the bottom of the pop up that says No thanks, let me in. And you can go in. Okay? I would love for you to subscribe, but what I'm saying is you don't have to. If you go to the substack, Stoking the Embers, and you see that, you know, subscribe thing, you don't have to subscribe." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1843.2", "endTime": "1847.68", "body": "Don't let that get you down. Look for the link that says No thanks, let me in, and you can just" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1847.68", "endTime": "1852.48", "body": "go in. Okay? Alright. So, I think that's about going" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1852.48", "endTime": "1867.505", "body": "to wrap it up. Listen, I want to quick let you know, the next major podcast that I do, I'm going to be talking about sacred tradition. What is sacred tradition, and what isn't sacred tradition? What does it mean? Why does it have authority for Catholics?" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1868.23", "endTime": "1885.855", "body": "Where do Protestants get this wrong, this idea of tradition? Why don't they have sacred tradition and why don't they value it? Also, where do Catholics get it wrong? Catholics are getting tradition wrong all the time. Every day I see it." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1885.935", "endTime": "1900.67", "body": "I applaud their zeal, but you can't call that tradition. You can't call that trad I'll give you one example. I read the Bible, the Douay Rheim version of the Bible, because it's sacred tradition." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1900.9901", "endTime": "1904.3501", "body": "No. It isn't. We should" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1904.3501", "endTime": "1922.0449", "body": "be saying Holy Ghost because it's sacred tradition. Mm-mm. No, it isn't. And I'm not saying this to insult traditionalists. I'm just saying there are Catholics who get this idea of tradition way, way, way, way wrong, and it gets them into a little bit of trouble." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1922.0449", "endTime": "1938.995", "body": "They're not seeing it yet. And, the main reason why I'm doing this episode is not just as a corrective to Catholics or to edify Catholics, but also to edify Protestants. You guys need to get with it. Sacred tradition is where it's at. Bible, Bible, Bible, Bible." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1938.995", "endTime": "1941.875", "body": "Where is that in the Bible? Hey, my friend. The reason you have" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1941.875", "endTime": "1950.37", "body": "a Bible? It's because of sacred tradition. Without sacred tradition, there would be no Bible. You're welcome." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1953.73", "endTime": "1966.4849", "body": "Let me just go around the room. Don't leave yet. Wait a second. My favorite thing to ask protestants so prodigal son said, my favorite thing to ask protestants that worship on Sunday Oh, that's a good one. Oh my goodness." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1966.725", "endTime": "1974.1649", "body": "Holy cow. I'm gonna use that. Prodigal Son said, my favorite thing to ask Protestants that worship on Sunday Why do they? Why do" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1974.1649", "endTime": "1984.9598", "body": "you worship on Sunday? That's not in the Bible. Oh, that's a good one. That's a really, really good one. I like that one." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1984.96", "endTime": "1988.72", "body": "Where is that in the Bible? Do you know why we worship on Sundays? Because it's the Lord the day of" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 2", "startTime": "1988.72", "endTime": "1991.525", "body": "the Lord's resurrection. That's not" }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1991.525", "endTime": "1999.605", "body": "in the Bible. Oh, prodigal son. Man, that's a good one. I'm gonna use that, if you don't mind. Alright." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "1999.605", "endTime": "2008.01", "body": "Anybody else have any questions? Questions or comments or statements? Bye, y'all. Not you. I'm talking about the people who are calling me on the phone." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2008.81", "endTime": "2014.89", "body": "No. No. Ruth liked the live. I appreciate that. I appreciate the respective." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2014.89", "endTime": "2019.9249", "body": "Oh, you're welcome, Sammy d. Sammy d appreciated the advice I gave, and that's great. That's what I'm here for. I'm here to serve. Listen." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2019.9249", "endTime": "2036.5", "body": "Every time you see me post something on this damn platform, please tap like. It helps me a lot, and many of you do. I'm very grateful to you. This platform, I get the most engagement, and I have the most connection with the people because of that engagement. Because every time you comment, I respond." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2036.5", "endTime": "2048.825", "body": "I read all the comments. I am most connected with the people on this platform, and I thank you for that. It's because of your engagement. So I just wanted to encourage you to keep that going. Justin Martyr and Ignatius." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2048.825", "endTime": "2059.52", "body": "Prodigal son is saying Justin Martyr and Ignatius were the first to mention that, I guess, about worshiping on on Sunday. That's very interesting. I love that. Man, I really love that point, Prodigal Son. That was fantastic, bro." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2060.4", "endTime": "2075.235", "body": "What else? So look for that that podcast on sacred tradition. I don't do YouTube. YouTube is for people who are practicing for hell. I don't plan on being in hell, so I'm not going to practice for it, so I do not do YouTube." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2075.7952", "endTime": "2107.865", "body": "If you're interested in knowing when that episode drops, you ought to subscribe to Stoking the Embers over there at Substack because you'll get a notification when I I do my live podcasts, my proper podcasts on Substack, and then I distribute them everywhere, iTunes, Spotify, and Substack, and everywhere else. But when I do them live, I do them on Substack. I do not do them on YouTube. You wanna know when that episode drops, if you wanna be notified when it goes live and when it drops on demand, subscribe to my Substack. It is free." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2107.865", "endTime": "2124.52", "body": "Stoking the embers.substack.com. Stoking the embers, baby. Building Catholic fire in the fog of a modern world. I am TJ Haynes, and I wanna thank each and every one of you for joining me this evening. The Catholic Fire brand, bringing the fire, baby." }, { "speaker": "Speaker 1", "startTime": "2124.52", "endTime": "2127.345", "body": "God bless you. God be with you all. Bye bye." } ] }