It's easy to let life get in the way of prioritizing marriage, which ALWAYS has an effect on a sex life! Trey Morgan from Stronger Marriages touches on some real issues married people face: normal life situations that kill intimacy in the bedroom. Learn what to avoid to protect intimacy in your marriage, whether that's today or in the future.
Trey and Lea have been married for 32 years and have more than one thing going for them. They're new grandparents and new empty-nesters, but there's one thing they're experiencing that isn't new to them: sex is better than ever. In this weeks episode Trey breaks down Intimacy busters that can hinder our sex life, and how identifying them can help us in being proactive!
There are a lot of intimacy busters
Kids are amazing, but when they're sharing your bed with you at night, your marital intimacy will be left longing for something more. Get locks on your door and keep your room sacred for you and your spouse.
It's important to smell good. Take care of yourself and stay in shape. If we get lazy in life, lazy in pursuing each other, and lazy with our fitness, our sexual intimacy will be drained along with all of the other forms of intimacy that are so important in marriage.
Watch out for getting so comfortable and routined in your marriage that you forget to do the things that keep the romance alive in your home.
Picking your battles is wise if you want sex
Want to have sex AND talk about those charges on the credit card tonight? You better pick one because both ain't going to happen. Conflict can result in intimacy as you draw towards each other through a disagreement, but it takes time and will kill your hopes for sexual intimacy if you bring certain things up at the wrong times. Use discernment in what to bring up and when to start certain conversations.
Flirt no matter how long you've been married
Date your spouse. Send flirty texts throughout the day reminding them that you're dreaming of being with them. Learn how your spouse loves to flirt with you and do that often. Being playful with each other even in the later years of your marriage will keep the romance alive and bring peace and joy to the home. If you have kids, they need to see you flirting to the point they wish you would just go get a room. When they become adults, they'll thank you for setting that example.
Don't lose your trust
We can lose trust in a marriage in a moment and then take years trying to get it restored. Guard your trust with everything you have. It's a key for intimacy in marriage, so breaking trust will destroy the intimacy that is so key to your marriage prospering.
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Next week, Matt and Braden talk with Youth Camp Director, Keith Johnston, about his porn story and how porn can affect ministry leaders and youth today.
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