there’s a fear that is likely stopping you from living to your potential.
Nope, it’s not the fear of death, either.
It’s the fear of being judged critically by others.
In my experience working in the world of helping people in their relationship dynamics,
going from “should I stay or go” relationships,
not resolving this underlying fear is keeping people from executing
on creating the life they want.
In love, in sex, and in money.
Since sex and money are the most common arguments between couples,
I thought it would be wise to unpack the root cause of why we get stuck here.
Let’s break it down.
If you have a high value for building wealth because of a poor upbringing,
you’re likely going to be partnering with someone with a different money story than you,
and you’re likely going to be surrounded by them as well.
Our behavior is governed by our values— our priorities— what we deem most important.
And guess where these values come from?
You might be thinking “upbringing” but it goes even deeper.
We get our values from what we perceived to be missing the most.
In other words, our values come from our VOIDS in life.
We seek and value what we are missing the most.
And if something doesn’t align with what a human being values,
we will have a negative judgment on it.
This is why it’s impossible to please everyone.
and when we live in fear that our lifestyle or what we value will be judged by someone,
just know that’s EXACTLY what’s going to happen.
As Byron Katie says "It’s their JOB to judge you”.
The real question is— what happens internally when they do?
This is where most of us get stuck in the fantasy that others should approve of our choices.
You might overtly KNOW that’s not true,
but every time you have a desire— to grow financially, to express yourself sexually,
to speak your opinion….
and you feel like you’re going to be critically judged,
that fear will stop you, not because of the external judgement.
IT’S BECAUSE OF THE JUDGEMENT YOU’RE MAKING ABOUT YOURSELF.
This is one of hundreds of insights and trainings we discuss with our cyclebreakers
who are all working to liberate themselves from their past,
Become Trigger-Proof,
and create lives with love, sex, and money that they didn’t have before.
They are all dumbfounded when they realize how much they’ve been living in fear
of the opinions and judgements of others,
and relieved to get that it’s not the judgements of others that have killed their relationships and life situation,
But the covert fantasies of having everyone agree with them that’s the problem.
Dissolve the fantasy that everyone SHOULD agree with you,
and you’re free.
I talk about it in this clip of an amazing podcast interview I did with a financial advisor, Hannah Chapman.
You won’t ever stop human beings from judging.
But you CAN shift your expectation that they SHOULDN’T judge.
It’s not your fault if you haven’t gotten this yet.
You haven’t likely yet learned the skills to becoming Trigger-Proof.
And when you do,
you’re free to live the life you want:
in love, sex, and money.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof
Are you on Telegram? Click link below to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
https://t.me/joinchat/TPQjyH2MCBKHonIR
What is Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)?
Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast.
This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of
Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community.
These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen
to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy,
and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience,
heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life.
This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t
Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally).
These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught:
1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love,
2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved.
Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE.
Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you.
It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you,
#Cyclebreaker.
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When you're ready, here's what we got:
Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof