"Legal System Abuse & Dropping the Mask"
This episode covers the period from mid-May through July 2023, focusing on Gary's weaponization of the State Bar grievance process as retaliation for Amy's public disclosure of his actions. Throughout June and July, Gary oscillates between trying to "save" Amy and threatening her career, while simultaneously constructing an elaborate fictional narrative that Amy is on a drug
bender at her mother's house. The episode culminates on July 4th weekend, when Gary,
intoxicated, calls Amy claiming he "hit someone" while driving. Amy calls for a wellness check,
and police break down Gary's new glass front door to find him hiding inside—leading to an
explosive, profanity-laden recording where Gary's mask completely drops.
Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery
Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin
Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden
Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf
Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins
Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/
Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK
What is Phoenix, Bitch!?
We're two survivors with questionable coping mechanisms who turned trauma into a podcast because therapy alone wasn't enough. We're here to vent, overshare, call out toxic nonsense, and laugh through the darkness. But we're not just telling our story; we're showing you the receipts. We expose narcissistic abuse through actual texts, voice recordings, and videos: the evidence they never thought we'd share.
This podcast is for anyone who's clawed or is clawing their way out of narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, or the kind of relationship that burns you down from the inside out. We talk real, we talk raw, we talk 90% in F bombs. So get ready, because rising isn't always graceful, but it is powerful. This is our rebirth, our reckoning, and our reminder that we don't just survive. We rise from the flames.
Trigger warning! We'll be discussing sensitive topics in this podcast. We're here to validate, not treat. Please seek professional help if you need it.