We explore how compulsive generosity originates as a survival strategy learned early in life, often in dysfunctional families, where giving was transactional and required to gain safety or validation. This deeply ingrained pattern becomes a "template" in adulthood, leading the individual to attract relationships and partners with insatiable needs, resulting in sustained emotional exploitation and self-erasure rather than true connection. We identify this compulsive giving as acting like an addiction, offering a temporary sense of control and relief while relentlessly depleting the individual and preventing them from being genuinely seen or valued. The ultimate therapeutic insight is the recognition that external giving cannot fill an internal void or fix another person’s dysregulation, making the pattern the very thing that costs the individual the peace and connection it promises.
What is ISSUE?
ISSUE explores awareness, emotion, and integrity — how we stay connected to what’s real in a culture built on distraction. The episodes grow from themes that surface in therapy, dialogue, and reading, through the use of emerging creative technologies.