The Hidden Battle Inside Every Man | Ep 479 with Kaleb Allen

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Most men have learned how to clean up well.
We look calm. Composed. Put together.
We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what’s actually happening in our hearts.

But Jesus isn’t fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.

In today’s episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.”
He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle of the night, while he was busy rehearsing a bitter argument in his head, and revealed just how much unhealed junk was still living in his heart.

This isn’t about behavior management. It’s about soul work.
Because your wife doesn’t need a perfect version of you. Your kids don’t need a dad who looks impressive.
They need a man who is whole on the inside.

In this episode:

• The hidden difference between external discipline and internal health
• How to know if you’re just “managing the outside”
• The biblical call to clean the inside of your cup
• What makes a man useful to God
• Why your family needs a healed version of you—not a polished one

"Woe to you… You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. First clean the inside of the cup…”
— Matthew 23:25–26

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