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with. G'day, everyone, and welcome
back to the Energetic Radio podcast episode
346. My name is Paul Campbell, and I'm joined by the
ever energetic mister Dale Sidebottom. How you going, mate? Bully, very good,
mate. Ready to rock and roll. Ready to rock and roll? I am. Good to
hear. We've had a massive couple of weeks. We have. Things are good. Things are
busy. That's always what we like in our world. Busy is always good, isn't it?
It'd be scary if we weren't busy and, that If we're not busy, we're not
earning and we're not living and then we can't support our families and it's a
quick slow And then the lives aren't happy. Then we can't work
together. Exactly right. That'll be good to know. Podcast, but it's not gonna be all
negative. We're excited. This is very true. And I'll tell you what, we've had a
couple of cracking weeks that have gone past with some really exciting, I
guess, moments in our personal lives, but more importantly in our business lives. And, just
wanna share a few tell you what's been going on. I'm gonna start with the
most important one and the probably the biggest one we've done for a while, and
that was our Elevate Your Life evening in Parkdale.
We haven't released it to the world yet. We obviously had guests come along
too, but we haven't done a lot of social media posts and and released it
to the world. But, we're waiting for the videographer to come along and that footage
is gonna be absolutely epic and we can't wait for that. But we
most definitely were able to share a really impressive
evening, with some, I guess, some guests and family and friends and
some complete strangers, which made it all worthwhile. So we booked
out the Shirley Burke Theatre over in Parkdale, and we created an event called Elevate
Your Life, and we shared Dallas shared the stage with mister Paul Watkins.
But yeah. How do you feel it went, mate? Yeah. I was, I
loved it. Once well, there and once it was on. Not gonna lie,
caused me a lot of stress and anxiety leading up, just
with the responsibility of selling tickets. And then, like, oh, we hadn't
sold many tickets. And then you're like, oh, is this a failure? Or, like, the
the stories you tell yourself in your head, like and I think that's why I
haven't done anything like this for a while because every time I do something like
this, the same thing happens. But we finally got to the night,
and incredible venue. Yeah. And it was something that I was
pretty excited about because it was something I wanted to do for a long time
Mhmm. And put together and, to look around when we're
in those pretty fancy joint. We're in this, like, crazy merry like that. And I
was looking through, like, the side door, and you could see a camera of everyone
coming in. And I looked around the stage and the crowd, and
probably about 90% of the people there were, like, friends and family or of of
mine. Yeah. That made me super nervous, like,
in a in a good way because a lot of these people, you know, they've
supported me along the journey. And more importantly, it's always I've always found it
really hard to articulate what I do until you've actually seen it.
So it was lovely to be able to have them all in there and experience
it. Yeah. Well, I think you feel more anxious because when you are doing
your thing on stage, we're running workshops, whatever it might be, it's to complete
strangers. But once you're doing it to your friends and family, you feel
as though you're more judged. You know what I mean? That they're finally seeing what
I've been doing for the last 8 years because they would have seen snippets of
it. Right? Yeah. But not the full hour show or the full the full fun
shop and the full experience. And, you know what I mean? When you're doing it
to your family and friends, like, holy crap. They're gonna judge finally judge and see
what I'm doing. I hope they like it. Yep. And let me tell you, the
feedback was unbelievable. The feedback, the feeling in the room, the
standing ovations, you know, and I loved it. I have a
few mates from footy that came along, and they came along and said, you know
what? We came along because there was good blokes running it, and we wanted to
support you guys, but we didn't know that we needed things to take from it.
Yeah. And that's when I was like, that's move 1. You know what I mean?
That's when the event you put together with Paul and those footy guys are
going, I didn't know I needed that session. It's like, the message I got
through was absolutely brilliant. Mhmm. Alright. Yeah. A little story of myself.
I went running the set next to my mom. My mom came along, shout out
Julie. And we're playing some of the gratitude games.
And, you know, she got a little bit emotional there at one stage when we're
sharing things with each other, and it allowed us to
connect on a bit of a deeper level. And we talk all the time, but,
yeah, the the fun shop you ran allowed us to feel safe, and we connect
on a really deep level. We shared some beautiful things with each other. And it
was one of those moments in time that I'm gonna cherish forever. Yep. So, mate,
epic. You know, it was unreal. It's one of those things that, I
get to see the impact it's having and the conversations that take place where I
never get to hear them. And at the start, when I was doing it, it
always sounded that really hard because, you know, some people would start crying or different
things and, like, they're good tears, but you don't know. Yeah. And it's I've
always thought I would love to be able to share that same experience with my
mom or dad or Brie or, you know, somebody like that in my life, because
I see the impact it has on others. That's true. And I know I'll never
get that opportunity because I'll know what's coming in. Obviously,
spoiler alert, we created it. So, but, yeah, for me, it was
lovely to be able to see something that's, you know, been built over 8 years.
It hasn't always been that. And I think some people in the crowd, like mom
and dad, I flew them to Tassie when I ever had my first ever keynote.
So Right. I've never even done a keynote before. I didn't even so keynote's where
you're, like, you're the sort of main speaker. People sit for an hour and they
listen to you. And it was alright. Like, people enjoyed it. But from
where I've come from now to how polished it is Yeah. It's like
completely Yeah. Did they did they make comment on that? Did they talk about how
the growth you've shown? No. They didn't. No. No. The The The The The The
The The The The The The The The The
The The The The The game. Throws me at every time. Oh, so no. I
know they're proud of me though and the the growth I've obviously had and things
like that. But personally, just myself, like, the whole I still remember. I
don't know if I've shared this story before, but the first conference I ever spoke
at was in Dubai. And I went over there and, it was a 2 day
conference, and I was one of the 8 master class speakers. So I had
8 master classes and had 4 keynote speakers. And I still I'd never even
been to a conference. So and I was speaking at 1, I didn't even know
what I was doing. Yeah. Hey. I remember seeing through his keynotes, that's pretty
cool. And like, they're the that's what people were talking about. And they were like
the main thing about it. And I always said to myself, I'm going to do
that one day. Like, that's what I'm going to do. And it was always a
goal. Yeah. And now And now you've achieved it. Right? Oh, now, like, for
example, last week we did 3 of them in a week. Yeah. You know, at
different conferences and different places. And, yes, for me We'll get to that one down
the track as well because there's one man I've got a corker story from you
guys, ladies and gentlemen. For me personally as an individual, I think that night at
Parkdale was such a lovely experience to be able to share what I do with
so many people, but also for me to be able to realize where I've
been able to come from, and I'm gonna create something that's a bit different than
anyone else, and it works. Yeah. Yeah. And
so, yeah, I I do sit back and remember when I was sitting there in
Dubai and I said I'm gonna do this, and I've been able to do it.
And I think I've been able to do it in my way, and I've been
told along along the way that you probably can't do it that way, or it
might not work, or that's not the traditional way of doing it. Yep. Yeah.
So to see the impact it has on people, it's yeah. I I was really
proud of that personally as an individual. And it was nice for me to say
that you're a human being. Like, you've been doing this for 8 years. Right? You've
spoken into incredible crowds and whatnot. But I think the fact that
people were parting with their their own hard earned. Yeah. Do you know what I
mean? They were giving up their own time. It wasn't a corporate gig that booked
us in. Everyone was getting paid to be there. They've given up their time, their
hard earned, and it was your friends and family. And I think that just was
like, holy crap. This is you. I'm I'm you were nervous. Of course. It was
nice of me to see you bloody nervous, I'll be honest. I was pacing. I
didn't know how pisses. I was like I know you were. You were pacing. I
know more than that would change when I'm looking at the TV screen. How long
did you reckon it took you to settle? I'd say once
those games that's what I like. I played games at the start. Yeah. Like,
because any big gig I am nervous. Not as nervous as I was there. Mhmm.
But I reckon once I have 2 or 3 of those I play 3. Yeah.
I reckon by 2. The 3rd when I do the this game called happy face,
mean face, and I get them to do that, that's when I'm on. Yeah. Like,
that's when I'm bit I still speak very fast, but,
I slow down a little bit, and I'm in more control, and I sort of
get in flow and really enjoy it. Yep. Yeah. No. I loved it. Loved it.
It was, it was a highlight of my time in the business so far, to
be honest. Yeah. Well, thank you and you did a great job as emcee as
well. Thank you. If, for those people who have emcee'd before, it's it's a very
hard gig because you can really only get it wrong, I feel. Yeah. And you
gotta try and link what's going on. Right? You gotta think on your feet and
try and link what's going on. It's hard. It's hard. And, yeah, I was a
bit nervous as well, to be honest with you, because I had some friends and
family in the crowd also. And, but, yeah, I just didn't wanna I guess I
didn't wanna stuff up your your major night. You asked me to do
the gig. It was like, but no. I think it all came together incredibly well,
and we honestly can't wait to share, you know, some of the footage we've got.
Yep. Once that videographer gets it gets stuck to us, we can't
wait. And we've been, I've had a few people ask when we're gonna do the
next one, and the honest response is
maybe not. No. We're gonna like, we might do one again, but obviously, there's a
lot of work involved in, yeah. Talk about stress that you probably
don't need in your life. And unfortunately, it doesn't matter how
I go about doing one of these. It's just byproduct of how I'm wired.
Yep. So, yeah. I'd love to say we'll do another one, but at the moment,
we don't really know. So We don't know. We're tossed up with the idea of
potentially doing one of school holidays so that families and kids can come along and
aim aim at that generation, but stay tuned, I guess. We'll see what happens there.
I wanna talk about, really it's a funny moment in our lives
together so far was our road trip. We, we went on a road trip
together out to Timboon and and Colac and Geelong and,
not one word of a lie. Got up at 4 in the morning, drove to
Timboon, 10 minutes before society is due to jump on stage and
talk in front of a 180, adolescents. He's grabbed himself a
spew bucket and he's like, Cambo, I'm not feeling too good here, mate.
And I was like, what? And he's killed over. And he's sitting there with the
spew bucket 5 minutes from the stage. I'm like, oh, my lord. This is not
gonna go down well. But to your credit, somehow pulled your
shit together and put on the game face and absolutely rocked the show,
mate. But, mate, that was a for me, it was an
awesome time for you. I think it was a tumultuous time. It was a horrendous
week. Obviously, having couple of young kids, one in daycare and one in
kinder. I knew I was in for it when one come home spewing on the
Friday, and that was just before the the public gig we had. And I'm
like, oh, please don't get sick for that. But, yeah, slept all weekend
cleaning sheets and as any parent would know. And then we got in the
car and luckily you drove and I slept there and then I spoke and
then I slept that night. And then I ring Colac and I didn't get out
of we had to book another motel room. So I slept in a I
slept from, I think, 10 o'clock that night to 5 PM the next
day. Had a shower. Anyway, we don't need to hear about the
stories but But what I like to relate this story to
is we had obviously Paul Watkins on our show on the Friday night and then
his main story is all about grit and determination. You know, he just
tricks through the Arctic Circle. And then he's siding 10 minutes before he's due
to go on with the spew back in your hand. I'm like, mate, find your
grit. Yeah. He's like Oh, dear. F off. Yeah. But he
definitely found his grit. And knowing that, that we that culminated in
a in a keynote that Saudi did with 330 people at
GHMBH Stadium. GMHBA Stadium. That's the one. Yeah. And, in
July. Yeah. And same deal again. It was out of sorts like none of my
own bereft of energy. I was worse and that's the worst I've ever
been. I could only keep my eyes open. Yeah. I thought at one stage I
was gonna have to pretend to be you and get up and get up and
pretend to be Dale Sighthbottom and do a keynote in front of 330 people. Oh,
the hardest thing was that it was obviously a big dinner and we're there beforehand,
myself. The hardest thing was that it was obviously a big dinner, and we're there
beforehand, and we're on the main table, and people wanna talk to
you. And I literally just didn't wanna be there. I didn't wanna talk, and I
wanted to save any bit of energy I had. But then you I was trying
to force myself to eat, and I hadn't eaten in over 24 hours. And
then you get up on stage, and I normally sweat like there's no
tomorrow. I didn't have an ounce to sweat anywhere. Dehydration. And that's I'm
like, oh, you're not in a good place either. No. Not at all.
Yeah. I knew you went I knew you went right when you left half your
eye, Philip. Oh, that was so hard to chew down.
That never happens. Right? No. It doesn't. So And then, and then
in in another eventful twist of tales in a in a week
that was not so much my week, but definitely your week.
Dale and another one of our guys who were cranes with a gentleman
named Brad is have written a children's book. The children's
book is called The Play Flashnaught. I'm supposed to be called The
Play Flashnaught. It's supposed to be called The Play Flashnaught. And we can't wait to
get it. My kids are looking forward to reading it, and it was supposed to
come out anytime now, but It was supposed to be out a month ago. Yeah.
And I remember when we signed with this, this
publishing company. The the contract and the guy was
just so shady. But we've been working on this for a long time, and,
I had another mate that published a couple of books with me because it's alright.
Like, they they get the job done. Yep. Anyway, so Brad and myself had this
meeting, and it just felt all wrong. And Brad goes, up to you, mate, but
that guy's not right, and there's something not right. Anyway, I said, no, we're
gonna go through with it. So I paid the $7 and, he just
kept delaying things. And he was so all over the shop, and the way he
spoke to us was just like, I've never been spoken to in my life like
this. Anyway, I kept pushing back our date, pushing back our dates. He's gone on
2 years. So one of the main reasons for those public events was
was going to be our launch secret sort of launch of our children's book, The
Playful Astronaut. Anyway, week before
yeah. Found out that company gone into liquidation.
The guy that we thought his name was Brad Shaw was he had about 3
other aliases, he'd been bankrupt 3 other times, and he was a
serial con man. So How crazy is that? You hear these stories, right,
about happening to people, but the elaborate nature of this Crazy.
Like a whole book deal and meeting with them and There was 5 or 600
hundred other people that he'd done the same thing to over this year and a
half period. Holy crap. Yeah. So, anyway, I wasn't phased
about the money. I was just more, like, I wanted to read like you. I
wanted to read the book to me boys. My kids are hanging for the book.
I'm hanging for the book. We put, like, 4 years of work into it. Yeah.
So anyway, we're like, it's not as if we're, like, stalling. We're trying to figure
out what the next movie is, but it's not as easy as that. The whole
reason we wanted to go with publisher is we didn't want to self publish.
Yeah. Right. We don't wanna be in charge of b to c, like, business to
customer and sending out books and things like that.
Yeah. So I was not gonna lie, I was pretty deflated by the whole experience,
and just pretty sad to be honest. Because not only is it something I
was really proud of and I've been able to create with Brad, my mentor, and
friend. It was gonna be sort of something we could celebrate together. We've put so
much work into it. It's just a really weird feeling. I must admit
nothing like this has ever happened to me before. And it's you know, it's crap.
It's when you go out and you you your life orientation is to treat people
well, build positive relationships. That's what your life it's the same with Brad's. And,
and then you come across a, you know, scumbag in the earth. He was. And
he's just He's a fake alias name in this whole That's the way he treated
people. Like, in I've heard more, obviously, I've spoken to people at the
company and, you know, I've read articles on him and just a
really nasty person. Yeah. And what he's done to
people. Like, I'm actually pretty fortunate that, you know,
that $7, like, it do you know what I mean? It it can be replaced.
Yeah. Like, we weren't relying on it. Whereas other people that have done books, like,
they'd saved up and, like, it meant a big deal that they'd have to
force to get that money. Can you imagine if that was their first one? Like,
for you guys, this is your second book they publish. Imagine if this is your
first one, and that's their experiment. It would be because it's a little indie publisher.
Like, it's not your big your big big times. Because for anyone that's ever
tried to publish a kid's book, it you can't even get a meeting. You'll find
that most books out there now are written by celebrities,
or comedians, or different things like that, or a well known author. You have
to go through sort of one of these indie sort of channels to get that
exposure. Even I've got not a bad name and Brad as well, but Yeah.
It doesn't matter. Like, they just want they want the name so that no
books will sell, which I completely get. Yeah. So, anyway, I I
understand the process now, and we're trying a few other things, but, yeah, it probably
wasn't, the nicest experience to go through. It really
it made me quite sad. Is that the that's the word I'd reflect on. And
that's fair enough. And you're thinking about going through those small indie publishers. I wonder
what makes a book absolutely blow up and go worldwide. Hey. Like, the person getting
their first chance at it Yeah. And then it blows up and goes worldwide.
It's phenomenal, isn't it? But Yes. But it's like it's probably like I don't know.
There'd be algorithms or something to it, like Yeah. I don't know if you look
at what makes TikTokers or YouTube or, I don't know,
what makes people go viral. Like, there's something unique about it.
Yeah. And word-of-mouth, and it goes in there. And once one word-of-mouth starts, it just
spreads like, wow, that doesn't work. Worst form of, marketing. Yeah. I like that best
and worst form. Well, it is. Yeah. It can obviously be detrimental,
if the word-of-mouth isn't very good or Yeah. You've given people not a good
experience, but vice versa, if you've done the opposite, and I
think it's fortunate our business is going quite well because we've been able to build
a good reputation over years, and then word-of-mouth does become your best friend. So
Yeah. I agree. Anyway, there's enough, like, like, crazy stories about me.
How have you been, mate? I've been well. Thanks, mate. Been doing a lot of
driving, honestly. I've been doing a lot of driving. My My my turn to do
a bit of driving for now. That's alright. I'm happy to take the wheel and
let you let you sleep and get through your I'm just, mate, I'm just bloody
proud of my immune system that I somehow spent so much time in a
capsule with you in a car I know. Breathing in whatever you've been
breathing out. And, I'm very grateful you didn't leave many farts going in the car,
so thanks doing that, mate. But I'm afraid I wasn't farting. No.
Oh, I was holding those in because they weren't farts. Yeah. Anyway No,
mate. I think I'm the complete opposite of you. You've been burning the candle at
both ends, dealing with gastro, public events, road trips, trying to
get our new you know, you've literally been keeping us above water with the new
website, the new curriculum, and that's coming together incredibly well and we're super excited to
share that with the world. And so you've been burning your candle at both ends.
And little on me over here is family's good, life's good, sunshine, no
gastro, kinda sitting here in bare feet, like
swimming. So, I definitely can't complain, mate. And, life has been
really good and the kids and everyone doing awesome. And I've been pondering
something, you know, me, I love to listen. I love to learn. I'm an infant
and a learner. And, and I've been pondering something like that that struck
a chord with me. It was on a podcast with Simon Sinek and it was
about, he just brought up a comment about, imagine if the in
the world, everyone treated their relationships like they do their cell
phones. The world would be a much better place. I know this is a random
topic to talk, but you must what's been on my mind lately? And and I
was like, holy shit, that is such a good thought provoker.
Then imagine if we treated our relationships like we do our
phones. You know what I mean? We we plug them we make sure we're plugging
them in every night before they go to bed so they're charged. The first thing
most people do, I'd say 99% of people do, is they roll over and they
check-in on their phone first and foremost. If the screen's
cracked, you're running, get it fixed straight away so it's of optimal health.
And, like, imagine if that transpired and you treated the people around you like that.
Like, imagine waking up in the morning, you checked in with your with your
relationships first and foremost before your phone. Yeah. And I don't know why Shaka
called me a massive Well, also, like, if there's a new I know I hate
having, like, symbols or unread things. So anytime I
need to download new apps, I do that. Or if there's a new software update,
I do that. Yep. I mean, like, you're keeping everything at premium
level. Like, that's what you do, don't you? You're definitely not doing that in all
areas of your life. No. And then it made me wonder about notifications. Like, I
deliberately turn off all notifications on my phone. Like, I tried and I
have my phone linked to my watch and those sorts of things just so I
can try and guess and switch off a little bit from that world around me
and and not be so connected to the phone so much. But I know there's
so many people out there that have got, you know, it dings every 2 seconds,
you know what I mean. You're in meetings and stuff. Your wristwatch, you know what
I mean? Your your dings quite often and you're connected to that. But,
yeah, I just thought it was a really powerful notion to to plant the seed
with everyone out there that yeah. Start having to think about, are you treating your
relationships with the same energy, enthusiasm, and care
as you buy your cell phone? Pretty deep, I know. No. It's
very deep, but I I reckon a lot of people would say they're not. Yeah.
I I don't think oh, no. I'm not. Yeah. That's not through it's
just you don't I think you're not aware of it or you need to think
about So great question. I think it's one people should really ponder. Yeah. I love
it. And we've got some exciting times coming up. We're doing another road trip. Gonna
spend some more time together in a little, a little accommodation in Wodonga. We got
another 5 day road trip coming up in the in the rural areas of Northern
Victoria, which we can't wait for. Yep. That news is really starting to spread
that that joy and positivity all around the state, which is awesome. And mate, the
sun is shining and life is good. It is. And, we wanna thank everyone in
there for listening to podcast episode 346.
Yep. Get amongst it, enjoy the sunshine, work on those
relationships, legends, and, wish Shadi the best of luck. And let's
hope he does not get gastro again I'm truly grateful. For this upcoming roadshow campaign.
I'm truly grateful. 3 times in a year. My final thing I would say, Ken
Bo, is, do something if there's something you've
wanted to do for a while, do it. So for example, I wanted to
do that public event for a while, and it scared me and made me anxious.
I was stressed out my brain about it, but I did it and I loved
it, and it was an amazing experience. Recently as well, we've
had an idea for another book. We have. We have. And, you know, I've been
thinking about it for a while. I'm like, no. You know what? I'm just gonna
write it, and I'll send it off to our publisher. So just if there's
something you're thinking about or something you're doing, just do it. Like, because then you
stop thinking about it because you've done it. Yeah. And and become a nowist.
Yes. Nowist. I mean, I'll go Marcus a lot, that one. Marcus.
Now they don't have to be as elaborate as that. Like, they don't have to
be writing a book or booking a big public event. But whatever it is,
little things, the more you do them, they can lead to bigger things if they're
the goals you want. Yeah. But it's, yeah, it's rewarding. Like, you feel good about
yourself doing that. You do. I actually got asked that in a workshop last week,
working with some student leaders, and he and the young kid probably at 15, he
said, can you give me some examples of some life goals? And I was like
That's a great question. Isn't it? From a 15, 16 year old boy who was
like, can you please give me some examples of some life goals? And then they
got me thinking like, hey, we should be teaching that stuff. I'm sure we are.
Yeah. But Everyone's different. So Everyone's different, man. You can't really teach
someone what his goals will be different to your goals to my goals. So,
like, begin I think the only thing you can really do there is explain
goals that you're having for different areas of your life. Yeah. And that sort of
went down. I said that's exactly what I said. I said, hey, don't that they
can't be my goals. It's gotta be what you find purposeful, what you connect with.
You know what I mean? So have a think about what would give you a
sense of fulfillment, what would give you a sense of drive and a sense of
enthusiasm and excitement to go and reach that goal, and then make
a small hurdle goal out of that, and then just reach for that one first.
Yeah. And then see where it grows from there. But if you're trying to find
I said to you, if you're trying to find a life goal, think about what
what lights you up, what gets you excited first and foremost, and then just
try and challenge yourself a little bit around that purpose or that that goal.
Yeah. But I thought that was a pretty interesting question. And that links you with
what you're saying, but you're spot on. Just take the step forward. Take one step
towards it. You know what I mean? And see where it leads you. You find
when you take that first step towards it. Little steps add up to big steps.
Yeah. One big step isn't as many as a lot of little steps. So little
steps equal big wins. Yep. And a lot of people think a lot of people
think, shit, I gotta get from here and people can't see my hands right now.
They gotta go from here all the way up to here. Well, not really. You
got a long time to get there. Just go think small scale. Just take one
step in the right direction. Yep. The direction you're heading in is more important than
the speed you get there. Oh, Roto turtle.
I love it. Alright. Enjoy your weekend, everyone. Have a wonderful time. And thank
you.