(upbeat music)
It's all techy stuff, I
tell you all about it.
Because I'm having a cow.
I'm gonna go eat the cow that I just had.
It's a metaphorical cow.
Oh, okay.
So you're metaphorically having the cow,
but you're actually going to eat the cow
the metaphorically had.
Thanks for joining us, guys.
Have a good one.
We told you we'd keep it short this time.
People are like, "Oh,
shoot, put the remote down."
It's been intense.
Emotional in dealing with, you know,
formula novella kind of
stuff all the time, like.
Man up, it's allergies.
Yeah.
I don't know, I guess
when she looked up my nose,
I looked stuffy.
Just come on and vent.
That's gotta be a separate
podcast, that would just be so.
Oh, cathartic.
It's like, really, I
just didn't need that.
Right.
I'll grab a short pour of bourbon.
There's mice in it.
I'll go sit in the backyard for a moment.
Just decom--
I try to be super
positive, but every now and again,
I just need a moment.
You're probably the most positive person
on a consistent basis that I've ever met.
Really cute.
You're welcome.
All right.
I mean, the only other
people I can think of
are Disney characters.
I'm a teenager, and I told you,
I got a really bad
haircut, and it was bad, people.
Not that hair in the 90s was good anyway.
It would end the world to me.
Yeah.
Just something about
laughter, you know what I mean?
One of two people who can call me that,
just for the record.
Different kind of humor, for sure,
but it's not for everybody.
Taking a deep breath, and
there it is, mystery solved.
Mystery solved, this is why--
And they said, I think it was
the second fastest all time.
Yeah, just a seve, get some
of the gang back together.
Yeah, and that's where
the positivity stops, folks.
No, but he's going for 100
hours, just to make sure.
I come from an ice cream family, I mean.
It's the classic, one
wins it for the rest.
Yes.
There's one time I
knew it, how about that?
I love it.
Yeah.
She fell out of the back of the bus.
You fell out of the back of the bus.
Just go with us, people.
What is going on in the bus?
With two fists, boom, boom, boom.
Diving on top of the
goalkeeper, like swinging,
we're like--
Clocks the goalie, and
someone starts throwing
a punch on the parents' side.
We're professionals during the day,
we don't see this happen.
No, I've actually never seen a fight.
Craziness.
Cops got called, hiding.
Yep.
Cowardly, selfish.
Yep.
And it makes me mad.
Yep, that's a trigger, well,
that's a trigger for both of us.
You know what, it feels
really, really freaking good
to get it out.
It does, it peeps me.
It peeps me.
Ooh.
Ah.
Yeah, yeah.
I'm just hangry is what it is for me.
Probably.
Well, let's end this on a positive note.
We are positive people.
Hibachi and screaming, I'll put--
Like I promise I'm not a predator.
Bum, bum, bum.
Shoes and April Fool's kind of a gal.
Yeah.
Girl, he's behind the front door.
Yes, no more soccer drama.
Biden in our $12 eggs.
Don't get me started.
I'm starting to, bird flu, okay?
Biden's starting bird flu.
All right, bye, Petal.
Bye, single.
What would you say?
Well, odd, but we'll cut it off here.
(Megan laughs)
Welcome to the Mr. and
Mrs. English podcast.
I'm Megan.
And I'm Sean.
We're here to talk about the wild ride
of raising kids and growing careers,
keeping life together in
the middle of all the chaos.
So buckle up,
because we're all in
this crazy journey together.
Bop, bop, bop.
Bop.
(Megan laughs)
I kinda got, we got a
slow bop on that one.
Yeah.
It's all right, it's late.
It's all techy stuff, I
tell you all about it.
It's way over my head.
It's way over your head, yeah.
Sound board, engineering, it's a science.
I mean, I've spent...
You've become an expert pretty quickly.
It is all over my head.
Like, I don't know what I'm gonna be doing.
I'm kidding, I'm
obviously joking around here.
Like I'm sitting way down
here in this deep seat here.
I know.
Well, welcome.
Welcome to another
edition of Mr. and Mrs.
Date night, yeah, that's right.
I know.
Add that on like our
tagline or something.
We could, we could.
We actually delayed
the filming of this one
for several reasons.
Several reasons.
Yeah, and now we're kind
of backed into a corner,
we gotta get it done.
And I would say emotions
are just as high as they were
this weekend when we...
Yeah, I agree.
Like we delayed the filming of this
because it was a very
emotional, really four days.
Busy four days too.
Like, so in addition
to just being emotional
and dealing with, you know,
Taylor Novella kind
of stuff all the time,
like, it's just like,
we're gonna wait until Monday
when things, and the dust has settled.
And no, it's still just as crazy.
Yeah, still blowing dust.
Yeah.
Still settling, can't see the path.
I know, kind of like that
big dust storm from West Texas
that blew, you know, 12
inches of dirt into our pool.
Yeah, not quite 12 inches, but we're
still clearing it out.
That was something last week.
And it's pollen season, so.
Yeah, it's pollen season.
It's the great yellowing,
as we refer to it here to some degree.
Yeah, and you know, our
oldest son looking like
he's either been crying constantly or...
Allergies are so bad.
I always tell everybody, like,
I never had allergies growing up.
And ever since, I mean, I
guess we moved to Chicago
and I developed
allergies there in my 30s.
And they're terrible,
like, when they hit you hard,
like, you can't tell if
you're dying, like, sick,
or if it's just like,
man up, it's allergies.
But, you know, then I
got a bunch of, like,
head colds, they turn
into sinus infections.
Not much anymore,
because I figured it out.
You know, as in life, you
kind of figure stuff out,
how to avoid good and
bad, or the bad, I guess.
But then when I would
go back to Colorado,
I'd have allergies there then too,
which I never had them growing up.
Remember when we moved
back there, I got them.
So I don't know if it's
this pollen or what it is,
but once it gets you,
it gets you, the bug.
It really does.
And I've heard that,
I've heard that in
Texas they're really bad.
Like, almost everyone in Texas
is on some type of allergy pill.
Did you have it?
I mean...
No, not really.
Growing up, no.
I didn't really start getting allergies
until I was pregnant.
And there is such a thing as
pregnancy induced allergies.
So it wasn't until then that I had them,
and ever since then I've had them.
Mine aren't usually horrible though.
Unlike our oldest who,
I truly asked him if he had been crying.
Yeah, no, he did look bad.
Are you okay?
He did look bad.
Allergy season, where
everybody's at, taking allergies.
I keep talking about,
I don't know if I should be
taking those allergy pills.
I take them year round
for like 10 years now.
My doctor actually told me that I should.
Oh, so that you can do that?
She wants me doing that because it,
in theory would help with my migraines.
Cause she's like, you're really stuffy.
And I was like, I don't feel stuffy.
But I don't know.
I guess when she looked up
my nose, I looked stuffy.
Wonder what your voice sounds like
without all your stuffiness then.
I don't know.
I wouldn't know the difference because...
Either would I.
You don't sound stuffy to me, but...
Although do you
remember when we first met
and we got off the cruise
and you and I had just started talking,
do you remember for
that first like two weeks,
I was sick as a dog and
I basically had no voice.
I was super, super stuffy.
Do you remember that?
Yeah, I do.
You got sick afterwards.
I do remember that.
So like for the first two
weeks of our entire relationship
as we're getting to know each other,
you didn't even know what
my normal voice sounds like.
Talked a lot on the phone.
A lot on the phone, yeah.
Yeah.
So anyway.
I always think about that.
It's like, I was really sick.
Well, we can at least
talk about the good things
that happened this week.
At least start there.
Because I'm sure we'll get into,
I keep talking about we
need to have a segment on here
that's, you know...
A complaining corner.
A complaining quarter
or, you know, I'm peeved.
I'm peeved.
That's a good one.
Something like that, just to complain.
But then it'll just be,
we're trying to shorten.
Yeah, well we've been
trying to shorten it.
The show.
If we had that, I mean,
it could get really long.
Yes, and do people
really just want to hear us
complain and moan for,
you know, 30 minutes?
That's gotta be a separate podcast.
That would just be so...
Oh, cathartic.
Oh, that would feel really good.
Not uplifting, but...
No.
Yeah.
That's what, we could just start one.
That's one that guests
would love to come on, right?
Like, hey, just come on and vent.
Just...
Get all the poison out.
All your grievances, yeah.
It's like those places you can go to
that you can just throw
plates against the wall.
You can break plates because you're mad.
Scream, yell, and break plates.
Just not sure that would
put that much positivity out.
Right, I don't know.
I think that just
might feed the negativity
that's already
everywhere right now, I feel like.
Yeah.
We were just talking
about that, weren't we?
I just feel like I'm on a downhill roll
of negativity right now.
Yes, and how
sometimes it's just like that.
And I don't know why.
It feels like it gets in
spur, it comes in spurts.
Yep.
Just like I think good things,
even when you're on a high, you're like,
"Oh, this is great, it
can last a little while."
And then, yeah, that valley comes.
It's just like...
It's like deaths, right?
I would say deaths come in threes or
something like that.
And it's like tough
times or stressful times
or these emotionally distressing times.
Yeah.
They come, sometimes
they come in multiples.
I feel like it's like palinons sometimes.
Yeah, yeah.
It's like, really, I
just didn't need that.
Right.
You're like, I was dealing with whatever,
the initial few things that hit you,
and you're like, I was
really trying to stay positive
and upbeat and really then
this last thing happened.
Like, I just didn't need it.
Yeah.
I think we try, we do
try to stay positive
as much as we possibly
can, especially publicly.
I don't know what that percentage is.
5% of the time, behind our closed doors,
we can air out and just be mad,
whatever we're mad at to some degree.
But man, sometimes it's
just like, you know what?
I don't wanna be in a good mood anymore.
I'm mad about how this is happening.
I'm mad about this or that.
Right.
And it's the things that you have no
control over, right?
And it's easier to get
mad at those kind of things.
Yeah.
And I'm like, I can't fix it.
I can't do anything about it.
So just give me a minute to like stew
and be super peeved.
Yeah.
Like, I don't know.
Sometimes you need that.
Yeah, I do that sometimes.
I'm like, just, I need time.
Give me a moment.
I'll get through it, but
I'm working through something
right now.
Yeah.
You know, I'm gonna go
sit in the back and--
Just gonna sit.
Watch a show, you can, I don't know.
I don't have that long to do it.
Yeah, you usually don't.
I wish I did.
I'm gonna go watch Netflix for 10 hours.
(laughing)
It's never been 10 hours.
You might get one show.
For me, it's usually, you know,
I'll grab a short pour of
bourbon, some ice in it.
I'll go sit in the backyard for a moment.
Just decompress a little bit.
Here's some birds.
Yeah, that really does help.
It does.
Look at the spring is here.
Like that, there's something about,
regardless of how tired I am,
like walking out first
thing to take the dog out
and you hear the birds,
it really does kind of
set that mood for the day.
But man, I know what you mean though.
Cause sometimes you're
like, just let me be pissed.
Yeah, that's right.
I know that sounds bad, but like,
I try to be super positive,
but every now and
again, I just need a moment.
You're probably the most positive person
on a consistent basis that I've ever met.
Really?
Well, thank you.
That actually, thank you.
You're welcome.
I mean, the only other
people I can think of
are Disney characters.
Probably so.
I mean, you just have
a really light outlook.
One of the things I say,
and I think you've
heard me say it to you,
you take it as a compliment,
but you laugh easily.
You're lighthearted.
Yeah.
You know, which as intelligent as you are
and as sometimes as hard as your job is
and the stuff that
you're dealing with there
and pushing through there,
you so easily can turn from that
and be lighthearted
and laugh at something.
And I think that's special.
Well, thank you.
That means a lot.
Yeah.
I think I've told you this story.
I saw my grandparents
live to be very old.
I know I've talked
about it on the podcast.
And I know that my
grandmothers in particular,
they laughed all the time.
And I remember being a sullen teenager
and I told you, I got
a really bad haircut.
And it was bad, people.
Not that hair in the 90s was good anyway,
but this was bad.
And I was, you know, 15, 16 years old.
So this was the end of the world to me.
Yeah.
And my grandmother laughed.
She's like, "Meggy,"
one of two people who can call me that
just for the record,
"Meggy, it's okay.
It'll grow out.
It's fine.
It's just a haircut.
That's fine."
And I remember being so mad at the time,
but looking back on
that moment and being like,
"Wow, she had perspective."
To be like, "Your hair is gonna grow out.
It doesn't look as bad
as you think it does."
And ever since then, I'm like,
"Be that person to
laugh at the right times."
You know?
Yeah.
Just try.
Because I know that my
grandparents were people
that everyone wanted to be around.
Yeah, they were great.
They made an impact in this world.
You know, and people's a
positive impact in this world.
We still talk about them.
Yeah.
You know?
I've been here for a couple of years.
They're special.
Yeah.
But I try, but there are
times, and you know this,
I can go down that hole pretty quickly.
You've also seen me unravel quickly, so.
It's just something about laughter.
You know what I mean?
I mean, you talk about family.
I know, you know, we
spent more time in my family
around probably my
mother's side of the family
because we lived in the same
city as most of them growing up.
And, man, going to their
house and playing games,
to late at night, that
place was filled with laughter
all the time.
My uncles, my grandfather,
you know, I mean, the aunts,
I mean, my uncles in
particular, I mean, they just laughed.
You know, and I can hear
my aunts now too, you know,
now that I say that, but I mean, it was
filled with laughter.
That's just something special to that.
And these times that we live in,
and even just specific
to this weekend, you know,
taking a deep breath, and you know,
I don't know, I don't
know how to find levity
in these tough situations,
but being able to at some point
find a lighter, a lightness in life.
Yep, yep.
Because you can't laugh through
what we're going through right now.
No, no, I mean, you can
find little pockets of like,
okay, whatever just
happened was really funny.
I can't remember now, whatever.
I missed it too, on that text.
There's a text chain
going on and I was like,
oh, should I say this?
I had texted it out.
I'm like, it's probably
too early for this joke.
Because then someone else took the joke.
And everybody's like, that was hilarious.
And I was like, mm.
Blast.
Yeah.
You should've taken the joke.
No.
Because you're so funny.
You're so good at
lightening that situation
with the right sense of humor
and bringing a little levity that way.
Yeah, I don't know.
I don't know.
You can't do that well.
Different kind of humor for sure,
but it's not for everybody.
I think it's hilarious.
I think it's primarily for you.
And we just said you laugh so easily.
So there it is, mystery solved.
Mystery solved.
This is why we are a
good couple together, right?
Because we complete each other's.
Oh, sentences?
Here we go.
Yeah, we'll go with it.
I don't know when that one.
Thanks for joining us guys.
Have a good one.
We told you we'd keep it short this time.
(laughing)
13 minutes.
Okay, we'll keep going
for a little bit longer.
A little longer.
People are like, oh
shoot, put the remote down.
Get a hold.
So we are trying to keep it shorter.
Every time we do it, we
almost go longer though.
I know.
Well, and we--
We're targeting 30 minutes.
13 minutes into it.
And we haven't even talked
about what we're so pissed off
about.
I know.
We're just like dangling it out there.
It's funny.
We can't get in too many details on it.
It's part of the problem right now.
No, I know.
And it's just, it's one of those things.
What we did when we
were prepping, you know,
we always write out just a
couple topics for us to cover.
Clearly we kind of meander
through these conversations,
as you all could tell
if you've been listening.
And you're like, so
what should we talk about?
Obviously, you know,
some of the bigger things.
I was like, but we're
gonna need structure tonight
because we will just go off on a tangent.
Yeah, we could have a lot
to say about what's happened.
And we'll get into it a
little bit here, but again,
let's talk about the good things.
We'll backtrack to last Wednesday.
It was city track meet
finals, actually district.
So it was bigger than just the city.
Yup, yup.
So our daughter, she competed hard.
Yeah, so everybody's,
hopefully you've seen
the Instagrams of her.
She's blessed athletically
and she was in the finals
of the 100 meter dash, the
finals of the four by one
and the finals of the four by two.
And it was interesting because we were
nervous for it, right?
It's her first time doing it.
They only had two track meets before this
because a couple were canceled.
So they never really
even got into true form.
Her club hasn't had a track meet yet.
Hopefully that's coming up soon here.
But she, it was interesting.
She met her first kind
of trial and tribulations,
immediately.
So in the four by one, I mean,
I don't wanna talk too much here,
but there's another team, another school
that they've been back
and forth on fastest times
for the year.
Long story short, four by one,
our daughter runs the
second leg on that one.
Unfortunately the poor
girl who runs very fast
in the initial leg, the first person off,
she dropped the baton
like halfway down the track.
It hit her leg or something like that.
So she had to go back.
I'm filming and I'm like
expecting them to come out
because it was kind of
behind a building of some sort
or a sign.
She came out at fast start too.
And I was like, where's our daughter at?
Where are they at?
Where's our team at?
Yeah, yeah.
And they weren't there.
They came out basically last and then.
They ended up getting
second to last, I think.
Second to last
because I think someone else
dropped the baton, but
I mean, I just felt so.
Just kidding.
How did they do that?
Anyway, so she comes out of that.
Sad, mad, everybody's frustrated
because they were supposed to win.
So anyways, they're upset on that.
I think she's super nervous
because it's really her
first time in any finals
and stuff like that.
Her stomach's hurting.
Yeah, I think she was a little nervous
which caused some stomach issues.
Yeah, and she's mad about the other one.
So she's going down to do
her one individual event,
the 100, which is everybody
who's watched the Olympics.
I mean, that's kind
of one of the big ones
because it's the fast people
and everybody enjoys watching that one.
So she's in there right next to the girl
who she's never ran head to head.
Their times have been
neck and neck all year.
In fact, somebody goes
to school with that girl,
with that other girl,
but the other girl was
nervous to race our daughter
because the times were so close.
So I'm sure neither one of these girls
had really lost all year.
Correct, because they
never raced against each other.
But Ayla did get second to her
in the very first track meet
because they only did heats.
They didn't have a final.
They never raced against
each other in the same heat.
Right, so there was no final.
They just took the top times
and that was who won that one.
And that girl beat our daughter
by a few hundredths of a second.
But that girl has seen since then,
our daughters bested those times.
Yup, yup.
And so she was nervous
to race our daughter.
Our daughter was nervous to race her.
Yup, yup.
Needless to say.
Yeah, needless to say, go ahead.
Our daughter, she did stumble,
quickly out of the starting blocks.
She made up a ton, she made
up and came in neck and neck.
She did take second, which,
but she got her personal
best, which was awesome.
She set her up on PR.
And that's so much about, I
think track in general is,
measure your individual performance.
Metals and ribbons are awesome.
We do, everybody likes those.
But she had a personal record
and I truly think that
had she not stumbled,
she would have won.
Yeah, well maybe, yeah,
I was so happy for her.
And she stumbled, I
put it up on Instagram
and you can kind of see
it, you can't see it as well,
but you can kind of see her dip.
But she's like, I stumbled twice.
Not trying to throw excuses at her.
The other girl won.
She did.
Our daughter had a
great chance to come back,
but she really showed a
lot of heart coming back
because she came back
from like sixth place.
Yeah, yeah.
To finish in second,
against the girl with the
third fastest time of the year.
Exactly.
She tracked her down.
She tracked her down in
100 meters, it's not--
No, 20 more feet, our daughter I think
would have tracked down
the girl in first place too.
Anyways, and then they came back
and smashed in the four by two.
Four by two.
Same team, same four girls
that were in the four by one
and the other team.
Yeah.
Same four girls on our team
and they beat them by like 20 seconds.
Yeah, it was good to end on a high note.
And they said, I think it
was the second fastest all time
in that they'd missed the record
or it was the second
fastest time of all time, I think.
At the district. At the district, yeah.
With the district's--
District level for them, so.
So cool.
Yeah, so really cool.
Yeah, and they showed, I mean,
it just showed a lot of
heart and it's not easy.
And I think one of the
things that's challenging
is our daughter's
events are all pretty much
back to back to back to back.
And, you know, she got up.
I think she was bummed that, you know,
that second place I
think really stung her,
but I'm excited to see
these two girls race each other
over the next, I mean, they're gonna race
against each other
for the next six years.
Yep.
And it'll be fun to watch them.
Yeah.
They'll push each other.
Yeah.
So.
I think it's fun,
because since our daughter
doesn't play soccer this year,
this is the only time we get
to see her compete kind of.
Yeah.
Thus far in a whole year.
So it's been intense to
watch her do this, you know,
and track being mostly
individual on some of those events.
There's just more at
stake than the boys, you know,
playing team sports and individually
trying to, you know,
play well within their team structure.
Yeah.
So.
Although we did, she
will be playing soccer here
for the school, cause
we found out tonight.
Yeah.
She made the soccer
team, which was great.
Yeah, it's only one
team for the whole school.
Eighth graders and
seventh graders, she's a Seve.
Yeah, yeah.
As they're so kindly referred to.
She's a Seve, yeah.
So good for her, very proud.
Yeah.
As we are, I know we probably
talk too much about our kids
and don't want to come
across too braggy on this,
but everybody's proud of their kids.
Yeah, and it's cool.
I'm excited because
she'll be with a lot of,
or not a whole lot, but a
few of her actual teammates
that used to be on her
team when she played,
or when she was playing club soccer.
So it'll be fun to get some
of the gang back together.
Yeah.
Some of her besties, which is awesome.
Yeah, yeah.
It'll be fun, but.
And that's where the
positivity stops, folks.
(laughs) I know.
I'll mention I'm on a fast one more time.
Yes.
So not that anybody really
cares, but go ahead, and.
Well, and I feel a little bit guilty here
because here I made dinner tonight
and we're all eating
directly in front of him.
The last time you were on a fast,
you weren't even home that night.
Yeah.
So you didn't have the
temptation of the smell of food,
people truly eating in front of you.
Yeah, there's some
self-discipline in this,
and it's hard because I love eating,
but one thing is, so
I decided to do this,
but then I told you on the last show,
I think my cousin does this too.
Yeah.
So he actually started
Sunday night as well.
Okay.
I started Sunday night maybe
a little bit later than him,
but he's going for 100 hours.
He hasn't made it yet, but
he's trying, which is crazy.
That's incredible.
But he's like, "I can
do 48 without blinking."
He's like, "48's easy."
And I'm like, "48?"
Well, I don't know,
I've only done it once.
Right.
So anyways, we already talked about
fasting on this show
once before, so, but I think
I might do it every Monday.
If you could fast, I was told you,
I did the quick math on it, you know?
It's like 50,000 less calories a year.
52 days a year you don't eat
when I overeat the other 300
and, you know, 12, you know?
Whatever it is.
The, you know, that would help probably.
Yeah.
I mean, the ice cream
bowl I had last night
was just stupid.
That's partially why I did it.
I'm like, "Why did I
take that much ice cream?"
I didn't even realize
that you had a whole lot.
I guess I was watching our youngest
overfill the cup that he
was making a shake out of.
I had the rest of our daughters,
somebody's ice cream birthday cake.
Oh yeah, yeah, mm-hmm.
And then I threw like three more scoops
of cookies and cream
ice cream on top of it.
Okay, well.
Just to make sure.
I mean, I come from an
ice cream family, I mean.
You do.
And you're not, you love cake.
I'll do, yeah, I like ice
cream every now and again,
but it's not my go-to dessert.
Yeah. Yeah.
You love ice cream, chocolate,
see, I do know that, you know,
when you are on your deathbed,
just give you chocolate milkshakes.
Chocolate milkshakes and
Celine Dion and you and the kids.
That's all I need.
That's all you need.
It actually sounds pretty darn good.
Yeah, I'm not looking
forward to it, I don't wanna say.
No, no, no, don't wish
time away, but in that moment.
But 50 years from, or
55 years from now or so,
that'll be about right.
Yeah, 55.
I don't know.
We've got long jeans, I
don't know if I've got
that long of jeans,
but we'll give it a go.
Yeah.
Well, especially if, you know,
the stress of the last
five days or whatever.
I'll let you get into it,
because I don't know how to get into it
without being so many emotional.
It's not the end of the world,
but it's super frustrating,
and just other people being selfish
in making decisions for our family
that are our family's decisions to make.
Yeah.
Horcing the hand.
Yeah, and then it, and
part of it is, you know,
with this type of drama,
I try, you and I both try,
are really trying to have perspective,
because there are people in this world,
and even problems in our own lives,
that are actually much bigger
than some of the soccer drama
that's happened.
That's a good point.
You know, and we try to
keep it in perspective.
But what's frustrating
is we spend so much time,
and you know, our life
revolves around the sports
that our kids play a lot,
and really, kids, period.
And when something disrupts that,
that, you know,
wasn't within our control,
that I think is--
Or expected or planned for.
Or expected or planned for, you know,
and then it negatively affects your kid,
and you're just, you
kind of, in our case,
it's like, we're
counting on an 11 year old
to be more adult than a whole
bunch of adults in the room.
Yeah.
And for the record, he's
doing an awesome job doing that.
He is doing a really good job doing that.
But, no 11 year old should
have to be in that position,
where they're like, oh,
I'm the one who's gonna,
this happened to me.
And I didn't have a say,
and now I just have to be okay with it.
And--
And it's gonna present you with a choice
that you never wanted to
make in the first place.
Yeah, yeah.
So, it's a little
frustrating, to say the least.
And so, it's really
consumed so much of our time,
which irritates me, because I don't,
I love to vent to you, but
I like the venting to you,
where I can just say it and get it out,
and then we go about,
and we can talk about
all the great things in
life, and talk about fun stuff.
And I feel like for five days,
all we've done is just
unpack the soccer drama.
Yeah, yeah.
You know?
Yeah.
And I don't know how else to say that,
but it's been a lot.
It has, I mean,
constant texts and emails,
during the day, during the work day,
and this and that, and yeah.
I know it's tough for
us to talk about it,
because we can't say too much,
because it's still happening.
Things are still fluid right now,
even when this comes out.
And I know there's people
on our team that watch this.
And we have to be careful of what we say,
and what we do, and
what knowledge we have,
and don't have, and things that we think.
Right, well, and because the last thing
that we would ever want to do,
is impact someone else's child,
or someone else's family by our words,
which is exactly what happened to us.
Which is exactly, exactly.
That's what we're
trying to avoid right now.
Right.
Is exactly what somebody else did to us,
and put all of us.
20 some other kids and
families in a position.
Because one person,
decided to take it upon
themselves to be selfish.
Drives me insane.
It's the classic, one
ruins it for the rest.
Yes, one bad apple ruins the whole bunch.
Is that how the saying goes?
Bushel.
Bushel, oh, see.
There's one time I knew it.
How about that?
I love it.
Yeah, that's good.
It's gotta feel good for you, right?
I see you didn't know.
I finished your sentence in that case.
Yeah, yeah, twice.
Metaphor even.
You could've gone with
all kinds of things there.
I could have, but sentence actually
was the most appropriate.
I cannot believe we're
already at 30 minutes here.
That's insane.
So what do you wanna do?
I don't know.
Do we wanna talk just really
quickly about the insanity?
So what ensued after the track meet?
For 20 more minutes?
Oh yeah, so we leave, gosh, yeah.
All right, buckle up, I
forgot about that part.
Yeah, yeah, so.
This is what started off the soccer.
What started off, so
after the track meet,
oh, by the way, the track
meet starts with our daughter
jumping off the bus
and landing on her knees,
so that was the other thing
that she was dealing with.
She has like a bruised and scraped knee
because she fell
climbing off the bus, which.
She fell out of the back of the bus.
Yes, she's 13.
Yes, we've been touting
her as super athletic,
but yes, she also fell
out of the back of the bus.
Just go with us people.
Anyway, so then, you know, she's mad.
We then have to drive to the
other side of the Metroplex
to get to a soccer game, and not joking,
a fight breaks out at that game.
Well, I mean, back up just slightly.
This is a contentious, I
mean, how do you say this?
I mean, like, these top
five teams in the Metroplex,
we've talked about it before, right?
There's just a lot of
ego, a lot of pride,
a lot of talent, a lot of
all that mixed into this,
just this constant emotional, you know,
head-to-head meetings,
because we play them
constantly in these leagues,
because certain leagues and
certain, it's leagues, yeah,
these top teams play,
and so we'll play them
two or three times, and
we play each one of them,
you know, next night, and
then the next one the next night.
And, you know, we know we're familiar
with some of the players and the coaches
and the other teams' parents.
I mean, like-- Oh, yeah,
it's a very small community.
Small community, so
you know the bad apples
and all that kind of
stuff. You know the bad apples,
yeah, you don't actually
know all the good ones.
Anyways, this was
another one of those teams,
and we got down early,
and the refs, by the way,
are terrible, and I hate, do I hate,
but refs and parents
ruin everything, they do.
They do? We just wanna watch kids play.
I just wanna watch the kids play.
And refs, anyways.
And the parents ruin it.
So we're down, it's
contentious, people are yelling.
Well, our youngest is going after a ball,
and he beats the keeper
and two other players to it,
grabs it, goes down,
scores, empty net, basically,
because he was able to,
so he got the tying goal,
and everybody's like, yeah, he's running,
grabbing it out of the goal,
as you do in these situations,
we wanna get back and score again.
We should be beating this team.
Well, as we look back
to what else is going on,
whistles start blowing.
Like, and we've missed, at this point,
we've missed what all started.
The first thing I see is one of our kids
like diving on top of the
goalkeeper and like swinging,
we're like, what is going on?
Yeah, fully pounding
the keeper with two fists,
boom, boom, boom.
So, I mean, the long
and the short of it was,
after our youngest took
the ball from that keeper,
he fell on the ground, it
was kind of like a collision
between our son, the
keeper, and two other defenders,
but our son came out with the ball,
and the other ones kind of fell.
So one of our players goes up to the
goalie, who knows him?
He spent the night at this guy's house.
They're apparently friends.
To make sure he's
okay, kind of picks him up,
it's like, are you all right?
As he starts to turn away,
the goalie grabs him in
a headlock from behind
as he's walking away,
slams him into the ground,
and proceeds to start
slamming his head into the ground.
Our team's player.
Yes, yes, the goalie
is doing this to our--
The other team's goalie is
doing this to our team's player.
So we got another player from our team,
running across the field,
who now we all have
seen the video of this,
because the video's
been made its way out.
I actually have not
seen this video, but--
Some of us have seen it then.
His other player on our
team comes, clocks the goalie,
to stop him beating our
other, giving him a concussion,
banging his head into the ground.
And we're playing on turf,
so it's not like soft ground.
Yeah, no, this is like
cement with turf over the top.
Right, and then that's
when the other player
came over and jumped on the goalie
and started defending our kids.
Defending both of our players were
defending our player,
who was completely getting accosted.
Right, right.
So then, you know, the
refs don't handle it well,
they don't break it up well,
they're trying to give out
red cards to the wrong people.
And because they're
doing the wrong people
and talking to the wrong kids,
the parents are now yelling at it,
like, "It was that kid, it was that kid,"
at the refs.
Yeah.
And then this is when, I mean,
luckily this doesn't happen that often.
This is the first I've seen this.
Yeah, but the parents sometimes
are just so out of control.
And I don't wanna always say it's the
other team's parents,
because we have parents
that can get rambunctious too,
but never to this level.
So the parents got together
at midfield on the sideline
and yelling at each
other and this and that,
and then someone starts throwing a punch
on the parents' side.
And like, you know, we all are
professionals during the day,
we don't see this happen.
This isn't real life, generally speaking.
I've actually never seen a fight.
It's like YouTube type stuff, right?
Yeah, yeah.
It was craziness.
Cops got called, cops showed
up, they canceled the game.
I mean, it was just
insane, it was insanity.
And then the next day is
when all this other stuff
that was unrelated to that happened.
So I mean, literally,
since our daughter fell out
of the back of the bus,
our emotions have been high.
Yes, yes.
And so we've been in this valley of like,
oh my gosh, the stress.
Because I think we said
it, our pastor says this,
like there's no pain like kid pain.
He said it last week, totally true.
It's so true.
And like when something is
negatively impacting our kid,
just feel it in such a way
that you never thought you could.
And then the adults on the side,
like after the fight, different issue,
the adults that are
supposedly handling this are like,
oh, this isn't the
best interest of the kids.
And it's not, it just simply isn't.
And we've had parent
meetings and all this kind of stuff.
And I point blank asked,
can you walk me through
how this is better for the kids?
Because nothing you're
saying indicates that.
And that's what your
whole argument is based on,
this is what's best for the kids.
But you're not telling us
any things about the kids.
It's all about your ego.
And this one other parent,
maybe there's two or three,
I don't know, but we all
know it's one other parent
who decided to be
selfless, misrepresent something
and caused an avalanche of issues.
And decisions now.
And just blew this team up.
That's the second best team in Texas.
Probably in any given
day, the best team in Texas.
Yep, yep.
And then we got wiped out
this weekend in our games
because the kids are emotional wrecks.
They don't have their
regular coach anymore.
And like I said, when I walked off,
same thing that he
said when he walked off,
like this is what we
think is better for our kids.
Yeah, it's been tough.
It's adults not being adults.
And that frustrates me beyond belief
because I'm a rule follower at heart.
You absolutely are.
And I am too.
You are for sure.
I think we've established that, right?
But you absolutely are.
And when people don't play by the rules,
that's a trigger for both of us.
People don't play by
the rules and then it--
And they're cowards by not
coming out and saying like,
hey, it was me, this is the way I feel.
I did this.
They're cowardly
hiding behind this decision
that they made for all of us.
Yeah.
Hiding.
Yep.
Cowardly.
Mm-hmm.
Selfish.
Yep.
And it makes me mad.
Yep.
It does.
And I know I'll have to cut
probably some of this, but--
Probably, but you know what?
It feels really, really
freaking good to get it out.
It does.
It peeves me.
(laughing) I don't even know
where's that word come from?
Peeve?
I think peoed.
You said it earlier, peoed.
Yeah.
He is peeved is short for peed.
I know.
Anyways.
Yeah.
That's kind of where
we're at a little bit on that,
but hopefully next week we'll have some,
maybe more closure to it,
but things have been changing.
I mean, even just tonight,
like, you know, we got
accepted into this large tournament.
That's by invitation only.
It's very well respected.
Yep.
And the roster for that changed tonight.
Again, affecting other children.
Mm-hmm.
That had their, these kids are 11.
They're 11.
And--
And their hearts are set.
When they get into a
big tournament like this,
I mean, they've worked so hard for this.
This is a hallmark
moment in these kids' lives.
They'll remember--
And some kids aren't,
they got yanked out of it.
They're not gonna be in
the tournament anymore.
Yeah.
And that's sad,
because it's not their fault.
And it's this other parent.
Yep.
Whoever they may be.
Yep.
It's really--
Let's done this.
It's sad.
Like, you said it.
They're 11.
11 years old.
Like, they're just kids.
And it's parents' egos.
That's what frustrates me, is that
when I say play by the rules,
I play by the rules, I play by the rules
such that most decisions I make
are for the betterment of society.
Yes.
Right?
Mm-hmm.
That's when you've
reached a level of maturity
that you know you can't do selfish things
that affect other people,
because it's not right to do.
It's not the right thing to do.
Yep.
If you had that
problem, the right thing to do
is just quit the team.
Yep.
Not do what this person did.
Yep.
You know, it just,
it's a level of
immaturity and selfishness.
That I simply can't understand.
That unfortunately is, I think,
prevalent in our society.
And when it hits close like this,
and again, to your point,
this is not the end of the world.
There's much bigger
problems in this world.
Yeah.
At heart, this type of action
is the seed for a lot of
the issues in our world.
Yeah, yeah.
And quite frankly, it's our kids' world.
That we're handing off to them, yeah.
And these 11-year-olds are
crying for five days straight
because of an adult
who can't be an adult.
Yep.
And then hides behind anonymity.
Yep.
Anyways.
Ooh.
Ah.
Bed session.
Yeah, yeah.
I'm just hangry is what it is for me.
You probably are.
I would be if I were you.
I don't know how.
I don't really stress eat, but I mean,
it does make me
irritated when I don't eat, so.
I did say today, it's a
good thing I'm fasting
because I would be
emotionally eating right now.
Yeah.
I'm starving.
I'm not starving.
I'm actually not starving yet.
If I can just get to bed
tonight, I'll be all right.
Yeah, you'll be good.
Yeah.
Well, let's end this on a positive note.
We are positive people.
And it is getting close
to bedtime, so I mean, hey.
It is, yeah.
We gotta squeeze this one in.
Because we got soccer
practices, track practices,
there's no time.
Yeah, the rest of the
week will be a little busy,
but I mean, we don't really have.
I mean, this week is a very
normal week, I think, coming up.
Yeah.
Maybe we can unpack the
13-year-old birthday party
that we had at our house.
That was fun.
Oh, next week, yeah.
Yeah.
We'll do that next week.
We will.
Yeah.
Too long now.
Yeah.
Especially since, you know, I don't know
that we have a whole lot going on.
Hibachi and screaming.
I'll put an Instagram post up for it,
but I haven't done it yet.
Because we took way too
many pictures, honestly.
I'm a little overwhelmed
with having to edit it.
(laughing) Like, I enjoy doing those things,
but I don't want to
take three hours doing it.
That's my fault.
No, you did a great job because--
I never take pictures.
You never take pictures.
And I asked you to do it that night
because I just, girls and
girls and all that kind of stuff.
It was just--
I agree.
It felt more natural.
Like, I'm in there like--
I totally agree.
Like, hey girls.
Let's take pictures, girls.
Smile.
You're like, I
promise I'm not a predator.
Like, it just--
Well, I wasn't thinking that.
Well, but--
I mean, that is true,
but I mean, that's--
It's true.
Maybe that's the way, yeah.
But you're right.
It's more natural for a
mom to take those pictures
of 13-year-old girls.
I think so.
It's just way more natural.
I think so.
In the back, everybody's
doing fun posing pictures
and stuff like that.
Yes.
Yeah.
It was fun.
Yeah.
Anyway.
I'm not that kind of a
girl, dad, I guess, but.
All right, well, we are gonna let you go
eight minutes earlier
this time, which is good.
We're making positive trends
here on a little bit shorter.
More bite size.
See, we are moving things
in a positive direction.
Is that the positivity we're
leaving the world with today?
I don't know, there's gotta
be a lot of positivity, right?
There is, there is.
There's so many good things.
I mean, tomorrow starts April?
April Fool's Day, though.
So maybe there's not
anything positive after all.
We should've unpacked April Fool's jokes.
I've never really done a good one.
We'll talk about that next week.
Maybe there'll be a good
one played on you tomorrow.
Bum, bum, bum.
(laughing)
I was just letting it sit there.
You know who will be good at that?
It's our daughter.
Yeah, oh, she will be.
She's an April Fool's kind of a gal.
Yeah, yeah.
And she'll just make her brothers mad.
Girl, he's behind the front door.
(laughing)
Oh, that's funny.
All right.
What's our new ending?
We haven't thought of a new ending
because we were tasked
with that and we didn't do it.
I don't know.
I do like our regular one.
No.
We've gotten really good
at finishing each other's.
Sand gases.
What more can you say?
A lot, but we'll cut it off here.
(laughing)
For everybody's wellbeing.
Yes, no more soccer drama.
Yeah.
All right, I'm gonna go eat a cow.
Thank you guys.
See ya.
(laughing)
You're gonna eat a cow?
I don't know.
I thought of something better.
What's something else I
could eat that would be better?
You're gonna eat a cow?
Well, I'm starving.
That was with the fasting.
I'm starving.
I'm gonna go eat a cow.
(laughing)
Because I'm having a cow.
I'm gonna go eat the cow that I just had.
Well, now you're just a cannibal.
Not really, it's a cow.
It's a metaphorical cow.
Oh, okay.
But I'm going to--
Is this like metaphorical
food that you're gonna eat?
(laughing)
No, no, no.
I'm not gonna metaphorically eat it.
I'm going to actually eat it.
Oh, so you're
metaphorically having the cow,
but you're actually going to eat the cow
that you metaphorically had.
Yeah, but there's a
better word for actually.
What's the word?
Truly?
Physically.
Physically?
No, I don't know.
Oh, we could--
Well, we got a lot of
cow in the refrigerator.
So I'm saying we got some steak in there.
We got some ground beef in there.
Dude.
Yeah, that's kind of
just what I'm talking about.
Better boil it down to it.
That's something we can
talk about, grocery prices.
It's crazy.
Crazy?
Yeah.
Biden and our $12 eggs.
Don't get me started.
Don't get me started?
Bird flu, man.
Biden started bird flu.
That's why it starts
with a B, you know that.
Yeah, it's his, yeah.
(laughing)
All right, we gotta go.
I like bluebonic plague.
Well, you should just
say kind of like bluebonic
and then I would've said.
Like bluebonic?
Plague, and then we
could've ended it like that.
(laughing)
It would've been like a
real finish of the sentence.
That's what would make
it better, like naturally.
Yeah, it could.
But that would be tough
to come up with every week.
All right, bipedal.
Bipenal.