WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:08.400 Welcome back to Excuse My Grandma. Today, I'm at Grandma Gail's apartment because it's her 80 birthday and we're going to ask her 84 questions. 00:00:29.110 --> 00:00:31.910 Hi, Grandma. Hi, good morning, sweetheart. I'm going 00:00:31.910 --> 00:00:34.310 to ask you some questions today, if that's okay. 00:00:34.310 --> 00:00:37.670 I know. I've got my mic on. Okay, let's start 00:00:37.670 --> 00:00:40.815 with an easy one. Coffee or tea? Coffee. You know, 00:00:40.815 --> 00:00:42.175 I love coffee in the morning. 00:00:42.175 --> 00:00:45.215 Yeah. You're instant coffee. Are you a morning person 00:00:45.215 --> 00:00:56.280 or a night owl? I am a morning person. I don't, I stay up a little bit late, but I liked morning the best. What's your favorite color? My favorite color, I think, is pink. 00:00:56.520 --> 00:01:02.680 Like your sweater. Like your sweater, season? Actually. Spring. Spring. 00:01:02.680 --> 00:01:12.715 Look at my spring candies. I have all pink and reds in here. Cute. Or came and I didn't even know. Speaking of, sweet or savory? 00:01:12.715 --> 00:01:21.160 Sweet. Heels or flats? Flats because I can't really walk in heels anymore. Beach or mountains? The beach. 00:01:21.160 --> 00:01:28.200 I love the beach. I don't sit in the sun, but I love the air and I love the smell of the beach. What's your favorite flower? Orchids. 00:01:28.520 --> 00:01:32.840 Of course. Favorite dessert? Favorite dessert? 00:01:33.000 --> 00:01:39.805 I guess vanilla ice cream with hot fudge sauce. Anywhere. Yum. It's always the best. Favorite day of the week? 00:01:39.805 --> 00:01:53.580 The favorite day of the week, I think would be Saturday. What's your favorite holiday? My favorite holiday, I think would be Hanukkah because I love latkes. Not your birthday? No, not my birthday. 00:01:53.580 --> 00:01:54.620 That's not a holiday. 00:01:54.620 --> 00:01:59.500 I didn't make that a national day yet. Fine. Favorite song of all time? 00:02:00.060 --> 00:02:04.220 New York, New York. What's your favorite movie? Gone with the Wind. 00:02:05.285 --> 00:02:08.245 Favorite meal to cook? I know you're not a cook, but No. 00:02:08.245 --> 00:02:16.325 My favorite meal would be pasta with tomato sauce, and I eat that everywhere. 00:02:16.565 --> 00:02:17.845 What's your favorite thing to wear? 00:02:18.530 --> 00:02:30.850 I guess pants and a sweater. I'm not a big dress person anymore. One word to describe yourself? Confident in my own skin. That's not one word. 00:02:30.850 --> 00:02:39.945 I guess confident. See, I'm trying to move these books so that they'll be perfectly straight. I think I'm becoming very, very what do they call that? Anal? Anal. 00:02:39.945 --> 00:02:40.825 Yeah. Correct. 00:02:40.825 --> 00:02:41.385 I told you 00:02:41.385 --> 00:02:46.585 that. Correct. Everything has to be right. I like my pillows fluff. I like the books correct. 00:02:46.820 --> 00:02:53.860 I like my bowl in the right place. I know when somebody's been around and moving things around that I don't like. I see that candle over there. 00:02:53.860 --> 00:02:56.500 What's your favorite smell? You know what? 00:02:56.500 --> 00:03:04.665 I don't even know what that candle is. It probably is a candle from Hotel Decap. No, I think that's I have that candle. Oh, you're right. It's Jo Malone. 00:03:04.985 --> 00:03:10.585 And I don't oh, it's delicious. I think it's Gardena. It's marvelous. 00:03:10.585 --> 00:03:14.105 It's delicious. Speaking of Du Cap, what's the favorite place you've ever been? 00:03:14.840 --> 00:03:22.760 That probably is one of my favorite places because I love it there. It reminds me of when I was very young and wore bathing suits all the time. 00:03:22.760 --> 00:03:24.840 Is there a place you still want to go? 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:33.845 Yeah, the same places. I still love Paris. I still love, actually I love Morocco. I would go back there in minute. I loved it. 00:03:33.845 --> 00:03:36.085 I love the people. I love the smells. I love the 00:03:36.085 --> 00:03:39.125 food. What makes you instantly happy? 00:03:39.525 --> 00:03:50.740 Instantly happy is being with my grandchildren, especially you lately. Lately. Maybe not last week, but this week. Yes. What did you wear on your wedding day? 00:03:51.940 --> 00:03:58.260 White dress, a beautiful white gown. I got married at 21. I deserve to be in a white gown. 00:03:58.805 --> 00:04:04.325 Who was the most stylish person in your life? Probably my mom. 00:04:04.485 --> 00:04:09.445 My mom always was really looked wonderful no matter what day or what she was feeling. 00:04:09.445 --> 00:04:10.005 Do you 00:04:10.005 --> 00:04:14.990 want a glass of orange juice, Henny? Maybe later. Thank you. Oh, okay. No servings. 00:04:14.990 --> 00:04:17.230 Is there a trend that you loved? 00:04:17.790 --> 00:04:26.685 I love most of my friends. Trend? Oh, trends? Oh, I think I need a hearing aid. Trends. 00:04:26.685 --> 00:04:31.085 I don't know if I'm big on trends. I don't really love trends. What about 00:04:31.085 --> 00:04:32.685 a trend you're glad is gone? 00:04:33.165 --> 00:04:45.380 Oh, glad that's gone. I guess I don't know. A little better. I don't know what's gone, Kim, in trends. I I really don't I never followed a trend, so I don't really know. 00:04:45.540 --> 00:04:55.605 But probably that grunge look, which I never loved or a goth look, which I never thought looked good on anybody. Is that maybe a vampire? 00:04:55.765 --> 00:04:58.965 I get that. Is there a trend you wish would come back? 00:04:59.685 --> 00:05:03.445 Yeah. The little black dress. No. It never went away. Yeah. 00:05:03.445 --> 00:05:05.525 But sometimes people forget about it. 00:05:05.605 --> 00:05:08.165 What does elegance mean to you? Simple. 00:05:09.150 --> 00:05:16.190 Whatever is simple and beautiful. What's your signature look? White shirt, sweater and pants. 00:05:16.830 --> 00:05:18.670 Is there something you would never wear? 00:05:19.310 --> 00:05:27.485 I should never say never, but probably a puffy shirt because I'm so short that it would really not do me justice. 00:05:27.805 --> 00:05:29.725 How's fashion changed the most? 00:05:31.645 --> 00:05:47.190 Well, fashion has become much more wearable for everybody and everybody can wear it because high style is instantly bought to become commercial with all the new stores like Azara and H and M. They you know, everybody can be stylish. 00:05:47.350 --> 00:05:49.190 Did you ever break fashion rules? 00:05:49.875 --> 00:05:55.395 Not really. Maybe in college once or twice, but I don't even remember it. It was so long ago, Kim. 00:05:55.635 --> 00:05:59.555 What's the most meaningful item you've worn or owned? 00:05:59.555 --> 00:06:02.675 Oh, something that probably my mother has given me. 00:06:03.870 --> 00:06:06.990 What's something everyone should have in their closet? 00:06:07.150 --> 00:06:15.870 Look how cute you are, Kim, when you were in high school. Aw. So cute. And your brother, how tall and handsome. I hated that outfit. 00:06:16.285 --> 00:06:19.165 What outfit? One when you Your cap and gown. 00:06:19.165 --> 00:06:20.925 No. The one when he was graduating. 00:06:20.925 --> 00:06:25.645 Oh, well, he didn't really have a graduation. It was COVID that was in your in the backyard. 00:06:25.805 --> 00:06:29.245 Yeah. What makes something or someone truly beautiful? 00:06:30.280 --> 00:06:42.280 I think just a smile on their face and actually really good skin. And this is in the wrong closet. Oh, but I I love know. I was thinking of wearing it for my birthday. Oh, cute. 00:06:42.555 --> 00:06:49.515 Yeah. Maybe with pants. That's maybe why I had it in this closet. I'm gonna hang it up here. This is this is my get dressed moment. 00:06:49.995 --> 00:06:52.955 Got by the way, confidence or style, which matters more? 00:06:53.355 --> 00:06:57.835 I think confidence projects style. If you have good confidence, you can carry off anything. 00:06:58.650 --> 00:07:01.530 What did you look for when finding a husband? 00:07:01.770 --> 00:07:07.210 Could he make a good living? Because I was very expensive even when I was 21. What 00:07:08.170 --> 00:07:11.610 was your first impression of him? Was very smart. 00:07:11.795 --> 00:07:22.515 He was very smart, and I figured we'd be good together. You know, back in the day, we didn't know if we were it was gonna be good or bad. We took chances. We didn't live together, so we didn't know. 00:07:22.915 --> 00:07:27.960 Who said I love you first? She did. Of course. How did he, how did you 00:07:27.960 --> 00:07:30.600 know he was the one? My mother told me. 00:07:31.560 --> 00:07:33.240 Secret to a lasting relationship? 00:07:35.160 --> 00:08:01.440 Secret to a laughing relationship, I guess would be compromise and forgiving little issues in your lives. Little things shouldn't become overblown into big issues. What's the best date you ever had? Oh, I think when I was I guess in my early twenties and I came into New York City and saw a show and went for dinner. I thought that was extravagant and wonderful. 00:08:01.520 --> 00:08:13.315 I love this picture of you and Poppy. Oh my gosh. This was, in the early 2000s. We were in India and that was a great trip. That's a special place to go. 00:08:13.315 --> 00:08:27.470 Everybody should go at least once in their lives. It's an experience. What's the hardest part of love? Sometimes forgiving things that are said and not dwell on things that might have hurt your feelings. 00:08:27.470 --> 00:08:29.950 Most romantic things someone has done for you? 00:08:30.270 --> 00:08:32.110 I think every day is romantic. 00:08:32.270 --> 00:08:33.470 What does love mean to you now? 00:08:34.395 --> 00:08:36.635 My family and being together. 00:08:36.635 --> 00:08:38.795 Do you advice for someone looking for love? 00:08:39.275 --> 00:09:00.930 My advice for someone who is looking for love, just find, be happy within yourself. If you are happy within yourself, you will find a partner that will also be equally happy. And don't worry about it, it all evolves, everybody has it, everybody gets it. If you were on Hinge, what prompt would you use? I don't even know what a prompt is. 00:09:00.930 --> 00:09:21.790 I think that answers my question. What keeps a marriage exciting? What keeps a marriage exciting is to be exciting yourself and do things that are interesting so that your partner can, and you can share different experiences. Experience is very important in a relationship. You want to do things together to share memories about. 00:09:21.790 --> 00:09:39.845 Speaking of memories, I know in that closet you have so many albums. Oh my gosh, Kimberly, this this is really sinful. Most people don't have these kind of closets, but mine are all albums. All albums from when your mom was little, your uncle was little and you and your other 00:09:42.245 --> 00:09:45.125 Family members. Siblings. Love different now than it was then? 00:09:45.840 --> 00:10:01.040 No, think love is always the same. What matters most in a partner? What matters most in a partner? I think just being good together and hopefully making something of a future together. If you're not on the same page, you're not gonna have a life. 00:10:01.405 --> 00:10:02.285 Would you do it all the 00:10:02.285 --> 00:10:08.285 same again? Probably. Maybe make a few minor adjustments. A few things here 00:10:08.285 --> 00:10:10.925 and there. What's the biggest change you've seen in the world? 00:10:11.805 --> 00:10:43.235 Well, the biggest change is unfortunately social media has given everybody a plank to talk about what they wanna talk about and not listen to anybody else, but that's life. Something that never changes? Something that never changes, hopefully, your love for family. Something young people get wrong. They put too much emphasis on the material side of what their job could do and not really put a good effort into what the actual job is. 00:10:43.410 --> 00:10:52.290 Something young people get right? That they have loads of different opportunities and they start their careers and they're very serious about them. What are your 00:10:52.290 --> 00:10:54.370 thoughts on social media? I know you 00:10:54.370 --> 00:11:12.130 talked about that a little, but you're on it. So I'm on it and I like it, but I think it can be a little destructive if it's in the wrong hands and also if it's obsessive and you watch it constantly, especially with teenagers. What was life like without technology? You know what? I don't know. 00:11:12.130 --> 00:11:30.265 I sort of probably think it was probably better or maybe it wasn't better. It was just, for older people, it's more difficult to work it. Younger people live with it and understand it. But everything gets better when things are created more efficiently. So every new challenge, AI is the next new challenge. 00:11:30.265 --> 00:11:34.265 Everything is always a newness, and that's good. The world is changing. Is there a 00:11:34.265 --> 00:11:35.945 moment that shaped who you are? 00:11:36.665 --> 00:11:38.985 I think just having a family. 00:11:41.660 --> 00:11:42.140 What is 00:11:42.140 --> 00:12:03.915 the hardest lesson you've learned about life? The hardest lesson is when illness, comes into your life and you have to learn how to survive it and, and hopefully conquer it. And if you can't conquer it to live the best life you could. Best advice you've ever received. Keep the glass. 00:12:03.995 --> 00:12:14.050 Always think about the glass being half full, not half empty. Don't be negative. Negativity spawns more negativity. Not good. What's advice you wish you followed sooner? 00:12:14.370 --> 00:12:21.090 Not anything that I would have followed sooner, but, I think it's just, more of the same. 00:12:22.115 --> 00:12:25.715 What does success mean to you? Success means, 00:12:26.675 --> 00:12:50.970 I don't know, basically making everyone around me happy and actually fulfilling my own potential now working with you. What are you most proud of us? No, I'm most proud of my family. A risk you're glad that you took? Well, a risk that I took is working with you because you never know where I'm going and what I'm doing. 00:12:50.970 --> 00:12:57.015 But it has panned out. I love it. It's more fun than I could have ever imagined. And I thank you for it, sweetheart. 00:12:57.015 --> 00:12:59.975 A regret you've made peace with? 00:13:01.575 --> 00:13:12.010 A lot of stuff, but I don't think we need to go into those regrets. I don't like to look back at regrets. There's no point. What keeps you going? What keeps me going? 00:13:12.010 --> 00:13:28.525 Life is good. And I want to want to spend my life with the people I love and fix my pillows so that they're always fluffed. Always karate chopping. Always karate chopping. And that I can enjoy this room for another holiday, another year. 00:13:28.765 --> 00:13:30.925 What does happiness mean to you now? 00:13:32.365 --> 00:13:36.925 Getting up in the morning, feeling good and being with the ones I love. 00:13:37.380 --> 00:13:39.460 When do you feel most like yourself? 00:13:39.860 --> 00:13:42.820 I guess in the morning after I've had my first cup 00:13:42.820 --> 00:13:48.580 of coffee. That's relatable. A moment you'd relive if you could? I don't know if 00:13:48.580 --> 00:13:56.435 there's anything I'd really like to relive. I think I'm happy the way I lived it, and I'm looking on to another day, another thing. 00:13:56.755 --> 00:13:58.515 What would you tell your younger self? 00:13:58.835 --> 00:14:23.365 My younger self may be to not get married as young as I did and to do something else. But that was a different time when you didn't do that. So I'm very happy with the way things turned out. What do you wish people understood about life? That life is not always a steady road and you have uphills and downhills in it and you have to learn how to cope with it. 00:14:23.925 --> 00:14:25.765 What scares you, if anything? 00:14:26.165 --> 00:14:38.010 That I don't have enough time to do all the things I really want to do. But I I I don't spend too much time thinking about that. What's the worst outfit I've ever worn, but you 00:14:38.010 --> 00:14:39.210 were scared to tell me? 00:14:40.090 --> 00:14:41.210 There have been a lot. 00:14:41.210 --> 00:14:41.930 Oh my god. 00:14:41.930 --> 00:14:50.995 There have been a lot of those outfits. You know what? I don't think any of them are that important that I would have to tell you. It's part of having fun and learning your own style. 00:14:51.395 --> 00:14:52.995 How often do you sit in this room? 00:14:53.475 --> 00:14:56.995 Once a year. I just said that. Once a year with my family on the 00:14:56.995 --> 00:14:59.980 high holidays. What legacy do you want to leave? 00:15:00.460 --> 00:15:06.060 That she lived her life as best as she could and had a good time while doing it. 00:15:06.380 --> 00:15:09.180 Who had the biggest impact on your life? 00:15:09.900 --> 00:15:19.785 My brother. He was the most uplifting and the most creative person I knew, and I loved spending time with him. He was fun every minute of the day. I took a I had a laugh. 00:15:19.785 --> 00:15:21.385 What are you still curious about? 00:15:22.425 --> 00:15:27.690 What am I still curious about? I guess my next bridge hand. If I'm going to win or 00:15:27.690 --> 00:15:33.130 lose, that's very, very important. What's the most outdated thing in this apartment? 00:15:33.930 --> 00:15:50.195 Oh, I think a lot of things are probably outdated, but probably that broken television that I tried to use for for when people were over. And now we had the Verizon many all day and they still the television is not working. The box is working very, very serious. 00:15:50.195 --> 00:15:51.475 Did she be not any of 00:15:51.475 --> 00:16:14.175 the antiques? No, my everything here I sort of like. I like it's a compilation of of different times of different apartments that I had different times of different interior designers, and I'm very happy with it. What is turning 84 feel like? It feels like I'm getting old and I want to push that back as much as I can so I want to think young. 00:16:14.335 --> 00:16:32.710 What's one rule you live by? Don't leave something undone that you want to have done. If there's something you want to confront, do it today because you never know what tomorrow is going to bring. What's a good life look like? A good life looks like all these pictures here. 00:16:33.165 --> 00:16:44.925 They're all the people I loved. Your great grandparents, us, your siblings and you when you were 18 at Disney World. 21. 00:16:45.260 --> 00:16:47.340 21? My 20 birthday. Oh, 00:16:47.340 --> 00:16:54.460 right. Still kissing Mickey. Yeah, always. Oh my gosh. Anyway, those are all the good things that you want to remember. 00:16:54.460 --> 00:16:58.300 What's something you still want to do? 00:17:00.165 --> 00:17:16.620 I don't know. I've done most of the things I really want to do. So now it's just doing things that I enjoy. I don't really have any major goal in unless it's going to be to take over some newscasters position, which I don't think they're gonna hire an 84 year old to do 00:17:16.620 --> 00:17:20.140 the You are. You're you are a columnist. Well, I'm a 00:17:20.140 --> 00:17:30.835 columnist, but I'd like to go on national television as a news personality. Oh gosh. I don't know. You know I would be very strict on that. What have you learned about men? 00:17:32.275 --> 00:17:46.310 Are just like women. They want to be happy. And if you give each other a reason to be happy, they're exactly the same. Nobody wants to be either better or less. Everybody is exactly on the same level. 00:17:46.310 --> 00:17:54.710 What advice would you give to everyone in our family? Keep cool. Keep cool. Tomorrow's another day. Don't stress the small stuff. 00:17:55.030 --> 00:17:57.910 Do you have a final thought in one sentence? 00:17:58.765 --> 00:18:03.325 Final thought in one sentence is to do lots of stuff with you, honey. 00:18:03.325 --> 00:18:04.365 Oh, that's cute. 00:18:04.365 --> 00:18:07.005 Yeah. That's what I want to do for my 80 birthday. 00:18:07.005 --> 00:18:09.085 Well, we're doing it. We have such fun plans. 00:18:09.085 --> 00:18:12.205 Yes, we do. Okay. Now I have to go play cards. 00:18:12.650 --> 00:18:13.850 You're kicking me out? Yeah. 00:18:13.850 --> 00:18:20.490 I'm going to give you back the mic and it's gone. All right. Well, thanks for having me over. Okay, sweetheart. See you later. 00:18:20.650 --> 00:18:21.930 Birthday. Thank you.