1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:01,560 Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy, 2 00:00:01,560 --> 00:00:03,320 the podcast dedicated to your pickle improvement. 3 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:04,520 I am your host, Tony Roig. 4 00:00:04,550 --> 00:00:06,300 I hope you're having a great week. 5 00:00:06,330 --> 00:00:10,240 I am on location here in Lake Tahoe, Nevada. 6 00:00:10,270 --> 00:00:15,180 We are doing our camps for our inclined village camps right now. 7 00:00:15,210 --> 00:00:17,360 So I'm recording this up here in Tahoe. 8 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,780 That's why the sound will be a little bit different than usual. 9 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:23,560 This podcast, as you probably already know by now, is part of the betterpickleball. 10 00:00:23,580 --> 00:00:25,600 Com Network of Resources, designed to 11 00:00:25,630 --> 00:00:30,220 provide you everything you need to play an amazing pickleball game. 12 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:32,620 This week's podcast, I'm going to cover two topics. 13 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:36,120 I'm first going to talk about setting 14 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:39,380 reasonable expectations when you're out there playing with a partner. 15 00:00:39,410 --> 00:00:42,280 Then in the RIF, I'm going to talk a 16 00:00:42,310 --> 00:00:47,880 little bit about the way that we frame out wins and losses based on the results of 17 00:00:47,910 --> 00:00:53,640 the semifinal match between Yannick Sinner and Carlos Alcaraz at the French Open. 18 00:00:53,670 --> 00:00:55,880 I had the pleasure of listening to Yannick 19 00:00:55,910 --> 00:00:59,040 Sinner's postgame interview, and I thought his words... 20 00:00:59,070 --> 00:01:01,120 He's a young man, but his words were very 21 00:01:01,150 --> 00:01:05,920 mature and will help us as we think about dealing with the plusses and minuses, 22 00:01:05,950 --> 00:01:09,460 which are natural when you're playing pickleball. 23 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:13,000 If you haven't joined our email list yet, make sure you're 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email list, you're going to be fine. 35 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:48,680 If you're not, betterpickleball. 36 00:01:48,710 --> 00:01:52,260 Com, make sure you click sign up and get our email list. 37 00:01:52,290 --> 00:01:57,420 All right, let's talk about setting reasonable expectations in partner play. 38 00:01:57,440 --> 00:01:58,720 What I'm talking about here is I'm talking 39 00:01:58,750 --> 00:02:04,160 about When you play pickleball, most of you listening, and most pickleball 40 00:02:04,190 --> 00:02:08,240 players, the pickleball players behind me here at the courts, are playing doubles. 41 00:02:08,270 --> 00:02:10,540 That's how we play most of pickleball. 42 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:12,660 When you play doubles, you're playing a team sport. 43 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:14,600 There's no ifs, thens, or buts about it. 44 00:02:14,630 --> 00:02:19,640 It's you and another human being playing together, competing together with the same 45 00:02:19,670 --> 00:02:24,700 objective in mind, trying to be the victor in that match. 46 00:02:24,730 --> 00:02:26,800 It's, again, a team event. 47 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:28,540 It's really important to understand that 48 00:02:28,570 --> 00:02:35,040 there are two players on the and that it's not just setting expectations 49 00:02:35,070 --> 00:02:39,610 for ourselves as players, it's setting regional expectations for our partner. 50 00:02:39,640 --> 00:02:41,480 I was reminded of this recently, playing 51 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,500 in a group where we're basically switching partners back and forth. 52 00:02:44,530 --> 00:02:46,860 I've been at this game for a long time, 53 00:02:46,890 --> 00:02:51,780 and I have certain expectations about how to play the game and how I see the game. 54 00:02:51,810 --> 00:02:58,060 But there are situations where it is unfair for me to impart those expectations 55 00:02:58,090 --> 00:03:04,660 onto a partner who has not not yet traveled the road that I have traveled and 56 00:03:04,690 --> 00:03:08,580 developed the view of the game that I have currently in the game. 57 00:03:08,610 --> 00:03:13,240 What it can happen is if you allow yourself to set unrealistic expectations 58 00:03:13,270 --> 00:03:19,520 for a partner, is that then you create potential disappointment in terms of your 59 00:03:19,550 --> 00:03:23,140 view and also your reaction to what's happening on the court. 60 00:03:23,170 --> 00:03:26,780 That will manifest itself in your mind. 61 00:03:26,810 --> 00:03:30,220 It also manifest itself in your partner. 62 00:03:30,250 --> 00:03:32,920 Because whether you want to or not, you're 63 00:03:32,950 --> 00:03:37,840 going to react in a way that will be evident. 64 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:39,640 Nonverbal communication, the studies for 65 00:03:39,670 --> 00:03:43,780 Alvarez, I think it's 70% of our communication is actually nonverbal. 66 00:03:43,810 --> 00:03:46,320 We get a lot of nonverbal cues. 67 00:03:46,350 --> 00:03:48,440 We're programmed to receive those 68 00:03:48,470 --> 00:03:52,340 nonverbal cues from outside source from other humans. 69 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,480 In this case, you imagine a situation where you have set an expectation for your 70 00:03:55,510 --> 00:04:00,760 partner of X, and that expectation is just unreasonable for whatever reason, whether 71 00:04:00,790 --> 00:04:03,940 it's shots or understanding of the game or whatever. 72 00:04:03,970 --> 00:04:05,980 You have X in your mind. 73 00:04:06,010 --> 00:04:08,920 Partner invariably does not meet X, and 74 00:04:08,950 --> 00:04:11,700 the partner is at a different place in the game. 75 00:04:11,730 --> 00:04:18,380 So your face will show We have X, you did not meet X. 76 00:04:18,410 --> 00:04:20,120 That'll be evident. 77 00:04:20,150 --> 00:04:24,820 Again, as much as you're trying to disguise it, it's going to be evident. 78 00:04:24,840 --> 00:04:26,920 First of all, your mind is going to be 79 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,880 cloudy because you're thinking, well, you're supposed to do X. 80 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:31,800 And I don't mean respect the X, I just mean X as a variable. 81 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:33,380 You're supposed to do this thing. 82 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:34,400 You didn't do the thing, right? 83 00:04:34,420 --> 00:04:37,860 Now, I don't feel good about our situation. 84 00:04:37,890 --> 00:04:43,160 You don't feel good because of how I reacted and/or my nonverbal communication, 85 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:45,940 even though I don't have for shoulder or anything like that. 86 00:04:45,970 --> 00:04:48,420 Then the third thing is energy. 87 00:04:48,450 --> 00:04:51,620 What will happen is your energy as a player will go down. 88 00:04:51,650 --> 00:04:54,320 Partner play, a lot of it is energy, right? 89 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:57,440 You better your energy together, the more better you're going to perform. 90 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:00,980 It doesn't mean you're going to win, but you're going to perform better. 91 00:05:01,010 --> 00:05:08,000 The more negative your energy, the more obstacles in your energy, then the least 92 00:05:08,030 --> 00:05:10,820 favorable you're going to be able to perform as a team. 93 00:05:10,840 --> 00:05:14,320 What I'm suggesting here is when you go 94 00:05:14,340 --> 00:05:18,980 out to play, have whatever expectations you want for yourself, and that's fine. 95 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,560 You expect that you're going to hit your return or serve to a certain spot, you're 96 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,680 going to have an additional intentionality, you're going to hit balls 97 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,660 to a certain spot, say to the moving player if you're a system member. 98 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:29,760 Concepts that you're in there. 99 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:31,360 You're going to apply those when you play. 100 00:05:31,390 --> 00:05:32,780 That's great. 101 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:37,240 But be careful about extending those expectations to a partner. 102 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:40,200 Particularly, think about it like an open play and rec play in situations like that. 103 00:05:40,230 --> 00:05:42,760 The situation I was in was a form of open play. 104 00:05:42,790 --> 00:05:46,360 It was a group, but we were moving around partner to partner. 105 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:51,240 Be careful about projecting your expectations about how the sport is played 106 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:53,180 and the optimal way of playing onto your partner. 107 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:54,440 Because, again, you're going to suffer 108 00:05:54,470 --> 00:05:59,160 from mental negativity yourself, potential negativity transmitted to your 109 00:05:59,190 --> 00:06:04,220 partner, which is very hard to avoid, and then lastly, impacting the energy. 110 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:05,840 Rather than that, rather than projecting 111 00:06:05,860 --> 00:06:09,980 your expectations, accept your partner as they are. 112 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,640 Now, there's an exception to this, which I'll talk about in a second, when you're 113 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,160 working to improve as a team and you play together all the time. 114 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:16,800 But if you're playing open play, you're 115 00:06:16,830 --> 00:06:19,780 playing in a rotational setting, just enjoy the game. 116 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,660 Just accept the game as it comes. 117 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:26,400 Accept the results as they come, not just of the whole game, but of the rallies. 118 00:06:26,420 --> 00:06:29,540 Your partner hits it to a place that is not ideal. 119 00:06:29,570 --> 00:06:32,540 Okay, move on. 120 00:06:32,570 --> 00:06:36,800 Set the expectations for yourself and your play and what you can control and 121 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:39,860 understand that in those situations, you cannot control your partner. 122 00:06:39,890 --> 00:06:41,560 And setting expectations that are 123 00:06:41,590 --> 00:06:45,620 unrealistic for your partner is going to be counterproductive. 124 00:06:45,650 --> 00:06:47,600 Now, the exception that I note is if 125 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:51,040 you're working together with a partner, so someone you play with regularly, you're 126 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,920 trying to improve together, you're playing tournaments with a player, husbands and 127 00:06:54,950 --> 00:06:57,940 wives or partners who play together, things like that. 128 00:06:57,970 --> 00:07:02,100 In those situations, then Having productive conversations is fine. 129 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,620 You can have a productive conversation with your partner. 130 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:05,960 Again, if you're working together with 131 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,840 them and you notice something, you can have a conversation about, well, maybe 132 00:07:08,860 --> 00:07:12,140 consider doing this a different way another time. 133 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:15,460 But in most of our games, when we're in open play and rec play, It's like these 134 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,960 games that are going on behind me, again, projecting your expectations on 135 00:07:19,980 --> 00:07:22,340 your partner is going to be counterproductive. 136 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,280 Before you go into the game, be aware of 137 00:07:24,300 --> 00:07:29,500 that and try and avoid projecting the expectation before you start playing. 138 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,400 In the minute, I'm going to talk in the rift about the French Open. 139 00:07:32,420 --> 00:07:36,160 Before we do, however, I want to remind 140 00:07:36,190 --> 00:07:41,120 you that we have our good friends at Total PickleBall, have a code that they've 141 00:07:41,150 --> 00:07:45,960 provided to us that allows on products that are eligible for this, allows for a 142 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,260 camera, it was a discount or some a benefit, right? 143 00:07:48,290 --> 00:07:52,040 But I can tell you this, it doesn't affect your price negatively, 144 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:55,160 and it helps support this podcast as well as all the other content that we try and 145 00:07:55,190 --> 00:07:58,540 provide for free to thepickleball community to help grow it. 146 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:02,320 If you'd be so kind as if you're looking for something and Total Pickleball has it 147 00:08:02,350 --> 00:08:04,740 and you're good with the price, use the code. 148 00:08:04,770 --> 00:08:07,020 You may get a benefit, but no matter what, 149 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:11,380 it will help support our podcast, and I'll put that down in the show notes here. 150 00:08:11,410 --> 00:08:13,840 Now we're going to dive into the Rift, and 151 00:08:13,860 --> 00:08:17,840 the Rift is, as you may know, the Rift is basically where I get to talk about 152 00:08:17,860 --> 00:08:22,820 whatever I want to talk about that I just came across recently from time to time. 153 00:08:22,850 --> 00:08:25,480 In this case, Yannick Center is playing 154 00:08:25,510 --> 00:08:28,220 Carlos O'Croise in the semifinals of the French Open. 155 00:08:28,250 --> 00:08:30,720 It was a five-setter back and forth, two 156 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:34,560 young, great players, number two and number three in the world, battling at the 157 00:08:34,580 --> 00:08:38,280 French Open in what some would consider to be the actual finals, right? 158 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:39,460 Even those are semifinals. 159 00:08:39,490 --> 00:08:42,220 But nonetheless, there was a great match. 160 00:08:42,250 --> 00:08:45,520 And Center had the lead early. Alcaraz tied. 161 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:47,080 Sinner took the lead again. Alcaraz tied. 162 00:08:47,110 --> 00:08:50,220 And in the end, Alcaraz ends up winning in five sets. 163 00:08:50,250 --> 00:08:53,080 And so during the interview, Sinner was 164 00:08:53,110 --> 00:08:58,460 very humble, very mature about his responses to it. 165 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,720 He was disappointed, which is Perfectly natural. 166 00:09:00,750 --> 00:09:03,100 As a human being, he expressed disappointment. 167 00:09:03,130 --> 00:09:06,000 But what I really like that he said that I 168 00:09:06,030 --> 00:09:10,340 think we can take with us is he said that basically, 169 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,020 he recognized, first of all, there's two players on the court, him and Carlos. 170 00:09:14,050 --> 00:09:17,760 He says he looks forward to a lot more of these matches. 171 00:09:17,790 --> 00:09:21,840 Basically, the result of any of the matches between them, and they've played 172 00:09:21,870 --> 00:09:25,280 nine times, and I believe Carlos has won five and Center four. 173 00:09:25,310 --> 00:09:30,660 I could be wrong in terms of the order, but they're basically tied except for one. 174 00:09:30,690 --> 00:09:32,140 Basically, the idea is this. 175 00:09:32,170 --> 00:09:35,920 He said, One of us, me or Carlos, is going 176 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,020 to be the winner and can celebrate, and that's great. 177 00:09:38,050 --> 00:09:40,240 The other one is going to have something 178 00:09:40,270 --> 00:09:43,500 to learn, is going to be able to grow as a player. 179 00:09:43,530 --> 00:09:48,200 You see how the Both sides win in that framing. 180 00:09:48,230 --> 00:09:51,020 You have the winner who gets to celebrate, 181 00:09:51,050 --> 00:09:55,480 and you have the loser who now has the opportunity to progress in the community 182 00:09:55,510 --> 00:09:58,800 to challenge himself in this context, because they're both men, 183 00:09:58,820 --> 00:10:04,360 but to challenge themselves in order to then next time, hopefully, try and win. 184 00:10:04,390 --> 00:10:08,500 That competition is what drives each one of them to improve. 185 00:10:08,530 --> 00:10:11,800 Having that more mature perspective will 186 00:10:11,820 --> 00:10:15,300 help us because if you're playing pickleball at a level, 187 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,680 It's supposed to be a 50/50 proposition over the long term. 188 00:10:17,680 --> 00:10:19,700 You're supposed to win as much as you lose. 189 00:10:19,730 --> 00:10:24,800 Having a better framing for those times that you lose will help you feel not as 190 00:10:24,820 --> 00:10:30,380 bad as maybe you would if you didn't have that positive framing. 191 00:10:30,410 --> 00:10:32,040 That's this week's podcast. 192 00:10:32,060 --> 00:10:34,040 I hope you enjoy the podcast. 193 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,400 As always, if you have time to rate and review it, please do. 194 00:10:36,430 --> 00:10:39,940 We appreciate you helping us reach as many players as possible. 195 00:10:39,970 --> 00:10:42,280 In that light, share with your friends 196 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,700 because if you enjoyed the podcast, they probably will, too. 197 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:47,280 Have a great week, and I'll see you next time from the studio.