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A woman has to sort through all sorts of emotions after finding out her husband has been sexually active behind her back. How can her anger be righteous and not sinful? How can she feel safe with other women and with even her husband? Listen in for experiential wisdom from Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz!
Show Notes
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Welcome to episode #51!
For the second week in a row, Braden's wife Kristen leads a wives roundtable with Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz. This week, the ladies share incredible advice on what a wife needs to do feel safe with her husband in the recovery from betrayal trauma.
You need real support
As a wife, you just need to hear that you aren't crazy. Through having community, you'll get to see that other women going through betrayal are beautiful, normal women who also have husbands using porn as an escape. Having women that can relate to you speak into your life when you're feeling so alone is powerful for healing and feeling understood. You might feel mad that you're going through a situation that isn't your fault, but making the wise choice to go through it will help you so much.
Recovery can be messy! But it gets better
Charity sometimes wished that Clinton would back to pornography to cover up his feelings. When he didn't have an escape, he was an emotional roller coaster. Then Charity realized that Clinton wasn't the only one going through things and that she also had to figure out how to live in this new reality of recovering from addiction in marriage. They learned that they couldn't tell each other everything all the time and found that weekly check-ins were so helpful. Rosie assures the listeners that marriage without porn can be 300 times better than a marriage with it when you go through the hard stuff.
Celibacy is part of recovery
Part of a man recovering is not having the outlet he's always had so that he can figure out what emotions or walls are driving him to sexual outlets. If he goes from porn to his wife, she becomes his outlet and he never gets to become emotionally or spiritually healthy. A 90-day period of celibacy allows his brain to be re-wired and gives both spouses time to deal with the shock and hurt of the porn consumption being exposed.
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Next week, Matt and Braden are back to talk about certain rituals that the porn user engages in that open up opportunities to get triggered without even realizing where the trigger is coming from.
Resources
Restored2More - resources for couples with Clinton and Charity Munoz
Fight For Love Ministries - resources for women with Rosie Makinney
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
For the second week in a row, Braden's wife Kristen leads a wives roundtable with Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz. This week, the ladies share incredible advice on what a wife needs to do feel safe with her husband in the recovery from betrayal trauma.
You need real support
As a wife, you just need to hear that you aren't crazy. Through having community, you'll get to see that other women going through betrayal are beautiful, normal women who also have husbands using porn as an escape. Having women that can relate to you speak into your life when you're feeling so alone is powerful for healing and feeling understood. You might feel mad that you're going through a situation that isn't your fault, but making the wise choice to go through it will help you so much.
Recovery can be messy! But it gets better
Charity sometimes wished that Clinton would back to pornography to cover up his feelings. When he didn't have an escape, he was an emotional roller coaster. Then Charity realized that Clinton wasn't the only one going through things and that she also had to figure out how to live in this new reality of recovering from addiction in marriage. They learned that they couldn't tell each other everything all the time and found that weekly check-ins were so helpful. Rosie assures the listeners that marriage without porn can be 300 times better than a marriage with it when you go through the hard stuff.
Celibacy is part of recovery
Part of a man recovering is not having the outlet he's always had so that he can figure out what emotions or walls are driving him to sexual outlets. If he goes from porn to his wife, she becomes his outlet and he never gets to become emotionally or spiritually healthy. A 90-day period of celibacy allows his brain to be re-wired and gives both spouses time to deal with the shock and hurt of the porn consumption being exposed.
Share With Your Friends
Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.
Subscribe
Next week, Matt and Braden are back to talk about certain rituals that the porn user engages in that open up opportunities to get triggered without even realizing where the trigger is coming from.
Resources
Restored2More - resources for couples with Clinton and Charity Munoz
Fight For Love Ministries - resources for women with Rosie Makinney
Pure Freedom Community for men 18+
Pure Freedom Journey for men and women
Book a FREE call (men)
FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days free
Podcast Hosts
BRADEN HAFNER
Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 12 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com
MATT CLINE
Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honored to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.
Creators & Guests
Host
Host
Matt Cline
Matt Cline is the founder and director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of impact and freedom in Christ. He is a leading speaker and coach in Canada on the topic of sexual brokenness and has seen countless lives radically changed all around the world. You can learn more about Restored Ministries at www.restoredministries.ca.
What is Pure Victory Podcast?
Faith-based inspiration to win at sex, conquer porn, and find purpose in staying free forever.