1 01:00:01,875 --> 01:00:02,333 Good morning. 2 01:00:04,041 --> 01:00:06,375 And welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:11,750 --> 01:00:13,833 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:14,041 --> 01:00:15,125 I hope you had a great weekend. 5 01:00:15,125 --> 01:00:16,291 I hope you had a great Halloween, 6 01:00:16,625 --> 01:00:19,166 but heads up, welcome to November. 7 01:00:19,583 --> 01:00:21,500 It is hard to believe that we are already 8 01:00:21,500 --> 01:00:23,041 in the month of Thanksgiving, 9 01:00:23,625 --> 01:00:25,041 but we still have time for that. 10 01:00:25,041 --> 01:00:26,625 Let's concentrate on this week 11 01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:28,583 and how it's gonna be a great one. 12 01:00:28,958 --> 01:00:30,791 Today is cliche day. 13 01:00:31,083 --> 01:00:32,958 And it's also National Housewife Day. 14 01:00:32,958 --> 01:00:34,250 So whether you're 15 01:00:34,250 --> 01:00:36,125 taking it one day at a time 16 01:00:36,125 --> 01:00:37,583 or rolling with the punches, 17 01:00:38,291 --> 01:00:40,375 embrace those classic cliches. 18 01:00:40,625 --> 01:00:41,291 They've stuck around 19 01:00:41,291 --> 01:00:42,333 this long for a reason. 20 01:00:42,583 --> 01:00:43,875 And if you run a household, 21 01:00:44,250 --> 01:00:46,000 you know that it's a full-time job 22 01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:47,458 and problem solving and patience, 23 01:00:47,875 --> 01:00:49,583 and you should enjoy your day. 24 01:00:50,166 --> 01:00:52,791 Our quote today was from a working wife. 25 01:00:52,791 --> 01:00:55,333 However, Cindy Lauper, who once said, 26 01:00:56,000 --> 01:00:58,083 when you let your true colors shine, 27 01:00:58,500 --> 01:00:59,625 you find who your real 28 01:00:59,625 --> 01:01:00,916 friends are, end quote. 29 01:01:01,458 --> 01:01:02,625 And just to confirm, 30 01:01:02,916 --> 01:01:03,875 real friends accept you 31 01:01:03,875 --> 01:01:05,625 for who you truly are, even 32 01:01:05,625 --> 01:01:07,250 during those difficult times. 33 01:01:07,250 --> 01:01:08,041 While fair weather 34 01:01:08,041 --> 01:01:09,125 friends, as we all know, 35 01:01:09,125 --> 01:01:10,333 they just disappear when 36 01:01:10,333 --> 01:01:11,958 you're no longer useful to them. 37 01:01:12,333 --> 01:01:14,166 The point, hold on to the good ones. 38 01:01:14,625 --> 01:01:15,875 Well, today's news facts and birthdays 39 01:01:15,875 --> 01:01:17,791 are for November 3rd. 40 01:01:17,791 --> 01:01:19,333 We're gonna start back in 1970. 41 01:01:19,666 --> 01:01:21,541 That's when US President Richard Nixon, 42 01:01:21,541 --> 01:01:23,250 he promised a gradual 43 01:01:23,250 --> 01:01:24,833 troop removal from Vietnam. 44 01:01:25,375 --> 01:01:26,750 Then moving up to 1998, 45 01:01:27,041 --> 01:01:28,000 you might remember this, 46 01:01:28,500 --> 01:01:30,625 former wrestler Jesse the Body Ventura, 47 01:01:31,125 --> 01:01:31,958 while he was elected 48 01:01:31,958 --> 01:01:33,458 the governor of Minnesota. 49 01:01:34,125 --> 01:01:36,166 And then finally on this date in 2016, 50 01:01:36,416 --> 01:01:37,333 and I know many, many, 51 01:01:37,333 --> 01:01:39,000 many people have this date 52 01:01:39,125 --> 01:01:40,458 probably tattooed on their arm. 53 01:01:41,041 --> 01:01:42,416 This is when the Chicago Cubs, 54 01:01:42,916 --> 01:01:43,833 they won their first 55 01:01:43,833 --> 01:01:46,458 World Series title since 1908, 56 01:01:47,333 --> 01:01:49,291 snapping the 108 year old curse. 57 01:01:49,916 --> 01:01:51,125 Well, happy birthday to you. 58 01:01:51,125 --> 01:01:52,000 Today is your birthday. 59 01:01:52,208 --> 01:01:53,083 You share it with 60 01:01:53,083 --> 01:01:54,291 model and TV personality, 61 01:01:54,625 --> 01:01:56,083 Kendall Jenner, she's 30 today. 62 01:01:56,666 --> 01:01:57,916 Former NFLer Colin 63 01:01:57,916 --> 01:01:59,583 Kaepernick, he's 38 today. 64 01:02:00,166 --> 01:02:01,083 Comedian and actress 65 01:02:01,083 --> 01:02:03,333 Roseanne Barr, she's 73 today. 66 01:02:04,083 --> 01:02:04,666 Actor and engineer 67 01:02:04,666 --> 01:02:06,333 best known as Ivan Drago, 68 01:02:07,208 --> 01:02:09,000 Dolph Lundgren, he's 68 today. 69 01:02:09,416 --> 01:02:10,625 Well, the number one song on 70 01:02:10,625 --> 01:02:13,083 this date back in 1986 was, 71 01:02:13,083 --> 01:02:14,375 you guessed it, True 72 01:02:14,375 --> 01:02:16,125 Colors by Cindy Lauper. 73 01:02:16,583 --> 01:02:18,208 Now, this heartfelt anthem 74 01:02:18,208 --> 01:02:19,958 became an instant classic 75 01:02:19,958 --> 01:02:21,958 for its gentle encouragement to be 76 01:02:21,958 --> 01:02:23,375 authentic and accepting. 77 01:02:23,833 --> 01:02:24,958 And it's a theme that 78 01:02:24,958 --> 01:02:26,208 has inspired generations 79 01:02:26,458 --> 01:02:28,333 and continues to define Lauper's legacy. 80 01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:29,625 And speaking of 81 01:02:29,625 --> 01:02:31,125 inspiring, our book review. 82 01:02:31,625 --> 01:02:32,791 We are reading through Mel 83 01:02:32,791 --> 01:02:34,500 Robbins, The Let Them Theory. 84 01:02:34,500 --> 01:02:36,083 And today we are reading the sub-chapter, 85 01:02:36,625 --> 01:02:37,541 Frame of Reference. 86 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:38,916 And in this chapter, 87 01:02:39,250 --> 01:02:40,583 Robbins dives into how our 88 01:02:40,583 --> 01:02:42,416 perspective shapes our reality. 89 01:02:42,958 --> 01:02:44,000 And she writes, quote, 90 01:02:44,166 --> 01:02:46,458 "The story you tell yourself about life 91 01:02:46,750 --> 01:02:47,541 is the frame that 92 01:02:47,541 --> 01:02:49,583 determines what you see," end quote. 93 01:02:50,041 --> 01:02:51,458 It's a powerful reminder. 94 01:02:51,666 --> 01:02:53,208 And if you've been with us this year, 95 01:02:53,375 --> 01:02:54,458 you know that this is a 96 01:02:54,458 --> 01:02:55,541 consistent perspective 97 01:02:56,208 --> 01:02:56,833 in a lot of the other 98 01:02:56,833 --> 01:02:57,916 books that we've been reading. 99 01:02:58,375 --> 01:03:00,458 Now, it's still a powerful reminder 100 01:03:00,458 --> 01:03:01,666 that we can't always 101 01:03:01,666 --> 01:03:03,541 control what happens, 102 01:03:03,833 --> 01:03:06,375 but we can control how we see it. 103 01:03:06,375 --> 01:03:07,250 Now, Robbins explains 104 01:03:07,250 --> 01:03:08,916 that most of us default 105 01:03:08,916 --> 01:03:10,625 to a fear frame. 106 01:03:10,625 --> 01:03:12,833 We focus on what might go wrong. 107 01:03:13,291 --> 01:03:15,416 But by shifting to a growth frame, 108 01:03:15,708 --> 01:03:18,583 we begin to see setbacks as set ups. 109 01:03:19,166 --> 01:03:20,291 She urges readers to 110 01:03:20,291 --> 01:03:21,833 question their interpretations 111 01:03:22,458 --> 01:03:23,333 before reacting. 112 01:03:23,625 --> 01:03:25,791 Quote, "What else could this mean?" 113 01:03:26,166 --> 01:03:27,916 That single question can 114 01:03:27,916 --> 01:03:30,458 transform stress into strategy. 115 01:03:30,916 --> 01:03:32,208 Now, she connects this idea 116 01:03:32,208 --> 01:03:33,958 to her Let Them framework. 117 01:03:34,708 --> 01:03:36,333 You can't change others, 118 01:03:36,791 --> 01:03:37,916 but you can change how you 119 01:03:37,916 --> 01:03:39,833 frame their actions, okay? 120 01:03:40,333 --> 01:03:41,666 Someone's criticism might 121 01:03:41,666 --> 01:03:43,250 be proof of their insecurity. 122 01:03:43,791 --> 01:03:45,125 A delay might be 123 01:03:45,125 --> 01:03:47,208 redirection towards something better. 124 01:03:47,708 --> 01:03:48,625 Robbins notes, quote, 125 01:03:48,833 --> 01:03:49,666 "When you change the 126 01:03:49,666 --> 01:03:51,541 frame, you change the feeling, 127 01:03:51,875 --> 01:03:54,041 and that changes your life," end quote. 128 01:03:54,541 --> 01:03:55,416 Now, this chapter, 129 01:03:55,416 --> 01:03:58,208 it encourages daily reframing practice. 130 01:03:58,833 --> 01:04:00,250 Write down what's bothering you, 131 01:04:00,250 --> 01:04:02,791 then rewrite it as an opportunity. 132 01:04:03,291 --> 01:04:05,875 It's not denial, it's training your mind 133 01:04:05,875 --> 01:04:07,333 to see possibility 134 01:04:07,333 --> 01:04:09,541 instead of panic, okay? 135 01:04:09,833 --> 01:04:11,291 Here is your Monday takeaway. 136 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:14,166 Your perspective is your power. 137 01:04:14,750 --> 01:04:16,333 Change the frame and 138 01:04:16,333 --> 01:04:17,541 you change the story. 139 01:04:18,333 --> 01:04:19,708 Okay, so today, 140 01:04:19,750 --> 01:04:21,875 see the world through your truest colors. 141 01:04:22,083 --> 01:04:23,250 And at the end of the day, 142 01:04:23,250 --> 01:04:24,541 when push comes to shove, 143 01:04:24,916 --> 01:04:26,208 I decided to bite the 144 01:04:26,208 --> 01:04:27,625 board, roll with the punches, 145 01:04:27,625 --> 01:04:29,500 and let the chips fall where they may, 146 01:04:29,833 --> 01:04:30,958 because you can't have 147 01:04:30,958 --> 01:04:32,208 your cake and eat it too. 148 01:04:32,208 --> 01:04:33,791 But hey, it is what it is, 149 01:04:33,791 --> 01:04:35,541 and that's the way the cookie crumbles. 150 01:04:36,083 --> 01:04:38,791 And as always, have a fantastic day. 151 01:04:40,125 --> 01:04:41,666 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 152 01:04:41,666 --> 01:04:43,041 to the Morning Serial podcast 153 01:04:43,375 --> 01:04:45,125 on the One Life Live It channel. 154 01:04:45,708 --> 01:04:47,333 You can find more episodes and videos 155 01:04:47,500 --> 01:04:48,833 by visiting our YouTube channel 156 01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,375 and the website at seanenglish.com, 157 01:04:51,375 --> 01:04:52,833 and at seanenglish.com, 158 01:04:53,041 --> 01:04:53,791 where you can also 159 01:04:53,791 --> 01:04:55,208 follow our other podcasts, 160 01:04:55,583 --> 01:04:56,750 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 161 01:04:57,291 --> 01:04:58,458 and the Life Happens 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