I better get a little drink of something here before we start here.
And this is not alcohol so you know.
What's good.
Yeah I love I love that gift you got from your friend.
Yeah I got this from my friend Kathy with a Syrah K
with a cause that makes a difference.
Wow. Okay.
My name on it. Yeah.
And then on the back, it's you.
You are strong.
You are brave.
You are capable.
You are worthy.
You were beautiful. You are amazing. You are loved.
Something we should be saying to ourselves every day.
Every day, every day.
It's not arrogant.
It's not egotistical, you know?
It's just, you know,
it's like a song. Every.
Everything is beautiful in its own way. Ray Stevens.
Oh, my
gosh, you just put these names because I'm thinking.
Yeah.
What's up?
Lionel Richie? Well, I love Lionel Richie.
Yeah. Yeah. Ray Stevens.
So you did all those novelty songs back in the days, right?
Like.
And again,
if you're under 50 years old right now and you're thinking, rays genius.
Look. Look it up, look it up.
Well, yeah, well, you just turned 32, right?
That's right.
But. So. Yeah.
So something like this.
I really I really appreciate it.
It's just a great gesture. It it is.
I mean, and also what I appreciate is
I'm very lactose intolerant.
So I've been sneaking in some things that I shouldn't,
but I do love this plant based,
not substitute.
I guess,
in my cereal called ripple.
Ripple like a ripple effect.
It's really. Yeah. Right, right.
Was there like,
beverage?
I'm not sure.
Like what?
Ripple.
Sounds like it'd be a great name for, like, a goldfish or something.
Hey, ripple,
I just discovered today is not like this in my class.
No, no you don't.
Yeah.
I don't have to get that.
But that's.
Yeah. And it's very happy to have that.
Everyone's got these travel mugs and it's a really pretty,
travel mug.
And I never used to. Wow.
I just never did after all these years.
Now you're using a travel mug.
My wife, my wife, Patty, uses them every now and then.
The only thing she doesn't
let me take them out of the house because I lose them.
Where do you.
It's, I mean, I'll bring it to the radio station.
I bring it to the gym, and you know me, I'm a squirrel.
I get distracted really easy.
I'll put something down.
I go through so many sunglasses. That's.
That's why I only spend, like, 5 or 10 bucks in sunglasses.
They're probably not doing their part and helping me with the UV rays
and all that, but I lose them all the time.
You know, I always break my sunglasses.
You know what I'm saying? No.
You sit on sometimes, sit on the.
Whatever.
But then when I got a prescription.
And with the frames
and it came to 6600.
You know what's funny about that.
Years not broken anything.
I don't.
And what changed.
It was the value.
You know think about that I mean water tap water doesn't cost you anything.
And then you might go
get a bottle of water for a dollar, but then you go to a Yankee game
and it cost a 30 bucks for for a bottle of water.
The water's still the same.
But what changed?
Yeah, right. Right.
That's a really good point of what you're saying before.
Yeah.
You you are.
You're, Here's my big word for the day.
A salient point.
Yeah. You're.
Yeah, yeah. Well, I have a book in the radio station.
It's called Big Words, and I use one big word per show.
That's my quota. That's it.
This morning on the radio, I used to, axiomatic.
What?
Some certain things are axiomatic in life.
Like it's a given,
like choice.
You're like, you're the the the axiomatic author.
I want people to start
speaking like that again.
Language is getting lost and reduced and.
All right,
whatever.
I hell, I didn't
even let my grandson walks in my room and he says, yeah, I like I am.
Yeah.
And that was like a year ago.
And I was like, okay, so what are you.
Yeah, yeah.
Real in real life and real life.
Can't you just say in real life.
Right, right.
Or they'll say idk what sort of I don't know I'd k right.
Okay.
So yes I found that when you use big words
and I only kind of couple of them and
it had to do with an attorney that I was speaking.
Oh Joyce, that is so superfluous.
See like, you know,
Like like what?
I can't even think of it now, but it's,
self-governing, word self-governing.
There's one,
autonomous.
Yes, yes.
So I was explaining that my job
makes me more autonomous to do certain things,
and I found certain things just unconscionable.
And I used another word and I found that there were like three words.
If I use in a meeting, then I actually got more respect.
Right?
Looking at me differently, I want them at that.
Well, you're like the quintessential linguist.
How's that?
And this is all impromptu, folks.
This is impromptu.
Wow. People are going to think we're smart, but you know,
exact other people know better.
Actually, I made it up.
I mean, I was kind of.
I was kind of goofing around with that,
but you could probably get a lot of that then.
Like the thesaurus.
Learn that big word to day, I think, is I spent a lot of time,
I spent a lot of time listening to podcasts.
And I and also, you know, verbal and, you know, and just,
maybe the word of the day type thing,
and then I'll ask Siri, what does that mean?
Siri knows everything.
So who is that mean?
What's the difference between leaving bread and unleavened bread?
You know, when you're reading the Bible and all that, it's the the yeast.
You know, because you're you're a baker?
Yeah.
I think readers in general have,
a leaders, our readers.
I learned the best leaders on the planet are readers.
They read
and I think, you know, and you're in a position
in some of my America where we're leading people.
And how can we pour in the people and lead if we don't read em?
You know, and I think we owe it to other people
to to be the best version of ourselves.
You don't know. Yeah.
Check it for us.
I'm Alexa, Alexa or Siri?
She loves you.
Siri loves me.
I have, I have three of them.
The one that's in my bedroom must be best.
So when I thanked her
other day, sometimes she'll say you're so welcome.
But you know what? Here was a pause.
And then she's saying to me, she's saying a little thank you song to me.
I was love you.
Yeah. Patti was asking my wife.
Patti was asking Siri something or less at one point, and she goes, thank you.
And Siri goes, sure thing.
Oh, I mean, that was for sure thing.
It's just so cool, Yeah.
But then, like, my very wise check
was Turk answering
and he will say, you do know she's listening to everything you say.
Just compiling data on you.
Oh, that's what they say with Alexa.
They say that with TikTok, a lot of people that were being spied upon. But.
Right.
I got nothing to hide.
I don't think. Anyway.
Okay, maybe I do. Let's circle.
We could edit that. Stephanie. Yeah.
Okay. Yeah. But. All right.
So, you know, John and I were talking about
before, mindsets, everything and
mindset.
So people say, how do you do this?
Or how do you stay a positive? John,
how are you?
How do you handle at home?
I'm not at home.
And it's I can't stop to think about it.
I just have my mindset that this is what I do.
This is my life right now and this is what I need to do without complaining.
Every day.
You're like the horses in the Kentucky Derby.
They have the blinders on, right?
That keeps them going straight.
Oh, what a great analogy.
Yeah I do that's a that's kind of a big word like that.
Thank you.
Yeah that's a weak one.
But it's still well we'll put it in that category okay.
Yeah. It makes you feel good.
I don't want to impugn you.
You're getting off track now.
Can I have some more?
Yeah. Sweet coffee. Yeah.
You know what it is?
Everything you know is a mindset.
I could.
I think I can complain every day about every day is that I do complain about it.
And I've always just said, okay, enough.
All right. But,
But I don't dwell on it.
I don't let it overtake because
selfish and protective of my mind and my body to do that.
That's a good, selfish and good protective,
just like you're protective of, you know, those you take care of.
Yes. Their well-being.
Yeah.
There's, a new medical procedure that I have to do every night.
And it's like, sometimes I actually
almost falling asleep and realizing, oh, I didn't do it.
And until he's used to doing this, you know, procedure,
you know, I'm doing that, and I'm just stop the negative
thinking about it and thinking you have that mindset, you're focused
is going to make him feel better.
I'm going to learn how to do it himself.
And we're going to meet with the doctor about blah, blah, blah.
So it's just like, I can switch that on and off as every one of you can.
You can stop that negative, you know, banter in your mind.
You don't like the banter going on. Change the channel.
Yeah, change the channel in your mind.
You don't like a certain TV show? Change the channel.
Right? Right. You're doing the same thing with that.
With that, the negative thoughts come in.
You can easily alleviate them and just,
you know, change the channel, replace it with a positive thought.
Right. What's good today.
And you know what?
It takes an average of 21 days
to really change any bad habits.
And yeah.
And tell us about that choice. Because, you know,
some people say 21 days, some people say 30 to change a habit.
What would they like?
Give it a good 21 days. Yeah. Okay.
In my private practice, I would tell people,
you know, from the time you join your sold,
you put let's say you put your right
foot into your right shoe every morning
because we're not really conscious of that,
but we mostly do the same for every day, I say.
But for the next 21 days, I want you to be very, very aware,
and I want you to pause and put your left foot in the left shoe,
but on your calendar
on the 21st day, go back just putting your right foot in.
And every single person
came back and said, you know what?
My left foot was looking for that.
Yeah.
First day I couldn't even remember that
I put my right foot into that shoe.
So that's how quick your mind will accept.
It's something new.
So whether it's you're trying to give up
smoking or or, you know, whatever it is you have,
you gave up smoking in one night or one day, didn't you?
Oh, no.
You really started eating healthy and really all in the same night.
Wow. Yeah, that's an episode sometime down the line.
But that's mindset we got.
I mean, we could we could touch on that now a little bit.
Yeah I like that. Yeah. Let's do that okay.
That's really interesting I can't I can you can, you can.
Yes yes.
So I want to my doctor's I, since I was nine
months old, I, I was, not diagnosed.
I was hospitalized with pneumonia.
So my lungs have always been an issue.
And then I became asthmatic, and I had, you know, bronchitis all the time.
Money,
all that stuff.
And then I was fit enough to smoke.
Probably starting as a teen.
And then one day,
when I was older, I went to the doctor and he said,
you know, Joyce, if you keep this up,
you're going to have a very short life.
And that puts a fear in you.
I was I was drinking a lot that this was like the 80s
when everybody was not. You.
Happy hours.
And, you know, they were happy.
They. Yes.
I was always going out where people were ordering drinks and eating a lot.
And those happy hour ends are really not.
So, you know, those calories add up and those who oh, man, I was,
I was overweight and I was drinking and I was smoking.
And when I left this office
I went to at the time was cow doors.
Cow doors. I used to love shopping there.
Yeah.
And, bought myself an exercise bike.
Just a small little exercise bike.
And then exercising,
especially during that time of walking.
And I took all the cigarets in my house.
I threw it in the trash.
I took every bottle of wine
and brandy that we had in the house,
and I poured it over, almost like,
it was a ritual.
I was doing, and I poured it
over the cigarets and I said,
oh, I am done with you.
And then the thought came, oh,
I have a party at my apartment.
Oh, no.
And I just got rid of all this brandy.
How am I going to pull this off?
And I said to myself, well, you figure it out.
So when the party happened and it was a pizza party
and I did have wine, I did buy some wine for the people.
But what I did was I poured myself some sparkling water and a nice wine goblet.
And I put a piece of lemon over the glass. Yes.
And then I took off,
probably the opposite of what you would do.
I took off all the cheese off the pizza
and I took the salad that I had, and I put salad on top of it
and I rolled it sort of like a taco, and I ate that.
And when people said to me, or smoker's
choice, you want you want to step outside, have a cigaret with me.
I didn't say, oh, I gave up smoking.
It's so hard.
I said,
I don't feel like having one right now.
And the moment I did that, I realized
I was teaching my brain.
I wasn't saying it was hard
and no one asked if I was drinking or not because they assumed that I was one.
Nobody noticed what I was eating.
People aren't really staring at me, right?
And then when I would go out with others for food dinners, for lunch or whatever,
people would say
something like, do you want to, what do we want for dessert?
I said, I don't really feel like having dessert right now.
I just have a cup of coffee.
Well, I have a cigaret.
Out.
You want one?
I just don't feel like having one right now.
Great answer.
And John, it was as easy as that right.
In fact the only time I'll, I'll admit to this
that I took a sip of liquor
was I was on a plane ride that was going really bad, you know,
and you need to be somewhat sedated, or at least mildly.
It was like I was something horrible.
Oh, well, yeah.
Who could who can blame you?
And vodka and and he was really reassure.
So on many flights don't worry about this.
And people were calling and I'm like you're on a roller coaster.
All right what is going on?
And so I took a swig of the vodka.
But when we landed, he said he put his hand to the front seat
and he just put his hand down on the front seat.
And he said, Now I'm going to tell you, this was the,
wow. We're going to, going to kiss the ground.
Sure. You know, so that's the only time that I thought.
Oh. Oh, well, if I'm going to die, then I might as well take.
Right. Sure, sure. That was it.
And then I wondered. But that was reassuring him
to say that he was just trying to calm your your fears.
And I think it helped him. Yeah, right.
Act calm in front of me. But my nails were,
You probably still has nail prints to this day locked in.
Right?
But that's what really taught me,
you know, that was something that was 85
that I know was special.
And I can do this any good.
Do this.
You can.
People go cold turkey all the time
and did not have clinics and, and, you know,
help for people who wanted to quit smoking
and so that's all these thoughts started coming into my head
that you're talking about smoking now in general.
No, the patch company
is owned by the same people who sell the cigarets.
Yeah, yeah, it's that kind of incestuous or what?
Yeah.
So I, I did not want to put a patch on me.
Yeah. Things like that.
I just told myself every day that I no longer like the taste of it.
And what it was was a form of self hypnosis
that led to and for me to become a certified
hypnotherapist. And,
the rest is history from that.
But I do remember when I was going to college
and, my doctor recommended cause I was always an overachiever
because initially, all through school, I was an underachieving high with friends.
But will you be my friend?
Yeah.
And in college, like, I really wanted to succeed.
I really wanted to be a therapist, and I would get dizzy.
I wasn't even properly. I was studying all night.
I had two little kids at home and it was a lot.
It was a lot.
He said to me, I very conservative doctor, doctor Stanley Roth
said, you need to see a doctor.
It was like this.
So and so up the street from the hospital.
And he is also a therapist.
And he said, I don't think you need medication.
I think you need to I don't think he used the word mindset,
but he said, you need to learn how to relax.
So I went to see that was sage advice as you look back.
He was I really loved,
they thought that it
was a big part of my life since I was 19 years
old. And,
so when I went to see him, I wasn't sure I was,
you know, afraid in a way I couldn't he this
and he just he he asked me
like, what's the most anxious part of your day?
And so I told him and then he said, well, just relax.
And I just relax and close your eyes.
And he had to go through the scenario of, okay, you were here.
And as soon as you walked in here,
you suddenly feel yourself relaxed.
Like you really enjoyed this.
And that was it.
And I left.
And then the next day when I went to
that area in school.
I didn't realize it at first, but I was really relaxed.
I thought, oh, this is feels good.
This is so, it's like,
I remember him saying this,
so your mind will accept,
you know, basically whatever you tell it
in a sense, in a sense of what you want.
Right?
So the one thing that people have a misconception about hypnotherapy
is that you're going to quack like a dog.
You know, some.
People know what they're doing.
They really do.
You're doing it.
It's part of the act and and all of that.
What if you if you didn't want to do it?
No hypnotherapist can force him to do it.
It's what your mind wants, right?
So those people feel like they want to be.
So you have to be receptive, open to it.
Yes. So when most people visit a real hypnotherapist,
they're coming for serious issues.
So they want to change.
And so you're my job
then is to find out what they want
and then help them remember that the first time
anyone ever smoked a cigaret, you either smoke, smoke you
you smoke it, you either add your coffee, you get lightheaded.
Some people even feel numbness.
But what happens is
you begin saying to yourself,
but I love smoking.
I want to smoke.
I feel good when it calms me down.
After a tough day at work, I got to have that cigaret with that glass.
So you know, whatever.
So you become the hypnotist?
Your brain sure is what you want.
And your brain does whatever you tell it.
You know, like one of my favorite therapists told me
she was going to write a book one day called My Stupid Friend.
And it is because the brain will keep
if whatever you keep saying have to absorb it.
So having that in the back of my mind when I did that with the cigarets in the
and yeah,
so within a pretty short period of time
I lost about 40 pounds, which I have never.
Right. Yeah.
You're still leaning mean well, in a nice way.
Yeah. I'm feeling I.
Yeah.
But so that just shows me the power of the mind, you know neuroplasticity.
Is that right?
Yeah. The brain.
Yeah I know, I know.
Are you impressed with that?
My wife is just going.
Oh, she's rolling her eyes now.
There she goes again. Yeah.
So that's I think that's, that's
the message for today even talk about this. No.
But that's so important that you were able to do that all in one day.
Those three components in one day.
And I just carry some like some events with me.
Like I need did you need it.
No no no I,
I just remember it being really easy.
And I emphasized to myself, how could I?
Yes, I was saving money
and I felt better in general.
But I never told anyone.
I just did it.
In fact, one of the people in our little gang, I saw him
like almost two years
ago and he was in the hospital and very bad shape.
He has since passed and he's even a little younger than me.
And because he never stopped doing it to me, a lot of things.
But he said, I don't know.
He said, you know, I was with you then.
I don't remember that you quit smoking or you quit drinking.
I said, yeah, I did, right.
It was January 1985, and he's like, he's dead.
So yeah, I just never talked about it.
Got 40 years ago.
You were you were smoking when you were a seven.
Jeez.
I did start from I think it's about 12.
Really?
Because the girlfriend I had was three years older than, want
to hang around with the older girls and kind of be hip fit in with that.
Yeah.
And then she only one day she gave me, like, a I need a glass of water.
And this is something you should never do to anyone.
It was pure vodka.
Oh, we just came in from outside, right?
Yeah.
And it,
it that that's a cruel joke.
Very cruel.
Especially with a super hot day when you're dehydrated anyway.
And liquor dehydrate you.
She was one of those really good Saint Mary's girl.
Oh, really?
She's doing that?
That's right.
Yeah, yeah.
But, but I'm just saying that your your mind is way more powerful,
you realize.
And it's not a lot of hard work when you don't keep telling
everyone it's hard work.
So just say it's easy to do.
And now so are the aphorisms that you have right there on that gift you've gotten.
You know you're strong, you're brave, you're capable, you're worthy,
you're beautiful, you're amazing, your loved.
I mean, those things are not arrogance of you.
I can't say that to myself.
That's egotistical and arrogant.
No, it's not.
Oh, it's not I mean, it's not like you're doing it in a whole room full of people.
I mean, when you're waking up in the morning, you look in the mirror
and you just, you know, too many times we all look at the flaws.
What do you like about yourself? What's good about you?
The word beautiful can mean a lot of different things.
I just externally.
Yeah, it could be that, you know, life is beautiful.
Now I'm a creation.
I'm here for a reason, right?
I mean, God created this magnificent machine.
You know, he really did.
Yeah, he did create that, he did, he did.
You kept it.
Well, yeah, we do.
We do make those choices.
But like you, I mean, you're a fitness, fanatic in a sense,
and that's the opposite. And so am I.
I mean, I consider myself a fitness, and that's a maybe a strong word, but.
Yeah, fanatical about that. Yeah.
I just make sure I do it every day during the car accident.
And you want my back.
Hasn't been easy, but I make sure that you don't use it as an excuse.
I see so many people come into the gym and they have the even older people.
I mean, they have oxygen, you know, they have bags.
They're they're bringing in.
They have, you know, a, a walker and they still find a way to get there.
And they I admire them.
So I said, what's my excuse if they're able to get here?
So, you know, it's looking it's mindset.
It's mindset. We are what we think.
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