1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,958 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:11,958 --> 01:00:13,083 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:13,083 --> 01:00:14,458 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:14,916 --> 01:00:16,916 Well, it's July 30th. 6 01:00:16,916 --> 01:00:19,916 We're almost through July and today is 7 01:00:19,916 --> 01:00:21,208 International Day of Friendship. 8 01:00:21,500 --> 01:00:21,875 That's right. 9 01:00:22,333 --> 01:00:24,416 That's the day to text your bestie a meme 10 01:00:24,416 --> 01:00:25,500 or tag them in a 11 01:00:25,500 --> 01:00:27,000 throwback pic or maybe just 12 01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:28,166 remind them they're 13 01:00:28,166 --> 01:00:29,625 still your emergency contact. 14 01:00:30,166 --> 01:00:31,541 Or maybe, and just hear me out here, this 15 01:00:31,541 --> 01:00:33,041 is crazy, but maybe 16 01:00:33,041 --> 01:00:34,625 actually call someone. 17 01:00:34,875 --> 01:00:35,208 Too much? 18 01:00:35,541 --> 01:00:35,833 Too much? 19 01:00:36,291 --> 01:00:36,583 Okay. 20 01:00:36,916 --> 01:00:38,291 Well, let's go ahead and move on from 21 01:00:38,291 --> 01:00:39,375 those warm fuzzies to 22 01:00:39,375 --> 01:00:41,125 some wise words with today's 23 01:00:41,125 --> 01:00:44,333 quote from Lisa Kudrow who once said, "If 24 01:00:44,333 --> 01:00:46,333 you can't be funny, be interesting. 25 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:47,291 If you can't be 26 01:00:47,291 --> 01:00:48,833 interesting, just be quiet." 27 01:00:50,083 --> 01:00:51,625 Now, that's some real talk 28 01:00:51,625 --> 01:00:53,541 from the queen of quirky cool. 29 01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:56,416 Now, in a world full of noise, sometimes 30 01:00:56,416 --> 01:00:57,375 just showing up with 31 01:00:57,375 --> 01:00:58,708 curiosity or just knowing 32 01:00:58,708 --> 01:01:00,916 when to zip it, that in 33 01:01:00,916 --> 01:01:02,333 itself could be a powerful thing. 34 01:01:03,125 --> 01:01:04,166 Well, today's news, facts, 35 01:01:04,416 --> 01:01:06,333 and birthdays are for July 30th. 36 01:01:06,333 --> 01:01:07,666 We're going to start back in 1932. 37 01:01:08,416 --> 01:01:10,250 That's when the first Olympic Games that 38 01:01:10,250 --> 01:01:11,166 were in Los Angeles 39 01:01:11,166 --> 01:01:12,875 opened, but here's what 40 01:01:12,875 --> 01:01:13,166 it is. 41 01:01:13,416 --> 01:01:15,750 It's the first Olympic Games that was the 42 01:01:15,750 --> 01:01:18,583 debut of the now famous Olympic Village. 43 01:01:19,416 --> 01:01:19,666 All right. 44 01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:22,583 In 1975, former Teamsters President Jimmy 45 01:01:22,583 --> 01:01:24,208 Hoffa, he disappeared 46 01:01:24,208 --> 01:01:25,833 from a Detroit parking 47 01:01:25,833 --> 01:01:27,333 lot on this day and 48 01:01:27,333 --> 01:01:29,708 still no RSVP from him. 49 01:01:29,958 --> 01:01:30,416 Too soon? 50 01:01:31,125 --> 01:01:33,625 Well, finally, in 2003 on this day, the 51 01:01:33,625 --> 01:01:34,875 last of the original 52 01:01:34,875 --> 01:01:36,416 Volkswagen Beetles, they rolled 53 01:01:36,416 --> 01:01:38,000 off their production line in Mexico. 54 01:01:38,833 --> 01:01:40,291 Well, happy birthday to you. 55 01:01:40,583 --> 01:01:41,916 Today is your birthday. 56 01:01:42,416 --> 01:01:43,875 You share a birthday with, 57 01:01:43,875 --> 01:01:45,916 well, basically everyone. 58 01:01:46,333 --> 01:01:46,750 Here they are. 59 01:01:46,750 --> 01:01:47,708 I'm going to run through them fast. 60 01:01:47,708 --> 01:01:48,083 Are you ready? 61 01:01:49,416 --> 01:01:50,666 Here's the goldkeeper, Hope Solo. 62 01:01:50,666 --> 01:01:51,666 She's 43 today. 63 01:01:52,250 --> 01:01:53,541 Academy Award winning actress, Hilary 64 01:01:53,541 --> 01:01:54,875 Swank, she's 50 today. 65 01:01:55,583 --> 01:01:56,625 Actress, comedian, Liza 66 01:01:56,625 --> 01:01:58,916 Kudrow, she's 61 today. 67 01:01:59,541 --> 01:02:00,958 Actor from The Matrix, Boy's in the Hood, 68 01:02:01,208 --> 01:02:03,041 Lawrence Fishburne, he's 63 today. 69 01:02:03,625 --> 01:02:04,708 Actor, bodybuilder, and former Governor 70 01:02:04,708 --> 01:02:05,708 of California, Arnold 71 01:02:05,708 --> 01:02:06,875 Schwarzenegger, he's 77 72 01:02:07,291 --> 01:02:07,333 today. 73 01:02:08,291 --> 01:02:09,916 Industrialist, and founder of Ford Motor 74 01:02:09,916 --> 01:02:10,958 Company, the late Henry 75 01:02:10,958 --> 01:02:13,541 Ford, he was born in 1863 on 76 01:02:13,541 --> 01:02:14,000 this day. 77 01:02:14,708 --> 01:02:17,666 And novelist and poet, the late Emily 78 01:02:17,666 --> 01:02:18,750 Bronte, she was born 79 01:02:18,750 --> 01:02:20,750 on this date in 1818. 80 01:02:21,416 --> 01:02:23,333 Well, the number one song on this date 81 01:02:23,333 --> 01:02:26,958 back in 1989 was Toy Soldiers by Martika. 82 01:02:27,500 --> 01:02:30,750 Now this is a haunting pop ballad that I 83 01:02:30,750 --> 01:02:31,791 just love the feel of it. 84 01:02:31,791 --> 01:02:32,750 I loved it back then. 85 01:02:32,750 --> 01:02:33,791 I still love it today. 86 01:02:34,291 --> 01:02:37,041 However, I did not realize that this song 87 01:02:37,041 --> 01:02:38,000 was written about a 88 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:39,583 friend's battle with addiction. 89 01:02:40,125 --> 01:02:41,458 And that totally changes 90 01:02:41,458 --> 01:02:42,958 how those lyrics land, right? 91 01:02:43,250 --> 01:02:45,333 Left, right, left, we all fall down. 92 01:02:45,916 --> 01:02:47,625 Well, it climbed to the top of the 93 01:02:47,625 --> 01:02:49,291 Billboard Hot 100, marking 94 01:02:49,291 --> 01:02:51,125 Martika's only number one hit. 95 01:02:51,750 --> 01:02:53,500 And it has since become an underrated 96 01:02:53,500 --> 01:02:54,916 classic of the late 80s. 97 01:02:54,916 --> 01:02:55,916 And it's been sampled in 98 01:02:55,916 --> 01:02:57,500 some great songs since. 99 01:02:58,375 --> 01:03:01,000 Well, left, right, left, let's step into 100 01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:02,916 our book review from Stephen R. Covey's 101 01:03:02,916 --> 01:03:05,125 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. 102 01:03:05,500 --> 01:03:06,625 And we're in part three, 103 01:03:06,625 --> 01:03:08,000 habit four, think win-win. 104 01:03:08,500 --> 01:03:10,375 And today we dive into the sub-chapter, 105 01:03:10,833 --> 01:03:12,666 which option is best. 106 01:03:13,125 --> 01:03:15,291 And Covey lays out a practical framework 107 01:03:15,291 --> 01:03:18,500 for choosing win-win as a principle, not 108 01:03:18,500 --> 01:03:19,625 just a tactic, okay? 109 01:03:20,041 --> 01:03:21,416 It's not about being nice. 110 01:03:21,416 --> 01:03:23,041 It's about being courageous and 111 01:03:23,041 --> 01:03:24,250 considerate of others. 112 01:03:24,666 --> 01:03:27,375 Covey says, quote, win-win is a belief in 113 01:03:27,375 --> 01:03:28,750 the third alternative. 114 01:03:29,250 --> 01:03:30,250 It's not your way. 115 01:03:30,250 --> 01:03:31,291 It's not my way. 116 01:03:31,291 --> 01:03:32,416 It's a better way, a 117 01:03:32,416 --> 01:03:33,791 higher way, end quote. 118 01:03:34,333 --> 01:03:36,916 And that's a mindset that moves us out of 119 01:03:36,916 --> 01:03:38,500 competition with others, right? 120 01:03:38,791 --> 01:03:39,666 And it moves us into 121 01:03:39,666 --> 01:03:41,000 collaboration with others. 122 01:03:41,625 --> 01:03:42,958 So how do we get that? 123 01:03:43,083 --> 01:03:45,875 Covey suggests that we stop asking who's 124 01:03:45,875 --> 01:03:48,666 right and ask instead what's right. 125 01:03:49,333 --> 01:03:51,458 It's about aligning deeply with our own 126 01:03:51,458 --> 01:03:54,250 values while also understanding the needs 127 01:03:54,250 --> 01:03:55,541 and concerns of others. 128 01:03:55,916 --> 01:03:56,083 Okay? 129 01:03:56,500 --> 01:03:58,541 The win-win mindset thrives in 130 01:03:58,541 --> 01:04:00,416 relationships where there's mutual 131 01:04:00,416 --> 01:04:02,250 respect, trust and an 132 01:04:02,250 --> 01:04:03,541 abundance mentality. 133 01:04:04,333 --> 01:04:05,458 The belief that there's 134 01:04:05,458 --> 01:04:07,000 enough success to go around. 135 01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,666 I know we keep repeating that and I just 136 01:04:08,666 --> 01:04:11,041 love that because it's sometimes hard to 137 01:04:11,041 --> 01:04:11,875 believe that's true. 138 01:04:11,916 --> 01:04:13,875 But it actually changes the way you live 139 01:04:13,875 --> 01:04:14,750 and you actually start 140 01:04:14,750 --> 01:04:16,958 wrapping your mind around that. 141 01:04:17,500 --> 01:04:20,166 But Covey doesn't sugarcoat this, okay? 142 01:04:20,625 --> 01:04:23,291 He admits that win-win isn't always the 143 01:04:23,291 --> 01:04:24,958 easiest or the quickest route. 144 01:04:25,375 --> 01:04:27,125 It takes time, it takes emotional 145 01:04:27,125 --> 01:04:29,583 maturity and it takes a willingness to 146 01:04:29,583 --> 01:04:31,583 walk away when the situation doesn't 147 01:04:31,583 --> 01:04:33,625 support mutual benefit. 148 01:04:33,833 --> 01:04:34,500 That's not easy. 149 01:04:34,958 --> 01:04:36,083 And that's where the win-win 150 01:04:36,083 --> 01:04:38,250 or no deal option comes in. 151 01:04:38,833 --> 01:04:40,708 Ultimately, Covey's point is this. 152 01:04:40,791 --> 01:04:43,208 When we frame decisions through the lens 153 01:04:43,208 --> 01:04:45,000 of shared victories, right? 154 01:04:45,291 --> 01:04:47,875 We build trust in long-term results, not 155 01:04:47,875 --> 01:04:49,000 just short-term wins. 156 01:04:49,666 --> 01:04:52,458 And as Covey puts it, "You can't achieve 157 01:04:52,458 --> 01:04:55,041 a win-win with techniques alone. 158 01:04:55,291 --> 01:04:56,458 It takes character." 159 01:04:57,833 --> 01:04:59,166 Okay, here's your takeaway. 160 01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:02,166 In your next negotiation, whether it's 161 01:05:02,166 --> 01:05:04,625 with a client or deciding what's for 162 01:05:04,625 --> 01:05:06,750 dinner, pause and ask, 163 01:05:07,666 --> 01:05:09,750 what does a win-win look like here? 164 01:05:10,125 --> 01:05:11,083 That single question 165 01:05:11,083 --> 01:05:12,458 might just change everything. 166 01:05:13,208 --> 01:05:14,708 All right, well, that's a wrap for your 167 01:05:14,708 --> 01:05:16,166 Wednesday dose of morning cereal. 168 01:05:16,666 --> 01:05:17,500 Give a shout out to your 169 01:05:17,500 --> 01:05:19,166 favorite friend today and remember, 170 01:05:19,583 --> 01:05:20,958 Misocudro's wisdom. 171 01:05:21,166 --> 01:05:22,458 It can't be funny or interesting. 172 01:05:23,083 --> 01:05:23,708 I don't know, maybe 173 01:05:23,708 --> 01:05:25,291 crank up some Martina, right? 174 01:05:25,791 --> 01:05:27,458 Hey, thanks for hanging out with us and 175 01:05:27,458 --> 01:05:28,666 as always, come back 176 01:05:28,666 --> 01:05:31,250 tomorrow and have a fantastic day. 177 01:05:33,041 --> 01:05:34,791 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 178 01:05:34,791 --> 01:05:36,708 the Morning Cereal podcast on the One 179 01:05:36,708 --> 01:05:37,958 Life Live It channel. 180 01:05:38,500 --> 01:05:40,500 You can find more episodes and videos by 181 01:05:40,500 --> 01:05:41,250 visiting our YouTube 182 01:05:41,250 --> 01:05:43,000 channel and the website at 183 01:05:43,208 --> 01:05:47,125 seanenglish.com where you can also follow 184 01:05:47,125 --> 01:05:48,458 our other podcast, the 185 01:05:48,458 --> 01:05:49,750 Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 186 01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:51,333 and the Life Happens podcast. 187 01:05:52,166 --> 01:05:53,833 In these other podcasts, we'll dive 188 01:05:53,833 --> 01:05:55,250 deeper into everyday issues, 189 01:05:55,500 --> 01:05:56,708 self-improvement and well-being, 190 01:05:57,000 --> 01:05:58,750 business and finance, and we 191 01:05:58,750 --> 01:06:00,000 welcome special guests too. 192 01:06:00,541 --> 01:06:01,583 So join us. It'll be a 193 01:06:01,583 --> 01:06:02,583 good time, I promise. 194 01:06:03,291 --> 01:06:04,583 Thanks again for listening. Have a 195 01:06:04,583 --> 01:06:06,458 fantastic day and we'll see you tomorrow.