1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,958 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:13,833 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:14,041 --> 01:00:16,666 We made it to another Friday, best day of 5 01:00:16,666 --> 01:00:17,875 the work or the school 6 01:00:17,875 --> 01:00:19,291 week because tomorrow 7 01:00:19,375 --> 01:00:20,708 we get to do whatever we want. 8 01:00:21,458 --> 01:00:23,083 Unless I guess we have homework or we got 9 01:00:23,083 --> 01:00:24,125 to go to work or we got 10 01:00:24,125 --> 01:00:25,208 sports schedules taken 11 01:00:25,208 --> 01:00:25,916 up the whole day. 12 01:00:26,125 --> 01:00:27,208 But either way, you get 13 01:00:27,208 --> 01:00:27,958 what I'm saying, right? 14 01:00:28,666 --> 01:00:31,166 Well, today is national, my favorite 15 01:00:31,166 --> 01:00:34,041 cake, it's National Angel Food Cake Day. 16 01:00:34,333 --> 01:00:36,000 This was also my late Papa Knight's 17 01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:36,875 favorite cake as well. 18 01:00:37,125 --> 01:00:38,875 So if you love it too, you 19 01:00:38,875 --> 01:00:40,416 are in very good company. 20 01:00:40,916 --> 01:00:43,708 But if you've never had the enjoyment of 21 01:00:43,708 --> 01:00:44,833 this light, fluffy 22 01:00:44,833 --> 01:00:46,458 dessert cake in your mouth, 23 01:00:46,833 --> 01:00:48,291 I'd highly recommend it. 24 01:00:48,583 --> 01:00:49,750 And if you're going to do it, go and 25 01:00:49,750 --> 01:00:51,208 drizzle some really sugary 26 01:00:51,208 --> 01:00:52,833 strawberries and the strawberry 27 01:00:52,833 --> 01:00:54,458 juice on top while you're at it. 28 01:00:54,833 --> 01:00:55,250 Very good. 29 01:00:55,958 --> 01:00:57,666 Alright, well, our quote today is from 30 01:00:57,666 --> 01:00:59,125 someone who many of us 31 01:00:59,125 --> 01:01:00,416 grew up with when he was on 32 01:01:00,416 --> 01:01:02,666 Saved by the Bell, although we just did a 33 01:01:02,666 --> 01:01:03,708 lot less dancing at 34 01:01:03,708 --> 01:01:04,583 our high school than he 35 01:01:04,583 --> 01:01:04,875 did. 36 01:01:05,583 --> 01:01:08,208 Mario Lopez said, "The key is to keep 37 01:01:08,208 --> 01:01:09,750 moving forward, even when 38 01:01:09,750 --> 01:01:11,166 you don't know what's coming." 39 01:01:12,083 --> 01:01:13,416 And it's not about 40 01:01:13,416 --> 01:01:14,791 having the perfect plan. 41 01:01:15,083 --> 01:01:15,875 Sometimes it's about 42 01:01:15,875 --> 01:01:17,666 just creating momentum. 43 01:01:18,416 --> 01:01:20,208 Alright, well, today's news, facts and 44 01:01:20,208 --> 01:01:22,541 birthdays are for October 10th. 45 01:01:22,541 --> 01:01:23,541 And here's an update. 46 01:01:23,708 --> 01:01:25,416 Remember the Great Chicago Fire that we 47 01:01:25,416 --> 01:01:26,750 talked about just three days ago? 48 01:01:27,166 --> 01:01:29,375 Well, it was today that the fire was 49 01:01:29,375 --> 01:01:32,208 finally extinguished in 1871. 50 01:01:32,916 --> 01:01:36,333 And lastly on this date in 1991, the last 51 01:01:36,333 --> 01:01:39,041 of several high profile attacks by postal 52 01:01:39,041 --> 01:01:41,541 workers was committed, resulting in that 53 01:01:41,541 --> 01:01:43,416 phrase going postal 54 01:01:43,416 --> 01:01:45,500 into the American lexicon. 55 01:01:45,958 --> 01:01:47,666 Alright, well, happy birthday to you. 56 01:01:47,791 --> 01:01:48,583 Today's your birthday. 57 01:01:48,791 --> 01:01:50,041 You share a birthday with TV 58 01:01:50,041 --> 01:01:51,750 host and actor Mario Lopez. 59 01:01:51,750 --> 01:01:52,916 He's 52 today. 60 01:01:53,541 --> 01:01:55,333 Hall of Fame QB from some 61 01:01:55,333 --> 01:01:56,666 football team, I can't remember. 62 01:01:56,666 --> 01:01:58,916 Brett Favre, he's 55 today. 63 01:01:59,458 --> 01:02:00,041 California Governor 64 01:02:00,041 --> 01:02:01,541 Gavin Newsom, 58 today. 65 01:02:01,958 --> 01:02:04,958 And Rocker and Van Halen frontman David 66 01:02:04,958 --> 01:02:06,958 Lee Roth, he is 71 today. 67 01:02:07,458 --> 01:02:09,625 Now the number one song on this date back 68 01:02:09,625 --> 01:02:12,000 in 1991 was "Good 69 01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:13,500 Vibrations" by Marky Mark 70 01:02:13,500 --> 01:02:14,416 and the Funky Bunch. 71 01:02:14,916 --> 01:02:16,416 Now for those of you keeping track again, 72 01:02:16,625 --> 01:02:19,041 Marky Mark is Mark Wahlberg, who seems to 73 01:02:19,083 --> 01:02:21,333 have distanced himself a little bit from 74 01:02:21,333 --> 01:02:22,416 his Marky Mark days. 75 01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:24,166 But here's a fun fact for you. 76 01:02:24,666 --> 01:02:27,041 Apparently, there was a Marky Mark in the 77 01:02:27,041 --> 01:02:28,500 Funky Bunch video game. 78 01:02:28,958 --> 01:02:30,208 That was not a hit. 79 01:02:31,375 --> 01:02:31,958 Not surprisingly. 80 01:02:33,041 --> 01:02:35,125 And apparently, this may have helped 81 01:02:35,125 --> 01:02:36,333 influence Mark's very 82 01:02:36,333 --> 01:02:38,083 successful career change into 83 01:02:38,083 --> 01:02:38,416 acting. 84 01:02:38,875 --> 01:02:40,250 Well, it was Marky Mark in the Funky 85 01:02:40,250 --> 01:02:41,583 Bunch's only number one 86 01:02:41,583 --> 01:02:43,500 hit, but it was still a great 87 01:02:43,500 --> 01:02:44,250 90s hit. 88 01:02:44,958 --> 01:02:47,750 Okay, speaking of good vibrations, Mel 89 01:02:47,750 --> 01:02:49,125 Robbins' book, The Let 90 01:02:49,125 --> 01:02:50,833 Them Theory, is providing some 91 01:02:50,833 --> 01:02:52,375 sound sensations, right? 92 01:02:52,916 --> 01:02:53,708 Today's sub-chapter, 93 01:02:54,166 --> 01:02:55,791 before we dive in, two warnings. 94 01:02:56,458 --> 01:02:57,291 This is where Robin 95 01:02:57,291 --> 01:02:58,708 pauses with, guess what? 96 01:02:59,416 --> 01:02:59,916 Two warnings. 97 01:03:00,333 --> 01:03:01,000 Okay, here it is. 98 01:03:01,625 --> 01:03:02,375 Warning number one, 99 01:03:02,833 --> 01:03:04,750 discomfort is part of the process. 100 01:03:05,291 --> 01:03:06,166 Letting go of control 101 01:03:06,166 --> 01:03:07,916 doesn't feel natural at first. 102 01:03:07,916 --> 01:03:09,500 It feels itchy, as she says. 103 01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:12,458 Your brain is wired to chase certainty, 104 01:03:12,666 --> 01:03:14,000 so practicing Let 105 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:15,666 Them can trigger anxiety. 106 01:03:16,125 --> 01:03:17,333 What if they don't change? 107 01:03:17,541 --> 01:03:18,583 What if I look weak? 108 01:03:19,083 --> 01:03:21,458 Now, Robbins reframes that sensation, 109 01:03:21,875 --> 01:03:22,583 those questions, as 110 01:03:22,583 --> 01:03:24,208 progress, not failure. 111 01:03:24,875 --> 01:03:25,958 Discomfort means the 112 01:03:25,958 --> 01:03:28,125 habit loop is being rewritten. 113 01:03:28,833 --> 01:03:29,916 Expect awkward steps. 114 01:03:30,250 --> 01:03:31,333 The unsent text. 115 01:03:31,750 --> 01:03:32,750 The measured response 116 01:03:32,750 --> 01:03:33,791 instead of a lecture. 117 01:03:34,125 --> 01:03:35,875 The decision to move on with your day. 118 01:03:36,416 --> 01:03:37,791 Each is a tiny win that 119 01:03:37,791 --> 01:03:39,250 builds emotional stamina. 120 01:03:39,708 --> 01:03:41,458 Okay, here's warning number two. 121 01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:43,833 Boundaries invite pushback. 122 01:03:44,375 --> 01:03:46,750 When you stop over-functioning, some 123 01:03:46,750 --> 01:03:48,625 people won't like the new you. 124 01:03:48,958 --> 01:03:50,916 They benefited from your constant 125 01:03:50,916 --> 01:03:52,750 reminders, your rescuing of 126 01:03:52,750 --> 01:03:54,833 them, your availability to 127 01:03:54,833 --> 01:03:55,041 them. 128 01:03:55,750 --> 01:03:58,250 Robin's guidance here is, "anticipate 129 01:03:58,250 --> 01:03:59,958 resistance and stay steady. 130 01:04:00,291 --> 01:04:01,500 You're not punishing anyone. 131 01:04:01,500 --> 01:04:03,416 You're protecting your peace." 132 01:04:03,958 --> 01:04:05,958 Let them doesn't eliminate boundaries. 133 01:04:05,958 --> 01:04:07,458 It actually clarifies them. 134 01:04:08,041 --> 01:04:10,291 Pair the mindset with simple scripts. 135 01:04:10,666 --> 01:04:11,875 I'm not available for that. 136 01:04:12,125 --> 01:04:12,750 Or here's another one. 137 01:04:12,750 --> 01:04:13,666 I'll be starting on 138 01:04:13,666 --> 01:04:15,625 time or happy to help. 139 01:04:15,625 --> 01:04:16,833 Here's what I can do. 140 01:04:17,208 --> 01:04:17,416 Okay? 141 01:04:17,875 --> 01:04:19,541 Calm, consistent follow through. 142 01:04:19,541 --> 01:04:21,583 Well, it teaches others how to treat you. 143 01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:23,083 So how do you hold the 144 01:04:23,083 --> 01:04:24,791 line in these situations? 145 01:04:24,791 --> 01:04:26,208 Well, first, name it, right? 146 01:04:26,500 --> 01:04:28,416 I'm feeling the urge to fix something. 147 01:04:28,416 --> 01:04:30,583 Well, that's discomfort talking, okay? 148 01:04:31,125 --> 01:04:33,583 Then maybe just take a breath and wait. 149 01:04:33,875 --> 01:04:36,583 Give the impulse 90 seconds to pass. 150 01:04:37,333 --> 01:04:39,208 And then return to focus. 151 01:04:39,500 --> 01:04:41,125 Choose one next right 152 01:04:41,125 --> 01:04:42,791 action for you, okay? 153 01:04:43,375 --> 01:04:45,083 Here is your Friday takeaway. 154 01:04:45,958 --> 01:04:47,583 Expect discomfort and 155 01:04:47,583 --> 01:04:49,041 pushback and keep going. 156 01:04:49,791 --> 01:04:51,583 Those are signs that you're shifting from 157 01:04:51,583 --> 01:04:53,750 controlling others to leading yourself. 158 01:04:54,375 --> 01:04:56,583 So today, enjoy that cake from the 159 01:04:56,583 --> 01:04:57,791 angels, keep moving 160 01:04:57,791 --> 01:05:00,166 forward and embrace the process, 161 01:05:00,625 --> 01:05:01,958 even the uncomfortable parts. 162 01:05:02,375 --> 01:05:05,041 And if nothing else, today is Friday. 163 01:05:05,291 --> 01:05:06,625 So we've got that going for ourselves. 164 01:05:07,125 --> 01:05:08,541 Hey, thanks for finishing the week here 165 01:05:08,541 --> 01:05:09,125 with Morning Serial. 166 01:05:09,375 --> 01:05:11,291 Have a great weekend and we'll see you 167 01:05:11,291 --> 01:05:12,791 back here on Monday. 168 01:05:13,041 --> 01:05:14,375 Have a fantastic day. 169 01:05:15,833 --> 01:05:17,500 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 170 01:05:17,500 --> 01:05:18,166 the Morning Serial 171 01:05:18,166 --> 01:05:20,250 podcast on the One Life Live 172 01:05:20,250 --> 01:05:20,750 It channel. 173 01:05:21,250 --> 01:05:23,208 You can find more episodes and videos by 174 01:05:23,208 --> 01:05:23,958 visiting our YouTube 175 01:05:23,958 --> 01:05:26,125 channel and the website at Shawn 176 01:05:26,125 --> 01:05:28,875 Inglis and at ShawnInglis.com, where you 177 01:05:28,875 --> 01:05:30,000 can also follow our 178 01:05:30,000 --> 01:05:31,458 other podcasts, the Mr. and 179 01:05:31,500 --> 01:05:33,000 Mrs. Inglis podcast and 180 01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:33,916 the Life Happens podcast. 181 01:05:34,875 --> 01:05:36,541 And these other podcasts, we'll dive 182 01:05:36,541 --> 01:05:37,916 deeper into everyday issues, 183 01:05:38,166 --> 01:05:38,958 self-improvement and 184 01:05:39,291 --> 01:05:41,458 well-being, business and finance, and we 185 01:05:41,458 --> 01:05:42,708 welcome special guests too. 186 01:05:43,250 --> 01:05:43,958 So join us. 187 01:05:43,958 --> 01:05:45,250 It will be a good time, I promise. 188 01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:46,875 Thanks again for listening. 189 01:05:47,041 --> 01:05:48,625 Have a fantastic day and 190 01:05:48,625 --> 01:05:49,166 we'll see you tomorrow.