1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:12,791 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:12,791 --> 01:00:14,000 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:14,750 --> 01:00:17,500 Well, I'm so sad to know just how far off 6 01:00:17,500 --> 01:00:18,208 my Super Bowl 7 01:00:18,208 --> 01:00:19,583 prediction was on yesterday's 8 01:00:19,583 --> 01:00:19,833 show. 9 01:00:20,500 --> 01:00:22,125 Obviously, having not yet watched the 10 01:00:22,125 --> 01:00:23,041 Super Bowl when the show 11 01:00:23,041 --> 01:00:24,916 was recorded, but the Super 12 01:00:24,916 --> 01:00:26,166 Bowl wasn't exciting. 13 01:00:26,416 --> 01:00:28,458 The Budweiser's Clydesdale didn't do 14 01:00:28,458 --> 01:00:29,250 anything that blew my 15 01:00:29,250 --> 01:00:31,416 mind, and Kelsey and Taylor are 16 01:00:31,416 --> 01:00:32,875 still together as far as I know. 17 01:00:33,583 --> 01:00:35,916 So I guess it's appropriate that today is 18 01:00:35,916 --> 01:00:38,291 National Don't Cry over Spilled Milk Day. 19 01:00:38,875 --> 01:00:40,583 So let's just move on to bigger and 20 01:00:40,583 --> 01:00:42,333 brighter things like Happy 21 01:00:42,333 --> 01:00:43,958 National Armed Forces Day. 22 01:00:44,458 --> 01:00:45,875 Thank you to all of you that serve. 23 01:00:46,625 --> 01:00:48,625 And it's also National Make a Friend Day. 24 01:00:48,958 --> 01:00:51,291 So utilize all those personal growth 25 01:00:51,291 --> 01:00:53,041 actions and concepts that 26 01:00:53,041 --> 01:00:53,875 you're learning in the book 27 01:00:53,875 --> 01:00:55,041 review segment to 28 01:00:55,041 --> 01:00:56,166 make a new friend today. 29 01:00:56,625 --> 01:00:58,708 Here's a hint, start with a smile. 30 01:00:59,416 --> 01:01:01,208 Okay, let's just go ahead and jump right 31 01:01:01,208 --> 01:01:02,125 on into today's 32 01:01:02,125 --> 01:01:03,333 episode with today's quotes. 33 01:01:03,583 --> 01:01:05,375 One fun, nostalgic quote, and then a 34 01:01:05,375 --> 01:01:06,458 second quote to tease our 35 01:01:06,458 --> 01:01:07,833 book review later in the 36 01:01:07,916 --> 01:01:08,166 episode. 37 01:01:08,875 --> 01:01:10,000 Hopefully, one of these quotes will speak 38 01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:10,666 to you and jumpstart 39 01:01:10,666 --> 01:01:11,625 your day in a positive 40 01:01:11,875 --> 01:01:12,166 direction. 41 01:01:12,875 --> 01:01:15,041 The first quote is from George Lucas. 42 01:01:15,708 --> 01:01:17,916 And I love this quote of his because it's 43 01:01:17,916 --> 01:01:19,041 something I often tell 44 01:01:19,041 --> 01:01:20,250 myself when times get 45 01:01:20,250 --> 01:01:20,541 tough. 46 01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:22,250 And I often use it as 47 01:01:22,250 --> 01:01:23,791 a closer on this show. 48 01:01:23,791 --> 01:01:25,750 Here's what George said, quote, you 49 01:01:25,750 --> 01:01:27,125 simply have to put one 50 01:01:27,125 --> 01:01:28,291 foot in front of the other 51 01:01:28,416 --> 01:01:29,375 and keep going. 52 01:01:30,041 --> 01:01:31,750 Put blinders on and plow 53 01:01:31,750 --> 01:01:33,208 right ahead, end quote. 54 01:01:34,166 --> 01:01:36,083 And George adds the blinders part of the 55 01:01:36,083 --> 01:01:36,875 quote to the end of 56 01:01:36,875 --> 01:01:38,000 it, which is right on. 57 01:01:38,166 --> 01:01:39,250 It speaks to having a 58 01:01:39,250 --> 01:01:41,416 focus of just trudging forward. 59 01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:43,125 It's a good addition to the saying. 60 01:01:44,375 --> 01:01:46,166 And today's teaser quote from the book 61 01:01:46,166 --> 01:01:47,875 review is, "Remember, 62 01:01:48,208 --> 01:01:49,666 you can measure the size of 63 01:01:49,666 --> 01:01:51,708 a person by what makes him 64 01:01:51,708 --> 01:01:53,750 or her angry," end quote. 65 01:01:54,500 --> 01:01:56,708 And as usual, we'll unpack that here in 66 01:01:56,708 --> 01:01:57,500 just a minute during 67 01:01:57,500 --> 01:01:58,458 our book review segment. 68 01:01:58,708 --> 01:02:00,916 But first, let's jump into our usual dose 69 01:02:00,916 --> 01:02:02,000 of fun and historic 70 01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:03,000 facts from this day in 71 01:02:03,041 --> 01:02:03,375 history. 72 01:02:04,166 --> 01:02:05,208 Today's news facts and 73 01:02:05,208 --> 01:02:07,375 birthdays are for February 11th. 74 01:02:07,583 --> 01:02:10,750 And on this day back in 1847, American 75 01:02:10,750 --> 01:02:12,833 inventor Thomas Edison was born. 76 01:02:13,458 --> 01:02:15,541 He held a world record of over a thousand 77 01:02:15,541 --> 01:02:17,500 patents at the time and played a critical 78 01:02:17,625 --> 01:02:18,750 role introducing the 79 01:02:18,750 --> 01:02:20,166 modern age of electricity. 80 01:02:20,916 --> 01:02:23,958 In 1963, Julia Child's "The French Chef," 81 01:02:23,958 --> 01:02:25,250 it debuted and it was 82 01:02:25,250 --> 01:02:26,250 one of the first cooking 83 01:02:26,250 --> 01:02:27,541 shows on American television. 84 01:02:28,166 --> 01:02:29,583 I can just hear her voice. 85 01:02:30,916 --> 01:02:34,041 And in 1979, British politician Margaret 86 01:02:34,041 --> 01:02:35,166 Thatcher, she was 87 01:02:35,166 --> 01:02:36,375 elected as leader of the 88 01:02:36,375 --> 01:02:38,333 Conservative Party, becoming Europe's 89 01:02:38,333 --> 01:02:39,958 first woman prime minister. 90 01:02:41,083 --> 01:02:43,791 In 1990, after serving 27 years in 91 01:02:43,791 --> 01:02:45,708 prison, Nelson Mandela was 92 01:02:45,708 --> 01:02:47,250 released, which subsequently 93 01:02:47,375 --> 01:02:49,541 led to the ending of apartheid and the 94 01:02:49,541 --> 01:02:51,666 beginning of democracy in South Africa. 95 01:02:52,625 --> 01:02:56,333 Lastly, on this day in 2012, 13 years ago 96 01:02:56,333 --> 01:02:57,791 now, superstar singer 97 01:02:57,791 --> 01:02:59,083 Whitney Houston, she 98 01:02:59,125 --> 01:03:01,416 sadly passed away at the age of 48. 99 01:03:02,250 --> 01:03:04,000 We miss Whitney and we want to celebrate 100 01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:05,208 her life and we also 101 01:03:05,208 --> 01:03:06,791 want to celebrate those with 102 01:03:06,791 --> 01:03:07,625 birthdays today. 103 01:03:08,250 --> 01:03:09,250 So happy birthday if 104 01:03:09,250 --> 01:03:10,291 today is your birthday. 105 01:03:10,625 --> 01:03:11,583 You share a birthday with 106 01:03:11,583 --> 01:03:13,000 a fairly good list today. 107 01:03:13,750 --> 01:03:16,041 Singer Khalid, he's 27 years old. 108 01:03:16,541 --> 01:03:18,041 And singer Kelly Rowland of 109 01:03:18,041 --> 01:03:19,625 Destiny's Child, she's 44. 110 01:03:20,458 --> 01:03:22,333 Singer Brandy, she's 46. 111 01:03:23,291 --> 01:03:23,833 Everybody's friend, 112 01:03:24,083 --> 01:03:26,583 Jennifer Aniston, she's 56 today. 113 01:03:27,500 --> 01:03:29,041 Singer Cheryl Crow, she's 66. 114 01:03:29,041 --> 01:03:32,625 And politician and brother of George W. 115 01:03:32,625 --> 01:03:35,208 Bush, Jeb Bush, he's 72 today. 116 01:03:35,958 --> 01:03:38,041 The number one song on this date back in 117 01:03:38,041 --> 01:03:40,958 1985 was "I Want to Know 118 01:03:40,958 --> 01:03:42,875 What Love Is" by Foreigner. 119 01:03:43,208 --> 01:03:45,500 Now if you ever made a love tape back in 120 01:03:45,500 --> 01:03:48,208 the 80s, this song was definitely on it. 121 01:03:48,500 --> 01:03:50,041 And the song is considered one of 122 01:03:50,041 --> 01:03:51,708 Foreigner's timeless classics. 123 01:03:52,375 --> 01:03:54,416 Check out Morning Serial podcast on 124 01:03:54,416 --> 01:03:56,041 Instagram for a clip of the song. 125 01:03:57,125 --> 01:04:00,416 And the number one movie in 1997 was Star 126 01:04:00,416 --> 01:04:01,875 Wars, the special edition. 127 01:04:02,375 --> 01:04:04,500 This was the re-release of the original 128 01:04:04,500 --> 01:04:05,541 Star Wars trilogy, 129 01:04:06,041 --> 01:04:08,083 celebrating their 20th anniversary. 130 01:04:08,583 --> 01:04:10,791 However, the re-release also allowed 131 01:04:10,791 --> 01:04:11,958 George Lucas to add some 132 01:04:11,958 --> 01:04:13,041 of the special effects to 133 01:04:13,041 --> 01:04:14,625 the movie that some special effect 134 01:04:14,625 --> 01:04:16,291 technology did not allow 135 01:04:16,291 --> 01:04:17,333 at the time of the original 136 01:04:17,375 --> 01:04:19,333 releases in the 70s and the 80s. 137 01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:21,916 Interestingly, George Lucas, he spent 138 01:04:21,916 --> 01:04:23,250 about $10 million on 139 01:04:23,250 --> 01:04:24,541 those changes to the original 140 01:04:24,625 --> 01:04:27,083 movies, which was roughly what it cost 141 01:04:27,083 --> 01:04:28,166 him to film the first 142 01:04:28,166 --> 01:04:29,541 movie in its entirety. 143 01:04:30,083 --> 01:04:32,041 The re-release allowed Lucas to keep his 144 01:04:32,041 --> 01:04:33,041 subscription to the Cheese 145 01:04:33,041 --> 01:04:34,416 of the Month Club as it earned 146 01:04:34,458 --> 01:04:36,625 another $472 million 147 01:04:36,625 --> 01:04:38,583 worldwide at the box office. 148 01:04:39,625 --> 01:04:40,875 Let's go ahead and move on to some 149 01:04:40,875 --> 01:04:41,916 personal growth in the 150 01:04:41,916 --> 01:04:43,208 book review segment of Morning 151 01:04:43,208 --> 01:04:43,541 Serial. 152 01:04:44,083 --> 01:04:45,583 This is where we take a few moments to 153 01:04:45,583 --> 01:04:46,833 reflect on lessons learned 154 01:04:46,833 --> 01:04:47,875 from the current book we're 155 01:04:48,041 --> 01:04:48,166 reading. 156 01:04:48,625 --> 01:04:50,333 And currently, we're reading through Dale 157 01:04:50,333 --> 01:04:51,750 Carnegie's How to Win 158 01:04:51,750 --> 01:04:52,625 Friends and Influence 159 01:04:52,708 --> 01:04:53,041 People. 160 01:04:53,833 --> 01:04:55,416 As you all know, it's a timeless book 161 01:04:55,416 --> 01:04:56,791 that's consistently in 162 01:04:56,791 --> 01:04:58,708 all the must read lists, and 163 01:04:58,708 --> 01:05:00,666 it's packed with rock solid advice and 164 01:05:00,666 --> 01:05:03,125 actions for all of us to use and build 165 01:05:03,125 --> 01:05:04,208 healthy foundational 166 01:05:04,291 --> 01:05:05,625 concepts to live by. 167 01:05:06,791 --> 01:05:09,458 Well, we are in part three of How to Win 168 01:05:09,458 --> 01:05:10,333 Friends and Influence 169 01:05:10,333 --> 01:05:12,291 People, which is entitled, How 170 01:05:12,291 --> 01:05:14,458 to Win People to Your Way of Thinking. 171 01:05:15,500 --> 01:05:17,583 And we're finishing up chapter one today, 172 01:05:17,583 --> 01:05:18,916 which is entitled, You 173 01:05:18,916 --> 01:05:20,000 Can't Win an Argument. 174 01:05:21,250 --> 01:05:23,000 And Carnegie is making the point that 175 01:05:23,000 --> 01:05:24,083 there are no winners in 176 01:05:24,083 --> 01:05:25,541 an argument because much 177 01:05:25,541 --> 01:05:27,750 of the time, you haven't changed the 178 01:05:27,750 --> 01:05:28,833 other person's position. 179 01:05:29,416 --> 01:05:30,375 And you haven't made a 180 01:05:30,375 --> 01:05:31,375 friend out of them either. 181 01:05:32,041 --> 01:05:33,708 People want to feel important. 182 01:05:34,083 --> 01:05:36,125 And during an argument, people fulfill 183 01:05:36,125 --> 01:05:37,000 that need to feel 184 01:05:37,000 --> 01:05:39,416 important from within by wanting 185 01:05:39,416 --> 01:05:40,666 to win the argument. 186 01:05:41,125 --> 01:05:42,291 So we shouldn't argue. 187 01:05:42,666 --> 01:05:43,541 We should find common 188 01:05:43,541 --> 01:05:45,166 ground, find appreciation. 189 01:05:46,041 --> 01:05:48,125 If we give them that sense of importance, 190 01:05:48,625 --> 01:05:49,416 then they have nothing 191 01:05:49,416 --> 01:05:50,750 to argue about because 192 01:05:50,750 --> 01:05:52,791 now their mind is open and not 193 01:05:52,791 --> 01:05:54,000 necessarily defensive. 194 01:05:55,666 --> 01:05:58,916 Abraham Lincoln said, "No man who is 195 01:05:58,916 --> 01:06:00,416 resolved to make the most 196 01:06:00,416 --> 01:06:02,375 of himself can spare time 197 01:06:02,791 --> 01:06:04,166 for personal contention. 198 01:06:05,083 --> 01:06:07,250 Still less can he afford to take the 199 01:06:07,250 --> 01:06:10,041 consequences, including the vidiation, 200 01:06:10,541 --> 01:06:12,000 the loss of his temper, 201 01:06:12,375 --> 01:06:14,375 and the loss of his self-control." 202 01:06:16,250 --> 01:06:18,333 To this point, Carnegie includes an 203 01:06:18,333 --> 01:06:20,041 excerpt from an article in 204 01:06:20,041 --> 01:06:21,625 Bits and Pieces that speaks 205 01:06:21,625 --> 01:06:24,375 to some suggestions on how to keep a 206 01:06:24,375 --> 01:06:26,583 disagreement from becoming an argument. 207 01:06:27,458 --> 01:06:28,666 Here, I'll walk us through those 208 01:06:28,666 --> 01:06:30,708 suggestions, beginning with, 209 01:06:31,041 --> 01:06:32,458 "Welcome the disagreements. 210 01:06:33,458 --> 01:06:35,708 Sometimes disagreements come up, and that 211 01:06:35,708 --> 01:06:37,791 is not necessarily a bad thing." 212 01:06:38,583 --> 01:06:40,791 "When two partners are always agreeing, 213 01:06:41,166 --> 01:06:43,000 one of them is not necessary." 214 01:06:44,416 --> 01:06:46,500 Perhaps a disagreement will be a learning 215 01:06:46,500 --> 01:06:47,833 opportunity for you. 216 01:06:48,708 --> 01:06:50,208 Next, distrust your 217 01:06:50,208 --> 01:06:52,000 first instinctive impression. 218 01:06:53,041 --> 01:06:54,791 This is not suggesting we ignore our 219 01:06:54,791 --> 01:06:56,416 instincts, but pointing 220 01:06:56,416 --> 01:06:58,625 out to us that sometimes in a 221 01:06:58,625 --> 01:07:00,833 disagreement our human nature is to 222 01:07:00,833 --> 01:07:02,625 become defensive, and 223 01:07:02,625 --> 01:07:04,166 it's this defensive posture 224 01:07:04,500 --> 01:07:05,708 that we should be wary of. 225 01:07:06,333 --> 01:07:09,666 Be aware that, "It may be you at your 226 01:07:09,666 --> 01:07:11,541 worst, not your best." 227 01:07:13,333 --> 01:07:15,041 Next is, control your temper. 228 01:07:16,125 --> 01:07:18,833 "Remember, you can measure the size of a 229 01:07:18,833 --> 01:07:22,166 person by what makes him or her angry." 230 01:07:24,166 --> 01:07:26,083 Next is, listen first. 231 01:07:26,583 --> 01:07:28,541 Give the other person the opportunity to 232 01:07:28,541 --> 01:07:29,250 talk without 233 01:07:29,250 --> 01:07:31,583 interrupting or being defensive, as 234 01:07:31,583 --> 01:07:32,833 those create barriers. 235 01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:36,541 Next is, look for areas of agreement. 236 01:07:37,333 --> 01:07:38,750 After hearing the other person's 237 01:07:38,750 --> 01:07:41,333 perspective, look for and speak to the 238 01:07:41,333 --> 01:07:42,500 areas that you agree 239 01:07:42,541 --> 01:07:43,333 on first. 240 01:07:44,875 --> 01:07:46,250 Then, be honest. 241 01:07:47,166 --> 01:07:49,250 Acknowledge areas you are wrong and 242 01:07:49,250 --> 01:07:50,208 apologize for any 243 01:07:50,208 --> 01:07:52,666 mistakes, as this will help disarm 244 01:07:52,666 --> 01:07:53,208 and reduce 245 01:07:53,208 --> 01:07:54,750 defensiveness in the other person. 246 01:07:55,666 --> 01:07:57,541 Anecdotally, I've always found that 247 01:07:57,541 --> 01:07:59,166 personally for me, that 248 01:07:59,166 --> 01:08:01,041 simply admitting you're wrong 249 01:08:01,041 --> 01:08:03,291 when you are wrong can move mountains, 250 01:08:03,625 --> 01:08:04,875 and it creates a high 251 01:08:04,875 --> 01:08:05,916 level of credibility. 252 01:08:06,833 --> 01:08:08,416 Not that I'm admitting to a time that 253 01:08:08,416 --> 01:08:09,666 I've ever actually been wrong. 254 01:08:11,083 --> 01:08:13,916 So following being honest is, promise to 255 01:08:13,916 --> 01:08:14,583 think over your 256 01:08:14,583 --> 01:08:16,458 opponent's ideas, and study 257 01:08:16,458 --> 01:08:17,083 them carefully. 258 01:08:17,750 --> 01:08:19,000 And then actually do that. 259 01:08:19,416 --> 01:08:20,125 There's a chance that 260 01:08:20,125 --> 01:08:21,208 the other person is right. 261 01:08:21,875 --> 01:08:23,500 And if you push ahead with your agenda, 262 01:08:23,708 --> 01:08:24,708 then you might find 263 01:08:24,708 --> 01:08:26,041 yourself in a situation where 264 01:08:26,041 --> 01:08:26,833 the other person can 265 01:08:26,833 --> 01:08:28,458 say, "I told you so." 266 01:08:29,666 --> 01:08:30,875 Then thank your opponents 267 01:08:30,875 --> 01:08:32,541 sincerely for their interest. 268 01:08:33,000 --> 01:08:34,791 If someone is taking the time to have a 269 01:08:34,791 --> 01:08:36,583 disagreement with you, then 270 01:08:36,583 --> 01:08:38,375 the two of you likely at least 271 01:08:38,416 --> 01:08:40,000 care about the same subject. 272 01:08:40,958 --> 01:08:42,791 Perhaps they really are trying to teach 273 01:08:42,791 --> 01:08:43,500 you something that 274 01:08:43,500 --> 01:08:45,625 could prove helpful, and you 275 01:08:45,625 --> 01:08:46,958 might make a new friend out of it. 276 01:08:47,458 --> 01:08:50,416 And then lastly, postpone action to give 277 01:08:50,416 --> 01:08:51,750 both sides time to 278 01:08:51,750 --> 01:08:52,833 think through the problem. 279 01:08:53,666 --> 01:08:55,541 Suggest that you circle up later that day 280 01:08:55,541 --> 01:08:57,000 or the next day to ensure 281 01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:58,166 you both have sufficient 282 01:08:58,333 --> 01:08:59,375 time to gather and 283 01:08:59,375 --> 01:09:00,583 think through all the facts. 284 01:09:01,291 --> 01:09:03,291 Then prepare for this next meeting by 285 01:09:03,291 --> 01:09:04,291 asking yourself some 286 01:09:04,291 --> 01:09:06,166 hard questions like, "Could 287 01:09:06,166 --> 01:09:08,291 they actually be right?" or "Could they 288 01:09:08,291 --> 01:09:09,583 even be partially right?" 289 01:09:10,500 --> 01:09:11,541 Is there any truth or 290 01:09:11,541 --> 01:09:12,791 merit to their position? 291 01:09:13,333 --> 01:09:15,708 How will my actions here reflect on me? 292 01:09:16,416 --> 01:09:18,666 Will it raise how people perceive me or 293 01:09:18,666 --> 01:09:19,791 will it push people away? 294 01:09:20,500 --> 01:09:21,333 And what are the 295 01:09:21,333 --> 01:09:23,208 consequences if I win or lose? 296 01:09:24,208 --> 01:09:26,083 Well, that felt a little bit like rapid 297 01:09:26,083 --> 01:09:27,208 fire going through some 298 01:09:27,208 --> 01:09:28,416 of those great suggestions. 299 01:09:28,958 --> 01:09:31,541 So I'll repeat the primary ideas here to 300 01:09:31,541 --> 01:09:34,333 help our brains retain here on a Tuesday. 301 01:09:35,333 --> 01:09:36,875 First, welcome the disagreement. 302 01:09:37,708 --> 01:09:39,541 Then distrust your first 303 01:09:39,541 --> 01:09:40,750 instinctive impression. 304 01:09:41,625 --> 01:09:42,833 Then control your temper. 305 01:09:43,750 --> 01:09:45,000 Then listen first. 306 01:09:45,833 --> 01:09:47,708 Then look for areas of agreement. 307 01:09:48,458 --> 01:09:49,125 Then be honest. 308 01:09:49,916 --> 01:09:52,125 Then promise to think over your 309 01:09:52,125 --> 01:09:53,458 opponent's ideas and 310 01:09:53,458 --> 01:09:54,458 study them carefully. 311 01:09:55,166 --> 01:09:56,041 Then thank your opponent 312 01:09:56,041 --> 01:09:57,750 sincerely for their interest. 313 01:09:58,291 --> 01:10:01,000 And lastly, postpone action to give both 314 01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:03,166 sides time to think through the problem. 315 01:10:04,333 --> 01:10:06,708 Carnegie ends the first chapter of part 316 01:10:06,708 --> 01:10:07,791 three with a quick 317 01:10:07,791 --> 01:10:09,625 suggestion from a man that's 318 01:10:09,625 --> 01:10:11,833 been married for over 50 years who said, 319 01:10:12,125 --> 01:10:13,833 "My wife and I made a 320 01:10:13,833 --> 01:10:15,583 pact a long time ago, and 321 01:10:15,583 --> 01:10:17,500 we've kept to it no matter how angry 322 01:10:17,500 --> 01:10:18,708 we've grown with each other. 323 01:10:19,458 --> 01:10:20,500 When one of us yells, 324 01:10:20,791 --> 01:10:21,916 the other should listen. 325 01:10:22,708 --> 01:10:24,541 Because when two people yell, there is no 326 01:10:24,541 --> 01:10:25,833 communication, just 327 01:10:25,833 --> 01:10:27,666 noise and bad vibrations." 328 01:10:29,541 --> 01:10:32,083 Okay, Carnegie's principle number one in 329 01:10:32,083 --> 01:10:33,083 a chapter entitled, 330 01:10:33,291 --> 01:10:34,750 "You Can't Win an Argument" 331 01:10:35,125 --> 01:10:38,041 is, "The only way to get the best of an 332 01:10:38,041 --> 01:10:39,708 argument is to avoid it." 333 01:10:40,416 --> 01:10:42,458 Most people don't like to argue anyways, 334 01:10:42,458 --> 01:10:43,791 and it's not great being 335 01:10:43,791 --> 01:10:45,041 around someone that does. 336 01:10:45,791 --> 01:10:48,041 Carnegie suggests to avoid arguing 337 01:10:48,041 --> 01:10:49,833 because it's a lose-lose situation. 338 01:10:50,333 --> 01:10:52,375 See if you can learn from the situation, 339 01:10:52,375 --> 01:10:53,541 and even if it matters. 340 01:10:54,500 --> 01:10:56,458 So again, principle number one is, "The 341 01:10:56,458 --> 01:10:57,916 only way to get the best of 342 01:10:57,916 --> 01:10:59,708 an argument is to avoid it." 343 01:11:00,458 --> 01:11:01,583 Alright, nicely done. 344 01:11:01,916 --> 01:11:02,875 We continue to make 345 01:11:02,875 --> 01:11:04,333 real progress in the book. 346 01:11:04,916 --> 01:11:05,625 And we're also making 347 01:11:05,625 --> 01:11:07,041 real progress in February. 348 01:11:07,666 --> 01:11:09,458 It's hard to believe it's already V11. 349 01:11:10,083 --> 01:11:12,000 But I hope what you're learning so far in 350 01:11:12,000 --> 01:11:13,041 the book is proving 351 01:11:13,041 --> 01:11:14,291 useful for you in your 352 01:11:14,291 --> 01:11:14,958 everyday life. 353 01:11:15,375 --> 01:11:16,833 I know it's been helpful for me. 354 01:11:17,625 --> 01:11:19,750 So be sure to join us again tomorrow as 355 01:11:19,750 --> 01:11:20,875 we begin chapter two 356 01:11:20,875 --> 01:11:22,083 of part three, which is 357 01:11:22,125 --> 01:11:24,958 entitled, "A Sure Way of Making Enemies." 358 01:11:25,625 --> 01:11:26,750 And how to avoid it. 359 01:11:27,166 --> 01:11:28,208 I'm glad Carnegie made 360 01:11:28,208 --> 01:11:29,208 that a two-part title. 361 01:11:30,041 --> 01:11:32,041 Well, if today is looking tough, remember 362 01:11:32,041 --> 01:11:33,666 what George and I both say. 363 01:11:34,125 --> 01:11:36,250 Keep on putting one foot in front of the 364 01:11:36,250 --> 01:11:38,000 other, and keep moving forward in a 365 01:11:38,000 --> 01:11:39,208 focused and positive 366 01:11:39,375 --> 01:11:39,583 way. 367 01:11:40,166 --> 01:11:41,041 We've got your back. 368 01:11:41,333 --> 01:11:41,958 You can do it. 369 01:11:42,500 --> 01:11:43,541 Thanks for joining us today. 370 01:11:43,958 --> 01:11:44,666 Come back tomorrow, 371 01:11:44,958 --> 01:11:46,416 and have a fantastic day. 372 01:11:48,541 --> 01:11:50,291 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 373 01:11:50,291 --> 01:11:50,916 the Morning Serial 374 01:11:50,916 --> 01:11:52,541 podcast on the One Life 375 01:11:52,708 --> 01:11:53,541 Live It channel. 376 01:11:54,083 --> 01:11:56,000 You can find more episodes and videos by 377 01:11:56,000 --> 01:11:57,666 visiting our YouTube channel and the 378 01:11:57,666 --> 01:11:59,291 website at Shawningless 379 01:11:59,625 --> 01:12:01,791 and at Shawningless.com, where you can 380 01:12:01,791 --> 01:12:03,125 also follow our other 381 01:12:03,125 --> 01:12:04,666 podcast, the Mr. and Mrs. 382 01:12:04,666 --> 01:12:05,833 Inglis 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