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Good morning and welcome

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to your morning cereal.

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Okay good morning and

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welcome to Thursday.

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Good news.

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As of the end of today, you will be 80%

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through this work week.

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And that is good enough for a B-.

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Well forget that because today is

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National Tug of War Day.

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And for those of us that are not on the

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playground today, perhaps

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maybe that's symbolic because

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half of us are pulling towards Friday

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while the other half of

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us are being held back by

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the responsibilities of this Thursday.

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Well let's go ahead and jump into

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yesterday's trivia answer.

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A neuron.

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The longest cell in the

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human body is a nerve cell.

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A neuron.

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And now the essential vitamins in your

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morning cereal today's quote.

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It's from birthday girl turning 28.

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Sheppell Rohn who said quote, "You can't

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dim yourself for

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people who refuse to shine."

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End quote.

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Now the morning decode, this is an

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empowering reminder to

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stay true to yourself and your

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dreams even when those around you are

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unwilling to do the same.

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Well let's go ahead and

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hear from the experts now.

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It's time to pour in some

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Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.

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And this sub-chapter might be one of the

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most quietly life altering in the book.

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Here it is.

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Quote, "Love the

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person, not their potential."

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Right?

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Mel starts here with a truth

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that stinks just a little bit.

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Here she says, quote, "You are not in a

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relationship with who

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someone could become.

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You are in a relationship

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with who they are today."

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End quote.

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And that sentence alone, it kind of

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dismantles about half of the romantic

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comedies ever written

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here, right?

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She explains how easy it is to fall in

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love with possibility.

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We see someone's intelligence, their

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charm, their

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creativity, and their ambition.

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And we mentally fast forward to the fully

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evolved version of that person.

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But potential, it's a theoretical.

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Patterns are actually factual, right?

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Mel writes this, quote, "When you ignore

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someone's consistent

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behavior, you're not being hopeful,

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you're being dishonest with yourself."

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End quote.

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Now again, that's a mic drop quote from

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Mel because loving

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someone's potential, it often

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means minimizing their present reality.

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We tell ourselves they'll grow out of it,

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step up, they'll change

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once they feel secure,

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but change is a self-driven thing.

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It's not partner installed.

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And she introduces a powerful lens here.

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Observe patterns, not promises.

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If someone repeatedly shows

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inconsistency, emotional

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unavailability, or lack of effort,

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that is the relationship, not the grand

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speeches, not the future plans, the

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behavior, the actual

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behavior.

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And this is where let

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them becomes liberating.

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If they're not ready,

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let them not be ready.

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If they don't prioritize you,

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let them not prioritize you.

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You're not required to

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campaign for basic standards.

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Mel says it plainly, quote, "Love is

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acceptance of what is, not

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attachment to what might be."

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End quote.

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Now again, that line forces clarity

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because when you love

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someone for who they are and

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not who you're hoping they'll morph into,

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your decisions become cleaner.

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So this chapter, it's not being cynical,

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it's just being grounding for you.

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It's inviting you to choose based on

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evidence, not imagination.

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All right.

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Your Friday Eve takeaway is date reality,

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not fantasy, and make

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decisions based on consistent

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behavior, not hoped for potential.

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All right.

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So on this tug of war day,

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stop pulling against reality.

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Drop the rope.

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All right.

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Now the prize from the bottom of the

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cereal box, the morning

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cereal trivia question of

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the day.

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What is the first letter

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on a standard keyboard?

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I know you're going to get that one.

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All right.

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Hey, thanks for listening

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today to Morning Cereal.

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We will see you back here tomorrow for

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the answer to the

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trivia question and for more

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sugar for your soul.

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