1 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:04,166 (upbeat music) 2 01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:08,208 Choo choo, all aboard the chaos train. 3 01:00:08,708 --> 01:00:09,916 Choo choo, yeah. 4 01:00:11,375 --> 01:00:13,375 That was so lame, I am so sorry. 5 01:00:15,041 --> 01:00:16,708 I'm gonna need to get my energy up. 6 01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:17,750 Yeah, yeah. 7 01:00:18,250 --> 01:00:19,708 Is your coffee making the first 8 01:00:19,708 --> 01:00:21,458 appearance in an M&M? 9 01:00:22,666 --> 01:00:24,500 Enjoy the journey says the coffee mug. 10 01:00:25,041 --> 01:00:26,291 Hey, you know, maybe we 11 01:00:26,291 --> 01:00:27,250 all just take a moment 12 01:00:27,458 --> 01:00:28,708 and do a nice big-- 13 01:00:29,583 --> 01:00:30,375 Straight inside, like 14 01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:31,458 here we go, get inside. 15 01:00:31,875 --> 01:00:32,333 Exactly. 16 01:00:33,250 --> 01:00:34,000 When your phone is 17 01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:35,166 going ding, ding, ding, 18 01:00:35,166 --> 01:00:35,791 and you're like, hi. 19 01:00:36,041 --> 01:00:37,166 That opens Pandora's 20 01:00:37,166 --> 01:00:38,166 box a little bit for you. 21 01:00:38,333 --> 01:00:39,250 I'm showing up at the wrong 22 01:00:39,250 --> 01:00:40,125 location at the wrong time 23 01:00:40,125 --> 01:00:40,333 because-- 24 01:00:41,041 --> 01:00:41,750 Change the calendar. 25 01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:42,625 Changing the calendar. 26 01:00:43,250 --> 01:00:43,916 I love that. 27 01:00:43,958 --> 01:00:44,125 Yeah. 28 01:00:44,416 --> 01:00:45,250 Are we gonna completely ignore the fact? 29 01:00:45,291 --> 01:00:45,916 Are we gonna completely 30 01:00:45,916 --> 01:00:47,750 ignore the fact that, huge. 31 01:00:48,833 --> 01:00:49,083 Huge. 32 01:00:49,916 --> 01:00:51,541 Meghan's gonna be free again. 33 01:00:52,333 --> 01:00:53,541 No, the rules of the game will change. 34 01:00:54,375 --> 01:00:55,291 Man, when it rains it 35 01:00:55,291 --> 01:00:56,666 pours and this is where-- 36 01:00:56,875 --> 01:00:58,208 Adult and difficult conversations. 37 01:00:58,791 --> 01:00:59,458 This device is probably 38 01:00:59,458 --> 01:01:00,375 the most dangerous thing 39 01:01:00,375 --> 01:01:01,125 you could have. 40 01:01:01,916 --> 01:01:03,541 Latchkey kids, we did 41 01:01:03,541 --> 01:01:04,958 stupid stuff, no doubt. 42 01:01:05,166 --> 01:01:06,791 Oh yeah, it led to a broken phone. 43 01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:08,625 Exactly what I was gonna say. 44 01:01:08,625 --> 01:01:09,041 Oh yay. 45 01:01:09,500 --> 01:01:11,041 Bad choices memorialized forever. 46 01:01:11,750 --> 01:01:13,041 Kids aren't ready for what 47 01:01:13,041 --> 01:01:16,083 that phone exposes them to. 48 01:01:16,333 --> 01:01:16,541 Right. 49 01:01:19,041 --> 01:01:20,958 We're on, I mean, we're locked in now. 50 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:22,708 You guys don't even know 51 01:01:22,708 --> 01:01:23,583 what's behind the curtain. 52 01:01:24,083 --> 01:01:24,291 Right. 53 01:01:25,083 --> 01:01:25,666 The dumbest thing we could 54 01:01:25,666 --> 01:01:27,250 do is like throw a firecracker 55 01:01:27,458 --> 01:01:28,166 at some kid. 56 01:01:29,458 --> 01:01:30,125 Eggs were awesome. 57 01:01:30,375 --> 01:01:31,291 Eggs were so cool. 58 01:01:31,583 --> 01:01:32,583 Right on the back and we'd 59 01:01:32,583 --> 01:01:34,416 go to piano lessons that way. 60 01:01:34,875 --> 01:01:35,500 It was like the most 61 01:01:35,500 --> 01:01:37,083 innocent leave it to beavers 62 01:01:37,166 --> 01:01:38,916 seeing I can make a picture in my head. 63 01:01:39,166 --> 01:01:41,000 Learn the exact lesson that we learned 64 01:01:41,500 --> 01:01:42,416 on their older child. 65 01:01:42,708 --> 01:01:43,083 Gotcha. 66 01:01:43,708 --> 01:01:44,625 And just like, are we failing? 67 01:01:44,916 --> 01:01:47,125 Are we just completely failing? 68 01:01:47,708 --> 01:01:49,666 Okay, whoa, another domino falls. 69 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:51,000 And another, and another. 70 01:01:51,875 --> 01:01:53,375 I'm not asking for good news. 71 01:01:53,916 --> 01:01:55,416 I'm not asking to win the lottery. 72 01:01:55,666 --> 01:01:57,583 I'm not even asking for sunshine. 73 01:01:58,541 --> 01:01:59,916 I don't want to say I have bad luck, 74 01:02:00,250 --> 01:02:02,666 but I couldn't even buy a lottery ticket. 75 01:02:02,958 --> 01:02:03,541 You're cute. 76 01:02:04,208 --> 01:02:05,041 Stinking kidding me. 77 01:02:06,791 --> 01:02:08,250 The door slammed, I mean, so many doors 78 01:02:08,250 --> 01:02:09,416 are slamming right now. 79 01:02:09,500 --> 01:02:09,958 Yeah, yeah. 80 01:02:10,708 --> 01:02:12,166 We're living our lives right now. 81 01:02:12,625 --> 01:02:13,500 Today's the only day we have. 82 01:02:14,333 --> 01:02:15,958 Wanting to lose myself in the music 83 01:02:15,958 --> 01:02:17,125 that I was listening to 84 01:02:17,125 --> 01:02:19,416 or sing or, oh, I was-- 85 01:02:19,458 --> 01:02:20,375 Playing G.I. Joe, 86 01:02:20,708 --> 01:02:22,000 playing with my transformers, 87 01:02:22,125 --> 01:02:24,041 drawing, listening to music. 88 01:02:24,458 --> 01:02:27,166 Let me remove myself from the chaos 89 01:02:27,166 --> 01:02:28,333 and have a moment of peace. 90 01:02:28,583 --> 01:02:28,791 Yeah. 91 01:02:29,416 --> 01:02:30,291 15-year-old Megan. 92 01:02:31,833 --> 01:02:32,041 Guards. 93 01:02:32,250 --> 01:02:33,291 Well, feeling like the 94 01:02:33,291 --> 01:02:34,833 bubbles was a little stressful. 95 01:02:35,666 --> 01:02:37,041 Did you make sure they were perfect too? 96 01:02:37,041 --> 01:02:38,625 Like, I would erase it if I went out. 97 01:02:38,666 --> 01:02:40,291 I did, but the harder ones were the ones 98 01:02:40,291 --> 01:02:41,125 that were the rectangles. 99 01:02:41,708 --> 01:02:42,041 Yes. 100 01:02:42,791 --> 01:02:43,083 Scan-trons. 101 01:02:43,583 --> 01:02:44,458 They still have scan-trons. 102 01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:48,291 And it was 20 years ago yesterday 103 01:02:48,500 --> 01:02:49,708 that we officially met. 104 01:02:49,958 --> 01:02:51,125 Yep, that's exciting. 105 01:02:51,166 --> 01:02:52,208 It was super cool. 106 01:02:52,583 --> 01:02:52,875 It was neat. 107 01:02:53,666 --> 01:02:54,833 Where did 20 years go? 108 01:02:55,083 --> 01:02:55,375 Yeah. 109 01:02:55,416 --> 01:02:57,000 I'm still 25. 110 01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:58,166 Like, what in the world happened? 111 01:02:58,916 --> 01:02:59,791 Bobby, Bobby, what did you put on me? 112 01:02:59,833 --> 01:03:01,041 What put that on me, Ricky? 113 01:03:01,083 --> 01:03:01,291 Bobby. 114 01:03:01,708 --> 01:03:02,041 All right. 115 01:03:02,625 --> 01:03:03,416 Night of the tea. 116 01:03:04,125 --> 01:03:04,750 We're really finishing 117 01:03:04,750 --> 01:03:05,958 each other's sentences today. 118 01:03:06,291 --> 01:03:07,000 Yes, yes, yes. 119 01:03:08,416 --> 01:03:09,875 Oh my gosh, well. 120 01:03:11,708 --> 01:03:14,416 You know, that's just life. 121 01:03:15,791 --> 01:03:16,875 That's life aboard the 122 01:03:16,875 --> 01:03:17,958 Chaos Express, isn't it? 123 01:03:18,416 --> 01:03:18,958 It is, I know. 124 01:03:19,458 --> 01:03:20,500 If anybody offers you 125 01:03:20,500 --> 01:03:22,083 free candy, get in the van. 126 01:03:22,875 --> 01:03:23,083 Okay. 127 01:03:23,125 --> 01:03:24,166 Welcome to the Mr. and 128 01:03:24,166 --> 01:03:25,208 Mrs. English podcast. 129 01:03:25,541 --> 01:03:25,916 I'm Megan. 130 01:03:26,291 --> 01:03:26,875 And I'm Sean. 131 01:03:27,125 --> 01:03:28,208 We're here to talk about 132 01:03:28,208 --> 01:03:29,833 the wild ride of raising kids, 133 01:03:30,041 --> 01:03:32,125 growing careers, keeping life together 134 01:03:32,125 --> 01:03:33,375 in the middle of all the chaos. 135 01:03:34,041 --> 01:03:35,125 So buckle up, 136 01:03:35,458 --> 01:03:36,208 because we're all in 137 01:03:36,208 --> 01:03:37,458 this crazy journey together. 138 01:03:40,625 --> 01:03:42,666 Your mic seems a little bit low, honey. 139 01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:45,625 As you lean over to do your bops. 140 01:03:45,875 --> 01:03:46,250 I don't know. 141 01:03:46,708 --> 01:03:47,916 Yeah, I don't know what was up with that. 142 01:03:49,166 --> 01:03:49,916 Usually it's a little 143 01:03:49,916 --> 01:03:50,833 closer to your mouth. 144 01:03:51,166 --> 01:03:52,500 Something was odd there, I don't know. 145 01:03:53,833 --> 01:03:54,666 You know, maybe you 146 01:03:54,666 --> 01:03:55,750 were doing a dance move. 147 01:03:55,750 --> 01:03:56,625 Like you were doing truly 148 01:03:56,625 --> 01:03:58,000 a doo wop with your bops. 149 01:03:58,583 --> 01:04:00,125 Yeah, no, I think we 150 01:04:00,125 --> 01:04:01,333 established, I don't do doo wops, 151 01:04:01,666 --> 01:04:03,125 but yeah, my mic's a 152 01:04:03,125 --> 01:04:06,625 little off this morning. 153 01:04:06,625 --> 01:04:08,250 It's a little off-kilter this morning. 154 01:04:08,833 --> 01:04:10,000 Well, that is, is your 155 01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:11,541 coffee making the first appearance 156 01:04:11,708 --> 01:04:12,750 in an M&M? 157 01:04:13,291 --> 01:04:14,541 It is, we are. 158 01:04:14,541 --> 01:04:15,041 I love it. 159 01:04:15,416 --> 01:04:17,166 Enjoy the journey, says the coffee mug. 160 01:04:17,666 --> 01:04:19,625 Hey, that is absolutely appropriate 161 01:04:20,166 --> 01:04:21,458 for what it feels 162 01:04:21,458 --> 01:04:23,541 like the journey has been 163 01:04:24,208 --> 01:04:25,208 and needing that 164 01:04:25,208 --> 01:04:27,166 reminder to enjoy the journey 165 01:04:27,166 --> 01:04:28,416 that we've been on. 166 01:04:29,041 --> 01:04:30,250 Yeah, yeah. 167 01:04:32,416 --> 01:04:32,791 You know? 168 01:04:35,041 --> 01:04:37,416 Yeah, it does feel like, you know, 169 01:04:37,416 --> 01:04:38,458 maybe we all just take a 170 01:04:38,458 --> 01:04:40,000 moment and do a nice big. 171 01:04:41,458 --> 01:04:43,208 Collective sigh for everybody. 172 01:04:43,666 --> 01:04:44,000 Yeah. 173 01:04:44,500 --> 01:04:45,791 Sometimes in our household, 174 01:04:46,500 --> 01:04:48,250 one of us will sigh, right? 175 01:04:48,500 --> 01:04:49,958 And then one of us, the 176 01:04:49,958 --> 01:04:50,875 other person will say, 177 01:04:51,375 --> 01:04:54,000 "Was that a good sigh or is that a, 178 01:04:55,875 --> 01:04:57,875 like, you know, just a frustrated sigh, 179 01:04:57,875 --> 01:04:59,083 like here we go again, sigh." 180 01:04:59,791 --> 01:05:00,000 Exactly. 181 01:05:00,500 --> 01:05:02,083 You know, so that was a good sigh for me 182 01:05:02,083 --> 01:05:03,625 or just a unload. 183 01:05:04,375 --> 01:05:04,666 Yes. 184 01:05:05,291 --> 01:05:06,333 Try to unload, sigh. 185 01:05:07,500 --> 01:05:10,750 Yeah, I think I'm, I 186 01:05:10,750 --> 01:05:12,041 probably do more sighs 187 01:05:12,041 --> 01:05:14,125 of just an unload type sigh, right? 188 01:05:14,125 --> 01:05:15,041 It's to just get out 189 01:05:15,041 --> 01:05:16,541 and like refocus myself, 190 01:05:16,541 --> 01:05:17,333 recenter myself. 191 01:05:17,375 --> 01:05:18,083 I don't know if it works, 192 01:05:18,083 --> 01:05:19,416 but I tend to have that habit. 193 01:05:20,083 --> 01:05:21,625 Yeah, yeah. 194 01:05:21,625 --> 01:05:22,750 How good the habit is. 195 01:05:23,333 --> 01:05:23,791 It's probably 196 01:05:23,791 --> 01:05:25,458 annoying more than anything. 197 01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:26,875 No, God, no. 198 01:05:26,875 --> 01:05:27,791 I mean, you gotta let, you have, 199 01:05:28,125 --> 01:05:30,000 everybody has to have a pressure valve. 200 01:05:30,500 --> 01:05:30,666 Yes. 201 01:05:31,500 --> 01:05:33,791 And I think as we 202 01:05:33,791 --> 01:05:34,583 talk about a little bit, 203 01:05:34,583 --> 01:05:35,125 what's it talk about 204 01:05:35,125 --> 01:05:36,625 today, you know, going into this 205 01:05:36,625 --> 01:05:37,875 and we're really late now 206 01:05:37,875 --> 01:05:39,500 because life just got crazy. 207 01:05:39,833 --> 01:05:40,041 Right. 208 01:05:40,375 --> 01:05:40,875 As usual. 209 01:05:41,625 --> 01:05:45,083 And, you know, we talked about last week, 210 01:05:45,208 --> 01:05:46,625 how when it rains, it pours 211 01:05:46,625 --> 01:05:49,791 and it's just continued to pour. 212 01:05:49,791 --> 01:05:50,583 And it was funny because I 213 01:05:50,583 --> 01:05:51,583 was texting with somebody 214 01:05:52,791 --> 01:05:54,666 who watches the show and they're like, 215 01:05:54,666 --> 01:05:55,708 "Oh yeah, it sounds like you've got 216 01:05:55,708 --> 01:05:57,208 some soccer drama going on." 217 01:05:57,250 --> 01:05:57,458 Yeah. 218 01:05:57,875 --> 01:05:58,916 It's like, yeah, we do have 219 01:05:58,916 --> 01:06:00,166 some soccer drama going on, 220 01:06:00,166 --> 01:06:02,791 but that's one of like 10, you know? 221 01:06:03,041 --> 01:06:04,291 And it is taking up time. 222 01:06:04,291 --> 01:06:04,916 I mean, like during the 223 01:06:04,916 --> 01:06:06,000 day, there's texts flying. 224 01:06:06,458 --> 01:06:07,458 I mean, that is, anybody 225 01:06:07,458 --> 01:06:08,833 involved in that kind of thing, 226 01:06:08,833 --> 01:06:10,291 whether it's probably competitive cheer 227 01:06:10,291 --> 01:06:11,375 or soccer or baseball, 228 01:06:11,375 --> 01:06:11,750 I'm sure that 229 01:06:11,750 --> 01:06:12,958 everybody's got this kind of stuff. 230 01:06:12,958 --> 01:06:15,166 It's this time of year where, you know, 231 01:06:15,166 --> 01:06:17,625 teams are being formed and fall apart 232 01:06:17,625 --> 01:06:18,250 and people are trying 233 01:06:18,250 --> 01:06:19,500 to go here or there. 234 01:06:20,000 --> 01:06:20,208 Yep. 235 01:06:21,250 --> 01:06:22,000 So that's always a 236 01:06:22,000 --> 01:06:22,916 stressful time of year. 237 01:06:22,958 --> 01:06:23,833 It is, it is. 238 01:06:24,083 --> 01:06:26,083 And we're always just trying to stay 239 01:06:26,083 --> 01:06:27,125 above the fray, right? 240 01:06:27,125 --> 01:06:28,875 And try not to be emotional about it, 241 01:06:28,875 --> 01:06:30,416 but because it's a big 242 01:06:30,416 --> 01:06:32,458 part of our kids' life, 243 01:06:32,458 --> 01:06:33,500 it's a big part of our life, 244 01:06:33,500 --> 01:06:34,666 it does inherently 245 01:06:34,666 --> 01:06:36,708 then create that stress. 246 01:06:36,708 --> 01:06:38,333 And you're like, when 247 01:06:38,333 --> 01:06:39,291 your phone is going, 248 01:06:39,291 --> 01:06:40,375 "Ding, ding, ding," and you're like, 249 01:06:40,375 --> 01:06:42,125 "I am trying to get some work done." 250 01:06:43,041 --> 01:06:43,250 Yeah. 251 01:06:43,833 --> 01:06:46,958 You know, it's like, I, you know, 252 01:06:46,958 --> 01:06:50,125 that for me causes a ton of anxiety 253 01:06:50,500 --> 01:06:52,291 and not knowing then, you know, 254 01:06:52,291 --> 01:06:54,041 feeling like I need to focus here, 255 01:06:54,333 --> 01:06:58,000 but yet I get that distraction and, yeah. 256 01:06:58,625 --> 01:07:00,416 And then I don't know what's going on 257 01:07:00,500 --> 01:07:02,500 because I didn't read the latest and 258 01:07:02,500 --> 01:07:04,000 greatest text message. 259 01:07:04,916 --> 01:07:06,916 And that opens Pandora's 260 01:07:06,916 --> 01:07:07,916 box a little bit for you 261 01:07:07,916 --> 01:07:09,708 because in our household, 262 01:07:09,708 --> 01:07:10,791 you handle the calendar. 263 01:07:11,125 --> 01:07:11,958 Yeah, yep. 264 01:07:12,583 --> 01:07:14,708 You're kind of tasked for whatever reason 265 01:07:14,791 --> 01:07:16,708 you've taken over that to 266 01:07:16,708 --> 01:07:17,875 go through all the emails 267 01:07:18,083 --> 01:07:20,666 from school, from sports teams, 268 01:07:21,208 --> 01:07:22,500 from our daily doctors 269 01:07:22,500 --> 01:07:23,708 and dentist appointments, 270 01:07:24,208 --> 01:07:25,000 and you put them on 271 01:07:25,000 --> 01:07:26,375 our respective calendars. 272 01:07:26,666 --> 01:07:27,291 Right, right. 273 01:07:27,708 --> 01:07:28,500 And our lives are 274 01:07:28,500 --> 01:07:31,083 literally ran by the calendar. 275 01:07:31,791 --> 01:07:32,708 And I know most people 276 01:07:32,708 --> 01:07:34,416 out there are the same way, 277 01:07:34,416 --> 01:07:35,583 but I mean, quite 278 01:07:35,583 --> 01:07:38,375 literally, I'll get in a car, 279 01:07:38,375 --> 01:07:39,958 pull up my calendar, which 280 01:07:39,958 --> 01:07:41,125 automatically goes to Waze 281 01:07:41,416 --> 01:07:42,291 and it takes me there. 282 01:07:42,416 --> 01:07:42,666 Yeah. 283 01:07:42,750 --> 01:07:43,875 And if the calendar is 284 01:07:43,875 --> 01:07:45,625 wrong, the wrong location, 285 01:07:46,250 --> 01:07:47,583 the wrong time, I'm 286 01:07:47,583 --> 01:07:48,625 showing up at the wrong location 287 01:07:48,625 --> 01:07:49,166 at the wrong time 288 01:07:49,166 --> 01:07:51,125 because I live by my calendar 289 01:07:51,291 --> 01:07:53,083 versus all the deans that 290 01:07:53,083 --> 01:07:54,291 you're getting that potentially. 291 01:07:54,833 --> 01:07:56,291 Could change the calendar. 292 01:07:56,291 --> 01:07:56,958 Are changing the calendar. 293 01:07:57,166 --> 01:07:58,833 And we have some coaches 294 01:07:58,833 --> 01:08:00,291 that are better or worse 295 01:08:00,291 --> 01:08:03,333 than others and they'll change literally 296 01:08:03,541 --> 01:08:04,291 while we're on our way. 297 01:08:04,958 --> 01:08:06,250 That happened just this week. 298 01:08:06,500 --> 01:08:07,291 Just yesterday? 299 01:08:07,958 --> 01:08:09,833 Yeah, no, two days, two nights ago, 300 01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:11,166 I had to turn around, 301 01:08:12,125 --> 01:08:14,916 then bring a kid home. 302 01:08:15,500 --> 01:08:17,500 And then I was late because I was like, 303 01:08:17,500 --> 01:08:18,083 well, I can't just 304 01:08:18,083 --> 01:08:19,083 take this kid with me now. 305 01:08:19,375 --> 01:08:21,916 So I wasn't late, but we 306 01:08:21,916 --> 01:08:23,333 got there right on time, 307 01:08:23,333 --> 01:08:26,083 which, what is the old adage of like, 308 01:08:26,083 --> 01:08:27,458 if you're on time, you're late? 309 01:08:28,208 --> 01:08:29,833 Yeah, right, right. 310 01:08:29,833 --> 01:08:31,083 It's not better late than never. 311 01:08:31,416 --> 01:08:32,000 No, no. 312 01:08:32,833 --> 01:08:32,875 (both laughing) 313 01:08:32,875 --> 01:08:34,333 I mean, that's an old adage too. 314 01:08:34,333 --> 01:08:35,541 It is, but it's not that one. 315 01:08:35,541 --> 01:08:36,541 It's not that one. 316 01:08:36,541 --> 01:08:37,416 There's another one. 317 01:08:37,875 --> 01:08:38,750 It's closer to the early 318 01:08:38,750 --> 01:08:40,500 bird gets the worm adage. 319 01:08:40,791 --> 01:08:41,083 Right, yeah. 320 01:08:41,125 --> 01:08:41,333 Right? 321 01:08:41,583 --> 01:08:41,791 Yeah. 322 01:08:42,833 --> 01:08:44,708 But as our oldest always says, 323 01:08:44,958 --> 01:08:46,375 what does he always say? 324 01:08:47,000 --> 01:08:48,791 Are we gonna completely ignore the fact? 325 01:08:49,208 --> 01:08:51,291 Oh, that is his phrase. 326 01:08:51,291 --> 01:08:51,875 I love that. 327 01:08:51,916 --> 01:08:52,125 Yeah. 328 01:08:52,375 --> 01:08:53,208 We can completely ignore the fact. 329 01:08:53,250 --> 01:08:54,666 Are we gonna completely ignore the fact 330 01:08:54,666 --> 01:08:56,000 that you're driving again? 331 01:08:56,416 --> 01:08:59,375 You have re-entered the driving pool. 332 01:08:59,666 --> 01:09:01,250 I have, that is a massive update. 333 01:09:01,291 --> 01:09:02,708 You have two drivers again, huge. 334 01:09:03,541 --> 01:09:06,000 Huge, and for both of us. 335 01:09:06,041 --> 01:09:08,166 Number one, you get some relief. 336 01:09:08,500 --> 01:09:10,875 You had a night home this week 337 01:09:11,083 --> 01:09:12,500 to get some things done around the house. 338 01:09:12,833 --> 01:09:14,000 I did, I mowed the lawn. 339 01:09:14,916 --> 01:09:15,125 Right. 340 01:09:15,125 --> 01:09:17,458 I cleaned out the pool, I trimmed a tree. 341 01:09:18,083 --> 01:09:20,875 Right, and you spent some time 342 01:09:21,250 --> 01:09:22,875 with the two boys that were home. 343 01:09:23,916 --> 01:09:25,000 I wish I could say that was 344 01:09:25,000 --> 01:09:26,291 the case, but kind of, yeah. 345 01:09:26,333 --> 01:09:27,000 Oh, it was the night of 346 01:09:27,000 --> 01:09:28,208 the national championship. 347 01:09:28,250 --> 01:09:28,916 Yeah, exactly. 348 01:09:29,125 --> 01:09:30,041 That's right, so we did. 349 01:09:30,041 --> 01:09:31,458 I sat down by like 8.15. 350 01:09:31,833 --> 01:09:32,083 Yeah. 351 01:09:32,416 --> 01:09:33,750 And yeah, we got to talk about, 352 01:09:34,083 --> 01:09:35,000 watch a little basketball. 353 01:09:35,000 --> 01:09:35,875 They never watch basketball. 354 01:09:36,416 --> 01:09:38,291 They are not into 355 01:09:38,291 --> 01:09:39,500 watching college basketball. 356 01:09:40,375 --> 01:09:41,833 No, but they were that night. 357 01:09:41,833 --> 01:09:42,916 Yeah, it was fun, so that was good. 358 01:09:42,916 --> 01:09:43,625 Yeah, we have to have 359 01:09:43,625 --> 01:09:44,291 more of those times. 360 01:09:44,583 --> 01:09:46,583 Yeah, yeah, which you 361 01:09:46,583 --> 01:09:47,708 haven't had any of those 362 01:09:47,708 --> 01:09:48,291 for three months 363 01:09:48,291 --> 01:09:49,166 because I haven't driven. 364 01:09:49,791 --> 01:09:52,041 And it's just, anyway, 365 01:09:52,291 --> 01:09:53,458 so it's good for you. 366 01:09:53,458 --> 01:09:54,291 Yep, yep. 367 01:09:54,291 --> 01:09:56,500 And it's good for me too. 368 01:09:57,458 --> 01:09:59,541 I, it also feels nice to 369 01:09:59,541 --> 01:10:00,625 have that independence back. 370 01:10:00,916 --> 01:10:01,208 Yeah. 371 01:10:01,208 --> 01:10:02,708 I think I said, even on this podcast, 372 01:10:02,708 --> 01:10:03,583 I'm gonna go to CVS 373 01:10:03,583 --> 01:10:05,916 and buy some toothpaste. 374 01:10:06,208 --> 01:10:06,500 Right. 375 01:10:06,708 --> 01:10:07,208 Or deodorant. 376 01:10:07,208 --> 01:10:08,000 I don't remember what it was, 377 01:10:08,250 --> 01:10:09,750 but ironically, on my 378 01:10:09,750 --> 01:10:10,791 way home that night, 379 01:10:10,791 --> 01:10:12,208 I actually did stop at the 380 01:10:12,208 --> 01:10:14,791 CVS and bought some stuff. 381 01:10:15,041 --> 01:10:16,125 Yeah, I've been joking with 382 01:10:16,125 --> 01:10:16,958 the parents on the sideline. 383 01:10:17,125 --> 01:10:17,666 Like, well, gosh, 384 01:10:18,208 --> 01:10:19,375 Megan's gonna be free again. 385 01:10:19,375 --> 01:10:20,333 I've had her captive. 386 01:10:21,250 --> 01:10:22,250 Wherever she needed to go, 387 01:10:22,250 --> 01:10:23,125 she had to go through me. 388 01:10:25,000 --> 01:10:25,041 (laughing) 389 01:10:25,041 --> 01:10:27,291 Really nice, like a total, total control. 390 01:10:28,041 --> 01:10:28,416 Just kidding. 391 01:10:28,625 --> 01:10:29,916 You're like, can I just 392 01:10:29,916 --> 01:10:31,250 relinquish this control, please? 393 01:10:31,500 --> 01:10:33,500 No, it's great to have you back on that. 394 01:10:33,833 --> 01:10:36,125 But yeah, we needed that and it's just, 395 01:10:37,041 --> 01:10:39,458 we often struggle right on this podcast 396 01:10:40,500 --> 01:10:42,375 to figure out what we should talk about. 397 01:10:42,833 --> 01:10:44,166 Cause we talked, we've 398 01:10:44,166 --> 01:10:45,416 hinted once or twice that 399 01:10:45,875 --> 01:10:46,583 we do want to keep this 400 01:10:46,583 --> 01:10:48,583 somewhat high level and fun. 401 01:10:49,416 --> 01:10:49,958 You know, we don't 402 01:10:49,958 --> 01:10:51,041 want to get into politics 403 01:10:51,041 --> 01:10:52,083 and you know, God knows 404 01:10:52,083 --> 01:10:52,791 there's all kinds of stuff 405 01:10:52,791 --> 01:10:54,125 we could talk about, you know. 406 01:10:54,875 --> 01:10:55,666 The equity markets, 407 01:10:55,666 --> 01:10:57,083 you know, are on skids 408 01:10:57,083 --> 01:10:59,375 and it's like, I've got a lot of opinions 409 01:10:59,666 --> 01:11:01,000 on whether that's good or bad. 410 01:11:01,291 --> 01:11:02,375 I'm sure you do too. 411 01:11:02,375 --> 01:11:04,208 I know your first call today at your job 412 01:11:04,208 --> 01:11:05,458 was about tariffs and 413 01:11:05,458 --> 01:11:07,041 implications of that. 414 01:11:07,041 --> 01:11:08,333 But we have a lot to say 415 01:11:08,333 --> 01:11:08,958 about that kind of stuff. 416 01:11:09,125 --> 01:11:10,166 But it's just, I don't 417 01:11:10,166 --> 01:11:11,125 know in today's world 418 01:11:11,125 --> 01:11:12,791 that that's where we should focus. 419 01:11:13,416 --> 01:11:13,875 And I don't know if 420 01:11:13,875 --> 01:11:14,916 that's what our podcast is. 421 01:11:14,916 --> 01:11:15,708 That's not what our podcast 422 01:11:15,708 --> 01:11:17,083 is about, economic, you know. 423 01:11:17,500 --> 01:11:19,916 Right, it's about, you know, 424 01:11:20,500 --> 01:11:22,416 family and juggling it all. 425 01:11:22,708 --> 01:11:25,000 And you know, I think a lot of times 426 01:11:25,000 --> 01:11:27,791 those types of topics add more pressure 427 01:11:28,041 --> 01:11:30,458 or more, you know, fuel to 428 01:11:30,458 --> 01:11:31,833 the fire sometimes, right? 429 01:11:32,750 --> 01:11:33,333 But for the most 430 01:11:33,333 --> 01:11:34,583 part. Sure, I mean that's, 431 01:11:34,583 --> 01:11:36,666 yes, family, I mean, that's our 401k. 432 01:11:36,666 --> 01:11:37,875 Those are our equity purposes, our 433 01:11:37,875 --> 01:11:38,958 investments, you know. 434 01:11:39,833 --> 01:11:42,458 So, you know, I don't like the fact 435 01:11:42,458 --> 01:11:43,666 that we're gonna be a generation 436 01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:45,000 when it's all said and done, 437 01:11:45,166 --> 01:11:45,791 that's gonna go through 438 01:11:45,791 --> 01:11:47,125 three recessions potentially. 439 01:11:47,458 --> 01:11:48,958 Or who knows how many by the time 440 01:11:49,500 --> 01:11:51,958 we actually get to retirement age. 441 01:11:52,000 --> 01:11:52,250 Right. 442 01:11:52,708 --> 01:11:54,458 You know, every time we have a recession, 443 01:11:54,791 --> 01:11:55,541 you know, potentially, 444 01:11:56,041 --> 01:11:56,708 and don't get me wrong, 445 01:11:56,750 --> 01:11:57,625 we've had some good runs. 446 01:11:58,000 --> 01:11:58,041 Yeah. 447 01:11:58,083 --> 01:11:58,916 And we've made some smart 448 01:11:58,916 --> 01:11:59,791 buys and stuff like that, 449 01:11:59,791 --> 01:12:00,875 but now I'm getting off track. 450 01:12:00,875 --> 01:12:02,333 We are getting into economic stuff, 451 01:12:02,333 --> 01:12:04,541 but that is part of the roller coaster 452 01:12:04,541 --> 01:12:05,708 and the chaos of life. 453 01:12:05,750 --> 01:12:06,708 Right, right. 454 01:12:06,875 --> 01:12:07,958 That we talk about, but 455 01:12:07,958 --> 01:12:09,541 man, when it rains, it pours. 456 01:12:09,916 --> 01:12:10,541 And this is what I'm 457 01:12:10,541 --> 01:12:12,458 talking about a little bit here. 458 01:12:12,458 --> 01:12:13,416 It's just, there's been a 459 01:12:13,416 --> 01:12:14,333 lot of different subjects 460 01:12:14,333 --> 01:12:16,916 that we've been going through that have 461 01:12:16,916 --> 01:12:18,416 really weighed on us. 462 01:12:18,458 --> 01:12:18,666 Yep. 463 01:12:19,125 --> 01:12:19,750 And we're not gonna get 464 01:12:19,750 --> 01:12:20,708 into all of them obviously, 465 01:12:21,041 --> 01:12:22,625 but the soccer's just, that's a, 466 01:12:23,541 --> 01:12:25,750 that is the least important, lightest 467 01:12:25,750 --> 01:12:26,708 subject of them all. 468 01:12:26,750 --> 01:12:27,958 Yeah, yeah. 469 01:12:28,000 --> 01:12:28,625 That's kind of safe 470 01:12:28,625 --> 01:12:29,666 to talk about on here. 471 01:12:29,875 --> 01:12:30,083 Yeah. 472 01:12:30,541 --> 01:12:31,375 But another one that I 473 01:12:31,375 --> 01:12:32,958 know you wanted to mention, 474 01:12:32,958 --> 01:12:34,875 which has been prevalent this week. 475 01:12:35,416 --> 01:12:38,541 Yeah, it's just teens in social media. 476 01:12:39,541 --> 01:12:41,541 And, you know, I think 477 01:12:41,541 --> 01:12:44,166 the pressures that face 478 01:12:44,625 --> 01:12:46,833 our teens today are different than 479 01:12:47,916 --> 01:12:49,500 the pressures that we had as teens. 480 01:12:49,791 --> 01:12:53,541 And, you know, we're learning this. 481 01:12:53,541 --> 01:12:54,125 You know, maybe we'll 482 01:12:54,125 --> 01:12:55,083 have this down by the time 483 01:12:55,083 --> 01:12:57,625 our youngest is a teenager, maybe. 484 01:12:58,375 --> 01:12:58,958 I don't know the rules 485 01:12:58,958 --> 01:12:59,750 of the game will change, 486 01:13:00,333 --> 01:13:03,333 different kid, but it 487 01:13:03,333 --> 01:13:06,000 has been a tough week 488 01:13:06,875 --> 01:13:08,750 learning how to 489 01:13:08,750 --> 01:13:11,333 navigate really some adult 490 01:13:11,333 --> 01:13:11,958 and difficult 491 01:13:11,958 --> 01:13:15,125 conversations with teenagers. 492 01:13:16,166 --> 01:13:16,416 Yeah. 493 01:13:16,416 --> 01:13:17,541 Or, you know, a teenager. 494 01:13:17,916 --> 01:13:20,833 And how social media influences that. 495 01:13:21,166 --> 01:13:24,625 And, yeah, it's been tough. 496 01:13:24,875 --> 01:13:26,125 And I think a lot of people, 497 01:13:27,500 --> 01:13:29,375 and I talked to a lot of moms, 498 01:13:30,250 --> 01:13:31,125 and there's a lot of 499 01:13:31,125 --> 01:13:32,166 different strategies. 500 01:13:32,791 --> 01:13:36,333 And it's just, do we really 501 01:13:36,333 --> 01:13:37,541 know what our kids are doing? 502 01:13:37,541 --> 01:13:40,041 And we were joking, you know, like, 503 01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:41,916 this device, and I happen 504 01:13:41,916 --> 01:13:42,583 to have mine right here, 505 01:13:42,583 --> 01:13:43,375 like this device is 506 01:13:43,375 --> 01:13:44,458 probably the most dangerous thing 507 01:13:44,458 --> 01:13:45,166 you could have. 508 01:13:46,041 --> 01:13:48,333 I honestly, after this past week 509 01:13:48,333 --> 01:13:51,375 and some of the conversations, it's like, 510 01:13:51,666 --> 01:13:52,916 man, I feel really good 511 01:13:52,916 --> 01:13:54,041 about you driving right now. 512 01:13:54,708 --> 01:13:56,416 I feel way more worried about your phone 513 01:13:56,708 --> 01:13:58,958 than I do about you operating a vehicle. 514 01:14:00,083 --> 01:14:02,041 Yeah, and I mean, just to be specific, 515 01:14:02,041 --> 01:14:04,500 I mean, that comment kind 516 01:14:04,500 --> 01:14:05,500 of pointed to our oldest, 517 01:14:05,500 --> 01:14:06,333 and we're not pointing 518 01:14:06,333 --> 01:14:07,166 out any of our children 519 01:14:07,166 --> 01:14:08,000 in this conversation. 520 01:14:08,208 --> 01:14:09,166 No, no, no, we're not, yeah. 521 01:14:09,416 --> 01:14:10,833 But you're just using that as an example. 522 01:14:11,166 --> 01:14:12,791 I don't wanna point the 523 01:14:12,791 --> 01:14:14,083 finger at any one of our children 524 01:14:14,250 --> 01:14:15,541 on this, but. No. 525 01:14:15,583 --> 01:14:17,458 I mean, every parent 526 01:14:17,458 --> 01:14:20,291 knows that that's our age, 527 01:14:20,291 --> 01:14:22,625 that this is just a different era 528 01:14:22,958 --> 01:14:24,083 these kids are growing up in. 529 01:14:24,375 --> 01:14:25,166 It's way more dangerous, 530 01:14:25,416 --> 01:14:29,083 they have way more exposure 531 01:14:29,583 --> 01:14:31,125 to things that can ruin 532 01:14:31,125 --> 01:14:32,500 their lives much quicker. 533 01:14:33,125 --> 01:14:33,875 Yes, yes. Right? 534 01:14:34,166 --> 01:14:36,750 Latchkey kids, you know, we 535 01:14:36,750 --> 01:14:38,541 did stupid stuff, no doubt. 536 01:14:38,541 --> 01:14:39,625 Oh, yeah, yeah. You know? 537 01:14:39,875 --> 01:14:41,125 But the stupid stuff, I 538 01:14:41,125 --> 01:14:42,250 feel like that we did. 539 01:14:42,833 --> 01:14:43,958 It led to a broken bone. 540 01:14:44,375 --> 01:14:45,583 Exactly what I was gonna say. 541 01:14:45,583 --> 01:14:46,083 Oh, yay! 542 01:14:46,500 --> 01:14:46,791 Exactly, we're gonna 543 01:14:46,791 --> 01:14:47,916 break a bone, you know, 544 01:14:47,916 --> 01:14:48,416 like, because we're just 545 01:14:48,416 --> 01:14:49,750 being dumb, hanging off a car. 546 01:14:49,750 --> 01:14:51,000 It was stupid stuff, you know? 547 01:14:53,708 --> 01:14:56,000 But I'd never, and those 548 01:14:56,000 --> 01:14:56,958 are part of the conversations 549 01:14:56,958 --> 01:14:58,416 we had this week of 550 01:14:58,416 --> 01:15:02,916 one mistake in this world 551 01:15:02,916 --> 01:15:05,541 of a digital era that this 552 01:15:05,541 --> 01:15:07,000 digital age that we live in, 553 01:15:07,000 --> 01:15:09,500 something goes out, it lives forever. 554 01:15:09,500 --> 01:15:11,625 Yeah. And not that I ever did anything, 555 01:15:11,625 --> 01:15:12,416 I think that I can 556 01:15:12,416 --> 01:15:13,125 point to when I was younger 557 01:15:13,291 --> 01:15:14,291 that I'm like, gosh, I'm glad there 558 01:15:14,291 --> 01:15:15,375 wasn't pictures of that. 559 01:15:15,375 --> 01:15:17,500 Right. But that being said, 560 01:15:17,833 --> 01:15:19,833 you know, I mean, like, we all are just, 561 01:15:19,833 --> 01:15:20,750 especially when you're growing up, 562 01:15:20,750 --> 01:15:22,666 you're never gonna make all good choices. 563 01:15:23,333 --> 01:15:24,583 No. Right? 564 01:15:24,583 --> 01:15:25,458 So, you know, you 565 01:15:25,458 --> 01:15:26,958 definitely don't want, you know, 566 01:15:26,958 --> 01:15:29,166 choices memorialized, bad choices 567 01:15:29,166 --> 01:15:30,291 memorialized forever. 568 01:15:30,666 --> 01:15:30,916 Right. 569 01:15:31,791 --> 01:15:32,875 And then you start peeling 570 01:15:32,875 --> 01:15:34,416 back that onion even more, 571 01:15:34,416 --> 01:15:35,250 and you talk about that, 572 01:15:35,250 --> 01:15:36,875 what they have access to, 573 01:15:36,875 --> 01:15:38,541 and who has access to them? 574 01:15:38,708 --> 01:15:39,041 Yes. 575 01:15:40,125 --> 01:15:42,416 Is frightening, and I don't, 576 01:15:43,125 --> 01:15:44,041 and this is where we've 577 01:15:44,041 --> 01:15:45,166 learned as parents this week 578 01:15:45,375 --> 01:15:46,583 that we've hit on this 579 01:15:46,583 --> 01:15:49,125 lightly throughout the years, 580 01:15:49,750 --> 01:15:53,625 but it was full bore 581 01:15:53,625 --> 01:15:55,500 in our face this week. 582 01:15:55,625 --> 01:15:57,541 Right. That we probably took that 583 01:15:57,541 --> 01:15:59,250 too lightly, and we 584 01:15:59,250 --> 01:16:00,625 needed to hit that more head-on 585 01:16:00,625 --> 01:16:04,291 of just how dangerous those things are, 586 01:16:04,291 --> 01:16:05,625 and how kids aren't 587 01:16:05,625 --> 01:16:07,666 ready for what that phone 588 01:16:08,583 --> 01:16:10,500 exposes them to. Right, right. 589 01:16:11,125 --> 01:16:13,041 And I should also say, like, 590 01:16:14,708 --> 01:16:16,750 this is really the first time we have 591 01:16:16,750 --> 01:16:19,000 really seen it head-on, 592 01:16:19,666 --> 01:16:21,625 and there's right now nothing, 593 01:16:22,500 --> 01:16:23,458 nothing that is 594 01:16:23,458 --> 01:16:25,291 horrible or super damaging, 595 01:16:25,833 --> 01:16:27,083 but it's just, hey, we need 596 01:16:27,083 --> 01:16:29,791 to really get ahold of this 597 01:16:29,833 --> 01:16:32,833 before it could lead 598 01:16:32,833 --> 01:16:34,041 to that in the future 599 01:16:34,041 --> 01:16:35,041 if we don't set 600 01:16:35,041 --> 01:16:38,291 stricter guardrails today. 601 01:16:39,250 --> 01:16:40,125 Right. Like, this moment. 602 01:16:40,791 --> 01:16:41,916 Well, I think because we're adults and 603 01:16:41,916 --> 01:16:43,416 we're the way we are, 604 01:16:43,916 --> 01:16:46,666 it's like, you know, a 605 01:16:46,666 --> 01:16:48,208 millimeter in the wrong direction 606 01:16:49,041 --> 01:16:51,541 is like full bore stop, you know, pull 607 01:16:51,541 --> 01:16:52,625 the emergency break up. 608 01:16:52,625 --> 01:16:55,125 It's not like we went off course here, 609 01:16:55,125 --> 01:16:56,000 and it's like, oh my God, 610 01:16:56,000 --> 01:16:57,041 we're gonna be, you know, 611 01:16:57,791 --> 01:16:58,416 this is gonna be a 612 01:16:58,416 --> 01:16:59,750 lifetime to prepare this. 613 01:16:59,958 --> 01:17:00,541 Nothing like that. 614 01:17:00,583 --> 01:17:02,083 Nothing like that, right, right. 615 01:17:02,125 --> 01:17:03,916 But it is like, okay, we're young, 616 01:17:03,916 --> 01:17:05,333 and that's partially why, 617 01:17:05,333 --> 01:17:06,875 because our kids are young enough 618 01:17:07,500 --> 01:17:08,500 that we need to make 619 01:17:08,500 --> 01:17:10,125 sure that law is laid 620 01:17:10,250 --> 01:17:11,791 and that understanding is laid, 621 01:17:12,250 --> 01:17:14,458 and that we are taking the right 622 01:17:14,458 --> 01:17:15,958 precautions as parents, 623 01:17:16,541 --> 01:17:18,291 that maybe we were a little too lax on, 624 01:17:18,291 --> 01:17:19,458 maybe there was too much trust, 625 01:17:19,458 --> 01:17:21,291 or maybe there's just naivety. 626 01:17:22,000 --> 01:17:22,750 We're really finishing 627 01:17:22,750 --> 01:17:23,958 each other's sentences today. 628 01:17:24,250 --> 01:17:24,916 Sandcastles, yes. 629 01:17:27,791 --> 01:17:27,833 (laughs) 630 01:17:28,291 --> 01:17:29,000 Well, we're on, I mean, 631 01:17:29,000 --> 01:17:30,916 we're locked in now, you know, 632 01:17:30,916 --> 01:17:32,208 we've had a lot of locked in 633 01:17:32,208 --> 01:17:33,833 conversations this week, so. 634 01:17:33,875 --> 01:17:35,041 Right, right. 635 01:17:35,833 --> 01:17:37,791 And it's, yeah, so I think it was. 636 01:17:37,791 --> 01:17:38,750 I think it was naivety 637 01:17:38,750 --> 01:17:40,166 probably on our part, 638 01:17:40,708 --> 01:17:44,500 probably on our kids' parts too, right? 639 01:17:45,000 --> 01:17:46,333 And that's where it was like, 640 01:17:46,333 --> 01:17:47,500 I know there was a ton 641 01:17:47,500 --> 01:17:48,833 of naivety on their part, 642 01:17:48,833 --> 01:17:50,875 and it was like, oh, this could be so 643 01:17:50,875 --> 01:17:52,875 dangerous, you know? 644 01:17:53,375 --> 01:17:54,125 It's so interesting, 645 01:17:54,125 --> 01:17:55,000 because we have generations 646 01:17:55,000 --> 01:17:55,958 that lift, different 647 01:17:55,958 --> 01:17:56,916 generations that we know 648 01:17:56,916 --> 01:17:57,541 that listen to this 649 01:17:57,541 --> 01:18:00,291 podcast, and, you know, 650 01:18:01,458 --> 01:18:02,916 when they see us going through our 651 01:18:02,916 --> 01:18:04,208 parenting, you know, 652 01:18:04,708 --> 01:18:06,125 and this is one that I would be curious 653 01:18:06,291 --> 01:18:08,125 of how they parallel 654 01:18:08,125 --> 01:18:09,458 this with their experience, 655 01:18:09,458 --> 01:18:10,000 because I know everybody 656 01:18:10,000 --> 01:18:11,916 at our parents' generation 657 01:18:12,041 --> 01:18:12,958 that's thinking back on, 658 01:18:13,333 --> 01:18:14,625 oh, they're in this phase 659 01:18:14,625 --> 01:18:15,708 of their life, and oh, 660 01:18:15,708 --> 01:18:16,625 yeah, we told you so, 661 01:18:16,625 --> 01:18:17,541 because we always say that, right? 662 01:18:17,541 --> 01:18:19,041 You always hear your parents say that. 663 01:18:19,041 --> 01:18:20,125 You just wait till you're a parent. 664 01:18:20,791 --> 01:18:22,375 And we're in that, but I 665 01:18:22,375 --> 01:18:24,208 didn't have a mobile phone 666 01:18:24,583 --> 01:18:25,750 that could see the 667 01:18:25,750 --> 01:18:27,416 darkest parts of the world 668 01:18:27,416 --> 01:18:29,000 by just typing something into Google. 669 01:18:29,000 --> 01:18:29,291 Right. 670 01:18:29,875 --> 01:18:30,916 Is innocent, or 671 01:18:30,916 --> 01:18:33,333 uninsently as it may have been. 672 01:18:33,375 --> 01:18:33,583 Right. 673 01:18:33,833 --> 01:18:35,166 Right, I mean, we've talked a lot, 674 01:18:35,208 --> 01:18:36,833 we've had a lot of uncomfortable 675 01:18:36,833 --> 01:18:37,958 conversations this week, 676 01:18:38,166 --> 01:18:38,791 and I remember having 677 01:18:38,791 --> 01:18:39,541 some of those uncomfortable 678 01:18:39,708 --> 01:18:42,333 conversations when I was a child, but 679 01:18:42,333 --> 01:18:43,708 never to this extent. 680 01:18:43,958 --> 01:18:44,125 Right. 681 01:18:44,708 --> 01:18:46,791 You know, what's out there, so. 682 01:18:46,916 --> 01:18:47,166 Yeah. 683 01:18:47,208 --> 01:18:48,875 I'd be curious what they 684 01:18:48,875 --> 01:18:50,166 parallel that to, you know, 685 01:18:50,166 --> 01:18:51,250 because I'm sure they can 686 01:18:51,250 --> 01:18:53,000 smile too, but I mean, like, 687 01:18:54,250 --> 01:18:54,875 I don't know, what was the 688 01:18:54,875 --> 01:18:56,166 worst thing we could be exposed 689 01:18:56,166 --> 01:18:56,875 to back then? 690 01:18:56,875 --> 01:18:58,250 I mean, it was really hard to be exposed 691 01:18:58,250 --> 01:19:00,125 to some of these type things, you know? 692 01:19:00,125 --> 01:19:00,833 I mean, like, we were 693 01:19:00,833 --> 01:19:02,333 never exposed to a predator 694 01:19:02,500 --> 01:19:03,708 unless they pulled up in a van. 695 01:19:05,625 --> 01:19:07,333 Which we jokingly always say, like, 696 01:19:07,708 --> 01:19:08,750 if anybody ever hears me 697 01:19:08,750 --> 01:19:10,083 when our kids get out of our car 698 01:19:10,083 --> 01:19:12,250 at soccer games, I'm like, if anybody 699 01:19:12,250 --> 01:19:13,541 offers you free candy, 700 01:19:13,791 --> 01:19:14,458 get in the van. 701 01:19:15,166 --> 01:19:15,875 Right, right. 702 01:19:16,375 --> 01:19:17,375 As a joke, you know? 703 01:19:17,375 --> 01:19:18,458 A joke, and they know that. 704 01:19:18,500 --> 01:19:20,375 Because that's, it probably does happen, 705 01:19:20,375 --> 01:19:21,291 and I don't want to make a lie to that. 706 01:19:22,333 --> 01:19:23,791 But for us, it's kind of our 707 01:19:23,791 --> 01:19:25,291 joke and our family of like, 708 01:19:25,500 --> 01:19:26,500 don't make stupid choices. 709 01:19:27,291 --> 01:19:29,000 That's exactly right, and it's like, 710 01:19:29,875 --> 01:19:31,208 you just, there's so 711 01:19:31,208 --> 01:19:33,208 many more opportunities 712 01:19:33,791 --> 01:19:34,916 for that kind of thing. 713 01:19:35,375 --> 01:19:36,541 Yes, it does happen, and 714 01:19:36,541 --> 01:19:37,541 we don't want to make a lie. 715 01:19:38,000 --> 01:19:40,125 But it can happen more on, you know, 716 01:19:40,125 --> 01:19:40,833 that social media 717 01:19:40,833 --> 01:19:42,291 presence, that digital platform. 718 01:19:42,291 --> 01:19:42,541 It's like-- 719 01:19:42,958 --> 01:19:44,208 Yeah, yeah. 720 01:19:44,708 --> 01:19:48,458 And it is terrifying as a parent. 721 01:19:50,041 --> 01:19:51,833 And what, you know, as you were talking, 722 01:19:51,833 --> 01:19:52,250 you were saying, 723 01:19:52,250 --> 01:19:53,416 like, it'll be, you know, 724 01:19:53,416 --> 01:19:54,125 I'd love to hear what 725 01:19:54,125 --> 01:19:56,916 some of the older generation 726 01:19:56,916 --> 01:19:58,333 that are listening to this and how, 727 01:19:58,333 --> 01:20:00,583 what they liken this to, you know, 728 01:20:01,000 --> 01:20:02,458 as they were raising their kids. 729 01:20:03,500 --> 01:20:04,583 There could be, you 730 01:20:04,583 --> 01:20:05,291 know, if we think back 731 01:20:05,291 --> 01:20:07,375 on all the dangers that we had, like, 732 01:20:07,666 --> 01:20:09,916 we were naive at the time, so like, 733 01:20:09,916 --> 01:20:11,791 our parents were probably like, yeah, 734 01:20:12,000 --> 01:20:13,458 but there were so many more dangers, 735 01:20:14,375 --> 01:20:15,583 maybe not compared to today, 736 01:20:15,583 --> 01:20:17,166 but like, there were a lot of dangers 737 01:20:18,041 --> 01:20:19,750 that you weren't aware of, you know, 738 01:20:19,750 --> 01:20:21,125 that I was protecting you from. 739 01:20:22,625 --> 01:20:23,708 You know, it's a good point. 740 01:20:24,500 --> 01:20:25,625 It's a good point, because 741 01:20:25,625 --> 01:20:26,958 I said the exact same thing 742 01:20:27,125 --> 01:20:28,416 to our children this week, it's like, 743 01:20:28,750 --> 01:20:29,708 you guys don't even know 744 01:20:29,708 --> 01:20:30,666 what's behind the curtain. 745 01:20:31,041 --> 01:20:31,583 Right. Yet. 746 01:20:31,916 --> 01:20:32,916 Slowly but surely, we 747 01:20:32,916 --> 01:20:33,791 draw those curtains, 748 01:20:34,333 --> 01:20:35,125 and you'll draw those 749 01:20:35,125 --> 01:20:35,833 curtains on your own 750 01:20:35,833 --> 01:20:37,291 as you even get older. Right. 751 01:20:37,333 --> 01:20:38,250 Right, but we draw those 752 01:20:38,250 --> 01:20:40,416 curtains that age appropriately. 753 01:20:41,000 --> 01:20:42,333 Yeah. And I think we were maybe 754 01:20:42,333 --> 01:20:43,000 drawing those curtains 755 01:20:43,000 --> 01:20:45,166 too slowly, in some cases, 756 01:20:45,708 --> 01:20:48,291 and not fast enough in other cases, 757 01:20:48,916 --> 01:20:51,458 but I mean, at 48 years old, 758 01:20:52,666 --> 01:20:55,375 I think back to, in the 80s, you know, 759 01:20:55,375 --> 01:20:57,166 what I was exposed to, and what I could 760 01:20:57,166 --> 01:20:58,083 have been exposed to, 761 01:20:58,083 --> 01:20:58,833 maybe, and now that I 762 01:20:58,833 --> 01:20:59,791 look back and think of things 763 01:20:59,791 --> 01:21:00,958 that other kids were doing, I mean, 764 01:21:01,250 --> 01:21:02,041 just say no to drugs, 765 01:21:02,333 --> 01:21:03,708 I mean, drugs were like 766 01:21:03,708 --> 01:21:04,583 the worst thing you could 767 01:21:04,583 --> 01:21:05,375 have got into back then. 768 01:21:05,375 --> 01:21:06,583 Oh my gosh, yeah. We didn't have 769 01:21:06,583 --> 01:21:07,625 school shootings, we 770 01:21:07,625 --> 01:21:09,208 didn't have, you know, 771 01:21:09,208 --> 01:21:11,458 we had none of some of these crazy things 772 01:21:11,458 --> 01:21:12,625 that they have today, you 773 01:21:12,625 --> 01:21:13,791 know, I mean, literally, 774 01:21:14,500 --> 01:21:15,166 the dumbest thing we 775 01:21:15,166 --> 01:21:15,833 could have do is like, 776 01:21:15,833 --> 01:21:17,541 throw a firecracker at some kid. 777 01:21:18,666 --> 01:21:21,541 Or, you know, put a rope on our bike 778 01:21:21,541 --> 01:21:23,625 behind a car or something like that. 779 01:21:23,791 --> 01:21:25,166 I mean, that's been, who knows? 780 01:21:25,500 --> 01:21:26,916 I didn't do that. I didn't do that. 781 01:21:27,166 --> 01:21:28,625 Although I did ride on like the, 782 01:21:29,583 --> 01:21:30,500 like spokes of my 783 01:21:30,500 --> 01:21:31,958 brother's bike, like the wheels. 784 01:21:31,958 --> 01:21:33,208 On the pegs. On the pegs, yeah, 785 01:21:33,208 --> 01:21:33,875 that's what it was. Yeah. 786 01:21:33,916 --> 01:21:35,083 I did ride on those. Yeah. 787 01:21:35,083 --> 01:21:36,708 We'd go to-- Pegs were awesome. 788 01:21:37,000 --> 01:21:37,875 Pegs were so cool. 789 01:21:38,166 --> 01:21:39,708 We'd ride on the back and we'd go to 790 01:21:40,208 --> 01:21:41,083 Pianalescent's that way. 791 01:21:41,208 --> 01:21:42,666 Yeah, that's hilarious. 792 01:21:44,041 --> 01:21:44,750 It was like the most 793 01:21:44,750 --> 01:21:46,583 innocent leave it to beaver scene 794 01:21:46,583 --> 01:21:48,291 I can picture in my head ever. 795 01:21:49,041 --> 01:21:49,958 I know, yeah. 796 01:21:50,416 --> 01:21:51,000 Ding, ding, ding. 797 01:21:51,333 --> 01:21:52,833 Tell me it had a banana seed on it. 798 01:21:53,041 --> 01:21:53,708 Yeah, you know, banana 799 01:21:53,708 --> 01:21:54,958 seeds don't go with pegs, but. 800 01:21:55,333 --> 01:21:56,416 No, no, no, no, it was 801 01:21:56,416 --> 01:21:57,500 like, my older brother 802 01:21:57,625 --> 01:21:58,500 had like a BMX type 803 01:21:58,500 --> 01:21:59,916 bike and he had pegs on it. 804 01:22:00,208 --> 01:22:02,333 And, you know, as I'm telling this story, 805 01:22:02,333 --> 01:22:03,000 I'm actually more 806 01:22:03,000 --> 01:22:04,166 surprised that my older brother 807 01:22:04,291 --> 01:22:05,250 played piano than 808 01:22:05,250 --> 01:22:07,125 anything, like back on-- 809 01:22:07,125 --> 01:22:08,000 I had no idea he did. 810 01:22:08,625 --> 01:22:09,583 For like a year or two. 811 01:22:09,750 --> 01:22:10,583 Yeah. Yeah. 812 01:22:11,208 --> 01:22:12,500 But anyway, I 813 01:22:12,500 --> 01:22:13,750 digress, that was, you know. 814 01:22:14,833 --> 01:22:16,458 That was rebel at the time. 815 01:22:17,208 --> 01:22:18,583 So that's been one of them, you know, 816 01:22:18,583 --> 01:22:20,625 calling up other parents and, you know, 817 01:22:20,625 --> 01:22:22,750 because these kids just have so much. 818 01:22:24,833 --> 01:22:26,791 In here, they have so much. 819 01:22:26,833 --> 01:22:29,583 And here, it does take a village. 820 01:22:29,583 --> 01:22:30,291 And that's part of why we 821 01:22:30,291 --> 01:22:31,541 started this podcast, right? 822 01:22:31,541 --> 01:22:33,541 Like, there's people in this together. 823 01:22:34,000 --> 01:22:37,500 And I think, you know, we're so blessed 824 01:22:37,500 --> 01:22:38,833 to have people in our 825 01:22:38,833 --> 01:22:41,250 village that I can call 826 01:22:41,250 --> 01:22:41,958 and be like, hey, 827 01:22:41,958 --> 01:22:43,083 this is what I found out. 828 01:22:43,083 --> 01:22:43,541 You should probably 829 01:22:43,541 --> 01:22:44,666 check your kid's phone 830 01:22:44,791 --> 01:22:46,000 and blah, blah, blah, 831 01:22:46,000 --> 01:22:46,875 this is what happened. 832 01:22:49,500 --> 01:22:50,250 We're also figuring out 833 01:22:50,250 --> 01:22:51,500 what other parents do. 834 01:22:52,583 --> 01:22:54,125 Yeah. That we weren't doing. 835 01:22:54,333 --> 01:22:55,291 Right. To safeguard some 836 01:22:55,291 --> 01:22:56,666 of these situations. Yeah. 837 01:22:57,750 --> 01:22:58,458 Maybe just because that's 838 01:22:58,458 --> 01:22:59,583 where our naivety came in. 839 01:22:59,958 --> 01:23:01,916 I don't wanna say trust, but I think. 840 01:23:02,833 --> 01:23:03,333 Well, what's 841 01:23:03,333 --> 01:23:04,666 interesting is that, you know, 842 01:23:04,666 --> 01:23:05,291 the people I've talked 843 01:23:05,291 --> 01:23:08,125 to have older children 844 01:23:08,333 --> 01:23:10,416 and almost everyone that I've talked to 845 01:23:10,708 --> 01:23:12,500 learn the exact lesson that we learned 846 01:23:13,000 --> 01:23:13,875 on their older child. 847 01:23:14,166 --> 01:23:14,500 Gotcha. 848 01:23:14,916 --> 01:23:15,875 Well, it's good, that's good. 849 01:23:15,875 --> 01:23:17,416 So, you know, they're just 850 01:23:17,416 --> 01:23:19,041 a couple years ahead of us. 851 01:23:19,625 --> 01:23:21,666 Or a year ahead of us in all of it. 852 01:23:21,958 --> 01:23:23,041 Because it's been 10 853 01:23:23,041 --> 01:23:24,208 or 11 straight days now 854 01:23:24,208 --> 01:23:25,666 of just pouring rain in our lives. 855 01:23:25,666 --> 01:23:26,000 It has. 856 01:23:28,333 --> 01:23:28,833 And it's like, 857 01:23:29,041 --> 01:23:29,833 there's been multiple times 858 01:23:29,833 --> 01:23:31,208 we looked at each other this week 859 01:23:32,000 --> 01:23:33,000 and just like, are we failing? 860 01:23:33,250 --> 01:23:35,583 Are we just completely failing? 861 01:23:36,291 --> 01:23:38,041 You know, in the important things. 862 01:23:38,041 --> 01:23:38,791 In the important things. 863 01:23:39,041 --> 01:23:39,500 You know? 864 01:23:39,958 --> 01:23:40,958 And so, yeah, we've talked 865 01:23:40,958 --> 01:23:41,875 about what do we do better 866 01:23:42,000 --> 01:23:44,583 and there's, we've talked about that. 867 01:23:45,000 --> 01:23:45,750 That's not just family. 868 01:23:45,750 --> 01:23:46,875 Like I said, there's like 10 things 869 01:23:46,875 --> 01:23:47,500 that are happening right now. 870 01:23:47,500 --> 01:23:48,083 I was like, okay, 871 01:23:48,375 --> 01:23:49,958 whoa, another domino falls. 872 01:23:50,250 --> 01:23:51,791 And another, and another. And another. 873 01:23:51,791 --> 01:23:52,708 And yeah, I think I 874 01:23:52,708 --> 01:23:53,458 told you at some point 875 01:23:53,458 --> 01:23:54,791 in the past 10 days, I was like, 876 01:23:55,458 --> 01:23:56,750 can we just get a day 877 01:23:56,750 --> 01:23:58,333 that doesn't have bad news? 878 01:23:58,333 --> 01:23:59,791 Like I just want to get to neutral. 879 01:24:00,708 --> 01:24:02,875 I'm not asking for good news. 880 01:24:03,500 --> 01:24:04,916 I'm not asking to win the lottery. 881 01:24:05,125 --> 01:24:07,041 I'm not even asking for sunshine. 882 01:24:07,958 --> 01:24:09,833 I simply want a neutral day. 883 01:24:10,458 --> 01:24:11,083 Not bad. 884 01:24:12,208 --> 01:24:14,083 You know, it's funny that 885 01:24:14,083 --> 01:24:15,000 you just made me think of that. 886 01:24:15,000 --> 01:24:16,083 Not asking to win the lottery. 887 01:24:16,916 --> 01:24:18,125 So every now and again, you 888 01:24:18,125 --> 01:24:19,583 know, I mean, like, what is it? 889 01:24:20,083 --> 01:24:20,875 12 times a year, I'll 890 01:24:20,875 --> 01:24:23,166 buy like a mega millions. 891 01:24:23,166 --> 01:24:23,500 For sure. 892 01:24:24,000 --> 01:24:24,416 Oh, a ticket. 893 01:24:25,833 --> 01:24:27,708 And, you know, one of the 894 01:24:27,708 --> 01:24:28,583 things I've been working on 895 01:24:29,625 --> 01:24:31,916 for months now is a business opportunity 896 01:24:31,916 --> 01:24:33,208 that fell through this last week. 897 01:24:34,208 --> 01:24:35,958 And, you know, that's been disappointing. 898 01:24:37,041 --> 01:24:37,541 It's not the end of the 899 01:24:37,541 --> 01:24:38,791 world, things will move on. 900 01:24:38,791 --> 01:24:39,625 But, you know, I spent a lot 901 01:24:39,625 --> 01:24:40,916 of time and effort on this. 902 01:24:40,916 --> 01:24:42,500 You know, economically, things have 903 01:24:42,500 --> 01:24:43,500 shifted because of it. 904 01:24:44,916 --> 01:24:47,541 And so I went at 7-11 yesterday. 905 01:24:47,750 --> 01:24:49,541 I was filling up the car 906 01:24:49,541 --> 01:24:51,041 and I went in to buy a lottery ticket. 907 01:24:52,708 --> 01:24:53,625 And it's not even a high one. 908 01:24:53,625 --> 01:24:54,541 It's only like 44 909 01:24:54,541 --> 01:24:55,833 million or something like that. 910 01:24:56,125 --> 01:24:56,791 Because usually we'll wait 911 01:24:56,791 --> 01:24:57,541 till it's like a billion. 912 01:24:57,541 --> 01:24:58,708 It's like, why not us? 913 01:24:58,708 --> 01:24:59,500 Why not? It's been, you know. 914 01:24:59,500 --> 01:25:00,375 Yeah, why not? 915 01:25:00,416 --> 01:25:01,083 We'll make everybody's 916 01:25:01,083 --> 01:25:02,041 life better if we win this. 917 01:25:02,791 --> 01:25:05,916 But get this, I went in to buy $6. 918 01:25:05,916 --> 01:25:06,916 Because that's what I always do. 919 01:25:07,125 --> 01:25:08,541 I think that's three quick picks. 920 01:25:08,791 --> 01:25:10,666 It's $6, 12 times a year. 921 01:25:11,416 --> 01:25:12,291 Anyway, 72 bucks. 922 01:25:13,000 --> 01:25:15,458 But it's the girl couldn't figure out how 923 01:25:15,458 --> 01:25:16,458 to print the ticket. 924 01:25:16,833 --> 01:25:18,500 So I couldn't even buy a 925 01:25:18,500 --> 01:25:20,458 stinking lottery ticket 926 01:25:20,583 --> 01:25:22,083 because I don't want 927 01:25:22,083 --> 01:25:22,958 to say I had bad luck. 928 01:25:23,291 --> 01:25:24,500 But you've known me long enough. 929 01:25:24,500 --> 01:25:26,416 But I couldn't even buy a lottery ticket. 930 01:25:26,666 --> 01:25:27,625 You're kidding me. 931 01:25:27,625 --> 01:25:27,875 Yeah. 932 01:25:28,500 --> 01:25:29,791 I literally laughed as 933 01:25:29,791 --> 01:25:30,583 I walked out the door 934 01:25:30,583 --> 01:25:31,166 just being like, are 935 01:25:31,166 --> 01:25:33,000 you stinking kidding me? 936 01:25:35,083 --> 01:25:36,958 We don't even have a chance to have, 937 01:25:37,250 --> 01:25:39,166 like that's just crazy. 938 01:25:39,958 --> 01:25:40,250 How does-- 939 01:25:40,625 --> 01:25:42,000 The door slam, I mean, so many doors 940 01:25:42,000 --> 01:25:43,166 are slamming right now. 941 01:25:43,541 --> 01:25:43,875 Yeah, yeah. 942 01:25:43,875 --> 01:25:45,000 Well, certainly winning the lottery 943 01:25:45,000 --> 01:25:46,458 is also not in our future. 944 01:25:47,416 --> 01:25:48,875 Not that I thought it was. 945 01:25:49,625 --> 01:25:50,708 And I'm okay with that. 946 01:25:50,750 --> 01:25:52,125 No, but every now and then it's like, 947 01:25:52,166 --> 01:25:52,666 I mean, I'm sure 948 01:25:52,666 --> 01:25:53,708 everybody thinks this way, right? 949 01:25:53,833 --> 01:25:54,708 Everybody buys them. 950 01:25:54,708 --> 01:25:55,416 Most people will buy 951 01:25:55,416 --> 01:25:56,208 them every now and again. 952 01:25:56,583 --> 01:25:59,625 And it's just that moment of, what if? 953 01:26:00,250 --> 01:26:01,833 Here's what I would do, you know? 954 01:26:01,833 --> 01:26:02,791 Yeah, yeah. 955 01:26:02,791 --> 01:26:03,458 Just like, oh, that 956 01:26:03,458 --> 01:26:04,208 would change everything. 957 01:26:04,416 --> 01:26:06,916 And we don't need the money to be happy 958 01:26:06,916 --> 01:26:07,666 and all that kind of stuff. 959 01:26:07,666 --> 01:26:08,666 Because God knows money 960 01:26:08,666 --> 01:26:09,750 doesn't buy happiness. 961 01:26:09,833 --> 01:26:10,875 No, it does not. 962 01:26:11,291 --> 01:26:13,375 Not that we have enough to confirm that. 963 01:26:13,375 --> 01:26:15,250 It buys fun toys and stuff like that. 964 01:26:15,791 --> 01:26:18,458 But anyways, I thought that was funny. 965 01:26:18,458 --> 01:26:18,750 It's true. 966 01:26:19,458 --> 01:26:19,625 It could change the 967 01:26:19,625 --> 01:26:21,541 things that really matter. 968 01:26:22,500 --> 01:26:24,041 No amount of money would have stopped 969 01:26:24,041 --> 01:26:25,708 some of the heartache that 970 01:26:25,708 --> 01:26:27,125 we've had over the last week. 971 01:26:27,416 --> 01:26:29,416 So it's just like, yeah. 972 01:26:29,875 --> 01:26:32,333 But that is hilarious and a little ironic 973 01:26:32,333 --> 01:26:33,000 that you couldn't even 974 01:26:33,000 --> 01:26:33,875 buy a lottery ticket. 975 01:26:34,375 --> 01:26:35,875 Yeah, I mean, doors just 976 01:26:35,875 --> 01:26:37,416 slam and shut everywhere. 977 01:26:38,375 --> 01:26:39,375 Oh my gosh. 978 01:26:39,750 --> 01:26:44,375 Well, you know, that's just life. 979 01:26:45,750 --> 01:26:46,833 That's life aboard the 980 01:26:46,833 --> 01:26:49,208 Chaos Express, as we put it. 981 01:26:49,250 --> 01:26:51,125 In the description of this podcast. 982 01:26:51,625 --> 01:26:52,000 It is. 983 01:26:52,541 --> 01:26:54,583 Anyways, other people are there. 984 01:26:54,583 --> 01:26:56,041 Everybody has these seasons. 985 01:26:56,291 --> 01:26:57,250 We're in the midst of one 986 01:26:57,250 --> 01:26:58,500 of these seasons for us. 987 01:26:58,875 --> 01:26:59,875 We'll see some change. 988 01:27:02,250 --> 01:27:04,416 Buckling down and just refocusing. 989 01:27:05,833 --> 01:27:07,583 Refocusing on family too. 990 01:27:08,541 --> 01:27:09,541 One of the things we talked about. 991 01:27:09,958 --> 01:27:12,208 Yeah, we're just like, we 992 01:27:12,208 --> 01:27:13,041 gotta put our phones down. 993 01:27:13,041 --> 01:27:13,708 We gotta be better at 994 01:27:13,708 --> 01:27:15,000 putting our own phones down. 995 01:27:15,500 --> 01:27:19,166 So doubling down on that family time. 996 01:27:19,791 --> 01:27:21,166 It was as we were talking about 997 01:27:21,166 --> 01:27:22,583 what we can do different. 998 01:27:24,333 --> 01:27:25,208 One of the things was 999 01:27:25,208 --> 01:27:26,583 clearly our children 1000 01:27:26,583 --> 01:27:27,875 are begging for family 1001 01:27:27,875 --> 01:27:29,791 time because for dinners, 1002 01:27:29,791 --> 01:27:31,041 they're asking for, can we 1003 01:27:31,041 --> 01:27:32,000 just have a family dinner? 1004 01:27:32,291 --> 01:27:32,916 And instead of movie 1005 01:27:32,916 --> 01:27:33,500 nights, they're like, 1006 01:27:33,500 --> 01:27:34,541 can we do a game night? 1007 01:27:34,916 --> 01:27:36,500 So our kids are clearly 1008 01:27:36,500 --> 01:27:39,500 clamoring for more togetherness. 1009 01:27:39,500 --> 01:27:39,791 Yeah. 1010 01:27:40,166 --> 01:27:42,416 So it's like, that's our focus. 1011 01:27:42,416 --> 01:27:43,291 That's what we're giving them. 1012 01:27:44,708 --> 01:27:46,958 Yeah, and I will say, I 1013 01:27:46,958 --> 01:27:48,000 don't think it's because 1014 01:27:48,458 --> 01:27:52,083 of our family dynamics that 1015 01:27:52,083 --> 01:27:54,916 I'm sitting in a different room 1016 01:27:55,625 --> 01:27:56,750 staring at my phone, 1017 01:27:56,750 --> 01:27:58,083 you're working in your office. 1018 01:27:59,500 --> 01:28:01,000 Until five, that kinda happens. 1019 01:28:01,000 --> 01:28:02,000 Cause you're working, I'm 1020 01:28:02,000 --> 01:28:03,208 working, they're at school. 1021 01:28:03,208 --> 01:28:04,250 Hopefully they're doing school work. 1022 01:28:04,250 --> 01:28:04,916 We picked them up. 1023 01:28:05,750 --> 01:28:08,041 But it truly is every night of the week. 1024 01:28:08,250 --> 01:28:09,500 And we have family 1025 01:28:09,500 --> 01:28:10,833 members that try to FaceTime us 1026 01:28:11,291 --> 01:28:12,833 and just catch in, catch up with us. 1027 01:28:13,166 --> 01:28:14,250 And so many times I'm like, 1028 01:28:14,250 --> 01:28:15,458 sorry, I'm on the road to it. 1029 01:28:15,833 --> 01:28:18,500 But I mean, quite 1030 01:28:18,500 --> 01:28:21,083 literally, we will go stretches 1031 01:28:21,083 --> 01:28:22,375 of 20 days straight 1032 01:28:22,375 --> 01:28:23,416 where we have something 1033 01:28:23,541 --> 01:28:24,375 every single night. 1034 01:28:24,375 --> 01:28:25,375 We have practice every 1035 01:28:25,375 --> 01:28:26,416 single night, but Friday night. 1036 01:28:26,958 --> 01:28:27,500 For a while we had 1037 01:28:27,500 --> 01:28:28,666 soccer games on Friday nights 1038 01:28:28,666 --> 01:28:29,250 from the high schools. 1039 01:28:30,083 --> 01:28:33,125 So we are, my point to this isn't that, 1040 01:28:33,291 --> 01:28:34,083 oh, we're so busy, 1041 01:28:34,083 --> 01:28:35,125 but my point to this is 1042 01:28:35,125 --> 01:28:36,416 when we're doing that, and 1043 01:28:36,416 --> 01:28:37,458 this goes back a little bit 1044 01:28:37,458 --> 01:28:39,416 to the first conversation we had here, 1045 01:28:39,916 --> 01:28:42,958 we've had to split up now to conquer. 1046 01:28:44,416 --> 01:28:46,083 So I'm going here, you're going there, 1047 01:28:46,083 --> 01:28:46,666 and then you're catching 1048 01:28:46,666 --> 01:28:47,625 up, or we're catching up 1049 01:28:47,625 --> 01:28:48,708 at one place, cause we 1050 01:28:48,708 --> 01:28:49,916 dropped someone else off here. 1051 01:28:50,375 --> 01:28:51,458 But the family splits, 1052 01:28:51,458 --> 01:28:52,333 so someone's staying home 1053 01:28:52,333 --> 01:28:54,166 with the dog while two 1054 01:28:54,166 --> 01:28:55,458 kids are out at their things, 1055 01:28:55,916 --> 01:28:56,791 or one person's out. 1056 01:28:57,083 --> 01:28:58,541 Cause we always still try 1057 01:28:58,541 --> 01:28:59,625 to hit all of our sports 1058 01:28:59,708 --> 01:29:01,625 activities, no matter what. 1059 01:29:01,625 --> 01:29:02,583 If two of us can be 1060 01:29:02,583 --> 01:29:03,500 there, we're both there. 1061 01:29:03,500 --> 01:29:04,041 We're both there. 1062 01:29:04,458 --> 01:29:06,458 Always, it's never, I'm tired, not going, 1063 01:29:06,750 --> 01:29:07,833 it's never that for us. 1064 01:29:08,750 --> 01:29:10,208 But because of that, we're 1065 01:29:10,208 --> 01:29:11,500 split up a lot as a family. 1066 01:29:12,166 --> 01:29:13,833 Very rarely do we have 1067 01:29:13,833 --> 01:29:16,000 three hours at night together 1068 01:29:16,000 --> 01:29:17,000 on any night. 1069 01:29:18,166 --> 01:29:19,208 So, I mean, even Monday night 1070 01:29:19,208 --> 01:29:20,041 that you were talking about, 1071 01:29:20,041 --> 01:29:21,083 you were at practice, 1072 01:29:22,041 --> 01:29:22,916 you were at track practice. 1073 01:29:23,666 --> 01:29:24,625 That's where you were at. 1074 01:29:25,000 --> 01:29:25,791 Even though one practice 1075 01:29:25,791 --> 01:29:26,583 was canceled that night, 1076 01:29:26,583 --> 01:29:28,041 that's why I had two boys at home. 1077 01:29:28,250 --> 01:29:30,000 So, you know, I do want 1078 01:29:30,000 --> 01:29:31,083 to say it is a little bit 1079 01:29:31,083 --> 01:29:31,875 because of that, it's 1080 01:29:31,875 --> 01:29:33,166 not because we're ignoring, 1081 01:29:33,416 --> 01:29:35,625 but it's just, we have to 1082 01:29:35,625 --> 01:29:37,208 be able to double down now 1083 01:29:37,583 --> 01:29:38,208 on two points. 1084 01:29:38,500 --> 01:29:44,291 One is finding that time and enjoying it. 1085 01:29:44,708 --> 01:29:45,875 I guess it is just this one point. 1086 01:29:45,875 --> 01:29:46,875 Cause I say this a lot when 1087 01:29:46,875 --> 01:29:48,666 I get too caught up in stuff. 1088 01:29:48,666 --> 01:29:50,166 I'm like, we're 1089 01:29:50,166 --> 01:29:51,500 living our lives right now. 1090 01:29:51,833 --> 01:29:52,791 Today's the only day we have. 1091 01:29:53,625 --> 01:29:56,125 And we cannot miss those small moments 1092 01:29:56,666 --> 01:29:57,416 of just enjoying our 1093 01:29:57,416 --> 01:29:58,541 family, enjoying each other. 1094 01:29:59,250 --> 01:30:00,000 So many times. 1095 01:30:00,000 --> 01:30:01,500 And I am the worst at it. 1096 01:30:01,500 --> 01:30:02,833 I'm looking forward to tomorrow. 1097 01:30:02,833 --> 01:30:04,250 I'm looking at what's ready to do that, 1098 01:30:04,250 --> 01:30:04,666 you know, what's going 1099 01:30:04,666 --> 01:30:05,583 on the rest of this week, 1100 01:30:05,583 --> 01:30:06,666 what's happening next month. 1101 01:30:07,250 --> 01:30:08,625 And I'm just not living in that moment 1102 01:30:08,625 --> 01:30:09,750 and enjoying our kids. 1103 01:30:09,750 --> 01:30:10,333 And our kids are 1104 01:30:10,333 --> 01:30:11,583 crying out for that more. 1105 01:30:11,583 --> 01:30:12,000 Even though we're 1106 01:30:12,000 --> 01:30:14,166 together, sometimes we're not. 1107 01:30:14,458 --> 01:30:17,416 And that's where I need to be, 1108 01:30:18,125 --> 01:30:19,000 I just constantly need 1109 01:30:19,000 --> 01:30:20,041 to be reminded of that. 1110 01:30:20,291 --> 01:30:22,458 That live in this moment, enjoy this. 1111 01:30:23,041 --> 01:30:23,250 Yeah. 1112 01:30:23,875 --> 01:30:26,083 And for me, it's even, you 1113 01:30:26,083 --> 01:30:27,416 know, when we are split up, 1114 01:30:27,958 --> 01:30:30,458 I do really focus on then 1115 01:30:30,458 --> 01:30:31,750 that is my time with that kid. 1116 01:30:32,708 --> 01:30:33,500 Like whether we're in 1117 01:30:33,500 --> 01:30:35,333 the car and, you know, 1118 01:30:35,458 --> 01:30:36,208 where I was home with 1119 01:30:36,208 --> 01:30:37,208 them while you were taking, 1120 01:30:37,208 --> 01:30:38,125 you know, during the last three months 1121 01:30:38,125 --> 01:30:40,625 when I was home a lot more than you were, 1122 01:30:41,000 --> 01:30:43,000 usually there was a kid with me or two 1123 01:30:43,541 --> 01:30:44,291 while you were out 1124 01:30:44,291 --> 01:30:45,416 running with the other one. 1125 01:30:45,416 --> 01:30:46,166 And so it was like, okay, 1126 01:30:46,166 --> 01:30:47,625 this is my time to focus 1127 01:30:47,625 --> 01:30:49,541 on this child and talk to this kid 1128 01:30:49,708 --> 01:30:52,250 about what is going on in their life. 1129 01:30:53,041 --> 01:30:53,416 You know, cause 1130 01:30:53,416 --> 01:30:54,416 sometimes it's not all about 1131 01:30:54,416 --> 01:30:55,666 just the five of us. 1132 01:30:55,666 --> 01:30:57,041 It can just be creating 1133 01:30:57,041 --> 01:30:58,416 those moments with just us 1134 01:30:58,416 --> 01:30:59,875 and one or two of the kids. 1135 01:31:01,333 --> 01:31:02,125 I think they like that too. 1136 01:31:02,833 --> 01:31:03,750 You're right, they do. 1137 01:31:03,791 --> 01:31:05,125 And you're better at that than I am. 1138 01:31:05,666 --> 01:31:07,833 I just, there's no excuse there. 1139 01:31:08,166 --> 01:31:09,625 I get to honey do lists 1140 01:31:09,625 --> 01:31:11,208 that I'm just so far behind on 1141 01:31:11,208 --> 01:31:11,958 that I've talked about. 1142 01:31:11,958 --> 01:31:13,125 I know other people know that feeling. 1143 01:31:13,583 --> 01:31:15,416 Oh yeah, it's constant. 1144 01:31:16,791 --> 01:31:17,625 It just goes back to, I 1145 01:31:17,625 --> 01:31:18,458 don't know how to relax. 1146 01:31:18,458 --> 01:31:19,625 And part of that is just 1147 01:31:19,625 --> 01:31:21,750 sitting down, you know, 1148 01:31:21,750 --> 01:31:22,666 with a kid enjoying 1149 01:31:22,666 --> 01:31:23,833 that moment and hearing. 1150 01:31:24,333 --> 01:31:25,583 I've talked about it before on this thing 1151 01:31:25,583 --> 01:31:27,333 where it's like, even that five minutes, 1152 01:31:27,333 --> 01:31:28,916 just tell me your story for five minutes. 1153 01:31:28,916 --> 01:31:29,750 That's all they want. 1154 01:31:29,750 --> 01:31:30,166 Yeah. 1155 01:31:30,208 --> 01:31:30,750 And then they're up. 1156 01:31:31,000 --> 01:31:31,500 And I'm also 1157 01:31:31,500 --> 01:31:32,791 struggling a little bit with, 1158 01:31:32,791 --> 01:31:34,083 because we talked about it this week too. 1159 01:31:34,083 --> 01:31:34,875 It's like, when I was 1160 01:31:34,875 --> 01:31:35,833 a kid at their ages, 1161 01:31:36,833 --> 01:31:38,125 I was always in my room. 1162 01:31:38,250 --> 01:31:38,666 Oh, I was. 1163 01:31:38,750 --> 01:31:39,500 Playing G.I. Joe, 1164 01:31:39,916 --> 01:31:41,333 playing with my transformers, 1165 01:31:41,458 --> 01:31:43,250 drawing, listening to music. 1166 01:31:43,291 --> 01:31:43,833 Listening to music? 1167 01:31:43,875 --> 01:31:46,833 Had nothing to do with, you know, 1168 01:31:47,083 --> 01:31:48,333 not wanting to be with a family. 1169 01:31:48,666 --> 01:31:49,375 Right, right. 1170 01:31:49,875 --> 01:31:51,250 It had everything to do 1171 01:31:51,250 --> 01:31:53,208 with me wanting to lose myself 1172 01:31:53,208 --> 01:31:54,083 in the music that I 1173 01:31:54,083 --> 01:31:55,625 was listening to or sing 1174 01:31:55,875 --> 01:31:57,916 or whatever it was. 1175 01:31:59,791 --> 01:32:00,916 And I think that's, 1176 01:32:01,000 --> 01:32:01,791 I think it's an 1177 01:32:01,791 --> 01:32:02,958 important part of development, 1178 01:32:03,333 --> 01:32:04,333 is to have that time away. 1179 01:32:04,333 --> 01:32:05,000 It is, they have a break. 1180 01:32:05,000 --> 01:32:06,250 Yeah, to have a break. 1181 01:32:06,250 --> 01:32:07,291 And so it's like, let's 1182 01:32:07,291 --> 01:32:08,291 not take it personally 1183 01:32:08,291 --> 01:32:09,208 that they want to be in 1184 01:32:09,208 --> 01:32:10,125 their rooms right now. 1185 01:32:10,750 --> 01:32:11,500 Yeah, I don't think it was, 1186 01:32:11,500 --> 01:32:12,166 it wasn't until I was older 1187 01:32:12,166 --> 01:32:13,458 that it was really kind of 1188 01:32:13,458 --> 01:32:15,041 a way of me trying to cope 1189 01:32:15,041 --> 01:32:16,708 with the family situation 1190 01:32:16,708 --> 01:32:17,833 at home, you know? 1191 01:32:18,625 --> 01:32:20,000 And then isolate a 1192 01:32:20,000 --> 01:32:21,208 little bit more in that. 1193 01:32:21,375 --> 01:32:22,458 So, and our kids aren't at that age 1194 01:32:22,458 --> 01:32:24,250 and we have a different 1195 01:32:24,250 --> 01:32:25,458 household than I grew up in. 1196 01:32:25,458 --> 01:32:26,166 And for you is probably, 1197 01:32:26,541 --> 01:32:27,750 that's why it was nice to hear from you 1198 01:32:27,958 --> 01:32:31,750 because your household 1199 01:32:31,750 --> 01:32:32,791 was probably more like ours. 1200 01:32:33,375 --> 01:32:34,083 Yes, yeah. 1201 01:32:34,708 --> 01:32:38,708 I grew up in a very happy home life. 1202 01:32:38,708 --> 01:32:40,125 And so when I went to my 1203 01:32:40,125 --> 01:32:41,208 room to listen to music, 1204 01:32:41,708 --> 01:32:43,208 now it was chaotic and 1205 01:32:43,208 --> 01:32:44,500 maybe that's also part of it. 1206 01:32:45,208 --> 01:32:46,416 I mean, I'm one of five siblings 1207 01:32:46,875 --> 01:32:48,125 and we were all very involved. 1208 01:32:48,125 --> 01:32:48,708 I mean, so our house 1209 01:32:48,708 --> 01:32:50,000 was chaos all the time. 1210 01:32:50,000 --> 01:32:51,208 So maybe part of 1211 01:32:51,208 --> 01:32:52,875 going to my room was just, 1212 01:32:53,166 --> 01:32:55,916 let me remove myself from the chaos 1213 01:32:55,916 --> 01:32:57,041 and have a moment of peace. 1214 01:32:57,333 --> 01:32:59,500 Which is probably a lot of sometimes 1215 01:32:59,500 --> 01:33:01,083 what our kids want to do too. 1216 01:33:01,083 --> 01:33:03,375 Like, it's pretty chaotic. 1217 01:33:03,625 --> 01:33:04,500 So anyway, I think 1218 01:33:04,500 --> 01:33:05,458 that's probably part of it 1219 01:33:05,458 --> 01:33:06,375 but it was also just a 1220 01:33:06,375 --> 01:33:08,000 time when I could think 1221 01:33:08,000 --> 01:33:09,500 and do my own, whatever 1222 01:33:09,500 --> 01:33:11,041 was going on in my own head, 1223 01:33:11,041 --> 01:33:13,291 I could lose myself in my 1224 01:33:13,291 --> 01:33:14,416 own thoughts a little bit. 1225 01:33:15,041 --> 01:33:15,666 Maybe that's weird. 1226 01:33:16,333 --> 01:33:17,125 Sorry if it is. 1227 01:33:17,333 --> 01:33:18,125 No, God no. 1228 01:33:18,166 --> 01:33:19,958 Insights into, you 1229 01:33:19,958 --> 01:33:21,583 know, 15 year old Megan. 1230 01:33:22,333 --> 01:33:23,416 Like, just. 1231 01:33:24,250 --> 01:33:27,250 No, those are all times in our lives 1232 01:33:27,250 --> 01:33:28,375 that we all know we're 1233 01:33:28,375 --> 01:33:29,625 searching to find ourselves 1234 01:33:29,625 --> 01:33:31,916 in magical times also, I mean. 1235 01:33:31,958 --> 01:33:32,250 Yeah. 1236 01:33:32,750 --> 01:33:33,250 That's why I just 1237 01:33:33,250 --> 01:33:34,291 ultimately don't want our kids 1238 01:33:34,291 --> 01:33:35,208 to be robbed of their 1239 01:33:35,208 --> 01:33:37,000 innocence of enjoying childhood. 1240 01:33:37,250 --> 01:33:37,541 Yeah. 1241 01:33:37,875 --> 01:33:39,208 You know, as you get into adolescence, 1242 01:33:39,916 --> 01:33:40,916 the weight of the world, 1243 01:33:42,125 --> 01:33:44,041 you start feeling it a little bit more, 1244 01:33:44,041 --> 01:33:45,208 a little bit more, a little bit more. 1245 01:33:46,500 --> 01:33:49,250 And you need to develop coping mechanisms 1246 01:33:49,875 --> 01:33:51,500 to handle that well too. 1247 01:33:51,833 --> 01:33:52,333 That's another thing 1248 01:33:52,333 --> 01:33:53,000 that came up this week, 1249 01:33:53,291 --> 01:33:53,791 is just all the 1250 01:33:53,791 --> 01:33:54,750 pressures that they're under. 1251 01:33:55,541 --> 01:33:56,541 And I will say that they 1252 01:33:56,541 --> 01:33:57,666 probably do have more pressures 1253 01:33:57,666 --> 01:33:58,958 than we did growing up. 1254 01:33:59,333 --> 01:34:00,541 We dealt with a lot, we did 1255 01:34:00,541 --> 01:34:01,583 a lot, don't get me wrong. 1256 01:34:02,375 --> 01:34:03,333 But I don't know that we ever had, 1257 01:34:04,250 --> 01:34:05,416 at least I'm speaking for myself, 1258 01:34:05,791 --> 01:34:07,208 the pressures that they have. 1259 01:34:07,208 --> 01:34:08,041 I mean, like, they're 1260 01:34:08,041 --> 01:34:08,750 scared out of their minds 1261 01:34:08,750 --> 01:34:09,750 to take star tests, 1262 01:34:09,750 --> 01:34:10,625 you know, state tests. 1263 01:34:10,666 --> 01:34:10,958 Yeah. 1264 01:34:11,666 --> 01:34:13,458 I couldn't have cared less about those. 1265 01:34:13,500 --> 01:34:13,666 Right. 1266 01:34:14,625 --> 01:34:15,708 Yeah, they're very like, 1267 01:34:16,291 --> 01:34:17,500 for me it was like a free day. 1268 01:34:17,500 --> 01:34:18,625 I didn't have to learn anything. 1269 01:34:18,625 --> 01:34:20,416 I just had to fill out bubble charts. 1270 01:34:20,875 --> 01:34:21,791 Well, filling out the 1271 01:34:21,791 --> 01:34:23,375 bubbles was a little stressful 1272 01:34:23,583 --> 01:34:24,125 because you didn't want to 1273 01:34:24,125 --> 01:34:25,083 get outside of the lines. 1274 01:34:26,291 --> 01:34:26,750 You know, I mean, that 1275 01:34:26,750 --> 01:34:27,458 was a little stressful 1276 01:34:27,458 --> 01:34:28,833 making sure those bubbles were perfect. 1277 01:34:29,916 --> 01:34:31,250 Did you make sure they were perfect too? 1278 01:34:31,250 --> 01:34:32,791 Like, I would erase it if I went out. 1279 01:34:32,833 --> 01:34:34,041 I did, but the harder ones 1280 01:34:34,041 --> 01:34:35,458 were the ones that were the rectangles. 1281 01:34:35,791 --> 01:34:36,291 Yes. 1282 01:34:36,875 --> 01:34:38,416 Those drove me crazy because 1283 01:34:38,416 --> 01:34:39,291 you had to be very precise. 1284 01:34:39,541 --> 01:34:40,458 You had to be very precise. 1285 01:34:40,708 --> 01:34:41,375 I liked the bubble. 1286 01:34:41,541 --> 01:34:42,541 I was, I'm much better at circles. 1287 01:34:42,541 --> 01:34:44,125 Scantrons, they still have scantrons? 1288 01:34:44,750 --> 01:34:45,833 I don't know, we'll have to ask. 1289 01:34:45,875 --> 01:34:47,250 We need to do a whole episode of like, 1290 01:34:47,250 --> 01:34:48,208 do they still have this? 1291 01:34:48,583 --> 01:34:49,916 Maybe that's another one of our segments. 1292 01:34:50,333 --> 01:34:51,458 You can just start writing down segments. 1293 01:34:53,666 --> 01:34:54,500 I'm peeved. 1294 01:34:54,541 --> 01:34:55,583 I'm peeved and. 1295 01:34:56,041 --> 01:34:57,041 Scant, or not scantrons. 1296 01:34:58,375 --> 01:35:00,375 The fact that you pulled out scantron 1297 01:35:00,916 --> 01:35:01,791 is pretty incredible. 1298 01:35:01,791 --> 01:35:02,583 Yeah, I do still have this 1299 01:35:02,583 --> 01:35:03,875 because we're starting to show that. 1300 01:35:03,916 --> 01:35:04,333 Oh yeah. 1301 01:35:04,666 --> 01:35:04,916 Age. 1302 01:35:05,958 --> 01:35:08,000 In more ways than one for me, for sure. 1303 01:35:09,000 --> 01:35:10,416 Gosh, it's like, yeah, the gray. 1304 01:35:11,833 --> 01:35:12,166 Oh, wow. 1305 01:35:12,291 --> 01:35:13,125 We didn't vent too much 1306 01:35:13,125 --> 01:35:14,166 this week, which is good. 1307 01:35:16,041 --> 01:35:17,333 One of the other things that is cool, 1308 01:35:17,333 --> 01:35:19,375 and I know we're getting it at time here, 1309 01:35:19,666 --> 01:35:23,291 but given all the things going on, 1310 01:35:23,291 --> 01:35:24,875 I happened to look at my phone yesterday 1311 01:35:25,208 --> 01:35:26,416 and realize the date. 1312 01:35:26,750 --> 01:35:27,208 Oh yeah. 1313 01:35:27,750 --> 01:35:30,375 And it was 20 years ago yesterday 1314 01:35:30,583 --> 01:35:32,000 that we officially met. 1315 01:35:32,000 --> 01:35:33,208 Yep, that's exciting. 1316 01:35:33,250 --> 01:35:34,375 Which is super cool. 1317 01:35:34,625 --> 01:35:34,958 That's neat. 1318 01:35:35,541 --> 01:35:35,750 Like. 1319 01:35:35,833 --> 01:35:37,083 20 years, two decades. 1320 01:35:37,458 --> 01:35:38,416 Two decades. 1321 01:35:39,541 --> 01:35:40,916 Does it seem like it's been that long? 1322 01:35:42,541 --> 01:35:43,833 So yes and no. 1323 01:35:43,833 --> 01:35:44,125 Yeah. 1324 01:35:44,583 --> 01:35:46,416 Like, because I can't 1325 01:35:46,416 --> 01:35:47,875 imagine my life without you. 1326 01:35:47,916 --> 01:35:49,625 So it's like, you've just 1327 01:35:49,625 --> 01:35:52,041 kind of, you're part of me. 1328 01:35:52,708 --> 01:35:52,916 Yeah. 1329 01:35:53,333 --> 01:35:55,708 And so, like, of course, 1330 01:35:56,125 --> 01:35:57,625 that's been there all the time. 1331 01:35:58,041 --> 01:35:58,208 Yeah. 1332 01:35:58,250 --> 01:35:59,250 In some ways, right? 1333 01:35:59,250 --> 01:36:02,208 So in that case, it feels like it's long, 1334 01:36:02,208 --> 01:36:02,916 but then you're like, oh my 1335 01:36:02,916 --> 01:36:05,083 God, where did 20 years go? 1336 01:36:05,125 --> 01:36:05,500 Yeah. 1337 01:36:05,500 --> 01:36:07,083 I'm still 25. 1338 01:36:07,083 --> 01:36:08,333 Like, what in the world happened? 1339 01:36:08,916 --> 01:36:09,708 Right, right. 1340 01:36:10,625 --> 01:36:12,166 Mir tells me I'm not 25. 1341 01:36:13,666 --> 01:36:14,500 You gotta stop saying that. 1342 01:36:14,500 --> 01:36:15,083 You still look great. 1343 01:36:15,083 --> 01:36:15,958 You still look very young. 1344 01:36:16,208 --> 01:36:16,833 Well, thank you. 1345 01:36:18,250 --> 01:36:18,875 But I've seen pictures 1346 01:36:18,875 --> 01:36:20,166 of me at 25 and I have, 1347 01:36:20,500 --> 01:36:21,666 I do look a little different. 1348 01:36:23,208 --> 01:36:23,791 (laughs) 1349 01:36:24,500 --> 01:36:25,041 That's okay. 1350 01:36:26,250 --> 01:36:27,500 We all do love, that's what happens. 1351 01:36:27,541 --> 01:36:29,250 It's what happens, it's a part of it. 1352 01:36:29,250 --> 01:36:31,291 But I have you to grow old with, so. 1353 01:36:31,291 --> 01:36:32,166 That's right, that's right. 1354 01:36:32,416 --> 01:36:33,708 No, that's fun, 20 years, so. 1355 01:36:33,750 --> 01:36:34,125 20 years. 1356 01:36:34,958 --> 01:36:35,583 And one of the things 1357 01:36:35,583 --> 01:36:36,958 that we talked about 1358 01:36:36,958 --> 01:36:38,000 over all of this, you're like, 1359 01:36:38,500 --> 01:36:39,708 how do we get through all this? 1360 01:36:39,708 --> 01:36:40,125 And I was like, we 1361 01:36:40,125 --> 01:36:40,875 get through it together. 1362 01:36:41,333 --> 01:36:43,458 That's, you know, and it's like 20 years 1363 01:36:44,125 --> 01:36:44,666 we've been getting 1364 01:36:44,666 --> 01:36:45,833 through all of it together, 1365 01:36:45,958 --> 01:36:47,458 so it's pretty cool. 1366 01:36:47,916 --> 01:36:48,625 We watched "The 1367 01:36:48,625 --> 01:36:49,625 Notebook" just there tonight. 1368 01:36:49,958 --> 01:36:51,500 I love that movie. 1369 01:36:51,791 --> 01:36:52,041 Yeah. 1370 01:36:53,583 --> 01:36:53,708 Yeah. 1371 01:36:54,250 --> 01:36:55,125 What do you want? 1372 01:36:57,083 --> 01:36:57,208 Anyway. 1373 01:36:57,458 --> 01:36:58,000 They got through it 1374 01:36:58,000 --> 01:36:58,958 together, I guess was my point. 1375 01:36:59,750 --> 01:37:00,291 Yes, they did. 1376 01:37:01,500 --> 01:37:02,000 That's how we're 1377 01:37:02,000 --> 01:37:02,958 gonna go, too, in the end. 1378 01:37:03,625 --> 01:37:03,958 Yeah. 1379 01:37:03,958 --> 01:37:04,750 It's gonna fade off. 1380 01:37:05,916 --> 01:37:06,666 Yeah, although I really 1381 01:37:06,666 --> 01:37:09,416 don't want Alzheimer's, but. 1382 01:37:09,833 --> 01:37:11,500 Oh yeah, don't put that on me, Bobby. 1383 01:37:11,541 --> 01:37:11,958 Don't you put that on me. 1384 01:37:11,958 --> 01:37:13,125 Don't put that on me, Ricky Bobby. 1385 01:37:14,916 --> 01:37:17,333 Anyway, well, I know 1386 01:37:17,333 --> 01:37:18,791 we're getting on time, 1387 01:37:18,791 --> 01:37:19,625 but we have a really 1388 01:37:19,625 --> 01:37:21,333 exciting week coming up. 1389 01:37:23,083 --> 01:37:23,875 So we'll have plenty to 1390 01:37:23,875 --> 01:37:25,125 talk about in the next episode. 1391 01:37:25,416 --> 01:37:27,166 We have a big tournament. 1392 01:37:27,666 --> 01:37:29,625 We have a very busy weekend coming up 1393 01:37:30,166 --> 01:37:33,166 with a whole bunch of soccer stuff. 1394 01:37:33,166 --> 01:37:35,041 So this is kind of our first foray 1395 01:37:35,291 --> 01:37:37,791 into an international soccer tournament 1396 01:37:38,083 --> 01:37:40,458 and all of that, which 1397 01:37:40,458 --> 01:37:41,833 takes up over a full week. 1398 01:37:42,208 --> 01:37:43,333 Yeah, you have to qualify for. 1399 01:37:43,666 --> 01:37:44,583 Do you have to qualify for? 1400 01:37:45,125 --> 01:37:47,291 They play during school hours. 1401 01:37:47,291 --> 01:37:48,583 They actually get an excuse from school. 1402 01:37:49,166 --> 01:37:50,333 Big opening ceremony. 1403 01:37:51,125 --> 01:37:52,458 Going to a professional game this week. 1404 01:37:52,458 --> 01:37:53,125 And you're right, we have a 1405 01:37:53,125 --> 01:37:54,083 lot going on this weekend. 1406 01:37:54,916 --> 01:37:56,583 I'm gonna need to get my energy up. 1407 01:37:56,916 --> 01:37:58,291 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 1408 01:37:58,291 --> 01:37:59,208 We're gonna have to go a bit early 1409 01:37:59,416 --> 01:38:00,625 for the next three nights in 1410 01:38:00,625 --> 01:38:01,583 order to have enough energy 1411 01:38:01,583 --> 01:38:03,250 for the weekend, which will 1412 01:38:03,250 --> 01:38:04,250 leave us completely depleted 1413 01:38:04,250 --> 01:38:05,458 for the following week, but. 1414 01:38:05,875 --> 01:38:06,000 Yeah. 1415 01:38:07,541 --> 01:38:09,875 Choo, choo, all aboard the chaos train. 1416 01:38:10,500 --> 01:38:11,500 Choo, choo, yeah. 1417 01:38:11,833 --> 01:38:13,083 (laughing) 1418 01:38:13,208 --> 01:38:15,083 That was so lame, I am so sorry. 1419 01:38:15,958 --> 01:38:16,583 I was like, maybe 1420 01:38:16,583 --> 01:38:17,583 that's just how you end it. 1421 01:38:17,583 --> 01:38:18,458 That's the new ending, 1422 01:38:18,458 --> 01:38:19,416 is you just saying that. 1423 01:38:21,500 --> 01:38:25,041 Even the station, we'll just go all in 1424 01:38:25,041 --> 01:38:26,833 on that choo, choo, train metaphor. 1425 01:38:27,708 --> 01:38:29,125 But you can be, you're definitely the 1426 01:38:29,125 --> 01:38:30,000 conductor doing that. 1427 01:38:30,583 --> 01:38:32,791 No, I don't want that. 1428 01:38:33,000 --> 01:38:34,041 We could stand up and like, 1429 01:38:34,041 --> 01:38:34,958 choo, choo, choo, choo, 1430 01:38:34,958 --> 01:38:35,125 choo, choo, choo, choo, 1431 01:38:35,125 --> 01:38:36,708 out of the frame at the very end. 1432 01:38:37,125 --> 01:38:38,583 While you're going, choo, choo. 1433 01:38:39,416 --> 01:38:41,125 It's very Mr. Rogers feeling, right? 1434 01:38:41,166 --> 01:38:42,250 Because I can remember the 1435 01:38:42,250 --> 01:38:44,833 train to make "Believeland" 1436 01:38:44,833 --> 01:38:45,625 or whatever it was. 1437 01:38:46,416 --> 01:38:46,916 You would watch the 1438 01:38:46,916 --> 01:38:48,583 train leave and then, anyway. 1439 01:38:48,833 --> 01:38:49,541 I totally remember that. 1440 01:38:49,875 --> 01:38:51,958 I feel like we had a 1441 01:38:51,958 --> 01:38:53,750 secret closing track last week. 1442 01:38:53,750 --> 01:38:54,583 We closed and then we 1443 01:38:54,583 --> 01:38:55,500 had like two more minutes 1444 01:38:55,500 --> 01:38:56,708 of like a secret track. 1445 01:38:57,125 --> 01:38:58,041 If you hung on for that. 1446 01:38:58,291 --> 01:38:59,291 If you hung on, yeah, 1447 01:38:59,291 --> 01:39:00,291 because we did our closing 1448 01:39:00,291 --> 01:39:02,291 and then you and I kept talking. 1449 01:39:02,291 --> 01:39:03,583 We're like, how do you think that went? 1450 01:39:03,625 --> 01:39:04,666 Yeah, yeah. 1451 01:39:05,083 --> 01:39:06,375 So let's not do that one again. 1452 01:39:06,750 --> 01:39:08,291 We'll just close it off right about here. 1453 01:39:08,625 --> 01:39:08,833 Yeah. 1454 01:39:10,583 --> 01:39:12,083 Somehow, Smartless actually talked about 1455 01:39:12,083 --> 01:39:12,916 on their last episode 1456 01:39:12,916 --> 01:39:16,083 changing their ending 1457 01:39:16,291 --> 01:39:17,250 because there's only so 1458 01:39:17,250 --> 01:39:17,875 many words you could say 1459 01:39:17,875 --> 01:39:19,041 with the word buy in it, right? 1460 01:39:19,541 --> 01:39:20,041 Bicycle, buy. 1461 01:39:20,708 --> 01:39:23,791 And in the end, Barnett was like, 1462 01:39:23,791 --> 01:39:24,833 "Well guys, whatever it is, 1463 01:39:24,833 --> 01:39:25,916 "we really need to have the listeners. 1464 01:39:26,500 --> 01:39:28,583 "They need to buy in." 1465 01:39:29,833 --> 01:39:29,875 (laughing) 1466 01:39:30,041 --> 01:39:31,708 They stuck with it. 1467 01:39:32,250 --> 01:39:32,458 So. 1468 01:39:33,166 --> 01:39:34,166 Of course they did. 1469 01:39:34,208 --> 01:39:34,958 We might just have to 1470 01:39:34,958 --> 01:39:35,666 stick with ours too. 1471 01:39:36,416 --> 01:39:37,333 Well, yeah, because we 1472 01:39:37,333 --> 01:39:38,416 finished each other's-- 1473 01:39:38,875 --> 01:39:40,208 You can't say, that is just 1474 01:39:40,208 --> 01:39:41,208 so bad to say it like that. 1475 01:39:42,958 --> 01:39:43,291 Really? 1476 01:39:43,333 --> 01:39:44,666 Yeah, just starting it over like that. 1477 01:39:45,291 --> 01:39:47,875 Yeah, because it needs to 1478 01:39:47,875 --> 01:39:48,875 be like coming naturally 1479 01:39:49,208 --> 01:39:52,958 in a conversation, in a story. 1480 01:39:53,416 --> 01:39:53,666 Yeah. 1481 01:39:53,666 --> 01:39:54,791 Like we did earlier today. 1482 01:39:55,041 --> 01:39:56,916 That was perfect example of how to do it. 1483 01:39:56,958 --> 01:39:57,375 It's true. 1484 01:39:58,000 --> 01:39:59,083 And now we're spending like a minute. 1485 01:39:59,583 --> 01:40:00,416 Everybody's already hung up. 1486 01:40:00,666 --> 01:40:01,541 Nobody's even listening to it 1487 01:40:01,541 --> 01:40:02,666 because they're just like, they're 1488 01:40:02,666 --> 01:40:03,458 getting into the sandcastle. 1489 01:40:05,083 --> 01:40:05,333 So. 1490 01:40:06,708 --> 01:40:07,375 Or the snow angel. 1491 01:40:09,708 --> 01:40:11,000 You never know. 1492 01:40:11,708 --> 01:40:12,750 You never know how 1493 01:40:12,750 --> 01:40:13,583 you're gonna finish mine. 1494 01:40:15,666 --> 01:40:16,375 The hand witch. 1495 01:40:17,000 --> 01:40:17,458 There you go. 1496 01:40:18,333 --> 01:40:18,625 All right. 1497 01:40:19,250 --> 01:40:20,750 That's it, that's a wrap for this week. 1498 01:40:20,750 --> 01:40:21,791 Hopefully next week's better. 1499 01:40:22,166 --> 01:40:22,708 Positivity. 1500 01:40:23,458 --> 01:40:23,791 Positivity. 1501 01:40:24,375 --> 01:40:24,833 Thanks all. 1502 01:40:25,541 --> 01:40:25,875 See ya. 1503 01:40:25,875 --> 01:40:26,291 See ya.