Show Notes
Transcript for Ep14
Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story.
Let me ask you a question. Do you think it is easy to be a woman? From learning the duties of a woman (three obediences and five virtues ) and assisting our husband to bring up our children. Moreover, we still need to bear children and juggle both our careers and family. It’s really not easy to even thinking about it. Am I right?
Today, what I want to share with you is "How to be a woman who can balance both family and career.” A woman who can achieve balance and harmony in her life, career, family, body and mind.
I am a female entrepreneur. Apart from being an investor in an education center, I am also engaged in real estate business. At the same time, I am also the mother of four children, and I work hard to have a happy family and to succeed in my career too. At this moment, you may think that I must be extremely lucky to excel in life. Actually, I also had an Unbalanced life. I used to juggle in between my career, family, physical and mental conditions. I also spent a lot of time learning how to balance myself in life, and so I concluded that in order to balance in life, we must first know how to love ourselves.
I am the only daughter in my family, I have an older brother and two younger brothers. When I was young, I often heard my father telling his friends “I have three sons and a daughter. My daughter is smart, independent, and strong. It's a pity that she is a female." Although it was my father’s innermost feelings, for me I often felt that : "Just because I am not a son, so no matter how good I am, I can’t make my father proud. This led me to become very masculine since young, and I constantly want to prove that women are as powerful as men. For example, girls can also be leaders, and girls can also be bosses! Because I want my father to see that although I am a girl, I can be excellent, and I want his approval. Gradually as I was growing up, such desire formed my later personality and style of behavior.
As long as it can make me improve, whether it was English courses, women's business courses, etc., I will go there. Because to become a leader, you must have the traits / characteristics that a leader should have! This is what I think. Even as a woman, if we have the ability to satisfy our own desires and meet the needs and wishes of our family, I will feel very proud and happy for this. The fact is, I didn't know that I was slowly developing the habit of competing with my peers in private, always wanting to be the champion and this habit made me suffer a lot.
I think life is really amazing. It will always let us go through different events to test whether we really want to be who we think we should be. For example, I wanted to be a leader since I was young, but when I become a very good leader, I will become overconfident and arrogant. Later, I discover that this is an unbalanced phase of life!
With the experience in society and the guidance of the physical and mental healing courses, I finally understand the wisdom of balance. When I am at work, I will show my masculine side more and give full play to my charisma. But when I return home, I will put down my masculine side and show my feminine side. For me, a woman is born to know how to balance yin and yang so that her life, career, family, and health can be harmonious, and she can play the role of a leader and mother.
In the past, due to the preference for sons, women became stronger and more independent. The concept of the past has become outdated, and it has also led to many marriage failures or life imbalances, and even single-parent families. However, what I want to share with you is that the era of valuing the male child only, has passed, and it is now an era of equality between men and women. Nowadays, society can understand better about the responsibilities that women bear, and starts to respect them more. Women have also learned to be independent, and have a stand for who they are.
Here are 3 three main points I want to share with you:
1. Learn more ! Learn how to know and understand yourself, understand what you love, and stop grieving yourself to live happily in order to fulfill others, and stop trying to please others blindly. We must understand that we can never satisfy everyone. Only a woman who knows how to love herself can know how to love others, and can also feel how to accept and embrace the love from others.
2. Secondly, you must learn to control your emotions. Women are born to be particularly emotional. often because of our emotions we tend to waste our time and walk the wrong paths. So, I always advise my female friends around me to be an Emotional manager. Only by managing your emotions can you manage your life well. Especially women who are starting a business, don't take their emotions home, because our husband and children are not our subordinates- staff , they are our family. We should take up the role as a wife and mother but not the CEO. Corporate women have different identities, so they must learn how to manage their emotions and make good use of them. This is the ability of a successful business woman.
3. A woman’s greatest wealth is to invest in herself. Constantly investing in yourself and making yourself more outstanding.
The purpose is to influence and help more people around you. Don’t just pay out for your family and the company blindly, you must know how to add value to yourself.
Allowing you to face every aspect of life with strength. Investing in yourself will definitely give you the most abundant return.
In this era, we should learn to be a woman who is all-round, not only able to talk, but also to do things and create value. Starting today, learn how to balance family affection, friendship, love, and money, enjoy this perfect and harmonious life state, and be a happy and loving woman.
I hope that by sharing my story will inspire you to have the courage to change and create an abundant life.
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I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more stories about my life and how you can Be True, Be Happy and Be Yourself!