What do you do the day after you fall on your face in front of everyone? In this episode, Erin shares powerful stories about her daughters' moments of failure and comeback—and introduces The Goldfish Method, a three-step framework for bouncing back from setbacks. Learn why your perfectionism is killing your resilience, the neuroscience behind why trying again feels so hard, and how to separate your identity from your performance so one bad day doesn't derail your career.
Chapters
00:00Welcome Back and Reflections on Podcasting
02:53The Goldfish Analogy: Memory and Resilience
05:42Overcoming Fear of Failure
08:52Lessons from My Daughter's Public Speaking Experience
14:21The Goldfish Method: Reset, Reframe, Return
23:08Neuroscience of Resilience and Courage
29:03Identity vs. Performance: Separating Self-Worth from Outcomes
38:00Actionable Steps: Try Again and Accountability
41:49Closing Thoughts and Legally Blonde Moment
Resources Mentioned:
- Dr. Andrew Huberman's work on neuroplasticity
- Dr. Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion
- Carol Dweck's research on growth mindset
- Angela Duckworth's "Grit"
- Brené Brown's work on perfectionism
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What is Powerhouse Lawyers?
Are you an ambitious attorney who wants to build a life and career that you cannot wait to wake up for? Then you're in the right place.
Welcome to Powerhouse Lawyers, a podcast for the Powerhouse in each of us.
I am your host, Erin Gerner. A former lawyer, wife, mom, and life coach, and I am on a mission to empower women in the law to define success on their terms, by leveraging their unique superpowers to help them win in both law and life. Join me each week to hear inspiring stories, real talk, and practical tips.
You need to redefine the toxic narratives that are keeping women overwhelmed, trying to do it all. You are worthy and capable of building a life and career that you have always wanted, and I'm here to empower you along the way. So if you are ready to practice law differently, let's go.