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“I called last time.”
“I always apologize first.”
“I do more around the house.”
Most of us don’t set out to keep score in our relationships. We show up, help out, and tell ourselves it’s no big deal. But over time, those little mental notes become a running tally of everything we’ve done—and everything the other person hasn’t. Suddenly, an argument about the dishes is really about years of feeling unappreciated or unseen. In this episode of Right Here, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore keeping score in relationships—why we do it, how resentment builds, and how unspoken expectations become silent contracts. They also unpack the difference between fairness and equality. Healthy relationships aren’t always fifty-fifty. Sometimes one person carries more. The problem is when that imbalance becomes permanent, invisible, and never discussed. The conversation also looks at why we give more than we can comfortably offer, hope others will notice, and eventually resent them when they don’t. Chris and Kenyon offer practical ways to recognize the needs beneath resentment, communicate them clearly, and distinguish generosity from obligation. Because the goal isn’t to prove who has done more. It’s to build relationships where neither person needs to keep receipts.
“I always apologize first.”
“I do more around the house.”
Most of us don’t set out to keep score in our relationships. We show up, help out, and tell ourselves it’s no big deal. But over time, those little mental notes become a running tally of everything we’ve done—and everything the other person hasn’t. Suddenly, an argument about the dishes is really about years of feeling unappreciated or unseen. In this episode of Right Here, hosts Christopher Mooney, LCSW and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW explore keeping score in relationships—why we do it, how resentment builds, and how unspoken expectations become silent contracts. They also unpack the difference between fairness and equality. Healthy relationships aren’t always fifty-fifty. Sometimes one person carries more. The problem is when that imbalance becomes permanent, invisible, and never discussed. The conversation also looks at why we give more than we can comfortably offer, hope others will notice, and eventually resent them when they don’t. Chris and Kenyon offer practical ways to recognize the needs beneath resentment, communicate them clearly, and distinguish generosity from obligation. Because the goal isn’t to prove who has done more. It’s to build relationships where neither person needs to keep receipts.
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What is Right Here?
Right Here is a mental health podcast that explores the psychological patterns shaping our relationships, choices, and inner lives. Hosted by therapists Christopher Mooney, LCSW, and Kenyon Phillips, LMSW, each episode offers grounded, compassionate conversations rooted in clinical insight and real human experience. No jargon. No judgment. Just clear, thoughtful dialogue designed to help listeners better understand themselves and the people around them.