Developing an atmosphere in the home where kids are comfortable and confident to talk to their parents is one of the most important factors in a child staying clear of addictive sexual behaviours. Marilyn Evans from Parents Aware joins us to share practical advice on how parents can approach conversations about porn and sex with their kids.
Start talking about porn and sex in the home
As parents, we need to get comfortable talking about porn so that our kids feeling safe talking about it in the home. Start small by discussing porn and sex with your spouse if you're married. Practice saying all of the words that you'll need to bring up so that you're comfortable talking about them. Once you're ready, start talking to your kids about sex. Talk about coming to you immediately if they see bad images or videos.
Build a connection with your kids
Part of building an environment where kids can talk and feel safe is creating connections with openness and honesty. From there, you are better able to talk about sex, relationships, and porn because the relationship has the right building blocks to have those discussions. Quality family time is important so that kids feel secure to bring up sensitive topics because they know they are loved and supported. Once your kid has been exposed to porn, while you need to talk about this issue, you should also encourage your kids with what they're doing well in life so that you're not simply talking to them about their struggle.
How do we protect our kids?
Start to think through three levels of protection with hardware and software. Begin with your router, as that is the access point for porn to enter your home (Circle, Gryphon Router). Use parental controls on all your devices as the next layer to implement. The third level is protection on all devices for when they leave the home and are not on your wifi (i.e. Covenant Eyes). Remember, tech is not the enemy, porn is, so we need to incorporate that understanding in protecting our kids!
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