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Hello, and welcome to Pickleball therapy,
the podcast dedicated to

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your pickleball improvement.

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I hope you're having a great week.
My name is Tony Roig.

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I am the host of this weekly podcast,
which is dedicated to your mind, to

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getting our mind as right as we can.

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You know, minds are complicated,
pickleballs, complicated,

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which is wonderful.

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That's why we continue coming
back to this awesome sport.

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And what we try and do is try and make
those two things work

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together as best as possible.

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Um, and, you know, part of our thinking
here is that, uh, I

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guess pun intended there.

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Love it when you start
seeing puns everywhere.

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But part of our thinking here is
that, uh, you know, Pickleball is a.

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Is a means to an end, more
than the end itself, right?

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It's a beautiful sport.

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It's a great activity for us to engage in,
but it's that there's a bigger story going

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on, and the story is about you, right?

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We each live our own reach, the
stars of our own movies, if you will.

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And so, pickleball, again, important, but
at the end of the day, it's about

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you more than about the sport itself.

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So that's what we hope to help
you out with this in this podcast.

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And the riff I'm going to.
I have a.

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I have a request to make
of you, so I'm going to.

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I'm going to asset in the riff.

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But today we're going to talk about is,
we're going to talk about pet peeves.

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I kind of took a detour on this thing.

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I had something else planned for this
week, but we're in the

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middle of the summit.

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By the way, if you haven't yet registered
for the summit, you know

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your decision, right?

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Whether you want to come
to the summit or not.

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Uh, but there's no obstacle
to come to the summit.

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It's 100% free.

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I mean, you'll hear
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That's optional whether
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That's to get a year of access to it.

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You don't need to get an all
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You welcome to come to
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That is your choice.

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Uh, and it's entirely online, so, you
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the summit is, uh, you're either, we used
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I guess that's no longer the case.

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Um, and, uh, or you just
choose not to, but don't.

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Don't not come to the summit for some
other reason, because, uh, we would love

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to have you join us and you
just go to pickleballsummit.

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com to get your ticket and
I'll put it in the show notes.

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But anyway, so we're in the middle of the,
of our summit, uh, time here and we

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did, uh, ask me anything last night.
This is Wednesday.

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I'm recording this episode.

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So we, we were live yesterday
and I'll ask me anything.

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I'm pretty confident some of you all
were there, so hope you enjoyed it.

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Um, but CJ and I were on with everyone
and, and we had asked, as part of this

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summit process, we had asked for pet
peeves and, uh, we had over 300 players,

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um, take, take up the, uh, take up the
challenge, take up the call, right.

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And, uh, provide us their pet peeves.

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And we were going to address
it, um, lat last night.

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And then we have the pulse
of pickleball tomorrow.

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So Thursday, so it'll be the
day before this podcast drops.

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But, um, but we didn't have time because
there were so many

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questions, which was awesome.

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I mean, that was amazing to have all those
questions and we were able to get to them

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and, and provide some really good
information, uh, to help players out.

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So I pivoted the, this week's podcast
from what I had planned to pet peeves.

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And I think there's some really
interesting things that we can learn from

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pet peeves to help us, uh,
with our mental processes.

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This is not just, we're not just going to
go over the pet peeves and, you know,

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like comment on them or opine on them.
That's not the point of this.

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We're going to go to the pet peeves and
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things from a mental standpoint and as we
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perhaps avoid some distractions,
increase our focus and things like that.

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So what I'm going to do is we're going to
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and I'm going to talk about
them as I go down the list.

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And then when I get to the end, I'll give
you some over overarching thoughts about

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pet peeves and, um, and again, how to, how
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them, because we're all human beings.

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We all have, you know,
things that irk us, right?

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Things that just, just rub us the wrong
way, right, that are pet peeves of.

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And, um, um, it's not a, it's not
necessarily that having a

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pet peeve is a bad thing.

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It's that it's only a bad thing to the
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from your enjoyment of the sport.
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And also your ability to play your best.

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So, um.

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All right, let's dive into the pet peeve.

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Let me pull them up here.
Uh, all right.

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As I mentioned, there were over
300 responders, and I'm going to.

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I've grouped them so we can
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So there were several of
the answers were grouped.

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Well, let me give you an overall thing
before I get into them, because I

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thought this was really interesting.

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So the way it was constructed was there
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there was another category, right.

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Just basically, you tell us.

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And, um, out of.

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Out of percentage wise, 38% chose other.

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And what's interesting about that big
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personal pet peeves are.
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Even in the pet peeve, players are like,
don't tell me what my pet peeve is.

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I'm going to tell you my pet
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It's not a critic.
It's perfectly fine to do that.

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Right.
But it's interesting, right.

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To see how strongly
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Right.
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It's strong enough to select
another and then fill it in.

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As opposed to just going like, all
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I don't like one of these.
The most.

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The ones that are already listed,
I'm going to go to other 38%.

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So that was.
That was pretty insightful, I thought.

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But anyway, so I've grouped
them so we can talk about them.

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And the first ones I want to talk about
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grouped as rules issues.

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So 5% were about illegal servers, 10% bad
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category, I don't know
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Because this is a piece of.

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It was not following pickleball
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Now, I am not going to tell
you to disregard rules.

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Rules are in place for a reason.

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And, you know, rules
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I mean, you know, it'd be like saying,
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That would make any sense.
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I may have.

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You may have heard me talk about this
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approved, right, um,
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Should it be allowed at the courts?

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My position is that there has to be a good
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because otherwise, like, if.

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If that rule, like, if.

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And I'm speaking specifically of the diet
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use if you need to use it, right?

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In other words, I don't have arm strength
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the game at its base level, that's okay.

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But if you're using it to gain
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In other words, I could use another
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Then, in that case,
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Why not use a junior tennis racket?
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What rule prohibits that, right?

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So anyway, so you've heard me.

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You know, I'm not a rule
like, you know, an anarchist, right?

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Just do whatever you want
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That said, I do think that where we draw
the line on rules can impact our enjoyment

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of the sport and also our ability to play
our best, which, again, I'm gonna dive

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into that a little more later on, but what
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do on rules is maybe think of where you're
setting the line on the rule, right?

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Is the rule that you're
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to what's going on on the court?

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I would suggest you that nine times out of
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negatively impacting
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And I would also suggest that line call
issues, as you probably heard before on

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one of these podcasts, because we've
talked about it a couple

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of times, there's two.

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Two takes two to tango.

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It takes the caller,
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The hitter put the ball close to the line.

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So maybe dealing it with that way might.

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Might take it out of a pet peeve category.

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Um, and then not following
pickleball rules, rules facility.

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Again, I would suggest the same thing.
Set your.

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Set a bar that maybe, maybe challenge
yourself on setting the bar as to what

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would constitute a rule violation that you
deem to be that warrant

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your attention, right.
To warrant your.

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And warranty your energy.

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So that would be my.
My suggestion.

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Not throughout the rulebook, but,
you know, set the line that way.

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And there's a corollary here
that's we're talking about.

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This was in the other category as well.

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So I don't have an exact percentage, but
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chords and let serves, right?

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So, basically, you know,
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The net and comes over
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You know, I am fascinated with.

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With particularly professional players.

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I want to focus on here who,
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Uh, Ben and Colin Johns, you know, have
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arena for a long time, right?

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They're very successful team but Jesus, if
a, if a ball hits the net it's like, I

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don't know, it's, it's like the worst
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I don't understand it.
And I've, I've, I've had the opportunity.

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I don't know Ben as well, but I know
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He's, he started his, his
pickleball career here in Tampa.

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So I used to play with
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And I've spoken to him several times.

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He's been a guest on our pickleball
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So super nice, super great young
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But that ball is just like.

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And even the commentator just say
no, no, Colin's going to gasket.

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But here's the thing,
like net met balls, right?

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They haven't everybody,
they haven't on both sides.

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And what I would suggest to you is if your
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they're trickling over or they're popping
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net, don't you want that?

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And what I mean by that is don't you
want your opponent to like risk the net?

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Don't you want them to
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I do.
So you know, reframe it a little bit.

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Might help you with that one.

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But again it's just do you want
to use your energy on that?

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Because I can tell you it's distracting if
you watch any of Ben and Collins matches

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when a boy's a net it's
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For Colin, his brain gets all
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Probably not conducive to the best play.

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All right then there were several that had
to do with how we interact with

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other players at the courts.

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4% had to do with unsolicited advice.

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Then there were several in the other
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welcoming, better players, not wanting to
play with them, bad partners, negative

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attitudes, taking things too seriously.

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That's a tougher one I gotta say.

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Because that one there that deals
with personal interactions, right?

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That's not just you
controlling you, right?

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Like net calls and how
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That's, I think you can reframe
that in your own mind, right?

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You have more control over
that process yourself.

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Cause it's all happening in your mind.

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This one has to do with how others are.

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Decisions that others are making in ways
that others are choosing to interact with

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you I would suggest there
a couple of things.

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One is you can use your agency, okay?

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And that that applies to the bad advice,
applies to negative

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partners, things like that.
Negative partners, bad attitudes.

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You can always decline to play.

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And we have a blog post on our
website called no thank you.

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Go to the betterpickleball.
com.

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type in no thank you in the search bar.
I'm pretty sure you'll find it.

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If you don't send us an email, we'll
figure out how to get that to you or

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get it so it can be found that way.

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But it has to do with applying your agency
to um, to exercise your agency, I

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should say, to set boundaries, right.

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To protect yourself, really, from negative
negativity that you

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shouldn't have to deal with.
Right.

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When you're playing a sport like
pickleball advice, same thing.

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I mean, you can decide how
you want to deal with it.

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You can tell them to, you
know, shut up if you want to.

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Or you can just like hear it polite, you
know, if you want to be

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polite, you can just hear it.
I'm not telling you to do it this way.

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I'm saying it has to be politer.
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You can just receive it, right.

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And just be like appreciate it
and just forget about it, right.

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Just put it out of your mind.
That's up to you.

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Now the clicks players, not, not welcoming
and better players, not wanting to play

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with someone, that's a more
troubling and complicated thing.

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Frankly.

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It's an unfortunate way
that our sport is headed.

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You know, I'm going to give you the answer
that I gave last night,

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didn't ask me anything.

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The problem with that one, and this is
what I tell players all the time, if

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everybody does that, that no
one has anybody to play with.

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Because whoever the, let's say the three
five won't play with a 30 and the 300

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won't play with a two five, and the
four won't play with the three five.

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Then who's playing with who?

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You know, someone has to
break that chain, right?

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It always the better player at some point
has to be willing to play with the not

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better player, right, for that to work.

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In other words, for there to be a game.

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And then why does the like, let's say the
three five is able to play with

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four o's in their community?
Because the four o's are open to it.

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But then that same three five
isn't willing to play with the 30.

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A little shitty, don't you think?

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I mean a little crappy, right?

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I mean basically, like, I'm going to
take advantage of the four zeros, Grace.

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Right.

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And playing with me, but I'm not
going to extend the same grace, man.

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Probably not the best way to lead
life, but that is an issue that.

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What I would suggest there is, is you can.

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For instance, I'm not very good
at organizing games myself.

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I spend my time making podcasts and,
and material for, for you, to help you.

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Um, but, like, if I wanted to play a game
next week, I would make some phone calls,

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right, and I would reach
out to some players.

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Um, some may say, no, I don't know, you
know, and, uh, and, but enough would say,

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yes, I'm sure, to be able to get a game
together and so be a little more

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proactive if you're having that issue.

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Um, don't just want to go.

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Don't just expect to drop into open plays.
Um, and I.

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One day, maybe I'll tell you a long story
about how my friend Tom DiCaprio and I got

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weaseled our way into the best group
in, in our area back in the day.

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Uh, but there, you know,
there's things you can do.

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But, but I would say just organize your
groups, start some drilling groups with

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yourself and things like that, and you'll
be able to, to find better pickleball.

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Just home grow.
All right.

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Um, and then there's, um,
a bunch of them had to do.

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I'm going to give you
the big two in a second.

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But the, the balance of the ones that
weren't the big two had to

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do with play experience.

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So 5% was about players
using excessive spin.

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Now, frankly, I'm not really sure
I understand the answer here.

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No.
I mean, it's just not how we drafted it.

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I don't really understand the answer.

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Like, does that mean players,
opponents using too much spin and it's too

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difficult, or players trying to use spin
and making too many

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errors, but that was one.

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Then sandbagging, targeting, poaching,
and lobbying were in the other category.

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I would suggest to you here, consider
thinking about pickleball as a

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complex activity, because it is.

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Embrace that complexity.
Right.

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Just say, okay, it is a complex activity.
I enjoy that.

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It's complex.

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I welcome the complexity because that is
what keeps me coming back to the sport.

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And so when you face somebody or when you
have to deal with a situation that you

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haven't dealt with before or that's
uncomfortable for you, go, great.

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You know, I did an episode, I think it was
last week, about playing wordle, for

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instance, or, you know, I'm doing the
crossword, sudoku, things like that.

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You know, there are times
when I'm stumped, right?

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When I'm looking at a crossword clue or a
wordle or a connection, I'm like, I'm

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not really sure that's the good stuff.
Right.

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That's the stuff that's making the work in
my mind and helping me think through these

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things as opposed to just, you know,
blowing through answers or blowing

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through games without challenge.

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So whenever you deal with those things,
consider them, rather than making them a

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pet peeve, consider them as a challenge,
something to learn from, something to

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climb, climb, climb up top and conquer.

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And then the big two, I'll
deal with them one at a time.

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One has to do with partner not
coming to the naval zone line.

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That is.

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That can be very frustrating
when you're playing.

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We have a video, I'm pretty sure on into
pickle about this, that

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talks about a recommendation.

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So if you want to check that
out, go to into pickle and.

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And search partner, not volley zone.
And I.

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You should be able to find the video that
way, actually, I'll put

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it in the show notes.

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I'll look for it while we're,
while we're talking here.

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And see, make sure it's there.

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Pretty sure it's there.

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And then the other one is that I recommend
is we had an episode, I think it was a

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week or two ago, that has
about partner expectations.

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And.

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And it's a.
Here we go.

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Yeah, it is.
Partner staying back after their return.

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Use this tip.

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So there is one on there, and I'll
include the link in the show notes.

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But you can find it directly,
too, by just typing in to pickle.

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I n the number two, pickle, like
the snack and the game we play.

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Just no, no balls.

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Just into pickle, partner
staying back after their return.

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And then you'll find that one.

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Um, anyway, so the other thing
is partner expectations, right?

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I mean, if you have a partner who plays a
certain way, um, you know, set

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your expectations accordingly.

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I mean, there could be that they
don't understand the game well enough.

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They're new, maybe they're
injured and can't make it up.

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Uh, whatever it is, you know, just be
more, you know, empathetic and gracious,

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and I think you'll feel
better about the game.

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And then the biggest,
121 percent were bangers.

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That goes back to what I was saying
earlier about embracing complexity.

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Right.

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Embracing the, uh, the fact that
there are challenges in this game.

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And that's what keeps us coming back.
If there.

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If it wasn't challenging.

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Why are you going to go
back to the courts, right?

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You've already mastered it.
What's the point?

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Um, now let me give you some overarching
concepts that I wanted to share

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with you about uh, these pet peeves.

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Whenever you're dealing with something
that is uh, occupying your mind, right?

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Let's start from this premise, right?

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Your mind has a limited
amount of bandwidth, right?

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Doesn't matter how much it is, it could,
you could be, you could have the most

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bandwidth of anybody in the world.
It's still limited, right?

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You have x amount of bandwidth.

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If you allow that bandwidth to be occupied
by

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things that are not directly relevant to
what you're trying to do,

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they have to by definition take away from
what you're trying to do.

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Okay?

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So let's say there's like, you have, you
know, bandwidth of 1010 units of

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bandwidth, let's say, right,
to, to give it a number.

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You know, if you have a pet peeve that
really pisses you off, that really gets

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under your skin, it could be taking
away four or five of those bands, right?

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Uh, even a small one like the, maybe the
net thing bothers you or like

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the illegal server bothers you.

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It takes away one or two.

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Why, you know, why allow something that is
peripheral, right to, to take away from

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the main, right to detract from the main.

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And what happens is when you have these
distractions in your mind, these pet

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peeves that are distracting you, they are
going to not allow you to play as well as

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you can because of the bandwidth, but they
also potentially will undermine your

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enjoyment, undermine your experience,
because

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you're not able to give your entire focus
to the amazing experience that you're

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having on a pickleball court with your
friends and with whatever's going on,

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because you're allowing your
mind to wander to this pet peeve.

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So if one of these pet peeves resonates
with you, or more than one, consider using

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the tips in this podcast, consider
relistening to the podcast, maybe listen

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to it before you play next time
and after you play next time again.

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I mean, it sounds repetitive,
but that's the key.

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The key is to repeat some of
these things, these cycles, right?

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Because if you have a pet peeve,
that's a learned condition.

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That's a, that's something that
you have acquired over time.

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You know, you see an illegal server, for
instance, let's take a legal server,

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taking a legal server, it bothers you.

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So then you justify it being
bothered bothering you.

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Maybe you talk to your friends about it.

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Maybe you ask a question about it because
you want to make sure that it's illegal.

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And so you're really
hammering this illegal thing.

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You know that.

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That every time that player comes on the
court and you open play, you're

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like, I'm expecting illegal serve.

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So now you're looking for it, right.

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And you're perhaps you're
starting to look for it in other.

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You're starting to see it in other
places, whether it exists or nothing.

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And so now your mind starts going down
this rabbit hole of this

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illegal serve, right?

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When did you maybe
reframe it and ask yourself the question,

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is it really impacting the game
I'm playing right now or not?

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And if the answer is, you know, it really
isn't, then you can let it go and

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reacquire those bands that are being used
for illegal serves and maybe apply them

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towards your block volley, your return
to serve, you know, your game in general.

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You know?
So.

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So, you know, think about it that way in
terms of enjoyment, distraction, and then

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focus was the last overarching concept.
Right.

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It's corollary of distraction.
Right.

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Sorry.
Or the.

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The, uh, the, uh, counterpoint.
Right.

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So you have.

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If you're distracted,
you can't be focused.

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So players want to be focused.
I get that.

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Right.
We want focus.

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We want 110%, all those things.
Right.

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We want the mental game
to be crystal clear.

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Consider removing a distraction.
Right.

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And in other words, instead of increasing
focus, like, I need to increase my focus.

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It's not that you need
to increase your focus.

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You need to decrease your unfocused.

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You need to decrease your distractions.

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And I was reminded of that.

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I watched a series on
Hulu called the Bear.

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It's a.
I find it a fascinating series.

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And in the last episode, I
just started season three.

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I don't think it's a spoiler.
It's just a little piece of tape.

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But there's this concept in there about
he's making a dish, and the chef says,

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basically add by subtracting.

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Essentially, or make it
better by subtracting.

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So he has this little piece
of tape that says subtract.

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And in life, a lot of times, the issues
that we're facing, like, let's say lack

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of focus, isn't because we lack focus.

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It's because we're trying to focus
on too many things at one time.

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Right.
See what I'm saying?

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So it's not.
I don't have enough focus.

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It's I have too many
things inside my focus.

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So taking things away is actually the,
actually, the way to get to the answer

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that you want, which is increased focus
and removing pet peeves, is

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a good way of doing that.

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All right, so those are my overarching
concepts of the pet peeves.

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Uh, I'm going to dive right into the rift
because I know we're running a little bit

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long today, which, uh, uh,
hopefully you're good with.

446
00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:05,810
I'm good with it if you're good with it.

447
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:10,180
Uh, there was a lot to cover today,
but I, I'm going to ask your help here.

448
00:20:10,205 --> 00:20:15,220
So we've been doing this podcast now, uh,
for, I want to say it's going on four

449
00:20:15,245 --> 00:20:18,120
years, something like that, you know, and,
and we're grateful to

450
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have you as listeners.
We love.

451
00:20:20,165 --> 00:20:22,655
You know, uh, for me personally, it's a.

452
00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:25,700
It's an honor to be able to be here with
you and to share these ideas with you and

453
00:20:25,725 --> 00:20:29,180
to have, um, have someone who listened
to the tree falling in the forest, right.

454
00:20:29,205 --> 00:20:31,055
And, uh, someone who.
For.

455
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For whom this matters, right.
And that.

456
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And we take it seriously
and we appreciate it.

457
00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:40,770
Um, that said, it has been a challenge to
make this podcast

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available to other players.

459
00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:43,980
And I've asked you already to rate
and review it, and you've done that.

460
00:20:44,005 --> 00:20:45,900
And I'm not going to
ask you to do that here.

461
00:20:45,925 --> 00:20:51,090
What I want to ask you is, is there
something that we can do that would make

462
00:20:51,120 --> 00:20:56,770
it easier for your friends to interact or
find the podcast, uh, for players who, you

463
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,660
know, and just think of yourself, right?

464
00:20:58,685 --> 00:21:02,680
Is there something about this podcast
that, that made it maybe, like, it was

465
00:21:02,705 --> 00:21:05,500
an obstacle for you getting to it, right?
Was it.

466
00:21:05,525 --> 00:21:08,050
Is it the name of the podcast?
The, the.

467
00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,740
The, uh, the logo can be anything,
something that you're like, you know what,

468
00:21:11,765 --> 00:21:14,090
I would have found this
podcast earlier, but for.

469
00:21:14,120 --> 00:21:17,740
Or I would listen more if it
were fill in the blank, right?

470
00:21:17,765 --> 00:21:21,800
Something that would make it easier even
for you to interact with the podcast, let

471
00:21:21,825 --> 00:21:25,255
us know, because we, at the end of the
day, you know, I love

472
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:26,140
recording the podcast.

473
00:21:26,165 --> 00:21:29,040
And I think I said this before, I would
record, record the podcast if there was

474
00:21:29,065 --> 00:21:30,620
five of you listening to this, right?

475
00:21:30,645 --> 00:21:33,050
And thankfully there's more than five,
but, you know, because it's

476
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,050
helpful to more players.

477
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:38,500
But, but that's not, that's
not the reason I do it.

478
00:21:38,525 --> 00:21:42,290
But that said, if it
can help players, right?

479
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:46,770
Why not allow the players the
ability to access this podcast?

480
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,720
So if there's something that, that you
think we could do better, if there's

481
00:21:49,745 --> 00:21:53,090
something that you see that you've seen as
an obstacle in your own experience or that

482
00:21:53,120 --> 00:21:55,980
limits your ability to interact with the
podcast, you know, difficulty

483
00:21:56,005 --> 00:21:57,020
accessing it, whatever.

484
00:21:57,045 --> 00:21:58,570
Please let us know.

485
00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:01,840
You can send us an email
therapy@betterpickleball.

486
00:22:01,865 --> 00:22:08,240
com I'll put it in the show notes, but
really appreciate your willingness to do

487
00:22:08,265 --> 00:22:10,495
so and to help us continue
to grow the podcast.

488
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,960
And I will ask you to do this because I
always ask you to do this end of every

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00:22:12,985 --> 00:22:16,420
podcast, which is remember to share it
with your friends because if you find

490
00:22:16,445 --> 00:22:20,290
value in this podcast, if you enjoy this
podcast, if it helps you navigate the seas

491
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:24,200
of pickleball, and hopefully a little bit
of life makes it a little bit better, my

492
00:22:24,225 --> 00:22:28,050
guess is there's a friend of yours who
could who would also benefit from

493
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:31,540
listening to the podcast
from time to time.

494
00:22:31,565 --> 00:22:36,215
That said, I hope to see you all on at the
summit, and if you haven't

495
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,620
done so yet, pickleballsummit.
com.

496
00:22:37,645 --> 00:22:40,180
there's still tickets available for you,
and like I said earlier, it's free and

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00:22:40,205 --> 00:22:44,240
online, so I hope to see you there if I
don't have a great week and I will see you

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00:22:44,265 --> 00:22:46,880
at the next episode of Pickleball Therapy.
Be well.