WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:03.680 You're listening to The Bible Guys, a podcast where a 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:06.440 couple of friends talk about the Bible in fun, in 3 00:00:06.559 --> 00:00:13.480 practical ways. Hey, everybody, welcome to the Bible Guys. Here 4 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:16.199 we are, We are here. Yes, we've been here all 5 00:00:16.239 --> 00:00:20.160 week yep. In fact, we record five episodes in one sitting, 6 00:00:20.199 --> 00:00:21.800 so technically we've been here all day. 7 00:00:21.640 --> 00:00:22.160 All day. 8 00:00:22.480 --> 00:00:26.079 Yes, that's right, but you're hearing on Friday, and today Friday, 9 00:00:26.079 --> 00:00:27.199 we have a segment. 10 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:30.839 This is so important for one last time in twenty 11 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:33.719 twenty four. It's kind of a bittersweet moment. 12 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:36.840 Well, it's gonna happen again in twenty twenty. 13 00:00:36.560 --> 00:00:38.479 Five, I know, but this is the last time for 14 00:00:38.520 --> 00:00:39.399 twenty twenty four. 15 00:00:39.799 --> 00:00:40.240 I see. 16 00:00:40.560 --> 00:00:44.159 So I mean this is maybe I don't know, it 17 00:00:44.200 --> 00:00:46.320 feels like this might be the most important one of 18 00:00:46.359 --> 00:00:48.439 the whole year because it's the last one. 19 00:00:48.640 --> 00:00:52.000 Well, I mean, I'll tell you it feels no pressure. 20 00:00:52.159 --> 00:00:54.039 So if you don't know, if you're new to the show, 21 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:57.759 maybe the most important segment we do every week is 22 00:00:57.840 --> 00:01:01.159 the segment what made Chris Man this week? By far? 23 00:01:02.119 --> 00:01:04.439 No way, No, it's not. 24 00:01:04.959 --> 00:01:08.640 Hey, So I feel like after that pressure, that maybe 25 00:01:08.680 --> 00:01:11.439 my thing to get me mad is not good enough. 26 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:13.719 We'll take it up. Take it up a notch man. Okay, 27 00:01:13.760 --> 00:01:14.439 I'll mail it in. 28 00:01:14.599 --> 00:01:17.519 Hey, I'm not mailing it in. But it happened this morning. 29 00:01:18.359 --> 00:01:20.400 So on the way here, that's the way. It's what 30 00:01:20.400 --> 00:01:22.840 made that's what made me met. It was a traffic thing. 31 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:25.879 Here's what happens. So I pull out of my sub vision. 32 00:01:26.159 --> 00:01:29.439 I pull up to an intersection where the red light's there, 33 00:01:29.439 --> 00:01:31.519 and the cars are building up, and there's a guy 34 00:01:31.519 --> 00:01:33.159 on my right hand side. He wants to turn left, 35 00:01:33.280 --> 00:01:34.799 but it's got to be through traffic. Have you ever 36 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:37.959 pulled out a gas station and the traffic builds up 37 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:39.840 and you're like, oh no, I can't get through this traffic. 38 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:41.400 And then you get away from the full light. 39 00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:46.319 But it just turned red, so I naturally stop, leaving 40 00:01:46.640 --> 00:01:49.359 a car with space for this guy to pull out. 41 00:01:49.760 --> 00:01:50.359 He pulls out. 42 00:01:50.439 --> 00:01:52.000 Yeah, So then the guy next to me and my 43 00:01:52.079 --> 00:01:54.599 lane figures it out. He pulls out and leaves a 44 00:01:54.640 --> 00:01:56.120 full It might have been a little bit more than 45 00:01:56.120 --> 00:01:58.000 a car length right because he was at an angle. 46 00:01:58.480 --> 00:02:00.840 So so this guy figures it out. So here's this 47 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:04.000 guy in a minivan and he's pulling out real slow 48 00:02:04.079 --> 00:02:06.719 to cross two lanes of traffic and the turning lane 49 00:02:07.040 --> 00:02:09.199 to make a left hand turn. Well, at the same time, 50 00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:12.319 there was another guy coming the opposite way that pulled 51 00:02:12.319 --> 00:02:14.560 into the turning lane that wanted to make his left 52 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:18.960 into the Walgreens behind me, and he was mad that 53 00:02:19.000 --> 00:02:21.120 we weren't pulled up because we were blocking his left 54 00:02:21.120 --> 00:02:24.400 hand turn. So I'm sitting there, and by the way, 55 00:02:24.439 --> 00:02:28.240 mind you, the entire thing took maybe twenty seconds, twenty. 56 00:02:27.879 --> 00:02:30.840 Seconds, twenty seconds, but it was enough right to make 57 00:02:30.919 --> 00:02:31.560 Chris man. 58 00:02:32.000 --> 00:02:32.080 No. 59 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:34.039 Here's what happens. The guy pulls up next to me 60 00:02:34.199 --> 00:02:36.759 in the turning lane, so literally my window is right 61 00:02:36.800 --> 00:02:39.120 next to his window, and he goes. 62 00:02:39.159 --> 00:02:43.159 Man, man, man, like three horns, and I look over 63 00:02:43.280 --> 00:02:45.080 and he goes and he looks, and he doesn't just 64 00:02:45.120 --> 00:02:47.719 say beat beep, Hey, will you pull up right? I 65 00:02:47.719 --> 00:02:51.120 mean literally his face is as far as your face 66 00:02:51.199 --> 00:02:55.240 is to me, just about and he goes and I 67 00:02:55.240 --> 00:02:58.599 look over and he screams, pull up, man, pull up, 68 00:02:58.599 --> 00:02:59.080 as just start. 69 00:02:59.080 --> 00:03:01.159 I could literally hear him wow, And I'm like, what 70 00:03:01.280 --> 00:03:01.879 is going on? 71 00:03:02.199 --> 00:03:04.599 I mean literally, I'm just one car length behind he 72 00:03:04.879 --> 00:03:07.159 if he just took a second behind him, and looked. 73 00:03:07.439 --> 00:03:09.199 He could see that there's a guy pulling out. 74 00:03:09.360 --> 00:03:09.639 Right. 75 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:12.479 So now this guy starts pulling out, and as he's 76 00:03:12.479 --> 00:03:15.439 pulling out, I look back over and I'm like, okay, whatever, 77 00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:18.199 I didn't even acknowledge the guy. So this guy pulls 78 00:03:18.240 --> 00:03:21.800 out again. Five seconds has passed. Guess what he does 79 00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:27.879 and just laid on the laid on the horn. And 80 00:03:27.960 --> 00:03:29.919 so finally I look over and I go and I 81 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:31.039 just pointed and I'm. 82 00:03:30.919 --> 00:03:33.800 Like look, and he goes, I don't care, pull up. 83 00:03:34.199 --> 00:03:37.639 So anyway, this guy pulls out and then we pull up, 84 00:03:37.680 --> 00:03:40.960 and he's like, I just thok to myself, listen. 85 00:03:41.120 --> 00:03:44.000 If you're that angry, you should not leave the house. 86 00:03:44.039 --> 00:03:45.159 What time in the morning was it. 87 00:03:45.400 --> 00:03:46.759 It was on the way here, so it was like 88 00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:48.199 eight fifty. 89 00:03:47.960 --> 00:03:50.719 Eight fifty, And I wonder what happened this morning that 90 00:03:50.840 --> 00:03:51.560 just made him mad. 91 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:54.879 All I know is that man should have not just get. 92 00:03:54.719 --> 00:03:59.360 Out of bed. Maybe he got a maybe his sausage 93 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:00.240 biscuit was learned. 94 00:04:01.120 --> 00:04:03.199 Maybe, But here's what I know. Here's what I know. 95 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:06.319 Listen, maybe didn't have any coffee, that was it? Maybe 96 00:04:06.319 --> 00:04:06.879 no coffee? 97 00:04:07.199 --> 00:04:09.039 Yeah, maybe listen here here it is. 98 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:16.040 Here's my statement. Driving is a community function. Yes, it 99 00:04:16.079 --> 00:04:16.879 is a community. 100 00:04:17.199 --> 00:04:18.839 Uh, it's not just about you. 101 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:20.240 Yeah, yeah, it is. It is. 102 00:04:20.360 --> 00:04:22.879 Think about the rules of the road. It involves every 103 00:04:23.120 --> 00:04:28.199 single person. Right, everything is dependent and should consider everybody else. 104 00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:30.959 It's not about you and your left hand turn into Walgreens, 105 00:04:30.959 --> 00:04:34.839 It's not. It's about everybody working together to make sure 106 00:04:34.839 --> 00:04:36.879 that we safely are able to do all the things 107 00:04:36.920 --> 00:04:37.519 that we want to do. 108 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:40.120 And so what could be at Walgreens that he needed 109 00:04:40.160 --> 00:04:40.519 so bad? 110 00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:44.639 Well, maybe maybe his work benefit of that my wife 111 00:04:44.639 --> 00:04:45.079 always does. 112 00:04:45.160 --> 00:04:50.040 Maybe he had like bunions or something, you know what 113 00:04:50.040 --> 00:04:52.160 I mean. No, what I'm thinking is maybe he needed 114 00:04:52.199 --> 00:04:55.519 some preparation. H The only thing, the only things in 115 00:04:55.560 --> 00:04:56.199 a hurry. 116 00:04:55.959 --> 00:04:58.720 I can figure is maybe his work started at nine, 117 00:04:59.639 --> 00:05:01.879 and so maybe he was like, I'm really super late. 118 00:05:02.000 --> 00:05:02.279 Right. 119 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:04.879 Maybe maybe I'm trying to give the guy on the 120 00:05:04.920 --> 00:05:05.720 benef of the doubt. 121 00:05:05.920 --> 00:05:08.240 But this guy, I mean, it was twenty seconds, but 122 00:05:08.279 --> 00:05:10.759 it made you mad because he broke all the conventions 123 00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:14.040 of living in a civil society, yes, society. He couldn't 124 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:15.879 make room for anybody else. It was only about him. 125 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:16.720 It's all about him. 126 00:05:16.839 --> 00:05:18.879 Oh my goodness, guess what it's not about it. I 127 00:05:19.000 --> 00:05:21.600 understand it's not about you. That's that's what makes you mad, 128 00:05:21.639 --> 00:05:23.720 is when people make it all about them. Yes, and 129 00:05:23.720 --> 00:05:25.519 they're not making it about you. 130 00:05:25.600 --> 00:05:27.680 Well no, I mean I don't care about me. Yeah, 131 00:05:28.040 --> 00:05:30.680 I do care about me. But if you don't consider. 132 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:31.480 Me, that's right, that's right. 133 00:05:31.560 --> 00:05:33.319 But I as long as you consider me, I'm okay. 134 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:37.040 Was he driving a truck? Yes, yeah, he was in 135 00:05:37.079 --> 00:05:38.800 a truck. Was a good thing. You were in a truck, 136 00:05:38.879 --> 00:05:41.120 that's right, that's right, looking right in the eyes, that's right. 137 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:43.160 Looked him right in the eye, that's right. Yeah, there was. 138 00:05:43.480 --> 00:05:48.319 You know, when people don't look around them and consider you. 139 00:05:48.480 --> 00:05:50.720 Have you ever pulled that behind somebody? If they would 140 00:05:50.720 --> 00:05:52.879 have just pulled up like ten more feet, you can 141 00:05:52.959 --> 00:05:54.800 edge around them and then let's go into the right 142 00:05:54.800 --> 00:05:57.079 hand length. Yes, and they have a full car length 143 00:05:57.120 --> 00:05:59.120 in front of them, but they just refuse to move up. 144 00:05:59.199 --> 00:06:03.000 Yes, guys, come on, man, I'm not a very patient driver. 145 00:06:03.160 --> 00:06:05.439 It's not I'm going to confess it. Yeah, I'm going 146 00:06:05.480 --> 00:06:07.759 to confess right here in front of God and everybody. 147 00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:10.360 But I acknowledge that I'm not. No, I don't use 148 00:06:10.399 --> 00:06:15.240 my horn much. Yeah, unless not unless driven too. On occasion, 149 00:06:15.279 --> 00:06:17.240 I will Only when I feel like somebody else is 150 00:06:17.240 --> 00:06:18.439 being dangerous, I'll use my horn. 151 00:06:18.600 --> 00:06:18.879 Okay. 152 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:21.800 But if they're not being dangerous then okay, so you. 153 00:06:21.720 --> 00:06:24.680 Don't you don't ever like, but you give a love tap? 154 00:06:25.079 --> 00:06:29.160 You do that? Oh well? On occasion, yeah, if I 155 00:06:29.160 --> 00:06:31.519 need them to move a little bit, yeah, yeah, yeah, 156 00:06:31.519 --> 00:06:33.959 I did that. The friendly ones beeps, but not the 157 00:06:35.120 --> 00:06:37.360 right right, don't do those those. It's amazing how you 158 00:06:37.399 --> 00:06:41.800 can make a horn sound friendly. Yeah, okay, talking of 159 00:06:41.879 --> 00:06:47.879 sounding friendly, okay. Song of Solomon has lots of friendly words, 160 00:06:48.079 --> 00:06:50.279 lots of friendly talk. Yeah, lots of friendly talking. 161 00:06:50.279 --> 00:06:53.600 In fact, it's one of the most friendly phrases in 162 00:06:53.639 --> 00:06:54.079 the Bible. 163 00:06:54.279 --> 00:06:57.920 Yes, pg. Thirteen. It's a Pg. Thirteen book in the Bible, 164 00:06:58.399 --> 00:07:03.439 all about romance, yeah right, and the love the love 165 00:07:03.639 --> 00:07:05.879 of a groom for his young bride. 166 00:07:06.279 --> 00:07:08.399 And by the way, we're reading all the way through 167 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:12.879 chapter three, verse five, apparently, and by the way, this 168 00:07:12.959 --> 00:07:16.519 is a sign to us by desiree. Would you have 169 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:18.360 chosen to do the Song of Solomon? 170 00:07:18.399 --> 00:07:20.639 I would not have chosen to do the Song of Solomon? Yes, 171 00:07:20.759 --> 00:07:21.079 would you? 172 00:07:23.319 --> 00:07:24.800 I would? I would have had to go through it 173 00:07:24.800 --> 00:07:25.399 with a fine tooth. 174 00:07:25.839 --> 00:07:27.800 I did a message series on the Song of Solomon 175 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:31.000 one time, and it was very I feel like, well 176 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:35.879 crafted and like you said, fine toothcomb, very very carefully 177 00:07:36.079 --> 00:07:38.720 laid out. But right now, we don't prep these things 178 00:07:38.720 --> 00:07:40.519 for our listeners are going to like we can tell, 179 00:07:40.839 --> 00:07:43.759 but for us. The premise behind this is that we're 180 00:07:43.800 --> 00:07:45.959 just two guys that like the Bible and we're sitting 181 00:07:45.959 --> 00:07:47.720 here opening it up and talking about what's on the 182 00:07:47.720 --> 00:07:50.279 page in front of us right now, like we were 183 00:07:50.319 --> 00:07:52.480 at a coffee shop or something, right, right, and so 184 00:07:52.519 --> 00:07:53.079 in that. 185 00:07:52.879 --> 00:07:54.920 Which is what we would do if we were getting 186 00:07:54.959 --> 00:07:57.399 together as people at a coffee shop. 187 00:07:57.240 --> 00:08:02.079 That's right. So if that so, with that being the case, 188 00:08:02.279 --> 00:08:06.920 then we feel very vulnerable leaning into this book because 189 00:08:06.920 --> 00:08:10.839 this book is well, my goodness to Mickey blush. 190 00:08:11.000 --> 00:08:12.720 Yeah, it'll make you blush sometimes. 191 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:16.839 Yes, So we're reading in Song of Solomon, chapter two, 192 00:08:17.040 --> 00:08:19.120 and we're gonna start off the verse eight because yesterday 193 00:08:19.120 --> 00:08:21.800 we read through verse seven. In chapter two, it says, ah, 194 00:08:21.879 --> 00:08:25.560 I hear my lover coming. He is leaping over the mountains, 195 00:08:25.720 --> 00:08:28.680 bounding over the hills. My lover is like a swift 196 00:08:28.720 --> 00:08:32.279 gazelle or a young stag. Look there he is behind 197 00:08:32.320 --> 00:08:34.840 the wall, looking through the window, peering into the room. 198 00:08:35.559 --> 00:08:37.600 My lover said to me, Rise up, my darling, Come 199 00:08:37.639 --> 00:08:40.720 away with me, my fair one. Look the winter has passed, 200 00:08:40.720 --> 00:08:43.320 and the rains are over and gone. The flowers are 201 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:46.559 springing up. The season of singing birds has come, and 202 00:08:46.600 --> 00:08:49.279 the cooing of turtle doves fills the air. The fig 203 00:08:49.320 --> 00:08:51.879 trees are forming young fruit, and the fragrant grape vines 204 00:08:51.919 --> 00:08:54.480 are blossoming. Rise up, my darling, Come away with me, 205 00:08:54.559 --> 00:08:57.720 my fair one. And then that was the young woman 206 00:08:57.799 --> 00:09:02.399 singing the groom. Or the groom says, my dove is 207 00:09:02.440 --> 00:09:05.799 hiding behind the rocks, behind an outcrop on the cliff. 208 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:08.559 Let me see your face, let me hear your voice. 209 00:09:08.879 --> 00:09:11.879 Your voice is pleasant, and your face is lovely. And 210 00:09:11.960 --> 00:09:15.879 then the bride'smaids say, catch all the foxes, those little foxes, 211 00:09:15.919 --> 00:09:18.240 before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grape 212 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:22.639 vines are blossoming. And then the young bride says, my 213 00:09:22.679 --> 00:09:25.399 lover is mine, and I am his. He browses among 214 00:09:25.440 --> 00:09:28.799 the lilies, before the dawn breezes blow and the night 215 00:09:28.840 --> 00:09:32.120 shadows flee returned to me my love like a gazelle 216 00:09:32.279 --> 00:09:35.960 or a young stag on the mountains. And then she says, 217 00:09:36.440 --> 00:09:38.240 one night, as I lay in bed, I yearned for 218 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:40.279 my lover. I yearned for him, but he did not come. 219 00:09:40.519 --> 00:09:41.960 So I said to myself, I will get up and 220 00:09:42.039 --> 00:09:44.799 roam the city, searching in all its streets and squares. 221 00:09:44.879 --> 00:09:46.720 I will search for the one I love. So I 222 00:09:46.720 --> 00:09:49.639 searched everywhere, but did not find him. The watchmen stopped 223 00:09:49.639 --> 00:09:51.279 me as they made their rounds, and I asked, have 224 00:09:51.360 --> 00:09:53.879 you seen the one I love? Then, scarcely had I 225 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:56.360 left them. When I found my love, I caught and 226 00:09:56.360 --> 00:09:57.960 held him tightly. And then I brought him to my 227 00:09:58.000 --> 00:10:01.480 mother's house, into my mother's bed where I had been conceived. 228 00:10:02.320 --> 00:10:05.200 And then Las Firs promised me, O, women of Jerusalem, 229 00:10:05.360 --> 00:10:07.919 by the gazelles and wild deer, do not awaken love 230 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:09.039 until the time is right. 231 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:13.679 Do not awaken love until the time is right. Right, 232 00:10:13.799 --> 00:10:15.039 When is the time right. 233 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:18.759 Everything is in order, well, when you're ready to actually 234 00:10:19.120 --> 00:10:21.559 go into marriage. What she's saying is, don't play around 235 00:10:21.559 --> 00:10:23.120 with love right right? 236 00:10:23.519 --> 00:10:26.360 Yeah, it actually says in the Life Application Study Bible 237 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:31.120 on that note. In this section, Solomon's Beloved reflects on 238 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:33.960 her courtship with Sulivan, remembering the first day they met 239 00:10:33.960 --> 00:10:35.559 and recalling one of her dreams. 240 00:10:35.240 --> 00:10:38.960 About their being together, one of her dreams? 241 00:10:40.759 --> 00:10:50.600 Did she mention a dream? Let me see, I don't know. Maybe, well, 242 00:10:51.360 --> 00:10:53.519 it could be just part of the Jewish tradition that 243 00:10:53.559 --> 00:10:55.080 it was a dream that she's talking about. 244 00:10:55.480 --> 00:10:59.600 Maybe the Yeah, so you know what this this wasn't 245 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:02.679 this that? This chapter doesn't make you blessed that much 246 00:11:02.720 --> 00:11:03.039 at all? 247 00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:08.679 Right? Oh well, sure there are a lot of metaphors. Yes, 248 00:11:08.799 --> 00:11:12.320 he's browsing among the lilies. Correct, so correct, that's all 249 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:13.200 I have to say about that. 250 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:17.080 Right, But I mean, come on that that's pretty that's 251 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:18.399 pretty tame. 252 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:21.679 So this one is u You can see. It's kind 253 00:11:21.720 --> 00:11:23.480 of a Romeo and Juliet kind of a feel. Here. 254 00:11:23.759 --> 00:11:26.399 He hops over the wall. He's looking for her, he's 255 00:11:26.399 --> 00:11:29.879 calling out to her. There's this romantic intrigue and excitement 256 00:11:29.879 --> 00:11:34.240 and whispers and right, that's kind of what's happening here. Yeah. 257 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:36.559 Hey, by the way, there's another note that I just saw. 258 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:40.879 It says the little foxes. Remember what she says, Catch 259 00:11:40.919 --> 00:11:43.919 all the foxes, foxes before they ruined the Vineyard of love. 260 00:11:44.720 --> 00:11:47.080 The little foxes are an example of the kinds of 261 00:11:47.200 --> 00:11:51.480 problems that can disturb or destroy a relationship. The lovers 262 00:11:51.559 --> 00:11:55.559 wanted anything that could potentially cause problems between them to 263 00:11:55.600 --> 00:11:59.039 be removed. Often the little foxes can cause the biggest 264 00:11:59.080 --> 00:12:03.360 problems in Americae, which those irritations must not be minimized 265 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:06.919 or ignored, but identified so that together the couple can 266 00:12:06.919 --> 00:12:07.399 deal with them. 267 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:10.240 Yeah, that's pretty cool. Well so so far. Up to 268 00:12:10.279 --> 00:12:14.759 this point, almost the entire description of the romance is 269 00:12:14.960 --> 00:12:21.240 a garden, trees, flowers, gazelles, right, that's this very pastoral thing. 270 00:12:21.799 --> 00:12:25.200 A garden has to be cultivated. Right. So that's a 271 00:12:25.240 --> 00:12:28.279 big part of the picture of this love song that's 272 00:12:28.279 --> 00:12:30.879 being written throughout the Book of Song as Solomon, is 273 00:12:30.960 --> 00:12:34.879 that this is a cultivated romance. And what happens is 274 00:12:34.919 --> 00:12:37.279 the little foxes again, they start digging holes, they'll start 275 00:12:37.559 --> 00:12:40.840 ruining things, they'll dig up the flower bulbs though, whatever, 276 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:46.080 and that kind of concept is you have to cultivate 277 00:12:46.200 --> 00:12:49.320 the romance, You have to cultivate the relationship and then 278 00:12:49.440 --> 00:12:51.960 understand it's the little things that will tear it all apart. Yeah, 279 00:12:52.120 --> 00:12:56.000 that's right, it's rarely big things, right, How many times have. 280 00:12:56.279 --> 00:13:01.799 I mean, I've been in counseling before with couples that 281 00:13:01.879 --> 00:13:04.519 were like, you know, I don't think he's ever been 282 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.639 unfaithful to me, or he'll say I don't think she's 283 00:13:06.639 --> 00:13:11.279 ever cheated on me. We just stopped liking each other, correct, right, 284 00:13:11.360 --> 00:13:13.159 what happened? It's a little foxes. 285 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:17.080 Yeah, And don't get me wrong, sometimes there's there's tragedy, 286 00:13:17.200 --> 00:13:20.320 you know if sometimes when a couple loses a child. 287 00:13:21.000 --> 00:13:21.799 I think only like. 288 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:24.080 There's all kinds of exterior things. What I'm saying is 289 00:13:24.159 --> 00:13:27.879 I've been in there with lots of people. Was it 290 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:28.519 just faded? 291 00:13:28.679 --> 00:13:29.159 It's rare? 292 00:13:29.720 --> 00:13:31.720 So so the big things are rare, is what I 293 00:13:31.759 --> 00:13:35.600 was going to say. There are things, but statistically it 294 00:13:35.679 --> 00:13:38.600 is overwhelmingly the little foxes, right. 295 00:13:38.799 --> 00:13:40.840 Or it's the little foxes over time that lead to 296 00:13:40.879 --> 00:13:44.679 the big catastrophe, correct, right, allowing little things to creep 297 00:13:44.679 --> 00:13:48.120 in and then finally some catastrophic thing happens. But yeah, 298 00:13:48.159 --> 00:13:50.960 so catch all the foxes, those little foxes before they 299 00:13:51.080 --> 00:13:52.080 ruin the vineyard of love. 300 00:13:52.279 --> 00:13:54.759 Hey, isn't it isn't it great? How she says? H 301 00:13:55.320 --> 00:13:57.200 One night I lay in my bed, I yearned for 302 00:13:57.919 --> 00:14:01.879 yearned for him. I couldn't find him, so I went 303 00:14:02.000 --> 00:14:04.279 that to the streets to find him. Now, again, this 304 00:14:04.440 --> 00:14:08.679 is a physical physicality thing between man and woman, So 305 00:14:08.759 --> 00:14:11.679 I get that part of it. But it is a 306 00:14:11.679 --> 00:14:17.440 beautiful thing to, you know, to love someone so much 307 00:14:18.039 --> 00:14:20.919 that she's like, hey, She's like, I refuse, I refuse 308 00:14:21.440 --> 00:14:23.799 not to be with this guy. Right, So she gets 309 00:14:23.879 --> 00:14:28.120 up and she searches for him to where she actually asks. 310 00:14:27.759 --> 00:14:29.240 Have you seen him? Have you seen him? Have you 311 00:14:29.240 --> 00:14:29.679 seen him? 312 00:14:30.000 --> 00:14:33.039 Then she finally finds them, and it's just that part, 313 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:39.360 the pursuing part, is a very beautiful picture of how 314 00:14:39.440 --> 00:14:40.320 much she loves him. 315 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:41.559 Yeah, this is really cool. 316 00:14:41.639 --> 00:14:44.759 Yeah. So again in that analogy of this vineyard that's 317 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:49.840 being cultivated, that passion and that desire is something that 318 00:14:49.919 --> 00:14:53.039 also has to be cultivated through the whole book. Right, 319 00:14:53.120 --> 00:14:55.679 it keeps hinting at this idea that it has to 320 00:14:55.720 --> 00:14:58.440 be managed, that you're cultivating the sink. So in the 321 00:14:58.519 --> 00:15:00.960 same way that I mentioned Yesterda, if you want what 322 00:15:01.000 --> 00:15:02.360 you used to have, you have to do what you 323 00:15:02.440 --> 00:15:05.919 used to do. And you used to cultivate all that desire, 324 00:15:06.159 --> 00:15:08.840 and you used to to to build on it and 325 00:15:09.000 --> 00:15:11.360 used to look for reasons to be together and to 326 00:15:11.440 --> 00:15:13.360 chase each other and all that kind of stuff. And 327 00:15:13.440 --> 00:15:17.080 so it may seem silly, but it was silly then, 328 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:19.960 Let's be honest. It was just exciting that it took 329 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:21.759 your breath away, It made your heart beat fast, and 330 00:15:21.799 --> 00:15:24.279 you palms get sweaty, you know what I mean, right, 331 00:15:24.919 --> 00:15:27.399 But if you want that romance, you have to continue 332 00:15:27.440 --> 00:15:30.200 to pursue those things, and so go back to the 333 00:15:30.240 --> 00:15:32.679 places that you used to be, go back to those 334 00:15:32.679 --> 00:15:36.480 same memories and all that. Life has changed certainly, and 335 00:15:36.519 --> 00:15:42.519 you've matured, and life is not is just dreamy as 336 00:15:42.559 --> 00:15:46.159 it in real life, as it is in those moments 337 00:15:46.159 --> 00:15:49.960 when you're overrun by hormones and dreams and you know, 338 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:54.200 all that kind of stuff. But the fact is, I 339 00:15:54.200 --> 00:15:57.159 think that you know, there are people who are able 340 00:15:57.200 --> 00:16:00.519 to maintain this enthusiasm for each other over long periods 341 00:16:00.519 --> 00:16:02.399 of time, and it's because they work at it. It's 342 00:16:02.440 --> 00:16:04.440 a cultivated thing, something that you choose. 343 00:16:04.799 --> 00:16:08.480 Hey, this one verse right over here where it says 344 00:16:08.519 --> 00:16:12.240 in verse umber fourteen, my dove is hiding behind the rocks, 345 00:16:12.960 --> 00:16:16.080 behind an outcrop on the cliff, and then he says 346 00:16:16.120 --> 00:16:18.399 to her, let me see your face. Let me hear 347 00:16:18.440 --> 00:16:20.360 your voice, for your voice is pleasant and your face 348 00:16:20.440 --> 00:16:25.720 is lovely. Isn't it interesting how there's just something about 349 00:16:25.960 --> 00:16:26.879 the face. 350 00:16:26.679 --> 00:16:27.480 Of the one you love. 351 00:16:28.240 --> 00:16:34.759 And I just literally yesterday was I went to friends 352 00:16:35.360 --> 00:16:39.200 and I had pulled up some photos and I had 353 00:16:39.240 --> 00:16:41.840 this Have you ever have you ever liked picture like 354 00:16:41.919 --> 00:16:43.399 collage some pictures together? 355 00:16:43.639 --> 00:16:43.960 Sure? 356 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:46.919 Well, I collage some pictures together for an anniversary one time. 357 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:50.200 And the collage that I showed was because my wife 358 00:16:50.240 --> 00:16:52.600 and I have been together almost as long as you 359 00:16:52.639 --> 00:16:55.440 guys have, which, by the way, you get married in 360 00:16:55.480 --> 00:16:58.000 ninety one December of ninety one, so we get married 361 00:16:58.000 --> 00:17:01.000 in July of ninety two. So even though we're both 362 00:17:01.000 --> 00:17:04.480 thirty two years now, you'll be thirty three before me, right, 363 00:17:04.559 --> 00:17:09.079 even though I'm six weeks older than you, much older, Yeah, whatever, Anyway, 364 00:17:09.279 --> 00:17:11.079 the point is is that you and I have a 365 00:17:11.160 --> 00:17:13.559 long history of you know, being with our separate wives 366 00:17:13.599 --> 00:17:16.519 for a long time. So anyway, so I collaged these 367 00:17:16.559 --> 00:17:19.400 pictures together of like her being like sixteen years old 368 00:17:19.920 --> 00:17:23.000 and me being fourteen, and then I put together some 369 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:26.359 modern pictures, you know, and then have you ever seen 370 00:17:27.160 --> 00:17:29.440 the face? Have you ever seen the app that makes 371 00:17:29.480 --> 00:17:30.079 you look older. 372 00:17:30.240 --> 00:17:31.599 Yes, so I went. 373 00:17:31.480 --> 00:17:35.720 Ahead and pieced together this thing that made us look 374 00:17:35.759 --> 00:17:41.920 like literally ninety okay. And so anyway, my friend laughed 375 00:17:42.200 --> 00:17:44.319 and said, oh my goodness, that doesn't even look like you. 376 00:17:44.680 --> 00:17:46.000 She's like, man, he goes, he goes, what are you 377 00:17:46.000 --> 00:17:47.519 going to do? And she gets to look like that? 378 00:17:48.279 --> 00:17:50.599 And I laughed, But in my mind, I was thinking, 379 00:17:52.119 --> 00:17:55.799 it's no different than from when we were fourteen, and 380 00:17:55.839 --> 00:17:58.240 now we're fifty three. She doesn't looked like she did 381 00:17:58.240 --> 00:18:01.519 when she's fourteen, and yet she's just as beautiful now, 382 00:18:01.599 --> 00:18:03.680 right right, So we're both older and it's just and 383 00:18:03.720 --> 00:18:06.079 so I so I always say when I when I 384 00:18:06.119 --> 00:18:07.880 see my wife, I always go I always look at her, 385 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:10.279 and every once in a while I say, man, you're so pretty. 386 00:18:10.440 --> 00:18:12.920 You're so pretty, and she's like thanks. 387 00:18:13.160 --> 00:18:15.359 And I always say that because there's just something about 388 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:17.440 it where I believe, you know, we're gonna be old 389 00:18:17.480 --> 00:18:19.200 and wrinkly, but I look forward to. 390 00:18:19.160 --> 00:18:20.720 That, sure, don't you? Sure? 391 00:18:20.759 --> 00:18:20.880 Oh? 392 00:18:20.920 --> 00:18:23.920 Yeah, yeah? Well we commented on the on the one 393 00:18:23.920 --> 00:18:28.599 of the previous episodes that I like aging. Yeah, you know, 394 00:18:29.160 --> 00:18:32.839 not not entirely right, but but I like my age. 395 00:18:32.920 --> 00:18:35.000 I like, I like the fact that you know, life 396 00:18:35.039 --> 00:18:38.279 is progressing and all these things. I've made jokes several times. 397 00:18:38.359 --> 00:18:41.640 So we have two grandchildren now, which is really really 398 00:18:42.079 --> 00:18:47.359 an amazing thing. And when when our first when our 399 00:18:47.359 --> 00:18:51.000 grandson was born, our first grandson, I had a friend go, dude, 400 00:18:51.000 --> 00:18:54.079 you're getting so old, right, So I was like forty eight, 401 00:18:54.160 --> 00:18:57.240