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Have you ever met a hater who's
doing better than you? Me neither.

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Hey, now it's this Saturday
side hustle. It's Dave Lorenzo.

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I'm here solo because it's Saturday.

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Today we're talking about
haters and the grind.

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So I want to start off by sharing
a little something with you.

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I had an incident happen to me this week.

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That's something that I guess
it happens from time to time,

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but I'm always relatively
surprised when it does,

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and that's that my success is tied
to the success of somebody else

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in a particular organization
that I'm a part of.

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I'm a volunteer in an
organization and I get a lot of

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value out of being a member of this group.

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I volunteer to help out other people
because it's good for the group.

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It also is good for me, raises my profile,

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and I get a lot more value out of the
group because I volunteer to help others.

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Well,

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my success is tied to the person
who's the paid employee who

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runs this particular part of the group.

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So every time I help somebody in
the group become more successful,

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this person also gets
credit for the success.

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And if I bring somebody
new into the group,

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this person makes money as a result
of the people that I recruit.

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And I am perfectly fine with that.

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And I've realized from the beginning that
this person's success would be tied to

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mine. And I embraced that,

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and I knew that I'd be making
this other person successful and

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I enjoyed it.

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And I continue to enjoy helping
people become successful.

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So in coaching other volunteers,

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the other volunteers will often ask me how

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I get along so well with this person.

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And actually they did ask me how I got
along so well with this person until this

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particular week.
And I would say I make them

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successful as often as
I can. They look good.

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I don't take credit for a lot of the
stuff that goes on behind the scenes

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because it doesn't matter to me. I
get what I want out of the group.

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It's very rewarding, it's very
fulfilling. So I don't care. Well,

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this week something
really interesting and to

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me at first, annoying, hurtful,

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and absolutely aggravating happened.

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I got an email from this person and
the email stated that we had had

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a discussion and I had made some
recommendations for some processes

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that the organization could put
in place to prevent some mistakes

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that had been recurring.

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And the email that I got
said that my recommendations

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were appreciated,

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but I needed to realize
that regardless of what I

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recommended, this person was going
to do what they wanted to do.

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And then there were a couple
of pointed words in there about

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how at the end of the day,

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they were ultimately the person
who was going to make all the

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decisions,

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and I should not overstep my bounds

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and assume that my recommendations
were just going to be

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adopted.

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I thought to myself initially,

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why would you put this in an
email to someone who's not

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getting paid,

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not receiving anything
other than satisfaction

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for helping you? Now, to make
a long story, even longer,

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the recommendations I was making
were along the lines of leadership

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recommendations, recommendations that
would make this person a better leader.

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Because the person themselves has not,

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they don't have any leadership experience.

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They have some management experience
of managing processes and systems,

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but they don't have a lot
of leadership experience.

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I happen to have some
leadership experience.

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So I was sharing my
thoughts on leadership to

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help this person, to keep this
person from making mistakes,

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the same mistakes they had been
making over and over again.

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So I was surprised when I got
this email surprised and hurt and

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aggravated,

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and I took a step back and I actually
discussed it with Nicola. We had a long

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conversation about it, and I took a
step back and I thought to myself,

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here's the thing.

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This is coming from a place of
insecurity and jealousy on the part

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of this person,

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and I shouldn't really
give it any thought.

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I shouldn't really be concerned about
it because there's nothing I can do to

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change it.

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And all they've done is
liberate a significant amount of

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my time because I'm certainly not going
to invest any more time in helping this

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person.

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So they liberated a significant amount
of my time to do other things that are

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more important to me.

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And that to me was the huge takeaway from

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this.

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It's that I can't control how
other people feel about me,

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but I can control how I react to it.

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So my decision and recording
this today is my way of closing

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the door on this is getting
closure and putting it behind me.

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My decision today is
to just let this go and

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not be around this person
anymore than I have to be,

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not help this person anymore
because clearly my help is

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breeding some sort of resentment
in them and let them succeed or

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fail on their own. Now,

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how does this message about haters,

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how does it fill in? Or how does

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this message about haters
lead to my thoughts

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about the grind? That was
the title of today's show,

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haters in the Grind.

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The reason that people are envious
of you or they're jealous of you

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is because of what you've accomplished
and because of what you've achieved,

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and you've achieved what you've achieved
because you're doing things that most

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people won't do.
And that's where the grind comes in.

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Everybody wants the success, but
they don't want to do the work.

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When you tell them what
it takes to be successful,

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they're going to say to themselves, well,

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there's got to be a shortcut because I
don't want to do that in the case of this

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person.

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I don't know if it's that they don't
want to do it or that they can't

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do it,

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or that they just resent the fact
that it wasn't their idea to do it.

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But all three of those are deadly.
And you as an entrepreneur,

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can't let any of those three things

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creep into your mindset. If you
see a good idea from someone else,

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and you can replicate that in your
business and it's going to make you more

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successful,

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you need to do it regardless of
whether it was your idea or not.

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Nobody cares whose idea it was.
They just care about the results.

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So take that idea and implement it
immediately. If somebody offers you help,

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the best thing you can do is say Thank
you and take their assistance and don't

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resent them because they know
something you don't know.

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The second point of that is
that if you don't have the

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talent to do something, bring in people
who do have the talent and rely on them.

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That shows that you're smart. It
shows that you're resourceful.

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It shows that you know
how to get things done.

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And then the third point about that
is most of the people who are envious

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and resentful of you, most of
the people who are your haters,

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they can't put in the work
that you're putting in.

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And I'm going to tell you
about the week that I had.

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I'll tell you about the
week that Nicola had.

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We were talking about this yesterday.

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She put in 70 hours this week
working on a couple of cases,

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and we still found time yesterday to
record a couple of episodes of the show.

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I put in 70 hours of work in the
business in our business, and I traveled.

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I was in Washington dc. I
did a half-day seminar there,

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and I flew to Detroit, did
a half-day seminar there,

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and I flew home and still
put in 70-plus hours

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in our Business working
on the business this week.

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And I'm up at 4:30 AM doing
this because it's something that

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I do as part of fulfilling my
commitments to my business,

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fulfilling my commitments to you. I'm
recording this at 4:30 AM on a Saturday.

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Other people aren't going to do that,

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and that's one of the key
elements that makes the haters

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hate.

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So I've resolved myself to this really

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crystal clear vision,

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and this vision is that my
mission in life is to give

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my haters new reasons,

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to envy my success every
day. Think about that.

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You should make it your mission too. Take
this hate and turn it into motivation.

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We talked last week about being
a savage, and if you're a savage,

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do you care what your haters
think? No. You know what you do?

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You just run through
them to get to the goal.

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You don't let them get in
your way. You tear them apart.

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So my mission in life is to
give my haters a new reason

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every day to envy my success.

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That's what I'm here for. That's
what you should be here for.

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This is a Saturday side hustle.

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Join us tomorrow for the Sunday special
where we're going to share with you

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all the stuff we got done this week in
our business so that you can model that

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behavior and you can become
the envy of your haters.

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We'll see you tomorrow.