Have you ever met a hater who's doing better than you? Me neither.
Hey, now it's this Saturday side hustle. It's Dave Lorenzo.
I'm here solo because it's Saturday.
Today we're talking about haters and the grind.
So I want to start off by sharing a little something with you.
I had an incident happen to me this week.
That's something that I guess it happens from time to time,
but I'm always relatively surprised when it does,
and that's that my success is tied to the success of somebody else
in a particular organization that I'm a part of.
I'm a volunteer in an organization and I get a lot of
value out of being a member of this group.
I volunteer to help out other people because it's good for the group.
It also is good for me, raises my profile,
and I get a lot more value out of the group because I volunteer to help others.
Well,
my success is tied to the person who's the paid employee who
runs this particular part of the group.
So every time I help somebody in the group become more successful,
this person also gets credit for the success.
And if I bring somebody new into the group,
this person makes money as a result of the people that I recruit.
And I am perfectly fine with that.
And I've realized from the beginning that this person's success would be tied to
mine. And I embraced that,
and I knew that I'd be making this other person successful and
I enjoyed it.
And I continue to enjoy helping people become successful.
So in coaching other volunteers,
the other volunteers will often ask me how
I get along so well with this person.
And actually they did ask me how I got along so well with this person until this
particular week. And I would say I make them
successful as often as I can. They look good.
I don't take credit for a lot of the stuff that goes on behind the scenes
because it doesn't matter to me. I get what I want out of the group.
It's very rewarding, it's very fulfilling. So I don't care. Well,
this week something really interesting and to
me at first, annoying, hurtful,
and absolutely aggravating happened.
I got an email from this person and the email stated that we had had
a discussion and I had made some recommendations for some processes
that the organization could put in place to prevent some mistakes
that had been recurring.
And the email that I got said that my recommendations
were appreciated,
but I needed to realize that regardless of what I
recommended, this person was going to do what they wanted to do.
And then there were a couple of pointed words in there about
how at the end of the day,
they were ultimately the person who was going to make all the
decisions,
and I should not overstep my bounds
and assume that my recommendations were just going to be
adopted.
I thought to myself initially,
why would you put this in an email to someone who's not
getting paid,
not receiving anything other than satisfaction
for helping you? Now, to make a long story, even longer,
the recommendations I was making were along the lines of leadership
recommendations, recommendations that would make this person a better leader.
Because the person themselves has not,
they don't have any leadership experience.
They have some management experience of managing processes and systems,
but they don't have a lot of leadership experience.
I happen to have some leadership experience.
So I was sharing my thoughts on leadership to
help this person, to keep this person from making mistakes,
the same mistakes they had been making over and over again.
So I was surprised when I got this email surprised and hurt and
aggravated,
and I took a step back and I actually discussed it with Nicola. We had a long
conversation about it, and I took a step back and I thought to myself,
here's the thing.
This is coming from a place of insecurity and jealousy on the part
of this person,
and I shouldn't really give it any thought.
I shouldn't really be concerned about it because there's nothing I can do to
change it.
And all they've done is liberate a significant amount of
my time because I'm certainly not going to invest any more time in helping this
person.
So they liberated a significant amount of my time to do other things that are
more important to me.
And that to me was the huge takeaway from
this.
It's that I can't control how other people feel about me,
but I can control how I react to it.
So my decision and recording this today is my way of closing
the door on this is getting closure and putting it behind me.
My decision today is to just let this go and
not be around this person anymore than I have to be,
not help this person anymore because clearly my help is
breeding some sort of resentment in them and let them succeed or
fail on their own. Now,
how does this message about haters,
how does it fill in? Or how does
this message about haters lead to my thoughts
about the grind? That was the title of today's show,
haters in the Grind.
The reason that people are envious of you or they're jealous of you
is because of what you've accomplished and because of what you've achieved,
and you've achieved what you've achieved because you're doing things that most
people won't do. And that's where the grind comes in.
Everybody wants the success, but they don't want to do the work.
When you tell them what it takes to be successful,
they're going to say to themselves, well,
there's got to be a shortcut because I don't want to do that in the case of this
person.
I don't know if it's that they don't want to do it or that they can't
do it,
or that they just resent the fact that it wasn't their idea to do it.
But all three of those are deadly. And you as an entrepreneur,
can't let any of those three things
creep into your mindset. If you see a good idea from someone else,
and you can replicate that in your business and it's going to make you more
successful,
you need to do it regardless of whether it was your idea or not.
Nobody cares whose idea it was. They just care about the results.
So take that idea and implement it immediately. If somebody offers you help,
the best thing you can do is say Thank you and take their assistance and don't
resent them because they know something you don't know.
The second point of that is that if you don't have the
talent to do something, bring in people who do have the talent and rely on them.
That shows that you're smart. It shows that you're resourceful.
It shows that you know how to get things done.
And then the third point about that is most of the people who are envious
and resentful of you, most of the people who are your haters,
they can't put in the work that you're putting in.
And I'm going to tell you about the week that I had.
I'll tell you about the week that Nicola had.
We were talking about this yesterday.
She put in 70 hours this week working on a couple of cases,
and we still found time yesterday to record a couple of episodes of the show.
I put in 70 hours of work in the business in our business, and I traveled.
I was in Washington dc. I did a half-day seminar there,
and I flew to Detroit, did a half-day seminar there,
and I flew home and still put in 70-plus hours
in our Business working on the business this week.
And I'm up at 4:30 AM doing this because it's something that
I do as part of fulfilling my commitments to my business,
fulfilling my commitments to you. I'm recording this at 4:30 AM on a Saturday.
Other people aren't going to do that,
and that's one of the key elements that makes the haters
hate.
So I've resolved myself to this really
crystal clear vision,
and this vision is that my mission in life is to give
my haters new reasons,
to envy my success every day. Think about that.
You should make it your mission too. Take this hate and turn it into motivation.
We talked last week about being a savage, and if you're a savage,
do you care what your haters think? No. You know what you do?
You just run through them to get to the goal.
You don't let them get in your way. You tear them apart.
So my mission in life is to give my haters a new reason
every day to envy my success.
That's what I'm here for. That's what you should be here for.
This is a Saturday side hustle.
Join us tomorrow for the Sunday special where we're going to share with you
all the stuff we got done this week in our business so that you can model that
behavior and you can become the envy of your haters.
We'll see you tomorrow.