Welcome to the Love, Sex, and Leadership podcast where you can discover simple tantric teachings to embody your true power, awaken your soul's wisdom, and live an inspired life as a natural, intuitive, and heart-centered leader. Giving a deep breath into the belly. Just take a moment to place a hand on your heart, your hand on your belly. Just to connect into this body, to this body temple. You've been Journeying with for your whole life. Recognizing that some part of you, whether a soul or spirit. chose to have this incarnation in this male body. There's many different. Archetypes and energies that will The exploring through this week together. And the focus more of our morning here is. That healthy warrior spirit inside of you. But one that stands strong. That knows how to express how he feels and what he needs. is able to hold and support and create safety not only for himself but also for his brother. We'll take a deeper embodied look at Where some of that warrior is inside of you, maybe some areas where it's been in the shadow, unexpressed. Or overexpressed. And allowing you to confront and to meet more of that. Warrior-like energy within. And through our journey together through our Experiences and practices. potentially find within yourself an energy that Needs not to prove his authority. Or expression to another. But he intrinsically knows that inside of yourself. And that fighting warrior spirit within. I actually that which creates safety for yourself and everyone else around you. The very safety you might be. Seeking And maybe some of the fears that are arising in your life or some of the difficulties or challenges or places that people or loved ones or your beloved is asking you to step into. This morning we get to confront and meet some of those energies inside to awaken more of that. Warrior within you. Deep breath in. Uh You're Ready, opening the eyes. To see and to meet. And then The other brothers that are here. On this journey. So each morning before we go into embodiment practices, we'll just share generally around 1015 minutes of some Discourse some framing. The framing more for Understanding intellectually. The places that our body goes into, and I find in this world of embodiment that sometimes you go directly into the body without actually having some of the concepts in place for the why, and you might have great embodied experiences but can't always piece together it after the fact. So from my side and my own. On a very strong intellectual journey I came through, and that was very high on the values growing up was you have to understand, you have to get good grades, you have to have a good intelligence. Mom or dad didn't say anything about being in the body. That wasn't something that was important. And it was through doing this work and diving deep into mindfulness that actually I realized that that was some of the Areas I wanted to explore more of and to not only understand it, but to express it. And so if we look at the warrior in life, What, when I say warrior, what are some of the things that arise in your consciousness, some of the expressions or or sensations or when you hear the word warrior, what, what comes up for you? Grounded Strong City, yeah, control. Focus, focus. Distraction. Dominant Right. So one of the differentiations is tomorrow we'll be diving deep into some of the More, you could say denser dark masculine energy, and today we'll be exploring that a little bit, but just to differentiate a little bit of some of the qualities of our masculine energy, meaning dark not as in bad, but dark as in more dense connected to our lower chakras and Light more connected to the spirit realm to our uh lighter energies. If I look at the archetype of a light masculine, I might look at like a Jesus archetype, the one that's just there. Tell me all your problems, I'm going to support you. I'm gonna hold space. I'm gonna be there compassionately loving every part of you. And the dark masculine is more that energy that looks you fiercely in the eyes. The unhealthy places I want to push you down so that I feel more powerful. The healthy way is I wanna invite you to rise up. I wanna invite you to be stronger. I wanna invite you to be the man that you know you're meant to be in this planet. And that energy often in our world is in the shadow. We don't have a lot of healthy examples of healthy, dark masculine energy. It's often looked at from the place of let me have power over you so that I get a pat on the back and I feel good about myself. That's the way a lot of companies and corporations and businesses are run from often male bodies that are having power over. What we're inviting into this energy is a power with. And especially when it comes to working with a warrior, because when we can look eye to eye with our brothers and look eye to eye, whether we're here in this room or out in the business world or out wherever we're doing and recognize I don't need to push you down, but actually I want to see you rise up. I want to see you lift up. I wanna see you share your gifts in the world, and that's what actually turns me on more than anything. That's a different mentality than often the. Heavy competitive nature of masculinity that's like, let me fucking deteriorate you, push you down, disintegrate you so that I get the, I did well and you did poor. And it's not that all competition is bad. I grew up, a lot of the lessons I learned were on the the soccer field for, you know, American English football field for Europeans, and I was a goalkeeper, you know, I, I was Taught what to do in very kind of difficult situations. And when I did well, I got a pat on the back. When we lost the game, it was like a fucking piece of shit. Why'd you let that through? So I, I learned how to thrive in a very high competitive world, and a lot of the guys I grew up with ended up playing, you know, professional in the US, I'm professional in Europe, and that was the environment I was in. So it was a very like strong competitive world. And I don't see competition as being bad. There's a healthy dose of competition that actually can help us rise up. However, it's when I need to be competitive so that I feel good about myself and I get the pat on the back from Dad that I never got. That's where competition often turns into the sour taste. So we want to look at where competition and uh can go from into kind of more camaraderieship. And how we can support each other with that strong fiery energy inside. And so you might find yourself in some of the practices today. Being invited to step more into that fire inside, to more of that fierceness inside, that maybe that's something you really know well and maybe you've suppressed and you've pushed down and you said, no, no, no, I'm never gonna be like those guys. I'm never like that. I'm the nice guy. Who's the nice guys in the room, you know, you identify like that. Yeah. And, and it's part of that is a societal thing that almost forces us in a way into that because I know for me as a man, I've had the feeling of walking on eggshells sometimes. You want me to be strong, but no, you want me to be tender and listen and be, but no, no, be strong, be strong. Make sure you're fierce, but no, no, we need your softness. We need, we need to feel you. But where's your fucking intensity? We need your intensity. Anyone felt like this, you're like this is this is. And so you don't necessarily know where to be, cause no matter where you are, you have some fucking dickhead telling you you're in the wrong place. So this is what we're exploring and, and the invitation into our practices and into what we're going into today is to notice where your common ground is or has been and lean into your edge. So if you're really comfortable with like fierceness and fucking like fire in your eyes and looking into a man in the eyes and like maybe your, you know, invitation is to be a little soft. If you're often a bit more in the soft place and But more passive and apprehensive and like invite that fire. So if you touch right now on your solar plexus, this is your will. There's that fire inside of you, that burning part that's like I'm fucking here. I'm here, I'm strong, I'm grounded, and I don't need to prove my hereness to prove my value. Your value is intrinsic no matter what. But the edges around that value that maybe some part of you thought you're not good enough. Maybe some part of you thought that you needed to prove yourself. Maybe some part of you is afraid to step into your true power because someone, mom, dad, brother, sister, partner said, you're too much. Can you, can you quiet down a little bit because you're a little too much in the room. Anyone ever heard this? Yeah, and so it's just like we get lost sometimes. And so this is some of the areas to explore when we dive into more of this healthy warrior where not only can you invite it into this this space into this retreat, but into your life because often your partner or your beloved is like, Come on, where are you? Where are you? I wanna fucking feel you. I wanna feel you, I wanna feel that you're present with me. But also at the same time, they don't want to feel you overpowering them. So it's a fine line to dance with and that's what we'll be exploring. Hm Yeah. Do you have any thoughts on the warrior, sir? Yeah, story of my life, I can say. Because this is just the dynamic. And, but, you know, Aaron touched upon it a little bit, then there's a with partners and That brings on a whole new layer and And I've discovered through mentor that. Find your core and Allan Fire In and with men. And that that's peace. The mind that's in your body, that's peace. Not like a steady state, you know, you'll you'll you'll have your moments of Not being there, but, but if you can cultivate that with men. Be in that place as a man with men. And I bet you you're in a much better position to Be in that piece. Actually Because women are multi-emotional. Crazy being. That's beautiful. You have to have that that holding in yourself to be able to relate to. And that starts with men. It starts with finding you a warrior. Connecting to it and and like Aaron said, it's Maybe you're, you're, you're used to fighting. Strong and Overruling or overpowering your brothers cause that's how you. Don't feel safe And you need Lean into that More compassionate, softer receiving that. And the other way around, of course, we're always in, you know, China. So smaller than you really are, then it's time to uh. Open your chest and you know, release. A fire in you open your heart. Diaphragm and breathe through to you. Jelly and let it flow. Do that You know, with yourself and connect. Hm. Yeah, so just take one more moment and to drop into your, to that will inside. Maybe you just close the eyes. And ask yourself the question. What maybe is holding you back from stepping into your true power? Is there a belief? Is there an ideology? Is there some voice in your head that Maybe you've been buying into for a long time. Of some reason of some explanation of why. You know, powerful, strong men or beings are somehow bad. Notice what the the the. The talk is inside your mind around that. If there are Any of those words or expressions and they want to be expressed out, let your voice be heard. What what's some of the reasons why maybe you haven't been Stepping strongly into your power. Judgment. Not hurt someone. You rejection. Too much. Mm, being abusive. Not good enough. of overpowering. Right. Not to get hurt. Causing harm. Just breathe in all of these voices. I'm sure each one of you can relate to all these parts, and notice. Often the fear of standing firmly in your power, in your strength, in your intensity. And actually your capacity to stand in that intensity is what creates safety. When you yourself know the stance of being able To be conscious while doing it. Often the fear of our anger, of our intensity is that some part of us is going to turn unconscious as we witnessed it in our Father. We witnessed it in in a bar fight. We witnessed at some point some strong, powerful man in our lives, whether ourselves or others, went unconscious in power, and we said to ourselves, ah, I'm never going to do that. I'm not going to be that guy. But as a result, you probably have spent years of your life being passive. Being less assertive, being afraid of being too much, but the very thing that you are judging is the very thing that society is asking more of you. And so as we dive deep into practices that are going to invite more of that fire, know that your fire is supporting another brother's fire to arise. To look eye to eye, soul to soul, body to body and say, what I see in you, I know in me. And we don't need to be afraid any longer. Actually, our power is what creates safety. Feel that for a minute. Feel all the time that you've held back your power because you thought that's what you had to do to create safety. But the very thing hereditary historically that creates safety for yourself, for your family, for your tribe, for your community is to stand strong in your power, but that's also connected to your vulnerability. And these are the places that we play with them and through this week. Deep breath in.