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Ned Schaut: why does this matter
for us to be here together?

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Dude, like my kids could marry your kids
like I care so much how you freaking show

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up as a dad, dude, and you should care how
I show up as a dad because if my daughter

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marries your son, like, dude, we want them
to not have the same struggles we have.

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We want them to be on
that deeper level, right?

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Like I told you, my life was awesome,
but now I'm struggling with new things

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I want my kids to struggle with, with
deeper, more connected, more aware things

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so that they can provide incredible value
to this world that we've been given.

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Kyle Carnohan: Welcome to the Superhuman
Father's Transformation Podcast.

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If you're listening to this, you're
about to witness some of the most

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incredible transformations that have
ever happened on the planet, and just

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by listening to this, you will be
inspired to have your own transformation.

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If you're listening to this for the
first time, or you're one of the brothers

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in the brotherhood, go leave a review
on the podcast and let the brother or

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member know how amazing they did and
how incredible their transformation was.

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I'm Kyle Carnahan, founder of
Superhuman Fathers, and not only

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am I gonna change your life, I'm
gonna get you ripped as fuck.

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Ryan Carnohan: let's get into this.

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Let's talk.

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Well, Ned, how you doing man?

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All the way in Hawaii.

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You in Hawaii

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Ned Schaut: right now?

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Uh, as usual.

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Yeah.

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In

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Ryan Carnohan: Hawaii, baby.

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Amazing.

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In Hawaii.

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Um, so Ned has a podcast.

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He's also got a book that I've read.

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Rebel Creates great book.

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Should buy it if you don't,
um, if you haven't, um, and.

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Um, skateboarder past gate.

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He's just, you know, Christian background.

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Really cool story.

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But when I met Ned, um, we were so
young in this, like, he gave us our,

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his trust pretty early on in this.

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And, uh, I didn't have a
Zoom call like opening.

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It was just a phone call.

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He's like, and I was still,
I, I don't know if I'd had my

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transformation not yet or not.

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Ned had I, had I been posted yet Ned when

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you

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Ned Schaut: came in?

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Maybe just barely.

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I'm not, yeah, maybe barely.

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Ryan Carnohan: Yeah, just barely.

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I was still chubby, you know, I'm
telling him like, Hey, you can do

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Ned Schaut: this, we can do this.

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You know.

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You were on fire though, bro.

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I remember exactly where I was
sitting when, and I have four pages

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of notes from that phone call, bro.

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Ryan Carnohan: Well, I was
tapped in man, cause it was right

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before and I'd figured it out.

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I had figured it out, you know, and so
Ned, Ned, I think probably had the first

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onboarding thesis, whatever you want
to call it, of, of the s HF philosophy

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that had come together in my brain.

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And I just lit a fire it like it is.

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Just once it started I
couldn't stop talking about it.

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And then we were bouncing thoughts
and he was asking questions and we

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have a Christian background, so we
were also talking about that and

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how it works and what that meant.

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And then I just felt the love
from him and, uh, we, I just

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knew that this was gonna happen.

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He just was in after that, you
know, and she's like, okay.

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And it's been fun.

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Him and I have communicated off and
on as we've gone through this, and

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he's just, he, he's a jam you guys.

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He really is a good, good human.

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He's got a great family.

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We'll hear about them
probably through this.

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He's got a daughter, he does, he works
out with, he'll send me these pictures

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and she's like, they're battling
each other cuz she's a savage dude.

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So, but that's what's fun is
what you create in your family.

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And so, um, Ned has been part of other
men's groups, which is also interesting.

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And he speaks, he, he runs his podcast
about dads and he speaks and, and

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does presentations about fatherhood.

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And so it, it'll be fun to hear
his perspective cuz he brings

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a lot of knowledge already.

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Uh, and he is applied that in, in,
in his marriage and his family.

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But there, I think there's some concepts,
universal concepts that we share

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together here in Superhuman Fathers
that maybe connected some things.

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And so we'll see where
we go in this interview.

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I didn't even send him
interview questions.

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We're just, we're just gonna,
you know, go with this.

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But I think Ned.

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I wanna find our, uh, maybe you
can give us a quick background

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of what you do or of Sure.

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Yeah.

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What I wanna get at for the first question
is I wanna find out where you were at

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when you saw S hf, or when you were coming
into S HF and why you pulled the trigger.

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I think that's kind of where
I wanna start with it, if

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Ned Schaut: that sounds good.

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Yeah, bro.

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And I'll just tell you, like I wrote
down, I spent two hours today going

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through my journals and putting a
bunch of notes down, so I'm gonna

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give you like a few pillars and you
can just dig into whatever you want.

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Oh, and you feel

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Ryan Carnohan: free, feel free too.

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This is your time, so as, as
you feel inclined, you can take

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it wherever you want as well.

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I'm really good at, I can audible.

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Ned Schaut: Yeah, you guys can ask
me whatever you want, but I put it

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under like, you know, why I did this,
disclaimers, some actual metric statistics

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because I track everything, uh, mistakes
I made, and then there's about 10 rocks.

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Yeah, 10 rocks.

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Like what were significant moments?

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Because this took me 11 months.

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Uh, and then let's go, let's go.

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And then some wins.

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So I think this is the best part, bro,
is, uh, first Kyle, you're making me

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jealous with that mango pre-workout.

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I, I ran out, dude.

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So let's, let's hide that from the screen.

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Hey, I have

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Kyle Carnohan: a few more.

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I'll, I'll, I'll send you one.

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It's,

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Ryan Carnohan: it's about done.

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Ned Schaut: It's so good.

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Okay.

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Check it out.

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Here's my opening.

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Why did I join S hf?

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I was cr I was already crushing it.

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And I'm not saying that from like
a, from like a, a cocky stance,

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but like, I was doing great.

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My marriage was great, having great sex.

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My kids, my kids'
relationships were great.

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Um, I had written two books and
was putting out my third book.

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I did a TEDx talk.

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I was at 200 episodes on my podcast.

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My business, which is employee
Benefits, uh, my business, which is

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employee benefits, was going great.

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Um, I was able to move to Hawaii and
still run my business in California.

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I think I had seven employees at the time.

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Um, I was already only working about 20
hours on my business, uh, at, in 2021.

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And then 2022 was 16 hours a
week on my business on average.

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So like, things were going great.

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Um, and I was like, um, this is awesome.

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But I wanted to look on the
outside how I felt on the inside.

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Right.

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As a dude, you're scrolling
through Instagram and you're like,

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this guy looks like an alpha.

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This guy looks like an alpha.

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And I was fine.

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Like I worked out, I could do
workouts, but I didn't look, I.

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I didn't look shredded,
I didn't look Austin.

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So I said, I wanna look on the
outside, how I feel on the inside.

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And then God rocked my freaking
world, bro, I thought I'd

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get this done in 90 days.

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I'm disciplined.

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This is not a problem.

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And, and, and I'm gonna tell you
from June of last year, through March

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of this year, in my journals, as I
went through, okay, 28 days do this.

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Okay, 15 days do this.

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Okay, I'm committing to 77 days.

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Okay?

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I'm committing.

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And it's like, it was this rollercoaster
of me, me trying to control it.

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And so if I were to boil it down to one
thing, What I learned through this is

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I was able to build an incredible life.

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And, and it's not just all me.

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Like I totally, God hooked me up.

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God was patient with me,
um, from, from Ned's world.

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Um, but God wanted to mature me.

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Like I was the, I was the five
year old kid coming to God,

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Hey, I'm going to McDonald's.

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Could I have five bucks?

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And he's always super generous to me,
like, yeah, here, go get an ice cream.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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But this was Ned.

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It's time to surrender.

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It's time to surrender to
who you are and to mature.

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Now you guys, I'm gonna be 40 in a month.

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And so really, you know, like I, I
wanted to look my best when I turned 40.

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And this became this spiritual
transformation for me of a

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deeper understanding of who I am.

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Um, And so, I mean, I'll, I'm gonna
give a couple disclaimers right,

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right now, and then maybe you want to
ask me something about what I said.

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But this shit took me a year.

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Um,

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Ryan Carnohan: just keep going bro.

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This is too good.

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Ned Schaut: Keep going.

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It took me a year.

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It took me a year.

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Um, it took me a year.

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Um, I've gotten in, so
here's my disclaimers.

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Took me a year.

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I got, I have gotten in more
fights with my wife in the last

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year than in the last five years.

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We've been married, uh, almost 19 years.

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But I was, I was crushing it, but then I
went freaking like, okay, there's another

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level of, of who Ned is, who Ned can be.

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And so the tension, like huge
connects and huge disconnects.

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Not, I shouldn't even say disconnects.

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It's like we just enter it in.

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So here, here's a great example.

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Here's a true metric.

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Okay?

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We got in way more fights.

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But if I look at, so I track
our sex and her period.

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So like I could go into why do that, but.

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I had to change the point system because
it got to a new level of incredible

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that I didn't even know existed.

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So if I looked at my points from, from,
uh, I got it right here, you guys are

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gonna think this is whack book, whatever.

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Okay.

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Sex in 2021, average 20 points a month.

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In 22, it averaged 30 points a month.

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And now in 2023, it's
averaging 143 points a month.

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Because I had to go to a whole nother,
like one to five didn't work anymore,

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and then one to 10 didn't work anymore.

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And I'm like, oh shit,
I didn't even know that.

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Like the best is a 30 now.

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And, and sometimes I'm like, how
can I put 30 today when last week?

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You know what I mean?

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Like, oh my gosh.

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So it has increased tremendously,
but the tension of our fights

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has also increased because.

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We're both digging into like, who are we?

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Who were we made to be?

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It's so intense.

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So back to my disclaimers,
fights got worse.

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Um, dude, three months ago,
I can see her yelling at me.

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She's in the closet.

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I can still see this.

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And she's so pissed.

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Like, I got her so wound
up and she's like, really?

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You're a superhuman father?

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And it's like, it's like these incredible
moments of us in The Bahamas connecting

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like I've never connected before,
bro, on a trip that was given to me.

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So then being in my closet a month later
and she's like, thinks I'm the biggest

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asshole in the world because we're digging
into this deeper level of who we are.

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That's what this freaking
Superhuman Fathers has done for me.

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And this is just the beginning.

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Like to think I was going here and then to
have Superhuman Fathers take me here and

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go, whoa, this is a journey for so much.

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Um, Oh my gosh.

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Okay.

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Uh, okay, so

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Ryan Carnohan: let's go
ahead, let's dig in here.

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Okay, so you're fighting more.

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Yeah.

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Why do you think that is?

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And did the way that you were responding
to the disagreements change from

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before you started Superhuman Fathers?

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Or did the way you respond to them
were, was, were they, was it the

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Ned Schaut: same?

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So, here's what I'm gonna say.

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I think that the incredible life
that I had before, which was great.

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So I'm not saying like all,
uh, it was great, but Ned

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was the center of the story.

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Yes.

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And, and I, I loved my family a lot
based on their performance in my story.

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And so it's this new tension of my
wife, I truly believe is my other half.

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She's a half of me to like we are
to be one, and she's another half of

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me that I don't have control over.

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And I'm, I'm operating now to give
her the space to be herself and

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not just be Ned's support system.

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And so it's this interesting dynamic where
she's having a voice, she's standing up,

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she's being encouraged to be herself.

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And I'm struggling with what
does that mean in this marriage

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we've had for 19 years?

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Um, how

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Ryan Carnohan: are you
giving her that ability?

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What's changed in you that has given
her the opportunity to be more of her?

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Because this is a very massive, massive
concept in marriage that us men miss.

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And I'm learning myself.

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And when you do do it, you
know, you can feel the.

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Ned Schaut: It's awareness, bro.

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I think that's the scariest thing to all
of this is like, as you become aware, you

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almost become aware of what an asshole
you are and, and an asshole you have been.

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Like, if I'm just hungry and
I'm like a baby, I don't realize

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I'm an asshole when I'm crying.

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But now that I'm maturing and
I'm crying, I realize like I'm

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just shitting on everybody around
me when I show up like this.

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But now I see it.

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So then I have this freaking internal
battle with myself every day when

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I'm showing up with crappy energy.

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Normally it was just like I was
a baby crying cause I was hungry.

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But now, now I see it, but
I still am freaking crying.

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So how do I shift out of that?

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So it's, it's shifting out of that.

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Um, and then the other
piece to it, man, is can

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Kyle Carnohan: I just stop,
can I stop this one second and

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just say, that's fucking gold.

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And is the whole reason why this
was start in the first place.

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Like let's go right there.

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Like, that's it.

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And what's crazy is, yeah, we
do talk about it of course, but.

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Talking about it only does that talk
about it, but until you get yourself in

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a place where you ain't got no place to
go to scratch that dopamine and you got

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loud kids and your wife is ying at you
and you're completely clear and all the

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pain is right in your face and you can't
run from it, that's when, okay, now we

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have to learn how to deal with this.

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Cuz I can't go drink, I can't go
stuff my fat face, I've got nothing.

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I have to face it and I gotta
get good at this or else this

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family's gonna fall apart.

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I love it, dude.

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Ned Schaut: Savage.

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I think the other realization in
that awareness is that I need my

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wife, like this is some ahas I've
had over the last little while.

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Like she has something I don't have,
so I need her not to like freaking buy

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bananas and put 'em on the counter,
but I need her in a way that I like.

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She's my queen, bro.

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She has wisdom that I, that I don't have.

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And, and I need to see her that way.

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Not as the banana buyer, but as
the fricking You have wisdom.

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I don't have, I mean, dude, even this aha.

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I was speaking at this event and I was
talking about food, and I was talking

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about how I turned to food when I'm bored.

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And she's like, no, you don't.

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You turn to food when you're stressed.

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And I'm like, oh my God.

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Yeah.

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You know, she, she knows me and I
think that I, over the last year,

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have opened up to choose to know her.

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And so dude, two ahas, like one, uh, we
were sitting in the kitchen one night

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and she shared some stuff with me.

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And I, we've been married, dude, we're
gonna celebrate 19 years in July.

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I said, would you have shared
this with me a year ago?

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And she's all, no.

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And I said, why?

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And she's like, I just couldn't, couldn't
trust you with that part of my heart,

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Ryan Carnohan: bro.

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Let's go, dude,

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Kyle Carnohan: bro.

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So this is it, dude.

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This is why we become that man.

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This is so huge.

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Ned, here's the craziest shit.

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Like I knew, I, I saw this in you when
we fir when we first met, dude, I was

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like, Ned's still kind of a pussy.

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Like, I loved you, but I was like,
I could see it, you know, like,

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I was like, dude, I saw power
in you that wasn't released yet.

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And I'm like, oh my God, I hope someday
I get the opportunity to just, just, just

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give, like, show you the key, not, not
give you the key, not open it for you.

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Just be like, Hey, hey, hey, look,
look, look, look to your left.

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And you're like, oh, I'm already that guy.

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I just gotta do that.

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Okay, cool.

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Like, boom.

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Ned Schaut: Done.

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And, and you know what, bro,
I'm gonna tell you this, okay?

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So, so the other thing, and, and we
can jump around here, but you know,

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number one is, is awareness, right?

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This is all about awareness.

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And then, you know, figuring out
what to do once you're aware.

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But the second thing is do
you're connected so you become

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connected in a whole new way.

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So, uh, you know, I'm in Hawaii,
so it's three hours difference from

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California, but in my world, okay,
God woke me up on Monday morning.

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Okay?

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This is yesterday Mor yesterday,
bro, yesterday morning.

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And it's, uh, you guys are
already 30 minutes into the call.

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And I'm like, ah, I'm not gonna join.

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And he's like, skip what you were
gonna do for your morning routine.

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Go get on that call.

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So I go get on that call and freaking
I do one comment to somebody on there

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and Kyle says, Kyle says, oh yeah,
Ned, call Ned about the Kickstarter.

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And by the way, uh, I smelled
weakness on Ned when I met him.

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And I'm like, God, it was good.

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It was what I needed to hear.

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Just like just now.

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He said he thought I was a pussy.

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What I met or saw, whatever, it
doesn't hurt my feelings now.

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Now you have my

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Kyle Carnohan: heart,

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Ryan Carnohan: dude.

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All my respect in the world.

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Ned Schaut: Here's, here's the point
of this, like, whatever I got posted

00:17:36.506 --> 00:17:38.126
or whatever, it doesn't matter.

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I'm on this call right now, like whatever,
that that weak pussy is still inside here.

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He's smaller and weaker
than he was a year ago.

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Yeah.

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And I'm gonna continue to kill that fool.

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But the point is like, dude,
I'm con, I feel connected.

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I mean, I've got a couple other
moments where I just had these

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like incredible moments, bro.

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But like yesterday was, uh, Ned,
you need to go get on that call.

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You need to hear something.

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I get on that call.

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I hear it.

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And, and, and I, three years
ago, if I heard Kyle say that, I

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probably would've left the group
and been like, right, me too.

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Person's bigger.

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Ryan Carnohan: Me too.

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Kyle Carnohan: Like, like, like shame.

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Like five years ago, somebody
said that shit to me.

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I'd be like, fuck you.

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Who do you think you are?

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You know,

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Ryan Carnohan: instead of
like, say that and I, for

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Kyle Carnohan: crazy.

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Ned Schaut: I love it.

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Man as I as today, I looked over
the last year, you know, uh,

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there were just so many wins, man.

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So many wins.

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My wife and I went to a, like a marriage
retreat just like not too long ago.

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That would never have happened a year ago.

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My wife went and worked out recently.

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That never would've happened.

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Um, the connections and
awareness are incredible.

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Um, I don't know.

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I have a whole bunch of other shit I
could say or talk about, but I don't know

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if you wanna ask me a question, Ryan.

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I just one more about this.

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This is

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Ryan Carnohan: pretty cool.

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Something you mentioned about how, um,
just being able to, like, she wouldn't

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share this part of her heart with you and
then, but also you're sharing that you're

00:19:11.066 --> 00:19:15.476
fighting more and so she feels safer
with you because she can actually express

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these feelings that she was bottling up.

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And so you're able, because
you can sit in discomfort.

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This is really interesting.

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Check this out, you guys.

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I just thought this is really good.

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So authenticity is the ability
to sit in discomfort, right?

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Because you have to actually be honest
with everyone of who you are and your

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values are, and it makes, and they
might disagree, so it's uncomfortable,

00:19:38.351 --> 00:19:43.571
but she's gonna, your wife will push
you and to find that in you, right?

00:19:43.841 --> 00:19:47.591
She's gonna always push the limit because
she wants you to find more of your

00:19:47.591 --> 00:19:52.751
authenticity and she wants to be more of
herself and more of herself might bring up

00:19:52.751 --> 00:19:55.481
stuff that you disagree with or whatever.

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And so that, it's just crazy how this
bleeds the ability to sit and discomfort

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bleeds everywhere because if you can just
sit there with your wife and be there

00:20:04.331 --> 00:20:08.711
with her, then you, you're actually gonna
become the couple you're supposed to be

00:20:08.711 --> 00:20:15.251
together because you can finally hear her
without what you say you to sedate or run

00:20:15.251 --> 00:20:18.401
to food when you're stressed or whatever
it was that you were talking about.

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I just really appreciate that
concept and how cool for you

00:20:22.391 --> 00:20:23.171
to be able to tell us this too.

00:20:24.011 --> 00:20:26.381
How cool to be able to tell
us about your sex life.

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What a cool place This is so fun, man.

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Kyle Carnohan: This is love.

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I love, I love how we can like talk
about how we suck at shit and how we

00:20:35.591 --> 00:20:39.131
did suck and how we're better at it,
and then how we suck at stuff now

00:20:39.401 --> 00:20:40.781
and how we're gonna get better at it.

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And it's like, no ego, like I can
share all my bullshit with you guys

00:20:46.691 --> 00:20:51.161
and you, and you're just like, rooting
me on like, you guys give a shit.

00:20:51.401 --> 00:20:52.721
And, and then I do too.

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We like, no one cares in the world.

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Like, like we're men just
want somebody to give a shit.

00:21:00.391 --> 00:21:04.511
Like, like, hey, like, can you
just be with me on this adventure?

00:21:04.511 --> 00:21:05.111
Please.

00:21:05.531 --> 00:21:07.661
Like, I just need a homie.

00:21:07.871 --> 00:21:10.421
Like, I just don't wanna be alone, man.

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Like, let's fucking do this together.

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And that's what we have here.

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And like, like to me, like,
fuck, I'm so proud of Ned man.

00:21:18.616 --> 00:21:21.221
I'm just proud because it's,
it's hard to face that shit.

00:21:22.256 --> 00:21:25.016
It's hard to get through that eagle wall.

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Um, I mean, I've gone through it
so many times and it tries to pull

00:21:28.616 --> 00:21:32.606
me back and I'll watch a, watch
a guy just rise like he did and

00:21:32.606 --> 00:21:34.736
fight it with so much resistance.

00:21:35.186 --> 00:21:36.746
It's fucking inspiring, dude.

00:21:36.836 --> 00:21:38.936
Like, on another level, bro.

00:21:42.356 --> 00:21:44.596
Ned Schaut: Um, yeah, man.

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As you're talking, I'll, I'll say
this, I'm in four groups right now.

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The other three are not
fitness groups, but I'm in four

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groups and Superhuman Fathers.

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There's something I, I know what it is.

00:21:55.136 --> 00:21:56.726
It's, it's the transparency.

00:21:56.726 --> 00:22:01.317
It's the vulnerableness and it's the, it's
that Kyle is willing to do this with us.

00:22:02.066 --> 00:22:05.036
Uh, it, he, you know,
nothing against like a.

00:22:05.486 --> 00:22:09.176
Nothing against the guru model, like
whatever the guru model is, what it is.

00:22:09.506 --> 00:22:12.986
But, but Kyle is here to tell us when
he messes up and yells at his kid.

00:22:12.986 --> 00:22:16.556
I remember, man, recently, maybe three
months ago, dude, I lost, that's the

00:22:16.561 --> 00:22:20.456
other thing is like, I lost my shit
on my daughter one day, and I called

00:22:20.456 --> 00:22:24.956
Kyle and I was like, bro, I just told
my daughter we're at jujitsu and she

00:22:24.956 --> 00:22:26.486
didn't want to get out of the car.

00:22:26.876 --> 00:22:29.516
And I just was like,
get in the fucking car.

00:22:29.516 --> 00:22:31.496
And I'm like, dude, I
would never have done that.

00:22:31.496 --> 00:22:31.646
Dude.

00:22:31.646 --> 00:22:34.286
I don't even, I didn't even
say the F word in my twenties.

00:22:34.706 --> 00:22:38.066
Like, I just, I didn't,
I was a youth pastor.

00:22:38.066 --> 00:22:39.446
I didn't freaking drink then.

00:22:39.806 --> 00:22:42.117
And Kyle was just like, oh
yeah, that's all right, dude.

00:22:42.117 --> 00:22:46.016
I, I yelled at my kid two days ago and
it was, uh, it was not appropriate.

00:22:46.556 --> 00:22:50.936
And it was just like, oh man,
this is not about perfection.

00:22:51.686 --> 00:22:53.096
This is not about perfection.

00:22:53.101 --> 00:22:56.576
And I'll tell you the reason why this
took me a year is because I was trying

00:22:56.576 --> 00:22:58.356
to control, I was trying to be perfect.

00:22:59.291 --> 00:22:59.531
Yeah.

00:22:59.531 --> 00:23:03.761
And, and, and I was doing it
based on focusing on food.

00:23:04.181 --> 00:23:06.731
Like whatever your thing might be,
yours might be hard to go to the

00:23:06.731 --> 00:23:08.351
gym, so you're just focused on that.

00:23:08.356 --> 00:23:11.141
Or you might be focused on getting up
early, whatever, whatever your thing is.

00:23:11.141 --> 00:23:12.641
Like you're focusing on the wrong thing.

00:23:12.881 --> 00:23:13.181
Yeah.

00:23:13.186 --> 00:23:15.821
It's your, I'm I'm doing
this because it's who I am.

00:23:16.211 --> 00:23:16.501
Yeah.

00:23:17.341 --> 00:23:19.151
Like I am Ned.

00:23:19.481 --> 00:23:21.071
Like, dude, you gotta
say that about yourself.

00:23:21.071 --> 00:23:26.561
Like you are whoever you are and, and
God or universe, whatever dude entrusted

00:23:26.566 --> 00:23:29.231
you with a wife, with kids, with a life.

00:23:30.311 --> 00:23:32.621
Like dude, we have massive responsibility.

00:23:32.626 --> 00:23:34.741
And so every day when we
do this, it's just, Hey, I

00:23:34.741 --> 00:23:35.381
Ryan Carnohan: wanna hear responsibility.

00:23:35.771 --> 00:23:38.471
I wanna hear this Ned, I
want hear the statement.

00:23:38.531 --> 00:23:39.641
I am Ned.

00:23:40.751 --> 00:23:46.331
But what is different in that statement
now versus before Superhuman Fathers?

00:23:46.331 --> 00:23:48.911
If you were to say, I am
Ned, what would that mean?

00:23:48.941 --> 00:23:51.071
I know this is one crazy ass question.

00:23:51.076 --> 00:23:51.371
We're getting

00:23:51.376 --> 00:23:52.331
Ned Schaut: symbolic here.

00:23:52.331 --> 00:23:52.631
Yeah.

00:23:52.691 --> 00:23:52.991
No.

00:23:52.996 --> 00:23:54.081
Okay, so, so

00:23:54.401 --> 00:23:57.401
Ryan Carnohan: this is, I can feel
this, this one, this is a good question.

00:23:57.701 --> 00:24:01.451
What does I am Ned mean
compared to I am Ned before

00:24:01.451 --> 00:24:01.961
Ned Schaut: Superhuman?

00:24:03.131 --> 00:24:05.501
If you were to ask me
a year ago, who is Ned?

00:24:05.501 --> 00:24:07.541
I would say, oh yeah, I'm Ned.

00:24:07.751 --> 00:24:09.341
I've got a smoking hot wife.

00:24:09.341 --> 00:24:10.901
I've got five beautiful kids.

00:24:10.906 --> 00:24:11.891
I live in Hawaii.

00:24:11.891 --> 00:24:16.241
I wrote book, like I got some, I would've
said all these labels, like, oh, I

00:24:16.241 --> 00:24:18.011
like to skateboard, or I like to surf.

00:24:18.071 --> 00:24:23.591
All these things to define me, to make
me feel cool or important, or whatever.

00:24:23.801 --> 00:24:28.421
And now ultimately it's, I'm
Ned, I'm, I'm a son of God.

00:24:28.451 --> 00:24:29.591
Like I'm a child of God.

00:24:29.591 --> 00:24:31.901
And all that means is like,
I'm gonna be out and I'm gonna,

00:24:32.201 --> 00:24:33.401
I'm gonna do my best, right?

00:24:33.406 --> 00:24:36.371
Like I'm a shitty person and
still selfish, but I'm gonna do

00:24:36.371 --> 00:24:41.831
my best to provide value, to love
people and to do right by whoever

00:24:41.831 --> 00:24:43.331
comes across my path today.

00:24:43.511 --> 00:24:44.651
But that's the wrestle, bro.

00:24:44.656 --> 00:24:47.111
Like a lot of days I'm still
acting selfish and so I

00:24:47.116 --> 00:24:48.761
gotta go, stop being selfish.

00:24:48.761 --> 00:24:50.721
Stop thinking of yourself, but.

00:24:51.576 --> 00:24:54.416
To answer your question, it would've
been a bunch of labels to make

00:24:54.416 --> 00:24:58.196
me feel good about me, and I feel
good about me most of the time.

00:24:58.466 --> 00:25:01.046
At least I'm aware of
when I'm being a douche.

00:25:01.051 --> 00:25:01.676
Chanel

00:25:05.366 --> 00:25:05.966
Ryan Carnohan: so good.

00:25:06.446 --> 00:25:07.196
I love it, man.

00:25:08.246 --> 00:25:08.456
Why?

00:25:08.856 --> 00:25:12.246
Kyle Carnohan: The only thing that comes
to mind, the only thing that comes to

00:25:12.476 --> 00:25:16.286
mind here is just like, like I am me.

00:25:16.946 --> 00:25:19.946
And whatever my great struggle
is, is my great privilege and

00:25:19.946 --> 00:25:21.236
adventure to be a part of.

00:25:21.686 --> 00:25:22.256
Let's go.

00:25:22.526 --> 00:25:22.976
You know?

00:25:23.636 --> 00:25:28.466
And then, and then you, you gather here
and you get to be with a bunch of guys

00:25:28.886 --> 00:25:34.406
struggling with their own shit, and we get
to have this adventure together and we get

00:25:34.406 --> 00:25:36.836
to be totally real about where we're at.

00:25:37.766 --> 00:25:43.196
Just like Philip from Ireland, when
he is like, Kyle, I can't believe it.

00:25:43.646 --> 00:25:44.726
I thought I overcame this.

00:25:44.726 --> 00:25:45.566
I drank last night.

00:25:45.626 --> 00:25:48.606
Well, of course you fucking drank
last night, dude, you, you, you

00:25:48.656 --> 00:25:51.716
quit cold Turkey and you went
three months and got stressed.

00:25:51.716 --> 00:25:52.406
You had some drinks.

00:25:52.406 --> 00:25:53.696
Like, fucking, I don't care.

00:25:53.876 --> 00:25:57.926
Like, hey, congratulations on
the epic three months, so let's

00:25:57.926 --> 00:25:59.006
just get back on the train.

00:25:59.006 --> 00:26:00.566
And, and nobody talks like that.

00:26:00.566 --> 00:26:04.466
They're like, oh, well have
you tried, uh, this technique?

00:26:04.466 --> 00:26:09.026
And like, oh man, I'm so
sorry I'm, you really blew it.

00:26:09.476 --> 00:26:10.076
You're fucked.

00:26:10.891 --> 00:26:12.956
It's like, I'm so sorry.

00:26:12.956 --> 00:26:14.846
Your 90 days got disappeared.

00:26:15.656 --> 00:26:17.306
This is the wrong outlook, man.

00:26:18.746 --> 00:26:21.056
Like all I care about is a dude is trying.

00:26:21.216 --> 00:26:22.466
That dude's trying.

00:26:22.471 --> 00:26:23.996
I have the utmost respect.

00:26:24.416 --> 00:26:27.746
Like, Ned, I knew you were trying
like even a couple months in, I

00:26:27.746 --> 00:26:30.146
was like, oh, full respect for Ned.

00:26:30.326 --> 00:26:31.766
I'm like, N Ned's fucking at war.

00:26:32.006 --> 00:26:34.856
And then he would, you'd slip
and struggle and you'd share

00:26:34.861 --> 00:26:35.996
your struggles with the men.

00:26:36.116 --> 00:26:37.046
I'm like, that's it.

00:26:37.796 --> 00:26:39.146
It's ain't about the results.

00:26:39.206 --> 00:26:40.106
It's about the struggle.

00:26:41.291 --> 00:26:45.851
You know, it's about the honest struggle
and then sharing that with everyone to

00:26:45.851 --> 00:26:47.651
give them power so they don't feel alone.

00:26:48.281 --> 00:26:49.091
Ned Schaut: And then guess what happened.

00:26:49.091 --> 00:26:53.321
So I think, I think that like it,
you know, like right now, like

00:26:53.321 --> 00:26:55.001
right now, we get to celebrate that.

00:26:55.751 --> 00:26:59.291
Um, but the thing is, is
like, this shit is hard.

00:26:59.296 --> 00:27:02.951
Like anybody who's gonna do
this, it doesn't get easier.

00:27:02.951 --> 00:27:07.031
Like I got posted, my life should
continue to get harder, right?

00:27:07.031 --> 00:27:10.271
I mean, I mean, I wanna experience
more peace, hope, joy, connection

00:27:10.276 --> 00:27:11.401
with my wife, awareness.

00:27:12.311 --> 00:27:15.221
Um, but it's all gonna get harder.

00:27:15.851 --> 00:27:16.902
And, and that's the point, right?

00:27:17.291 --> 00:27:18.221
That we're in a war.

00:27:18.221 --> 00:27:21.761
So we gotta continue to fight battles and
we're gonna continue to lose some battles.

00:27:22.211 --> 00:27:26.081
But man, this is something that really
hit me in this kind of discovery process

00:27:26.081 --> 00:27:28.241
is yes, we're at war and yes, I can lose.

00:27:28.721 --> 00:27:31.721
And if I lose, there's names
associated with losing the war.

00:27:31.751 --> 00:27:34.991
And that's Sarah Brooklyn, violet
Presley, Brody, and Stella.

00:27:35.351 --> 00:27:37.541
Those are the people that
have been placed in my care.

00:27:37.546 --> 00:27:37.661
Ooh.

00:27:37.901 --> 00:27:41.801
And if I lose the war, bro, that's, we're
talking about families for generations

00:27:41.801 --> 00:27:46.721
that are gonna be impacted because of
the way that I did or didn't show up.

00:27:47.441 --> 00:27:48.071
You imagine?

00:27:48.076 --> 00:27:48.781
I think, yeah.

00:27:49.001 --> 00:27:49.511
On the front

00:27:49.511 --> 00:27:50.141
Kyle Carnohan: lines bro.

00:27:50.201 --> 00:27:53.821
Can you imagine protecting
your family on the front lines

00:27:53.851 --> 00:27:55.871
with everything's against him?

00:27:55.961 --> 00:27:58.571
And dad sits on his ass cuz he's tired.

00:27:58.751 --> 00:28:00.461
I can't fight anymore.

00:28:00.701 --> 00:28:01.721
I'm tired.

00:28:01.991 --> 00:28:03.821
It, it's really hard.

00:28:04.181 --> 00:28:08.231
And then the, then the army comes and just
massacres your family cuz you were fucking

00:28:08.231 --> 00:28:08.711
Ned Schaut: tired.

00:28:09.401 --> 00:28:10.361
And you know what bro?

00:28:10.691 --> 00:28:12.822
You know who we need to
protect our families from.

00:28:12.971 --> 00:28:15.911
This guy said this, this isn't me,
but I just heard this recently.

00:28:16.241 --> 00:28:18.101
We gotta protect our families from us.

00:28:18.851 --> 00:28:19.031
Yes.

00:28:19.031 --> 00:28:22.181
He's like, we, we buy the
nice house and we buy the ar.

00:28:22.181 --> 00:28:22.691
Cool.

00:28:22.691 --> 00:28:23.951
I know how to do jiu-jitsu.

00:28:23.951 --> 00:28:24.941
Whatever, dude.

00:28:25.091 --> 00:28:29.141
The fact that someone's gonna walk in your
house and Jack with your family is slim.

00:28:29.381 --> 00:28:32.711
The fact that you're gonna be an asshole
to your family every day and destroy the

00:28:32.861 --> 00:28:36.161
the man that your daughter's gonna marry,
or the way your wife feels about her.

00:28:36.161 --> 00:28:39.761
You gotta, this is about you battling
the pussy inside you so that you

00:28:39.761 --> 00:28:44.771
can build a legacy for the next
thousand years of, of values in

00:28:44.776 --> 00:28:46.271
this family that you've been given.

00:28:47.261 --> 00:28:47.501
Dude,

00:28:47.501 --> 00:28:49.541
Kyle Carnohan: Ned, whenever
you talk, you get me going.

00:28:49.541 --> 00:28:53.351
Usually I shut up in
these, but me fired up.

00:28:54.131 --> 00:28:59.981
Like I, every morning I wake up, the
devil is speaking to me or whatever

00:28:59.981 --> 00:29:03.731
you want to call that motherfucker
and he says all kinds of shit to me.

00:29:04.391 --> 00:29:05.291
You're gonna lose.

00:29:05.591 --> 00:29:07.121
You're gonna be humiliated.

00:29:07.511 --> 00:29:08.741
Everything's gonna fall apart.

00:29:09.281 --> 00:29:12.131
You better stop this cuz
it's only gonna get worse.

00:29:12.511 --> 00:29:13.571
You're gonna increase.

00:29:13.571 --> 00:29:15.911
He just says all this shit
like you're not worthy.

00:29:16.301 --> 00:29:17.111
You're a hypocrite.

00:29:17.576 --> 00:29:23.246
And then I go to my Facebook and all the
haters sound exactly like that voice.

00:29:23.246 --> 00:29:23.336
Yes.

00:29:23.576 --> 00:29:24.626
And I'm like, oh my God.

00:29:24.836 --> 00:29:28.286
They're, they've been overtaken by
the darkness and they're speaking

00:29:28.286 --> 00:29:30.086
the same voice as the resistance.

00:29:30.266 --> 00:29:32.996
And I'm like, oh my God,
I see it so clearly.

00:29:33.296 --> 00:29:37.196
So imagine those men in their
homes that have been overtaken by

00:29:37.196 --> 00:29:40.946
the resistance, where their words
have become the fucking devil.

00:29:41.216 --> 00:29:43.316
And that's what they're
speaking to their families.

00:29:43.526 --> 00:29:47.696
They're, they're completely
hypnotized, sedated, disconnected,

00:29:48.566 --> 00:29:51.206
and they're just crushing and
destroying everything around them.

00:29:53.936 --> 00:29:54.506
Ryan Carnohan: Damn.

00:29:57.056 --> 00:30:00.776
Well, I, I was just gonna say,
put my kids on, on your list, Ned,

00:30:01.736 --> 00:30:03.176
and I'll put my kids on your list.

00:30:04.856 --> 00:30:06.656
Vice versa for the war.

00:30:06.956 --> 00:30:08.246
That's what you did for me, man.

00:30:08.276 --> 00:30:08.636
I know.

00:30:08.636 --> 00:30:12.866
I can depend on you because
if I can go to you now, right?

00:30:13.526 --> 00:30:16.546
Like you can come to me for
advice and, and example.

00:30:17.651 --> 00:30:19.931
Kyle, what you just said
though was so damn powerful.

00:30:21.491 --> 00:30:24.371
Kyle Carnohan: That's cause Ned's
the best, uh, interviewer ever.

00:30:24.371 --> 00:30:27.071
So when he speaks, he
brings out the best in you.

00:30:27.521 --> 00:30:28.541
Just listen to his podcast.

00:30:30.251 --> 00:30:31.751
Ned Schaut: I do love interviewing dads.

00:30:32.531 --> 00:30:37.481
Um, one thing I don't want to
miss to share with you guys is

00:30:37.481 --> 00:30:42.281
the moment that, uh, this shifted
for me, it was, um, March 3rd.

00:30:42.431 --> 00:30:49.181
I had probably failed my, like fifth or
sixth time in like creating my chart to be

00:30:49.186 --> 00:30:51.011
disciplined and I'm gonna get this done.

00:30:51.581 --> 00:30:54.101
Uh, and I went on this walk on March 3rd.

00:30:54.986 --> 00:30:57.206
In the evening, I can see right
where I was, and I'm like,

00:30:57.446 --> 00:30:59.366
God, I can't do this on my own.

00:30:59.876 --> 00:31:01.556
Like, I literally can't do this.

00:31:01.586 --> 00:31:03.986
I've, I, I've been trying, I've
been trying, I've been trying.

00:31:03.991 --> 00:31:05.426
I I just need your help.

00:31:05.906 --> 00:31:08.216
And so I'm gonna commit to you right now.

00:31:08.216 --> 00:31:10.976
Like, I, I don't need to
find some guy to commit to.

00:31:10.976 --> 00:31:12.596
I don't need to commit to my kids.

00:31:12.596 --> 00:31:18.146
I just need to commit to you, like I need
to be the man that you designed me to be.

00:31:18.776 --> 00:31:22.166
And so I committed and I, I was
like, I'm gonna fast tomorrow.

00:31:22.166 --> 00:31:26.036
And then I kind of said what I was
gonna do until Easter, which I did

00:31:26.546 --> 00:31:30.956
the very next morning, I wake up to
a homie calling me, saying, dude,

00:31:30.956 --> 00:31:32.157
I had a dream about you last night.

00:31:32.162 --> 00:31:32.696
This is weird.

00:31:33.056 --> 00:31:34.886
I need to tell you what the dream is.

00:31:35.846 --> 00:31:37.856
So he's, he shares his dream with me.

00:31:37.856 --> 00:31:41.036
And the dream long story short,
is he hired me to like, put

00:31:41.036 --> 00:31:44.936
the flooring in, in his bed, in
his house, uh, in his basement.

00:31:44.941 --> 00:31:49.946
And then he, he left and he, he came
back and I had torn up all the flooring

00:31:49.976 --> 00:31:52.046
in the first story, not in the basement.

00:31:52.886 --> 00:31:53.306
And.

00:31:54.341 --> 00:31:58.001
What I heard that day was I was,
I was starting in the wrong place.

00:31:58.331 --> 00:32:01.571
Like I, I wasn't starting with
where God wanted me to start.

00:32:01.571 --> 00:32:05.561
I need, if I want to be a father
who influences other fathers, I

00:32:05.561 --> 00:32:07.511
gotta get my own house in order.

00:32:07.541 --> 00:32:09.341
And that meant my fitness.

00:32:09.551 --> 00:32:13.841
Let's go my, my health, my
finances, and my marriage.

00:32:14.201 --> 00:32:18.971
And so from that point on, man,
I, I paid a like $80,000 a debt.

00:32:19.001 --> 00:32:22.361
I, my, I I, I freed up $10,000 in cash.

00:32:22.721 --> 00:32:26.141
I like did all these things
in, in a 40 day period.

00:32:26.141 --> 00:32:32.711
And that's when I also got posted is, is
I surrendered to who I'm called to be.

00:32:32.711 --> 00:32:36.251
Like I surrendered to that man
and I still messed up with other

00:32:36.251 --> 00:32:37.331
things probably or whatever.

00:32:37.331 --> 00:32:42.761
But my point is it switched from
me controlling an outcome to me,

00:32:42.766 --> 00:32:45.611
surrendering to this is just who I am.

00:32:46.931 --> 00:32:48.531
Ryan Carnohan: Let's go dude.

00:32:49.856 --> 00:32:53.696
Ned Schaut: And so my point of saying
this is like this whole thing is about

00:32:53.816 --> 00:33:00.956
connection and awareness and it's
freaking hard, but this is who we are.

00:33:00.986 --> 00:33:05.366
Like if you're on this call, like this
is who you are, you're called to this.

00:33:05.366 --> 00:33:08.216
You can put whatever name on
it you want to, but you're

00:33:08.221 --> 00:33:10.016
called to your true identity.

00:33:11.216 --> 00:33:14.486
And that's why you are
here is to embrace that.

00:33:14.486 --> 00:33:16.586
And why does this matter
for us to be here together?

00:33:16.586 --> 00:33:22.976
Dude, like my kids could marry your kids
like I care so much how you freaking show

00:33:22.976 --> 00:33:28.046
up as a dad, dude, and you should care how
I show up as a dad because if my daughter

00:33:28.051 --> 00:33:32.336
marries your son, like, dude, we want them
to not have the same struggles we have.

00:33:32.336 --> 00:33:35.036
We want them to be on
that deeper level, right?

00:33:35.036 --> 00:33:38.726
Like I told you, my life was awesome,
but now I'm struggling with new things

00:33:38.731 --> 00:33:43.556
I want my kids to struggle with, with
deeper, more connected, more aware things

00:33:43.561 --> 00:33:46.677
so that they can provide incredible value
to this world that we've been given.

00:33:48.536 --> 00:33:51.206
Ryan Carnohan: I love some of
the things that you're saying.

00:33:51.266 --> 00:33:58.196
Identity, um, you mentioned being what
you're called to be, you know, all all.

00:33:58.316 --> 00:33:59.606
And then you mentioned outcome.

00:34:00.686 --> 00:34:03.296
Really powerful because the
outcome doesn't matter so long

00:34:03.301 --> 00:34:06.536
as you are who you need to be
because it doesn't matter anymore.

00:34:06.541 --> 00:34:09.266
Whatever arrives, you're gonna
be you in the face of it.

00:34:10.346 --> 00:34:14.216
And that is the most powerful position
to put yourself in because that's when

00:34:14.221 --> 00:34:16.616
impact happens when you're immovable.

00:34:18.536 --> 00:34:20.786
I just, how did you, okay.

00:34:20.786 --> 00:34:21.416
How did you get to

00:34:21.416 --> 00:34:21.806
Ned Schaut: that?

00:34:21.806 --> 00:34:22.406
Right there?

00:34:24.056 --> 00:34:25.316
Freaking struggle, bro.

00:34:27.236 --> 00:34:27.626
Yeah.

00:34:37.196 --> 00:34:40.856
I'm not there yet, but this
ain't about me, you know?

00:34:40.856 --> 00:34:43.556
And it's easy for me to say right now
cuz it's like, okay, there's, but.

00:34:46.286 --> 00:34:47.456
Ryan Carnohan: The awareness there.

00:34:48.986 --> 00:34:50.906
You know, how, how do you find it?

00:34:50.906 --> 00:34:52.346
Because what is the trigger?

00:34:52.346 --> 00:34:54.476
Because we all have these
crazy things that happen.

00:34:54.566 --> 00:34:54.746
Okay?

00:34:54.916 --> 00:34:55.206
Yeah.

00:34:55.211 --> 00:34:55.466
Yeah.

00:34:55.466 --> 00:34:57.716
How do you, how do you,
how are you prepared?

00:34:57.721 --> 00:34:58.646
Because the

00:34:58.646 --> 00:35:01.946
Ned Schaut: chaos is coming so, so legit.

00:35:01.951 --> 00:35:04.016
I read, uh, I don't do
it every morning, right?

00:35:04.016 --> 00:35:07.076
So anybody who says they do
something, every single is, is a liar.

00:35:07.076 --> 00:35:10.556
But, uh, I read affirmations
in the morning, right?

00:35:10.556 --> 00:35:11.696
And I have an avatar.

00:35:11.696 --> 00:35:12.956
His name is the captain.

00:35:13.076 --> 00:35:17.396
And so whenever Kyle or Ryan or
anybody says this like amazing

00:35:17.396 --> 00:35:18.506
thing, I go put that in there.

00:35:18.506 --> 00:35:19.796
That's what the captain would do.

00:35:19.886 --> 00:35:21.086
That's what the captain would do.

00:35:21.476 --> 00:35:22.796
And I read that in the morning.

00:35:22.916 --> 00:35:26.246
This is who I'm striving to be, and
this guy should continue to grow.

00:35:26.246 --> 00:35:28.796
I'm never gonna reach that guy
because I'm gonna keep growing

00:35:28.796 --> 00:35:29.666
what that guy looks like.

00:35:29.846 --> 00:35:29.936
Damn.

00:35:30.716 --> 00:35:34.406
And then at the end of the day,
maybe four, four nights a week

00:35:34.406 --> 00:35:37.136
or whatever, you know, like when
I, I, I'm actually committed to

00:35:37.136 --> 00:35:38.096
do it the next a hundred days.

00:35:38.096 --> 00:35:42.806
Cause I got some shit I'm working on,
in, in my life, um, for this next level.

00:35:42.811 --> 00:35:45.536
But I ask myself some questions, right?

00:35:45.536 --> 00:35:49.086
So me and my kids, we sit down, we go
over a journal and we go over like,

00:35:50.106 --> 00:35:56.096
uh, but one of the questions right
now for awareness is when did I, when

00:35:56.096 --> 00:35:59.126
did, when did an opportunity come.

00:35:59.651 --> 00:36:03.431
In an argument with my wife,
and then did I respond the

00:36:03.431 --> 00:36:05.411
way I want to or not and why?

00:36:05.771 --> 00:36:07.511
So like, I journaled that
at the end of the night.

00:36:07.511 --> 00:36:09.281
So like, last night was great, man.

00:36:09.461 --> 00:36:10.751
We, we went on a date.

00:36:10.901 --> 00:36:12.281
She said something that annoyed me.

00:36:12.341 --> 00:36:15.641
And in the moment I'm like, it's all
good, dude, that just move right along.

00:36:15.641 --> 00:36:16.991
So I journaled, Hey, you did great.

00:36:17.291 --> 00:36:20.021
The day before she said something
that irritated me and I'm

00:36:20.021 --> 00:36:21.341
like, let's jump in the ring.

00:36:21.371 --> 00:36:22.331
Let's fight for a minute.

00:36:22.331 --> 00:36:23.081
That sounds fun.

00:36:23.261 --> 00:36:27.161
And so I didn't respond well because
I was being a little bitch about

00:36:27.161 --> 00:36:28.511
it and just felt like fighting.

00:36:28.931 --> 00:36:33.401
But what's happening now, which is
frustrating me more, is in that argument.

00:36:34.121 --> 00:36:37.931
I could see her standing across
the room and I can feel myself

00:36:37.931 --> 00:36:39.791
saying, dude, just go hug her, bro.

00:36:40.781 --> 00:36:41.561
Just go hug her.

00:36:41.561 --> 00:36:42.701
So Sunday I did.

00:36:42.701 --> 00:36:45.641
So Sunday I'm like, Ned, stop
being a big, just walk over.

00:36:45.641 --> 00:36:49.691
So I walk over, I hug her dude,
and she just starts crying and she

00:36:49.691 --> 00:36:51.791
just, you know, melts in my arms.

00:36:53.141 --> 00:36:53.891
And so that was a win.

00:36:54.956 --> 00:36:58.886
And so what I'm doing is journaling at the
end of the day of what opportunities was

00:36:58.886 --> 00:37:02.786
I given to operate as the guy I wanna be.

00:37:02.786 --> 00:37:02.936
Mm-hmm.

00:37:03.361 --> 00:37:06.686
And then if I don't, why didn't I?

00:37:07.226 --> 00:37:12.686
Um, and I'm failing a bunch,
bro, but, uh, very, very

00:37:12.691 --> 00:37:13.586
Ryan Carnohan: stoic of you.

00:37:14.066 --> 00:37:14.876
I'm, that's amazing.

00:37:16.556 --> 00:37:17.006
Yeah.

00:37:18.046 --> 00:37:21.056
Kyle Carnohan: That shit's so hard to go
hug your wife when you're pissed, dude.

00:37:21.506 --> 00:37:23.126
Like, I, I wanna squeeze her so hard.

00:37:23.126 --> 00:37:24.656
Her head pops off sometimes.

00:37:24.956 --> 00:37:26.516
I'm like, I'll just give you a hug.

00:37:28.856 --> 00:37:29.396
It's hard.

00:37:29.396 --> 00:37:30.836
That's like the hardest
shit in the world, dude,

00:37:31.826 --> 00:37:32.396
Ned Schaut: bro.

00:37:33.206 --> 00:37:38.576
Me and my son, I wrote this down, my
son and I, I planned this father son

00:37:38.581 --> 00:37:42.806
event, uh, for another organization
last October, and my son went with me

00:37:42.806 --> 00:37:44.576
and he helped lead some of the things.

00:37:45.311 --> 00:37:49.961
And during it, dude, we did this
devotion reading about Jesus asleep on

00:37:49.961 --> 00:37:55.091
the boat, you know, and, uh, Peter, or
no, when, when, uh, Peter, uh, was like

00:37:55.091 --> 00:37:58.091
falling in the water, and I'm like,
oh, well what do you think about this?

00:37:58.511 --> 00:38:04.321
And uh, he's like, well, the reason that,
uh, Peter started sinking was because he

00:38:04.321 --> 00:38:07.511
was focusing on the storm and the waves.

00:38:08.291 --> 00:38:13.361
And like my 13 year old son just created
this amazing moment for me where he's

00:38:13.361 --> 00:38:19.931
like teaching me, dude, the moments that
I look at the storm and I don't look at

00:38:19.931 --> 00:38:28.031
the captain, I don't look at who I am
in this moment, bro, that's, let's go.

00:38:28.981 --> 00:38:29.791
That is power.

00:38:30.011 --> 00:38:31.271
Ryan Carnohan: That is so good.

00:38:31.871 --> 00:38:33.281
Tell, give your boy a hug for me.

00:38:33.281 --> 00:38:35.261
That was money I love.

00:38:36.776 --> 00:38:37.406
Ned Schaut: Oh, bro.

00:38:37.406 --> 00:38:39.836
He like led a journaling experience too.

00:38:40.016 --> 00:38:41.216
It was so fire bro.

00:38:41.221 --> 00:38:41.936
It was so good.

00:38:41.936 --> 00:38:46.046
He's like standing in the middle of
like maybe 75 men and kids and he's

00:38:46.046 --> 00:38:49.671
just   I mean, you, you give your kid
an opportunity, call him into this.

00:38:49.731 --> 00:38:52.701
Uh, and, and he led a
group of men and kids.

00:38:52.701 --> 00:38:56.001
I'm doing some gratitude journaling
and it was, it was pretty epic, bro.

00:38:56.241 --> 00:38:59.271
Ryan Carnohan: And so you said, and
your boy said two things that are

00:38:59.271 --> 00:39:02.421
very similar to what you're talking
about being this person that you're

00:39:02.421 --> 00:39:05.151
called to be amidst the storm.

00:39:05.151 --> 00:39:09.201
And, and you fo instead of focusing on
like, and you said it with your wife,

00:39:09.201 --> 00:39:13.401
you said, I'm in an argument and it's an
opportunity you asked yourself at night.

00:39:13.431 --> 00:39:16.791
This is where was my opportunities
to demonstrate my virtues, my

00:39:16.791 --> 00:39:20.541
values, what I know I should be,
and that's what inconvenience is.

00:39:21.516 --> 00:39:24.996
It's just an opportunity to demonstrate
virtue that captain that you're

00:39:24.996 --> 00:39:29.316
talking about, amidst the storm
and the winds and everything, the

00:39:29.316 --> 00:39:31.656
preparation was, had already been done.

00:39:31.656 --> 00:39:33.966
It was the moment to be that man.

00:39:34.566 --> 00:39:37.986
And so that's why you, we do what we
do because moments like that are gonna

00:39:37.986 --> 00:39:41.796
come and we have trained ourselves
to be able to find our values to

00:39:41.796 --> 00:39:46.206
be that man, that man, that man
amidst the, the chaos of the storm.

00:39:46.356 --> 00:39:47.976
Freaking, this is so beautiful.

00:39:49.656 --> 00:39:50.646
Absolutely amazing.

00:39:50.646 --> 00:39:50.656
Yeah.

00:39:51.546 --> 00:39:55.206
Ned Schaut: I think the other thing that,
that can get a little, uh, interesting

00:39:55.211 --> 00:39:58.356
with what we're doing here when you're
talking about food and fitness and sleep

00:39:58.356 --> 00:40:03.816
and stuff, is to, to acknowledge that as a
man, I have needs, like I ha I have needs,

00:40:03.816 --> 00:40:05.316
I was born into this world with needs.

00:40:05.616 --> 00:40:07.266
I'm hungry, I'm tired.

00:40:07.566 --> 00:40:10.116
I need sex, and I need to
do something with my hands.

00:40:10.206 --> 00:40:12.396
I mean, those are kind of like
four needs that I would think that

00:40:12.396 --> 00:40:14.526
I kind of operate in day to day.

00:40:14.946 --> 00:40:18.336
And three of those, I actually
have a lot more control and

00:40:18.336 --> 00:40:19.776
influence over than I realized.

00:40:20.136 --> 00:40:20.586
Right.

00:40:21.006 --> 00:40:23.616
Have I fed myself well,
have I got enough rest?

00:40:23.616 --> 00:40:27.336
And did I do something physical, which is
kind of all the superhuman fathers think.

00:40:27.576 --> 00:40:30.876
Now my belief is if you do those well
then the fourth one, the sex is gonna

00:40:30.876 --> 00:40:33.816
come, uh, is gonna, it's gonna happen.

00:40:33.821 --> 00:40:37.056
As long as you're not, I mean,
dude, you gotta get pornography.

00:40:37.061 --> 00:40:38.226
You gotta get masturbation.

00:40:38.226 --> 00:40:39.547
You gotta get all that
shit outta your life.

00:40:39.552 --> 00:40:42.216
That stuff will des that will destroy you.

00:40:42.906 --> 00:40:43.236
Um,

00:40:43.236 --> 00:40:47.406
Kyle Carnohan: and stop on that right
now and let's let the guys let that soak

00:40:47.406 --> 00:40:52.386
in because there's a, you know, for a
long time I didn't quite understand that.

00:40:52.386 --> 00:40:54.006
I was like, well, why does it matter?

00:40:55.116 --> 00:40:57.276
Like, what, why does it matter?

00:40:57.336 --> 00:41:01.386
And it's just like someone who drinks
a ton, it's like, why does it matter?

00:41:01.386 --> 00:41:03.216
I mean, I'm on, I'm not hurting anyone.

00:41:03.366 --> 00:41:04.296
Why does it matter?

00:41:04.641 --> 00:41:07.761
Ned Schaut: Dude, because there's
something spiritual that happens, bro.

00:41:08.031 --> 00:41:12.051
It's like if, if you know, like those
moments, you have the most incredible

00:41:12.051 --> 00:41:14.631
sex with your wife, where like you
were pissed at each other or you

00:41:14.631 --> 00:41:18.111
were not together for a while and you
came together and it was just like,

00:41:18.441 --> 00:41:21.652
like, you can't explain it, but, but
like, you just gave me each other.

00:41:21.951 --> 00:41:23.131
Like you gave yourself to each other.

00:41:23.511 --> 00:41:24.531
It's like, oh my god.

00:41:25.011 --> 00:41:30.081
So it's like if I'm in a hotel room
and I just freaking Eric off and give

00:41:30.081 --> 00:41:33.861
that to nothing, like there's something
I'm giving of myself and it's just

00:41:33.861 --> 00:41:36.111
going into the trash can, whatever.

00:41:37.191 --> 00:41:41.241
If I can wait, figure out, go do a
workout, go eat something, go do something

00:41:41.241 --> 00:41:44.541
else, then, but when I get home, then
make that connection with my wife.

00:41:44.541 --> 00:41:47.031
Then there's, there's just
a connection there, man.

00:41:47.211 --> 00:41:48.201
There's just a connection.

00:41:48.206 --> 00:41:48.271
Yeah.

00:41:48.711 --> 00:41:50.871
Kyle Carnohan: Like I did the same thing
where I was like, this is yours now.

00:41:50.901 --> 00:41:54.111
It's not anything and I, it's
not anything other than yours.

00:41:54.441 --> 00:41:56.091
And I, and I, I save it for

00:41:56.091 --> 00:41:56.421
Ryan Carnohan: you.

00:41:57.051 --> 00:41:57.651
Yes.

00:41:57.921 --> 00:41:58.371
Kyle Carnohan: Period.

00:41:59.031 --> 00:42:02.271
And, and I know for some guys right now
they're thinking like, that's impossible.

00:42:02.301 --> 00:42:03.441
Like there's no way.

00:42:03.681 --> 00:42:04.581
There isn't a way.

00:42:04.581 --> 00:42:07.101
Like I, I would eat, dude, I
was jerking off every day, bro.

00:42:07.671 --> 00:42:10.251
Like, it was like the way
to put myself to sleep.

00:42:10.731 --> 00:42:13.821
So like, I was like, I can't
sleep without it, you know?

00:42:13.826 --> 00:42:17.031
But then it then, and then I just
like, just like anything, just like

00:42:17.031 --> 00:42:22.401
food, like any, any, uh, just like
nicotine, uh, just like fucking cupcakes.

00:42:22.401 --> 00:42:23.541
It's like you're not gonna die.

00:42:23.541 --> 00:42:25.791
In fact, you're gonna
get more hungry for life.

00:42:26.631 --> 00:42:29.871
When I started getting rid of that
stuff, everything, my sex got better.

00:42:30.171 --> 00:42:33.592
My money started flowing to me.

00:42:34.081 --> 00:42:37.971
People were magnetized
towards me when I spoke.

00:42:37.971 --> 00:42:39.111
I spoke with power.

00:42:39.531 --> 00:42:41.601
I couldn't speak with
power when I had that shit.

00:42:42.471 --> 00:42:45.891
Like, I couldn't speak with power.

00:42:45.891 --> 00:42:47.451
When I was jerking off every day, I

00:42:47.451 --> 00:42:48.861
Ryan Carnohan: could ask,
did it, did it make you bad?

00:42:48.861 --> 00:42:50.421
Did it make you a bad guy, Kyle?

00:42:50.781 --> 00:42:52.371
Kyle Carnohan: No, bro.

00:42:52.941 --> 00:42:53.842
No, it's not.

00:42:53.861 --> 00:42:54.441
I'm not bad.

00:42:54.581 --> 00:42:54.921
I'm just.

00:42:55.611 --> 00:42:59.571
Man, I'm just making a bad trade
and having less of a fulfilled life.

00:43:00.141 --> 00:43:00.621
Ned Schaut: That's all.

00:43:01.731 --> 00:43:06.411
I think that's a huge, huge to go is none
of this is about good or bad necessarily.

00:43:06.891 --> 00:43:10.191
This is all about like, am
I operating at, at who I am?

00:43:12.321 --> 00:43:13.131
Kyle Carnohan: Epic life.

00:43:13.131 --> 00:43:17.391
So why not do the things
that set you up in power?

00:43:18.231 --> 00:43:21.861
And we know now that power
is so fickle, it's so fickle.

00:43:21.861 --> 00:43:23.961
It'll leave you in a split
second with a thought.

00:43:24.621 --> 00:43:29.301
And so that's where the discipline comes
in, and that's where we have to keep

00:43:29.481 --> 00:43:34.581
hold the line even with our drifting
thoughts, because all of a sudden,

00:43:34.851 --> 00:43:36.861
whoop, distracted out of power, boom.

00:43:37.071 --> 00:43:37.971
He gets you stuck.

00:43:38.271 --> 00:43:41.811
You're drifting now for the rest
of the day, and now it's at night.

00:43:41.811 --> 00:43:42.351
You're frustrated.

00:43:42.351 --> 00:43:43.521
You're yelling at your kids and your wife.

00:43:43.521 --> 00:43:43.941
You're like, why?

00:43:43.941 --> 00:43:44.871
Why does it even matter?

00:43:44.876 --> 00:43:46.341
What's the point of this bullshit?

00:43:46.701 --> 00:43:48.381
Ned Schaut: And someone spills
some shit and you're like,

00:43:48.651 --> 00:43:50.301
Kyle Carnohan: God damn it,
what's wrong with you kids?

00:43:50.511 --> 00:43:53.241
I gotta do all this in this
house and make this money.

00:43:53.391 --> 00:43:54.321
I'm so stressed.

00:43:54.531 --> 00:43:56.091
And it just, it's a snowball.

00:43:56.511 --> 00:43:57.921
And it started with one thought.

00:43:59.841 --> 00:44:02.331
Ryan Carnohan: And if you are
hearing this and you're like, I

00:44:02.331 --> 00:44:03.771
don't know if I could do that.

00:44:04.281 --> 00:44:08.631
Okay, maybe you were, Kyle was
all right, where it's every night.

00:44:08.991 --> 00:44:09.981
Kyle Carnohan: Start with the macros.

00:44:10.251 --> 00:44:11.361
I'm not gonna jerk off tonight.

00:44:11.361 --> 00:44:13.401
And then I was like, I'm gonna jerk off.

00:44:15.081 --> 00:44:15.351
Ryan Carnohan: Okay?

00:44:16.071 --> 00:44:17.631
Hit your macros.

00:44:18.171 --> 00:44:19.401
Hit your macros first.

00:44:19.791 --> 00:44:23.481
Yeah, if you can, if you all, if
you can get macros, guess what?

00:44:23.511 --> 00:44:23.961
It'll bleed over.

00:44:24.381 --> 00:44:25.371
I'm telling you.

00:44:26.061 --> 00:44:26.481
Okay.

00:44:28.071 --> 00:44:29.541
So it,

00:44:29.541 --> 00:44:30.951
Kyle Carnohan: sometimes it
feels like your brain's itching.

00:44:31.281 --> 00:44:32.091
That's where you wanna be.

00:44:32.241 --> 00:44:35.691
You wanna sit in the spot where you have a
itchy brain, like that's your power spot.

00:44:35.696 --> 00:44:37.971
I swear to God, listen to me carefully.

00:44:38.301 --> 00:44:41.781
When your brain is itching for
pleasure and you deny it, you're,

00:44:41.811 --> 00:44:44.841
you're taking the resistance and
you're knocking its fucking teeth out.

00:44:45.636 --> 00:44:46.806
It has no power over you.

00:44:46.926 --> 00:44:48.636
Lemme tell you something, I'm
gonna tell you this really quick.

00:44:48.876 --> 00:44:50.136
Sorry Ned, I'm stealing your time.

00:44:50.496 --> 00:44:51.006
But no, he

00:44:51.006 --> 00:44:51.666
Ryan Carnohan: doesn't steal.

00:44:51.816 --> 00:44:53.436
You can't, you can't help it.

00:44:53.856 --> 00:44:54.486
I smoke.

00:44:54.546 --> 00:44:55.266
I smoke a

00:44:55.266 --> 00:44:57.006
Kyle Carnohan: cigar like twice a week.

00:44:58.086 --> 00:44:59.376
I like to sit down with the boys.

00:45:00.636 --> 00:45:01.176
It's been this.

00:45:01.236 --> 00:45:05.616
I don't get to have a phone and I have
to talk to the boys with my cigar.

00:45:05.896 --> 00:45:07.656
And it's amazing.

00:45:07.656 --> 00:45:08.286
I love it.

00:45:08.346 --> 00:45:08.946
I love it.

00:45:08.976 --> 00:45:09.876
I love that moment.

00:45:09.876 --> 00:45:13.926
I, we've had the most amazing experiences
together with my kids at Cigar Time.

00:45:14.196 --> 00:45:14.796
Fire pit.

00:45:15.336 --> 00:45:18.606
Now, please understand, I don't
believe cigars are wrong at all.

00:45:18.936 --> 00:45:20.406
Enjoy your cigars please.

00:45:20.976 --> 00:45:24.826
But yesterday morning I had
just bought a bunch more.

00:45:24.826 --> 00:45:26.166
They're so nice.

00:45:26.346 --> 00:45:27.966
I was gonna have one tonight.

00:45:28.716 --> 00:45:32.046
And, uh, in the morning, the
voice that, that resistance

00:45:32.051 --> 00:45:33.426
started to go, Hey, hypocrite.

00:45:34.686 --> 00:45:35.796
Hey, you fucking hypocrite.

00:45:36.606 --> 00:45:37.566
How about those cigars?

00:45:37.566 --> 00:45:37.776
Huh?

00:45:37.926 --> 00:45:39.606
You don't want anyone to
know about those, huh?

00:45:40.626 --> 00:45:44.196
And I was like, I'll walk right over to.

00:45:44.586 --> 00:45:47.826
My pile of high-end, expensive cigars.

00:45:48.666 --> 00:45:49.686
I threw it in the trash.

00:45:50.106 --> 00:45:51.066
I said, fuck you.

00:45:52.086 --> 00:45:53.226
And he is like, wait, wait, wait.

00:45:53.226 --> 00:45:53.646
No, no, no.

00:45:53.651 --> 00:45:54.456
You can't, you can't do that.

00:45:54.456 --> 00:45:55.026
You won't do that.

00:45:55.086 --> 00:45:58.896
I'm like, just, did you
have zero leverage on me?

00:45:59.766 --> 00:46:00.276
Zero.

00:46:00.876 --> 00:46:03.156
Whether he, and, and
what he spoke was a lie.

00:46:03.466 --> 00:46:04.626
He spoke a lie.

00:46:04.626 --> 00:46:05.646
But I don't even give him a lie.

00:46:06.946 --> 00:46:07.656
I'm not even a lie.

00:46:07.836 --> 00:46:09.246
I'm like, okay, we're gonna go there.

00:46:11.826 --> 00:46:12.756
Call your bluff, bro.

00:46:14.196 --> 00:46:15.726
Never again.

00:46:16.176 --> 00:46:17.046
How's that motherfucker?

00:46:19.896 --> 00:46:20.736
Let's go.

00:46:23.706 --> 00:46:25.356
Ned Schaut: So I'm open to any questions.

00:46:25.356 --> 00:46:27.696
I got two more thoughts if you
want 'em, and then dude, hit

00:46:27.696 --> 00:46:28.146
Ryan Carnohan: the thoughts.

00:46:29.856 --> 00:46:30.096
Okay.

00:46:31.026 --> 00:46:33.516
I'm gonna bring this back
in because I, I'm selfish.

00:46:33.521 --> 00:46:35.076
I wanted to ask you a couple more.

00:46:35.166 --> 00:46:35.586
Okay.

00:46:37.296 --> 00:46:38.346
Chad's got a question though.

00:46:38.346 --> 00:46:40.716
Chad's a genius, so, okay, hang on.

00:46:40.716 --> 00:46:41.256
One more.

00:46:41.556 --> 00:46:41.676
You.

00:46:43.326 --> 00:46:47.136
Some pillars or stones or something
that you wanted to share with us?

00:46:48.006 --> 00:46:52.116
Um, was that just, uh, like a, a
saying I thought literally, have

00:46:52.121 --> 00:46:53.856
you written down like 10 things?

00:46:53.856 --> 00:46:57.966
Cause I'm in, I wanna know 'em all and we
can save some of 'em when I come on your

00:46:57.966 --> 00:46:59.916
podcast, but I wanna, I wanna hear it.

00:47:00.486 --> 00:47:00.636
No,

00:47:00.641 --> 00:47:02.376
Ned Schaut: I, I, I pretty
much hit one of 'em.

00:47:02.406 --> 00:47:06.246
Most of 'em, the only one I didn't
hit was the, a huge realization

00:47:06.246 --> 00:47:10.026
I had that I would've called
myself an intentional father.

00:47:10.086 --> 00:47:13.926
And in a lot of ways I was intentional,
but I came up with a new word.

00:47:13.926 --> 00:47:16.746
I realized that I wasn't really
being as much of an intentional

00:47:16.746 --> 00:47:20.516
father as I thought I was really
being more of a expectational father.

00:47:21.056 --> 00:47:25.206
So I was completing all these
incredible moments with my family.

00:47:25.416 --> 00:47:29.886
But when you're, when you're living an
expectation, whether like it's a camp

00:47:29.891 --> 00:47:35.616
trip or a family meeting, or family dinner
or whatever, if I'm expecting it to go

00:47:35.616 --> 00:47:37.596
a certain both look the same, right?

00:47:37.836 --> 00:47:38.836
Like, let's just pick a camp trip.

00:47:39.256 --> 00:47:41.616
You still have to plan,
you still have to prepare.

00:47:42.156 --> 00:47:46.596
But if you go into it as an expectational
father, you're never actually there.

00:47:46.596 --> 00:47:49.506
You're always on the
sidelines watching it unfold.

00:47:49.746 --> 00:47:53.796
Let's go criticizing what's happening,
hoping that it turns out the way you want.

00:47:53.796 --> 00:47:57.186
So you're not like, when shit falls
apart, you're not there enjoying it.

00:47:57.186 --> 00:47:59.676
You're just like, oh, well when I
was a kid, this is how we did it.

00:47:59.681 --> 00:48:02.616
Or, oh, well, I thought it was
gonna work out like this or, so then

00:48:02.616 --> 00:48:05.796
you're never there and, and you,
you're there, but you're not there.

00:48:05.946 --> 00:48:09.456
Nobody's having a good time
where an intentional father, he

00:48:09.456 --> 00:48:13.566
creates space and like most of
your, my job is just create space.

00:48:13.566 --> 00:48:15.696
I still gotta plan, I still gotta prepare.

00:48:15.846 --> 00:48:18.186
But then when we show up for
family time, family meeting,

00:48:18.186 --> 00:48:22.236
family dinner, sports, whatever the
thing is, then you just be there.

00:48:22.446 --> 00:48:25.806
You know, it's not gonna go
to plan, but that's okay.

00:48:25.806 --> 00:48:30.366
You just created space for
life and story to unfold.

00:48:30.966 --> 00:48:34.956
And that's where like the
beauty of like being present is.

00:48:35.226 --> 00:48:39.576
And so that was a huge aha for me
is, is to lean into being a truly

00:48:39.576 --> 00:48:45.096
intentional father, creating space for
my family versus creating expectation.

00:48:46.236 --> 00:48:47.376
Holy smokes.

00:48:48.276 --> 00:48:53.046
Ryan Carnohan: A intentional
father builds space.

00:48:54.126 --> 00:48:56.586
And there was some other
word you said, damnit.

00:48:57.246 --> 00:48:58.116
It was so, yeah.

00:48:58.116 --> 00:49:00.156
Essential father builds
space for the story.

00:49:00.156 --> 00:49:01.686
Ned Schaut: Well, I didn't
say he unfold or something.

00:49:02.026 --> 00:49:07.656
He creates, he creates space like you
and I we're creators we're supposed to

00:49:07.661 --> 00:49:12.066
create, and a lot of times we give all
that shit to a job or a career or a hobby.

00:49:12.336 --> 00:49:16.236
Like I put all my creative energy
into something else, not my home.

00:49:16.241 --> 00:49:18.396
I don't create space for my family.

00:49:18.396 --> 00:49:20.556
Like, dude, I'm goosebumps.

00:49:21.246 --> 00:49:23.316
I'm the one who creates space.

00:49:23.586 --> 00:49:25.776
This isn't about making
my kids good or bad.

00:49:25.776 --> 00:49:31.416
This is about creating a safe environment
for my family to experience life.

00:49:33.156 --> 00:49:35.856
Ryan Carnohan: And, and you said something
about working with your hands as a man.

00:49:36.996 --> 00:49:37.956
You, it's so cool.

00:49:37.961 --> 00:49:38.766
It's all connected.

00:49:38.766 --> 00:49:41.406
Like, creation

00:49:41.406 --> 00:49:42.156
Ned Schaut: is selfless.

00:49:42.426 --> 00:49:43.416
You're dying, bro.

00:49:43.956 --> 00:49:44.836
If you're not creating, you're

00:49:44.836 --> 00:49:44.956
Ryan Carnohan: dying.

00:49:44.956 --> 00:49:45.156
Yeah.

00:49:46.656 --> 00:49:47.976
Creation is selfless.

00:49:47.976 --> 00:49:50.346
I I, man, this is amazing.

00:49:50.796 --> 00:49:51.066
But if

00:49:51.066 --> 00:49:53.406
Ned Schaut: you're creating, you
can't just be creating for yourself.

00:49:53.406 --> 00:49:54.246
Like that is empty.

00:49:54.306 --> 00:49:55.446
No, no.

00:49:55.446 --> 00:49:55.956
That's empty.

00:49:55.956 --> 00:49:58.116
You gotta create value for other people.

00:50:00.486 --> 00:50:01.206
Ryan Carnohan: Selfless.

00:50:01.956 --> 00:50:02.886
The artist is selfless.

00:50:03.246 --> 00:50:03.576
Man.

00:50:03.826 --> 00:50:04.356
That's beautiful.

00:50:04.416 --> 00:50:05.586
Ned Schaut: You gotta just give it away.

00:50:05.856 --> 00:50:06.246
Give it away.

00:50:06.246 --> 00:50:07.956
And there's where the
expectation comes away.

00:50:07.961 --> 00:50:11.526
Cause if, if I create a gift weekend
for my family and they don't respond

00:50:11.526 --> 00:50:14.646
the way I want, and I'm just like,
oh, you guys don't appreciate me.

00:50:15.156 --> 00:50:17.346
Like, they don't wanna be with
me, they don't wanna be around me.

00:50:17.346 --> 00:50:18.307
They don't wanna follow me.

00:50:19.506 --> 00:50:23.346
Chris said it on the, the one of
the things like, are you somebody

00:50:23.346 --> 00:50:24.726
like, would you follow you?

00:50:25.146 --> 00:50:26.406
Like, that shit was good.

00:50:28.116 --> 00:50:28.596
Ryan Carnohan: Okay.

00:50:28.596 --> 00:50:30.306
We're gonna let Chad go in one moment.

00:50:30.306 --> 00:50:34.146
There was a, a question on creating
space, which Chad's always tapped

00:50:34.146 --> 00:50:37.966
in, so I guarantee this is already
probably what we were talking about.

00:50:38.196 --> 00:50:38.486
Okay.

00:50:38.866 --> 00:50:40.416
He just tells the future.

00:50:41.286 --> 00:50:48.216
Um, but Nick purchase here, Nick
Purchase is wondering some of the tools

00:50:48.216 --> 00:50:51.036
that you use Ned to create that space.

00:50:51.096 --> 00:50:52.116
He says, what does that look like?

00:50:52.116 --> 00:50:55.506
I think what it say says, when you
say planning to create that space,

00:50:55.506 --> 00:50:57.007
what does that look like for you?

00:50:57.666 --> 00:50:59.286
How are you doing that, Ned?

00:50:59.646 --> 00:51:00.696
And then we'll let Chad go.

00:51:01.911 --> 00:51:03.861
Ned Schaut: How am I, I track everything.

00:51:03.861 --> 00:51:08.031
So I could tell you like last year, this
was a huge aha for me when I reviewed

00:51:08.031 --> 00:51:12.681
my statistics or my data from last year
compared to the neighbor and a bunch

00:51:12.681 --> 00:51:14.331
of other people, I'm a great husband.

00:51:14.461 --> 00:51:18.861
I, I spent two and a half percent of my
time with my wife and about 10% of my

00:51:18.861 --> 00:51:21.321
time on my fitness, that's some horseshit.

00:51:22.611 --> 00:51:27.321
So now I'm, I'm, it's June and I'm
averaging eight and a half percent

00:51:27.321 --> 00:51:29.121
of intentional time with my wife.

00:51:29.691 --> 00:51:31.881
But that means that I have
to have metrics to look at.

00:51:31.881 --> 00:51:35.031
So like at the end of the week, I
look at how much time that I spend.

00:51:35.241 --> 00:51:40.041
Now, I'll tell you that I think that this
will transition for me because there is

00:51:40.041 --> 00:51:41.901
a difference between time and energy.

00:51:42.231 --> 00:51:45.651
So it's like, I, I might have to go
to my job for 40 hours and I might

00:51:45.651 --> 00:51:47.391
have a commute that's 10 hours.

00:51:47.391 --> 00:51:49.131
Like that just might be my life.

00:51:49.551 --> 00:51:52.791
So I gotta think about what's the
energy I'm putting into that versus the

00:51:52.791 --> 00:51:54.621
energy I'm giving to my wife and kids.

00:51:54.621 --> 00:51:56.821
So, so it may not be
a time for time thing.

00:51:58.341 --> 00:52:03.651
It might be more of an energy awareness,
but um, you have to freaking reflect.

00:52:03.651 --> 00:52:06.471
Like if you're the captain of
your ship, you better have a map

00:52:06.561 --> 00:52:08.061
that you freaking decided on.

00:52:08.661 --> 00:52:08.961
Okay?

00:52:09.081 --> 00:52:11.871
And then you better pull that thing
out once a week, once a month and

00:52:11.871 --> 00:52:14.271
go, did last week, am I on track?

00:52:14.481 --> 00:52:15.111
Let's go.

00:52:15.621 --> 00:52:15.861
Yeah.

00:52:15.861 --> 00:52:18.051
Am I on course or we not On course.

00:52:18.051 --> 00:52:20.601
Otherwise, it's just like the
storms, the waves, whatever, like

00:52:20.601 --> 00:52:22.671
you're just floating like that.

00:52:22.671 --> 00:52:24.201
That ain't responsibility, bro.

00:52:24.201 --> 00:52:28.461
And if you have a wife and kids and a life
and a heartbeat, you have responsibility.

00:52:29.451 --> 00:52:31.161
So you better pay attention to that.

00:52:31.161 --> 00:52:34.102
Otherwise you letting your boss,
you letting your wife dictate that.

00:52:34.371 --> 00:52:36.291
Now your wife has a huge input.

00:52:36.771 --> 00:52:37.971
She knows shit you don't know.

00:52:37.971 --> 00:52:40.131
She's way wiser than
you in a lot of areas.

00:52:40.251 --> 00:52:43.251
So acknowledge that and respect
that and listen to that.

00:52:43.611 --> 00:52:46.161
But you've gotta lead, you've
gotta make decisions, you've

00:52:46.161 --> 00:52:48.981
gotta take responsibility anyways.

00:52:49.461 --> 00:52:52.431
Ryan Carnohan: And that comes, that
goes back to the fights you were having,

00:52:52.431 --> 00:52:56.751
cuz that's the uncomfortable position
you put yourself as a man because.

00:52:57.081 --> 00:53:00.651
Especially those guys that were
like me, who didn't, were not in the

00:53:00.651 --> 00:53:02.511
leadership position for a long time.

00:53:03.951 --> 00:53:04.911
She will fight you.

00:53:05.961 --> 00:53:13.821
Sit in it, find your values, and
be immovable and smile and love in

00:53:13.821 --> 00:53:15.331
response and watch what happens.

00:53:16.611 --> 00:53:18.201
All right, Chad, what you got dog?

00:53:22.101 --> 00:53:24.051
Chad: What up Ned?

00:53:25.251 --> 00:53:28.341
Dude, let me just say like, um, I'm

00:53:28.341 --> 00:53:29.661
like sitting here super

00:53:29.666 --> 00:53:34.311
emotional cause I'm like, I don't,
I don't think you understand

00:53:34.311 --> 00:53:37.281
the, the impact that this
interview's had on me today.

00:53:37.501 --> 00:53:37.721
Mm.

00:53:39.741 --> 00:53:39.831
I

00:53:39.836 --> 00:53:40.761
got goosebumps.

00:53:44.691 --> 00:53:49.671
Like you, you, when
you described this, uh,

00:53:51.441 --> 00:53:54.261
Gosh, I hope I don't wreck
this car with my baby in it.

00:53:54.261 --> 00:53:57.381
Um, but when you

00:53:57.711 --> 00:53:58.701
describe, um,

00:54:00.501 --> 00:54:02.001
I had the insides,

00:54:02.001 --> 00:54:03.981
but I didn't have the outsides.

00:54:04.731 --> 00:54:06.021
My conscience told

00:54:06.026 --> 00:54:07.701
me the exact opposite.

00:54:11.151 --> 00:54:11.571
Let's go.

00:54:11.711 --> 00:54:16.821
And like I know that now you guys might,
you guys might look at me and be like, oh,

00:54:16.881 --> 00:54:20.091
I, you know, Chad, he hasn't
figured out what's he talking about?

00:54:20.091 --> 00:54:20.691
Da da da da.

00:54:20.931 --> 00:54:21.711
Trust me.

00:54:22.251 --> 00:54:22.911
Trust me.

00:54:23.931 --> 00:54:24.261
I

00:54:24.261 --> 00:54:24.861
feel

00:54:25.371 --> 00:54:26.091
bankrupt

00:54:27.141 --> 00:54:28.971
sometimes inside.

00:54:30.171 --> 00:54:31.672
And then sometimes, like I look at

00:54:31.761 --> 00:54:35.571
the outside, I'm like, damn, I almost

00:54:35.571 --> 00:54:37.971
fooled myself that I had it figured

00:54:37.971 --> 00:54:38.331
out.

00:54:38.391 --> 00:54:38.811
Mm-hmm.

00:54:39.141 --> 00:54:42.831
And then I hear people like Ned and I
listen to Kyle and I listen to you guys.

00:54:42.836 --> 00:54:44.661
I listen to Ryan, I
listen to all of you, man.

00:54:45.261 --> 00:54:46.051
And I'm like, oh

00:54:46.371 --> 00:54:47.031
man.

00:54:47.031 --> 00:54:47.991
Shoot.

00:54:48.381 --> 00:54:50.301
There is like, so many levels in

00:54:50.301 --> 00:54:52.151
the levels, you know what I mean?

00:54:52.191 --> 00:54:55.461
Like, there's all these levels
in the levels and like what

00:54:55.461 --> 00:54:56.721
your interview is teaching

00:54:56.721 --> 00:54:59.391
me is, I, I,

00:54:59.391 --> 00:55:00.501
I thought of the

00:55:00.501 --> 00:55:03.111
word creator, like what Ned

00:55:03.171 --> 00:55:05.301
is, is he's a creator.

00:55:05.301 --> 00:55:07.111
And then literally 15, 30

00:55:07.371 --> 00:55:09.231
seconds later, you said the

00:55:09.231 --> 00:55:09.981
word creator.

00:55:09.981 --> 00:55:10.971
And I'm like, damn.

00:55:11.331 --> 00:55:14.151
Yes dude, yes.

00:55:14.601 --> 00:55:15.351
That is

00:55:15.621 --> 00:55:17.031
so, so money.

00:55:17.091 --> 00:55:18.471
And then I thought about like,

00:55:19.971 --> 00:55:21.051
it's just incredible, man.

00:55:21.111 --> 00:55:24.021
Like, I was just thinking
to myself like, Chad,

00:55:25.791 --> 00:55:27.281
you're not creating right now.

00:55:28.491 --> 00:55:29.151
You're just

00:55:29.931 --> 00:55:30.501
doing,

00:55:31.731 --> 00:55:32.961
you're just doing stuff.

00:55:34.461 --> 00:55:35.241
You know what I mean?

00:55:36.201 --> 00:55:37.911
Like, there's no intention.

00:55:37.971 --> 00:55:40.731
There's not a rudder to your ship.

00:55:41.811 --> 00:55:43.141
Get your shit together, Chad.

00:55:44.811 --> 00:55:45.651
Like storms

00:55:45.651 --> 00:55:46.101
are coming.

00:55:46.431 --> 00:55:50.241
And dude, I, I love that story of
Peter and I love that story of Jesus.

00:55:50.721 --> 00:55:53.331
And I wanna believe dude
and with all my heart,

00:55:53.781 --> 00:55:56.001
when ge when Peter was falling in that

00:55:56.001 --> 00:55:56.511
water

00:55:57.051 --> 00:55:58.131
and Jesus pulled him

00:55:58.131 --> 00:56:00.741
out, I wanna believe he walked

00:56:00.741 --> 00:56:02.911
back to the ship with Jesus.

00:56:03.811 --> 00:56:04.381
You know,

00:56:04.941 --> 00:56:05.841
I wanna believe that.

00:56:05.931 --> 00:56:07.071
I don't know if it's true.

00:56:07.551 --> 00:56:10.791
I don't think it even says, it's
just kinda like, and Jesus, you

00:56:10.791 --> 00:56:12.171
know, pulled him up outta the water.

00:56:12.381 --> 00:56:13.071
And then it's like,

00:56:13.281 --> 00:56:18.681
what happened is, is the, the
stories, both the stories, whatever

00:56:18.686 --> 00:56:21.561
it is that that is speaking to you,
what, you know what I'm saying?

00:56:21.561 --> 00:56:24.591
So like, when there's just a
bunch of white space, right?

00:56:24.596 --> 00:56:24.621
Yeah.

00:56:24.801 --> 00:56:24.861
It,

00:56:24.861 --> 00:56:26.901
Ned Schaut: it's, it's what
do you need outta that story?

00:56:26.901 --> 00:56:29.661
And so that story's gonna speak
to people in different ways based

00:56:29.661 --> 00:56:32.721
on what they need and what God's
trying to communicate to them.

00:56:33.561 --> 00:56:33.861
Yeah.

00:56:34.071 --> 00:56:34.461
I love

00:56:34.461 --> 00:56:34.791
that.

00:56:35.181 --> 00:56:35.691
I love that.

00:56:35.696 --> 00:56:36.081
Thank you.

00:56:36.081 --> 00:56:37.041
So, yeah.

00:56:37.041 --> 00:56:40.641
That, that dude, dude, I, I cannot wait.

00:56:41.241 --> 00:56:42.111
I'm watching

00:56:42.111 --> 00:56:42.351
you dude.

00:56:43.986 --> 00:56:46.266
Like a freaking hawk because

00:56:46.326 --> 00:56:48.036
I saw something that night.

00:56:48.126 --> 00:56:48.486
Wow.

00:56:51.696 --> 00:56:53.046
I wanna be n dude,

00:56:54.036 --> 00:56:54.486
shit.

00:56:56.136 --> 00:56:59.346
Uh, well here's the
beauty of you saying that.

00:56:59.346 --> 00:57:03.396
Like when you say that to me, I get a
chill and then I go, they'll be a point

00:57:03.401 --> 00:57:08.436
where the words that come outta my mouth
are that I'm gonna let you down, but

00:57:08.436 --> 00:57:10.176
it's not totally I'm gonna let you down.

00:57:10.236 --> 00:57:11.976
It's that I'm gonna need you.

00:57:12.486 --> 00:57:12.816
Right.

00:57:12.816 --> 00:57:16.836
So the thing is, is like if we
are co-creators and we are men

00:57:16.841 --> 00:57:20.106
given responsibility, we can't
put so much weight on one man.

00:57:20.106 --> 00:57:22.626
We put him up here and
then our world crumbles.

00:57:22.626 --> 00:57:26.766
When he crumbles, when he, when he
starts to crumble, it's like, no, bro,

00:57:26.766 --> 00:57:30.096
we are here and I need you to help me.

00:57:30.096 --> 00:57:33.486
And that's why the freaking
authenticity of putting all

00:57:33.491 --> 00:57:35.166
the darkness into the light.

00:57:35.901 --> 00:57:39.441
Doesn't make anybody on this
call a guru doesn't make us

00:57:39.441 --> 00:57:41.211
perfect, doesn't make us good.

00:57:41.541 --> 00:57:44.181
It means that we need each other
and there's gonna be days that I

00:57:44.181 --> 00:57:46.521
deliver a message that's good for you.

00:57:46.701 --> 00:57:50.391
Then there's gonna be days that I
need a message so bad, and if you

00:57:50.391 --> 00:57:52.251
don't share it, then I'm missing out.

00:57:52.461 --> 00:57:55.101
And I think that's one of the keys
is if you're on this call, you

00:57:55.101 --> 00:57:56.961
have something to offer the tribe.

00:57:57.471 --> 00:58:00.831
And if you're not saying it, you're
not offering it, then I'm losing out.

00:58:01.731 --> 00:58:02.061
That's true.

00:58:02.061 --> 00:58:02.281
You know what?

00:58:02.691 --> 00:58:02.841
You

00:58:02.841 --> 00:58:03.051
know what?

00:58:03.051 --> 00:58:03.171
Your

00:58:03.171 --> 00:58:07.911
most powerful thing to give to your
brothers is your darkest truth.

00:58:08.751 --> 00:58:08.961
Ugh.

00:58:09.681 --> 00:58:10.971
We need that, bro.

00:58:12.381 --> 00:58:13.041
Help us.

00:58:13.351 --> 00:58:16.971
Help us be be true to ourselves
by showing us strength.

00:58:19.071 --> 00:58:19.881
We love you.

00:58:21.051 --> 00:58:22.431
You can't disappoint us.

00:58:23.241 --> 00:58:24.291
We're here to catch you.

00:58:24.291 --> 00:58:25.671
And we know you're the same for us.

00:58:25.671 --> 00:58:25.821
We

00:58:25.821 --> 00:58:26.361
need you.

00:58:30.401 --> 00:58:30.621
Wow.

00:58:32.226 --> 00:58:32.616
Indeed.

00:58:32.666 --> 00:58:35.606
Kyle Carnohan: It's great to be able
to be a leader and still be imperfect

00:58:35.756 --> 00:58:41.306
and be in alignment and, and it's worth
saying over and over again, live the

00:58:41.306 --> 00:58:44.726
message that you teach, or at least
speak the truth you're living, period.

00:58:44.876 --> 00:58:48.266
If you do that, you can lead
men as an imperfect man.

00:58:48.836 --> 00:58:49.406
Ryan Carnohan: How do you do that?

00:58:49.406 --> 00:58:53.096
As the leader, Kyle, you
constantly push yourself.

00:58:53.606 --> 00:58:54.986
Yes, yes.

00:58:54.991 --> 00:59:00.206
You, you nev you constantly push
yourself so you understand every

00:59:00.206 --> 00:59:03.506
other man that's pushing himself
to claw out of the darkness.

00:59:03.846 --> 00:59:04.066
Yes.

00:59:04.106 --> 00:59:10.646
You invite the darkness back
because you live in such a hard way.

00:59:11.186 --> 00:59:12.176
So you can empathize.

00:59:15.266 --> 00:59:16.706
Man, this is a good call.

00:59:17.636 --> 00:59:18.026
Damn.

00:59:18.031 --> 00:59:18.366
Alright.

00:59:19.766 --> 00:59:22.586
Kyle Carnohan: Uh, I'm, I'm gonna,
is there, is there anybody else?

00:59:22.796 --> 00:59:23.816
God, we got a lot of hands.

00:59:23.821 --> 00:59:24.326
Holy shit.

00:59:24.746 --> 00:59:25.526
Let's let it roll.

00:59:25.766 --> 00:59:28.676
I gotta get out and, and,
uh, I'm gonna walk down.

00:59:28.676 --> 00:59:30.656
We're gonna play some pickleball
with the family, but I'm,

00:59:30.656 --> 00:59:31.466
Ryan Carnohan: I'm in, I'm here.

00:59:31.471 --> 00:59:32.006
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:59:32.306 --> 00:59:33.146
We'll go quick.

00:59:33.146 --> 00:59:34.286
So, Levi, hit it.

00:59:38.156 --> 00:59:38.486
What's up

00:59:38.491 --> 00:59:38.696
Ned Schaut: man?

00:59:38.701 --> 00:59:43.256
I don't know if you remember me, but
I met you at gym at the Yeah, bro.

00:59:43.256 --> 00:59:46.106
Remember it was crazy, bro.

00:59:46.496 --> 00:59:49.586
That's when I was first starting, you
know, and, um, Listening to you, bro.

00:59:49.586 --> 00:59:50.726
Such a great inspiration.

00:59:50.726 --> 00:59:51.836
Just wanna say thank you, bro.

00:59:52.526 --> 00:59:57.956
And uh, I'm one of those porn addicts,
those, um, fucking whacking at all time.

00:59:57.961 --> 01:00:00.116
Like, that's exactly why
I'm in this group, man.

01:00:01.466 --> 01:00:02.516
Cause of that accountability.

01:00:02.516 --> 01:00:05.156
I couldn't, I thought I could
hold myself accountable.

01:00:05.366 --> 01:00:06.147
There's no such thing, man.

01:00:06.926 --> 01:00:07.916
I needed all of you guys.

01:00:07.921 --> 01:00:08.756
Juan community.

01:00:10.196 --> 01:00:11.156
Yeah man.

01:00:11.156 --> 01:00:14.366
And so I just wanna say, man,
thank you, thank you, thank you

01:00:14.366 --> 01:00:15.566
to all the men and thank you.

01:00:15.986 --> 01:00:16.646
Thank you man.

01:00:16.646 --> 01:00:17.996
Cause I know this is your transformation.

01:00:17.996 --> 01:00:22.016
So my wife was like, oh, we
were gonna go get some food.

01:00:22.436 --> 01:00:24.446
And I usually, I'm, I'm
the one that gets out.

01:00:24.716 --> 01:00:25.466
Go get some food.

01:00:25.766 --> 01:00:27.476
She was like, you need to
stay and listen to this.

01:00:27.866 --> 01:00:28.286
Mm-hmm.

01:00:28.826 --> 01:00:29.816
Kyle Carnohan: I was like, yeah.

01:00:30.446 --> 01:00:32.396
Ned Schaut: And now we're, we're
at Costco, we're about go to Costco

01:00:32.396 --> 01:00:35.696
and we're just waiting here, bro,
for the, the Zoom to be over.

01:00:35.696 --> 01:00:37.526
Cause it's just, it's amazing man.

01:00:37.676 --> 01:00:40.286
So many That's up Chris Nuggets.

01:00:41.276 --> 01:00:42.176
I mean, Ryan, sorry

01:00:46.436 --> 01:00:46.706
bro.

01:00:46.706 --> 01:00:46.947
Thank you.

01:00:52.706 --> 01:00:53.546
Ryan Carnohan: Chris does too.

01:00:53.546 --> 01:00:54.656
All of us too.

01:00:54.686 --> 01:00:57.296
Okay, so, um, I actually forgot.

01:00:57.301 --> 01:01:05.966
I have a call cause So Kyle,
bro, zoom might kick us off.

01:01:05.966 --> 01:01:07.226
I don't know what's gonna happen.

01:01:07.496 --> 01:01:08.756
I don't know what's gonna happen.

01:01:08.756 --> 01:01:09.116
I don't know.

01:01:09.116 --> 01:01:09.896
I'll make you host Kyle.

01:01:10.366 --> 01:01:10.656
Okay?

01:01:11.376 --> 01:01:11.736
I don't know.

01:01:12.146 --> 01:01:14.126
I, I got so much to do
with moving and everything.

01:01:14.131 --> 01:01:15.206
Kyle, you're muted, bro.

01:01:15.476 --> 01:01:15.806
Kyle Carnohan: Okay.

01:01:15.866 --> 01:01:18.506
All I'm gonna say is this, just in case
it kicks you off, you can make Ned the

01:01:18.506 --> 01:01:20.426
co-host if everybody dies, so be it.

01:01:20.636 --> 01:01:22.556
But let's just, okay, perfect.

01:01:22.561 --> 01:01:23.306
Let's, let's just do this.

01:01:23.486 --> 01:01:25.676
Make sure everyone supports
Ned in everything that he does.

01:01:25.796 --> 01:01:28.226
Go to his podcast, review
it, watch, buy his book,

01:01:28.226 --> 01:01:29.126
Ryan Carnohan: be part of what he's doing.

01:01:29.156 --> 01:01:29.426
Whatever.

01:01:29.426 --> 01:01:30.146
Kyle Carnohan: Buy his book.

01:01:30.656 --> 01:01:33.056
Buy his journal like he has earned this.

01:01:33.596 --> 01:01:35.216
And he'll tell you he doesn't give a shit.

01:01:35.426 --> 01:01:38.366
But I'm telling you, let's
support our people that lead

01:01:38.366 --> 01:01:40.106
us and show what's possible.

01:01:40.436 --> 01:01:41.336
That's all I'm gonna say.

01:01:41.336 --> 01:01:42.506
Ryan Carnohan: Ned, I love you man.

01:01:42.506 --> 01:01:42.866
You have.

01:01:43.391 --> 01:01:48.101
Kyle Carnohan: All my respect and I put
you, I dude, I, I put your effort and your

01:01:48.101 --> 01:01:50.561
grit and your honesty on a pedal stool.

01:01:50.771 --> 01:01:51.041
Not

01:01:51.041 --> 01:01:51.461
Ryan Carnohan: you.

01:01:52.481 --> 01:01:53.151
There you go.

01:01:53.151 --> 01:01:54.521
That thank you, bro.

01:01:54.911 --> 01:01:55.241
Right?

01:01:55.511 --> 01:01:56.831
Kyle Carnohan: That's, that's what I need.

01:01:56.981 --> 01:01:58.271
I don't give a shit if you're perfect.

01:01:58.276 --> 01:01:59.081
I know you're not.

01:01:59.171 --> 01:01:59.951
We know we're not.

01:02:00.341 --> 01:02:02.111
But man, he's not gonna get us.

01:02:02.351 --> 01:02:06.041
The adversary will not get us when we're
this honest and real, it's impossible.

01:02:08.801 --> 01:02:09.491
Love you guys.

01:02:10.151 --> 01:02:10.301
I'm

01:02:10.301 --> 01:02:10.541
out.

01:02:12.001 --> 01:02:16.441
I hope you enjoyed this transformation
from Superhuman Fathers, and

01:02:16.441 --> 01:02:20.011
one thing I want you to know
is that anyone can do this.

01:02:20.016 --> 01:02:21.061
Yes, even you.

01:02:21.661 --> 01:02:25.771
Go to superhuman fathers.com and
apply for the Brotherhood right now.

01:02:27.537 --> 01:02:30.687
Overdub: Next Time on Super Human
Fathers Transformation Podcast

01:02:30.897 --> 01:02:31.617
Greg Lowe: Accountability.

01:02:32.457 --> 01:02:33.267
That's everything.

01:02:34.137 --> 01:02:39.747
Attending the Zoom calls, getting the,
you know, sharing the mindset, you know,

01:02:39.747 --> 01:02:46.797
imbibing, selflessness, um, not being,
you know, just challenging the thinking

01:02:46.797 --> 01:02:48.297
that it's all about you and what you want.

01:02:49.197 --> 01:02:53.517
I know that's, uh, you know, a way to, to
destroy yourself and everybody around you.