1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,666 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:09,958 All right, good morning 4 01:00:09,958 --> 01:00:11,708 and welcome to Thursday. 5 01:00:12,208 --> 01:00:14,750 And this is just not any Friday Eve. 6 01:00:14,958 --> 01:00:16,541 Today is National 7 01:00:16,541 --> 01:00:18,000 Shower with a Friend Day, 8 01:00:18,291 --> 01:00:18,958 which we're just 9 01:00:18,958 --> 01:00:19,875 gonna go ahead and choose 10 01:00:19,875 --> 01:00:22,000 to interpret that metaphorically, right? 11 01:00:22,250 --> 01:00:24,000 Like emotional support. 12 01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:26,375 There's no need to start figuring out 13 01:00:26,375 --> 01:00:27,791 the logistics of it, all right? 14 01:00:28,333 --> 01:00:29,583 Well, the answer to 15 01:00:29,583 --> 01:00:31,666 yesterday's trivia question, 27, 16 01:00:32,250 --> 01:00:35,083 there are 27 bones in the human hand. 17 01:00:35,583 --> 01:00:36,375 And now the essential 18 01:00:36,375 --> 01:00:37,916 vitamins in your morning cereal, 19 01:00:37,916 --> 01:00:39,166 today's quote is from 20 01:00:39,166 --> 01:00:41,666 birthday boy, Christiano Ronaldo, 21 01:00:41,916 --> 01:00:44,750 who is turning 41 years old today, 22 01:00:44,750 --> 01:00:45,875 who said, quote, "Your 23 01:00:45,875 --> 01:00:47,375 love makes me strong. 24 01:00:47,708 --> 01:00:49,208 Your hate makes me 25 01:00:49,208 --> 01:00:50,666 unstoppable," end quote. 26 01:00:50,958 --> 01:00:52,500 Now, first off, Eileen Messi. 27 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:54,208 But that fact aside, 28 01:00:54,416 --> 01:00:55,333 I'm a bit of a sucker 29 01:00:55,500 --> 01:00:56,875 for having a chip on your shoulder. 30 01:00:57,375 --> 01:00:58,708 It can act as a powerful, 31 01:00:59,041 --> 01:01:00,500 self-sustaining motivator 32 01:01:00,833 --> 01:01:03,000 that fuels your relentlessness, your 33 01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:04,583 underdog work ethic, 34 01:01:04,583 --> 01:01:07,083 and can give you some intense focus in 35 01:01:07,083 --> 01:01:08,000 the longterm, right? 36 01:01:08,583 --> 01:01:10,416 Well, let's go ahead and focus 37 01:01:10,416 --> 01:01:12,250 on what the experts have to say. 38 01:01:12,250 --> 01:01:14,041 Let's pour in some Let 39 01:01:14,041 --> 01:01:15,541 Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 40 01:01:15,791 --> 01:01:17,916 And today's chapter, which is the new 41 01:01:17,916 --> 01:01:19,458 chapter, chapter 18, 42 01:01:19,458 --> 01:01:20,541 it's opening up with one 43 01:01:20,541 --> 01:01:22,083 of those ideas that sounds, 44 01:01:22,083 --> 01:01:24,000 well, obvious, until you 45 01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:25,791 realize how often we ignore it. 46 01:01:26,208 --> 01:01:27,750 People are already showing 47 01:01:27,750 --> 01:01:29,791 you who they are, all right? 48 01:01:29,958 --> 01:01:30,791 The problem isn't 49 01:01:30,791 --> 01:01:32,333 lack of information here. 50 01:01:32,333 --> 01:01:34,833 It's our refusal to accept it. 51 01:01:35,541 --> 01:01:36,958 So, Mel kicks off this 52 01:01:36,958 --> 01:01:38,291 chapter by pointing out 53 01:01:38,625 --> 01:01:41,000 how much emotional energy we spend 54 01:01:41,083 --> 01:01:43,500 trying to explain away bad behavior. 55 01:01:44,041 --> 01:01:46,375 We rewrite the story in our heads. 56 01:01:46,375 --> 01:01:47,625 We make excuses. 57 01:01:47,625 --> 01:01:48,583 We say things like, 58 01:01:48,583 --> 01:01:49,791 they're just stressed, 59 01:01:49,791 --> 01:01:51,500 or they didn't mean it like that. 60 01:01:51,958 --> 01:01:53,416 But Mel's message is 61 01:01:53,416 --> 01:01:54,791 simple, and it's direct. 62 01:01:54,791 --> 01:01:55,875 When someone shows you 63 01:01:55,875 --> 01:01:57,916 who they are, let them. 64 01:01:58,333 --> 01:01:59,500 Now, she puts it, quote, 65 01:01:59,500 --> 01:02:01,208 "You don't need more time, 66 01:02:01,458 --> 01:02:03,208 "more proof, or more conversation. 67 01:02:03,750 --> 01:02:06,000 "The data is already there," end quote. 68 01:02:06,541 --> 01:02:09,125 So, this chapter, it's not about judgment 69 01:02:09,125 --> 01:02:10,375 or cutting people off 70 01:02:10,375 --> 01:02:12,666 dramatically, it's about clarity. 71 01:02:13,125 --> 01:02:13,833 Mel explains that 72 01:02:13,833 --> 01:02:16,000 constantly trying to change people, 73 01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:18,083 convincing them to treat you better, 74 01:02:18,083 --> 01:02:19,333 or wait for them to 75 01:02:19,333 --> 01:02:21,500 magically just become someone else 76 01:02:21,916 --> 01:02:23,333 is exhausting, right? 77 01:02:23,500 --> 01:02:25,083 And it's also unnecessary. 78 01:02:25,666 --> 01:02:28,333 So, instead, she invites us to step back 79 01:02:28,750 --> 01:02:31,625 and observe patterns, not promises, not 80 01:02:31,625 --> 01:02:33,250 apologies, patterns. 81 01:02:33,916 --> 01:02:34,375 One of the most 82 01:02:34,375 --> 01:02:35,916 powerful lines in this section 83 01:02:35,916 --> 01:02:37,208 is when Mel writes, quote, 84 01:02:37,208 --> 01:02:38,958 "The fastest way to peace 85 01:02:38,958 --> 01:02:40,416 "is to stop arguing 86 01:02:40,416 --> 01:02:41,958 with reality," end quote. 87 01:02:42,500 --> 01:02:44,000 Now, that hits pretty hard, right? 88 01:02:44,375 --> 01:02:45,541 Because so much of our 89 01:02:45,541 --> 01:02:47,041 stress comes from fighting 90 01:02:47,041 --> 01:02:48,041 what is instead of 91 01:02:48,041 --> 01:02:50,458 responding to it wisely, right? 92 01:02:50,833 --> 01:02:51,583 When you accept 93 01:02:51,583 --> 01:02:53,791 someone's actions at face value, 94 01:02:54,041 --> 01:02:55,458 you're no longer confused 95 01:02:55,458 --> 01:02:56,791 about it, you're informed. 96 01:02:57,333 --> 01:02:59,208 Now, she also emphasizes that this isn't 97 01:02:59,208 --> 01:03:00,541 about blaming others, it's about 98 01:03:00,541 --> 01:03:01,916 empowering yourself. 99 01:03:02,375 --> 01:03:03,500 When you, quote, "Let them," 100 01:03:03,500 --> 01:03:05,166 you stop chasing validation, 101 01:03:05,166 --> 01:03:07,416 right, and you start making decisions 102 01:03:07,416 --> 01:03:09,000 based on self-respect. 103 01:03:09,500 --> 01:03:10,083 You don't need to 104 01:03:10,083 --> 01:03:12,041 confront, convince, or correct. 105 01:03:12,041 --> 01:03:13,541 You simply adjust your 106 01:03:13,541 --> 01:03:15,666 expectations and your boundaries. 107 01:03:16,291 --> 01:03:19,125 And Mel reminds us that clarity is 108 01:03:19,125 --> 01:03:20,666 kindness to yourself. 109 01:03:21,166 --> 01:03:23,041 Pretending not to see red flags, it 110 01:03:23,041 --> 01:03:24,041 doesn't make you loyal, 111 01:03:24,458 --> 01:03:25,583 it makes you stuck. 112 01:03:26,041 --> 01:03:27,000 And accepting reality 113 01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:28,333 doesn't make you cold, 114 01:03:28,333 --> 01:03:29,583 it makes you free. 115 01:03:30,125 --> 01:03:32,500 All right, here is your takeaway. 116 01:03:33,208 --> 01:03:35,083 When people show you who they are, 117 01:03:35,333 --> 01:03:36,791 believe them the first time 118 01:03:36,791 --> 01:03:38,375 and choose peace over 119 01:03:38,375 --> 01:03:39,958 potential, all right? 120 01:03:40,458 --> 01:03:42,875 So, today, let people be who they are 121 01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:44,416 and choose accordingly. 122 01:03:44,958 --> 01:03:46,291 Now, the prize from the 123 01:03:46,291 --> 01:03:47,291 bottom of the cereal box, 124 01:03:47,750 --> 01:03:48,875 the morning cereal 125 01:03:48,875 --> 01:03:50,208 trivia question of the day. 126 01:03:51,041 --> 01:03:52,833 What are crayons made of? 127 01:03:53,458 --> 01:03:55,125 All right, hey, thanks for listening to 128 01:03:55,125 --> 01:03:56,250 morning cereal today. 129 01:03:56,250 --> 01:03:57,791 We will see you back here tomorrow 130 01:03:57,791 --> 01:03:59,291 for the answer to the trivia question 131 01:03:59,541 --> 01:04:01,500 and more sugar for your soul. 132 01:04:01,833 --> 01:04:04,583 And until then, have a fantastic day. 133 01:04:29,083 --> 01:04:39,291 And we'll see you tomorrow.