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I'm tapping. I'm going to start tapping.

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Even though I'm anxious.

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I still love and accept myself.

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All right.

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Even though I'm nervous.

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I still love and accept myself.
Even though I'm worried.

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I still love and accept myself.

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This is tapping.

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What's what technique is this?

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So this is called EFT,
motion of freedom technique

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tapping and right now
we're just starting with part one.

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It's a nine point protocol.

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So you always start with the karate chop
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Chop kind of letting the nerves know
that we're coming

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in, that there's going to be
some stimulation, some connection.

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You kind of start to feel the breath
a little bit a little deeper.

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Now it's working.

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Yeah. You feel it right away.

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Right now we move to point one.

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If you want to just follow me.
So we go over here.

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Normally you would add a phrase to it.

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So even though I'm so anxious,

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I don't know what I'm going to do
about all of this.

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You're really stating what you're feeling.
All this inside.

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It's so hard. It's so heavy.

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I can never get rid of it.

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Oh, my God, I've been dealing with this.

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Follow me so long, I don't know
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I'm getting really, really tired of it.

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Oh my God, I just don't know.

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Every time I think
I'm getting better. Not.

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And I'm overwhelmed
and it just doesn't go away.

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And I don't like this feeling.

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I don't like this feeling I'm going
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It doesn't feel good

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and I want to feel good.

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And this doesn't like me, doesn't
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And so I'm going to try to change this up
a little bit just by what I'm doing.

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And then I move up to the head.

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So this is a nine point.

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And normally what we would do is
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the negative feelings
you're having. Right.

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Until eventually there's a click
and you release it.

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Right.

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So each of these points

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is connected to an organ in the body
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So when you read the client you're kind of
noticing where they're staying stuck on.

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So if we're doing the collarbone
that might be like liver bladder

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or that might give me some information
around, okay,

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some grief
that's now moved through. Right.

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So it's kind of like the connection
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and know we keep going around.

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But now with the positive kind
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This feels really good to me. Same points.

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It feels really good to feel good
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I like feeling good with what I'm doing
and this right now makes me happy

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that I'm committed to myself.

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Because taking care of myself
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and I like knowing that this helps me feel
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and feeling good
is what it's all about. Wow.

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And that would be the end of a stretch.

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And what was that cycle called?

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That is just round one is a it's EFT,
you know, tapping protocol.

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And there is a subjective kind
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The, the, you know, the weight
of the issue, who we're talking with.

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And that we can spend, you know, good
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and we can just maybe stay with one word
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And the idea is that it does open up
the emotions.

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You will cry, you might scream,
you might take some deep breaths.

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You know, you might do whatever,
depending on what we're touching.

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But it really brings immediate relief.

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This evidence base at this point,
a lot of research that shows us

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that this really does work
for and diety for stress and depression.

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Now, how hard should I tap?

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Was I tapping too hard or just, you know,
now you don't want to bang, right?

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The nice gentle. Tap.

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I mean, I kind of push this in time
to the point that the systems know.

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I do feel like it
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But in terms of actually doing it,
you don't need to go hard.

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It can be the tap
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which is another kind of way of moving.

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And this is also connected
to like acupuncture.

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So acupuncture we're working
with different you know with. Yeah.

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So the acupuncture line
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Exactly like if.

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You can if you hit if your foot hurts
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something crazy.

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Exactly the opposite.

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Yes. Yes.

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You mentioned collarbone, maybe liver.

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Where would the eye the cheekbones be?

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Where would that lead to?

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This is connected to the stomach meridian.

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Okay, so that's another aspect is we have
like 3000 acupuncture points in the body.

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And then we have these energetic meridians
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So kind of like I compare them to veins.

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stomach issues, for example, we would work
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It actually like follows

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all the way through every single meridian
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you know, kind of aspect to it
into the thighs, out

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through the knee, out
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Right. So you would learn that protocol.
We do the energy work.

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We clear through that.

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And that would then help you with stomach
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What a wonderful way to start our podcast.

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That was great.

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I'm here with my good friend
Jenny. Lady. Hey, how are you doing?

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I'm doing well.
Thank you. Happy to be. Here.

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Very excited to be talking with you.

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You are a psychotherapist? Yes.

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If you couldn't tell.

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What do you think?

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Well, I don't know.

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We start with I, I own it.

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Yeah, I love it, I love it.

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Well, my name is Eric Feeney, founder
and president of Friends of Fini.

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Friends of Feeney's, a nonprofit.

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We help children and families that need
assistance after heartbreak or tragedy.

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And I use this podcast.

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Fini talks with friends,
and I talk to wonderful people

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that are doing great things.

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And Jenny,
you do wonderful things, helping families

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and people
that are going through some trauma

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or have some things they need to talk
about how long you've been doing that.

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So I've been a psychotherapist
for about 20 years,

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and I've been in private practice
for 15 years.

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Early on in my career, I was working at
Wheeler Clinic that a nonprofit.

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It was very, you know,
learned a lot of great experiences.

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I knew early on that I needed my own space
to fly and do it my way.

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And so, like, my early 20s,
I left and I started my chiropractic this.

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And I've done that for 15 years now.

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And then we evolved into the Enlightenment
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which we can talk about in a little bit.

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And that became more.

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But administration helping
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and building up and helping them,
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and clinically savvy
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Yeah. I'm so excited to talk to you.

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What what month are we in today?

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This is mental maze
mental health awareness. Yes.

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We're here to talk about our mental health
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Mental health is very important.

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It's everything.

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Right now. What grade do I teach?

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Third, third grade.

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So pretend
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How would you explain mental
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Mental health, I mean,

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I there's just such a connection between
emotional health and mental health, right?

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So it would just be more of
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that they have this ability to take care
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and how they, you know, support themselves
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and their thoughts.

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And that it's, you know, something
that they can really learn how to be.

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Well, and when they're not feeling well,
how they can still express

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that and get the support that they need
so that they can feel a little better.

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Excellent job. Excellent pass.
That's an A+.

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Third graders.

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They would understand that.

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Kind I think so yeah.

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And you worked
at, enlightenment counseling centers.

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Enlightenment Counseling center.

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Ktvb.com
is your website? Beautiful website.

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Thank you.

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You have, like,

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pretty flowers and pictures
and explains everything that you do. Yes.

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Who does your website?

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So we actually just hired,
a family friend who has her own business,

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a younger guy who is just kicking butt
with everything very well,

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you know, connected to the group
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So already came in prepared.

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And, you know, kind of really got
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we're trying to do, what we're about
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Yeah, I like it. Yeah.

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I think you and you're working
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It's my girl Nicole.

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We've been colleagues, 
for over 20 years. Wow.

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And I think I was telling you
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in the 998 Farmington Avenue right
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So this is so cool to be here because
we've come here and have lunch with them.

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small little basement office,
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I was pregnant with Kingsley, my son,
which we'll talk about.

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She was pregnant as well.

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We're like, let's experiment with
private practice and see how this goes.

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And within I think five months,
I was like, this is for me.

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I know it is.

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And I worked really hard for a good year.

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Full time jobs, two full time jobs.

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Got the case load up, you know,
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Wheeler. Yeah.

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And, yeah.

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So then we were together,

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and then we've evolved
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And then we realized,
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our missions are sticking to
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People want to work with us

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or anyone that they know
that we know that we can recommend.

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So the business was born. That's amazing.

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Right across the street
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I know, and. You're at 9.98.

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Yes. Suite 207. Yeah.

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Phone number 78607293284.

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Email address.

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So we can do EC assistance 2021 at gmail.

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That's like,
for the administrative person.

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I can answer those questions.

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Very cool, very cool.

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No, I feel no.

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May mental health is very important.

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I feel exercise
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Health? How do you feel about that?

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Exercise is key.

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Do you suggest everyone get out and move?

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I mean, it is medicine for sure.

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It's it's not just,
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you know, kind of focus on, but it's from
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Letting alone like the mind and your
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just so, you know, unsurmountable
it affects you in so many different ways.

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So in my clinical work,

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you know, I'm
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who have anxiety with a hard time
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So movement is beyond exercise,
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We're not looking to really sweat right
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It's just about breaking patterns,

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moving the body, taken in the sunlight,
taken in the fresh air.

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So it begins like that, right?

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And then it can evolve into so much more.

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I'm a yoga practitioner.

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I'm very much into hiking and,
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like long, long walks
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So you can, you know, evolve
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But without a doubt, moving
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Well, what would be some other keys
to having a good mental health exercise?

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Moving.

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Yeah.

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So I mean again this talking about it,

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this integrative approach is beautiful
because it really helps me.

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What's that term for integrative.

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Integrative is a psychotherapist
that is, you know,

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licensed clinician trained in all the kind
of traditional psychotherapies.

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Gotcha.

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But also trained in complementary
and alternative medicine.

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So that becomes like the meditation,
like the breath work,

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like the somatic movement,
which is really working

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with the body and movement, 
and even like pain or distress in the body

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as a way to access emotions and access
maybe even traumas.

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Okay.

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And so it's an eclectic approach,
you know, to really understand,

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how a person is functioning
and then where they can also be, you know,

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kind of hurting or suffering.

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So, yeah, so depending on that,
you know, you can use,

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I do a lot of visualization and imagery,
for example,

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as a powerful tool to begin your day
kind of seeing yourself happy.

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Content, happy, saying hello to everybody
with with use a lot with who are bullied.

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Do a lot of work of like imagine yourself,
you know, walking in.

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How do you handle a situation?
Who's around you?

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How are you feeling? Right.

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So just one little example of like imagery
as a as a tool.

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Breathwork is another one
that's a huge piece of what I do for real

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is really focusing on teaching
about breath regulation, not getting.

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So there's a lot in the breathwork
world now.

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There's so many techniques
and different modalities,

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but just the the basic diaphragmatic
breathing is what I start with.

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And this is just a very specific breath
that we know is connected

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to the central nervous system.

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Mental health

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is not only emotional and physical,
but it's physiological.

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When we suffer from our mental health.

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And so that's one aspect
that as an integrative therapist

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I'm very focused on
is your central nervous system,

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and the gut health to other kind of
outside the boxes aspects

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that get affected by distress emotional
or or mental psychological.

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So treating those as well.

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So depending on what we're kind of when.

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I hear gut health is that the food that
you intake and drinks that you intake or.

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So gut health is the health
of your microbiome, which is your stomach.

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Right.

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So we understand that, neuro
there's a lot of neurotransmitters

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that live in our bellies.

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So when we have depression or anxiety,

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it's like 80% are living in this
in the gut, and people don't understand.

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It's not meant they're not in the brain.

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They live here.

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So elaborate.

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Go on.

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Stress is interesting.

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Like, intricate kind of thing
because it's.

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But nothing to do with the food
that you eat.

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Well, yeah, the food, the food. Yeah.

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So I look at it as your, your gut health
is like a garden and you have soil

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and then we have good bacteria
and bad bacteria.

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That's the normal human.

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When we have too much to stress,
we live in chronic anxiety.

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Our gut health
gets really dysregulated. Right.

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So we have a lot more bad bacteria.

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We tend to then crave sugar and dairy.

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So that's where the connection
and those types of foods actually feed.

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The bad bacteria make us sicker and make
us more anxious, make us more depressed.

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Got this like, kind of like thing
that you're stuck in the yeah.

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You when someone's at work

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and you're like, I'm having a rough day,
I need chocolate.

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Is that but. That cravings, cravings.

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You know, the idea of like, yeah,
but I mean and cocoa

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a good chocolate is actually good for you.

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I would recommend like if you get like
the clean stuff, it actually is good.

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Yeah.

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But it's more like, no, it's like
the person would be suffering with it.

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They have chronic anxiety.

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Let's say they have issues with digestion,
whether it's, you know,

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one or the other.

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They have issues with flatulence.

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They have with,
you know, uploading, loading.

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So there's like physical symptoms
that, dysregulation in your belly.

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And then then based on that, you will eat
based on how you're feeling anxious.

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You'll eat food, or.

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It will affect how you eat
and what you eat as well. Yup, yup.

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And to actually heal that is this is where
like the integrative approach again,

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I work with naturopathic doctors
very closely with functional doctors

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with acupuncture is
and and like massage therapist,

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trauma focused massage therapist
because everything is like complementary.

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It's all connected.
And I understand that. Right.

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So it's like not only am I integrative
in what I'm bringing, but also working

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within the community of healers
and knowing

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mind, body, spirit who can do what
and kind of all working as a.

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Partner and collaborate.

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You send some partner collaborate.

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These are how they're doing. Wow.

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I have clients that want

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to get off medication, for example,
and it's been pretty successful

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where I've worked with my doctors,
you know, that I have great relationships

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with and we've helped a lot of clients
come off medication, moving

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to natural supplements
to still manage depression or anxiety.

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A lot of times the medications themselves
are exasperating symptoms

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or creating other symptoms.

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And so a lot of the patients come
in, they don't know where to start.

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It's like, well,
I've been on these meds for 20 years.

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I have so many different meds,
I feel like crap, what is going on right.

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So it's so again, that integrative
approach is, is having that lens.

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And rather than just talking about
how you're feeling today.

347
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Right. It's like, no, right.

348
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Where is the feeling in your body?

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Let's connect with that.

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Let's let it express itself. Right.

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Let's maybe bring in some imagery
to bring some soothing to that.

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Let's maybe do a little body work
to ground your body move, you know?

353
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Right. So yeah.

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And then let's do some breathwork,
a meditation where we end the session,

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you're calm and then, you know, so,
like the session itself is medicine.

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I always tell my clients like therapy.

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The session is the medicine.

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You know, in so many different ways.

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I saw that.

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And you, you do sessions
you can pay per session.

361
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I saw it on the website.
I think that's great.

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Do you have an introductory
like a first time lesson?

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Session?

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Session?

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I usually do like a ten, 15 minute phone
conversation consultation where they are.

366
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Yeah. Now, is that free?

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It's for free. Okay. Yep.

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So if you're listening.
Yeah. Check it out.

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We gave we'll share the website
and the email again.

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But, if you're thinking, you know.

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Yeah.

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No, I'm talking about it.
And I feel like already that tapping

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I still feel it a little bit
in my forehead.

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I have I clench my jaw sometimes.

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Exactly where would I tap if I clench jaw?

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So I mean,

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the human is very intuitively guided,
you know, and we get headaches sometimes.

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And when I,
when I'm doing my energy medicine class

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and we're talking about learning
all these points in the forehead,

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and they're like these technical terms
and I'm like,

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yeah, she's like, how often do we see
humans when they're stressed out, do this?

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It's it's an innate

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knowingness that that we're now
just reminding you guys, hey,

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there's actually acupuncture points here
that you're touching by just doing this.

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So with the mouth I do a lot of massaging,
a lot of work, you know, helping

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the client identify where they hold
their stress is like that baseline.

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The first month is really like,
how are you presenting with everything?

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And then using the body as a way to,
also relax the anxiety.

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Right.

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So we'll start practices
where we'll do I'll do a whole regimen.

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We write it down five minute massage here.

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Then we're going to do some
lymphatic work.

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We're going to move some,
you know, the lymph some kind of this.

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Is all in one session.
This can be one session.

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All of it. Visualize depending on we.

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Get it all in.

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Wow. Depending on what's going on.

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That creates the term integrative.

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Yes. Gotcha.

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I'm with you now. Yep.

401
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This is great. I'm learning a lot.

402
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I've known you for quite some time.

403
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Yeah.

404
00:17:03,389 --> 00:17:07,292
And I'm so excited that we finally get
to chat to my good friend Jenny.

405
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What are some.

406
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All right,
so you are a cycle therapist? Yes.

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415
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So with West Hartford Lock,

417
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what are three keys
that make you a great psychotherapist?

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Three keys are my genuine,

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love and passion for this work.

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It shows. Yeah.

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The respect that I have for humans.

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I truly have worked at so many different
people.

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Hundreds,
I want to say thousands of humans.

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And, I just respect diversity.

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I just, you know, respect, uniqueness.

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I've been exposed to
so much, through my work, and I've heard

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pretty much everything

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you can imagine, good and bad,
that can happen to human lives.

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And so bringing that,
you know what I mean?

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Like just holding space for everybody.

431
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So able to do that without judgment. And.

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Love for

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people, love for your job and love for.

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Love for the third one.

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And passion.

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Passion for you

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and the gifts. I have.

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Nice gifts.

439
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No, I don't know. Speaking of gifts, yes.

440
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Oh, well. Well,
first we get in how we know each other.

441
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So. Yeah, you are the room parent.

442
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I was. For my third. Grade. Yeah.

443
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So Kinsley, shout out to my guy Kinsley,
I miss you.

444
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Oh, I remember you.

445
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You stand out.

446
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Your phenomenal student,
classmate and friend.

447
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He he cared for others.

448
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He cared about his classwork.

449
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He cleared about other kids classwork.

450
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He just enough.

451
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So whatever you're doing
as a psychotherapist and a parent.

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Congratulations. I'm.

453
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Thank you.

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You know, be very proud because
Kinsley know the kid can be box the kid.

455
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Drum the kid can be a. Can

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be a reporter.

457
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Right. Break dance.

458
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No pinky break dances, plays
basketball, play soccer.

459
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Oh, and loves his video games, of course.

460
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So it's a balance that we keep.

461
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A great kids.

462
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Great kid. Yeah.
So you were the room parent.

463
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And so I get gifts at the end of the year.

464
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Do you remember what gift you gave?
You gave me.

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We gave you guys with the tree. Right.

466
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We got gift certificates. Okay.

467
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But you personally gave me a gift too.

468
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Oh. What was. It?

469
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It was like a salt rock that you plug
in. Yeah.

470
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That's right, the Himalayan salt rock.

471
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Yes. My daughter uses it to this day.

472
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That's awesome.

473
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I had it down by an office
I got by my computer.

474
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But I guess that's not the place for it.

475
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You want it in your bedroom near your bed?

476
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It wouldn't be bad by a computer either,

477
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because it does neutralize
all those energies.

478
00:19:52,291 --> 00:19:55,527
Okay, like I have a whole bunch
of little things near my phone and stuff

479
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that are like these, like
stones, the copper in it to try to like,

480
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you know, kind of work with the infrared
and all the different kind of thing.

481
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So you could use it in that way.

482
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But wherever you're called to use it, it's
going to work.

483
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Okay.

484
00:20:07,239 --> 00:20:08,607
So you're big into the energy.

485
00:20:08,607 --> 00:20:11,310
And do you do singing bowls a lot? Yep.

486
00:20:11,310 --> 00:20:12,277
So I do.

487
00:20:12,277 --> 00:20:14,346
I have like five crystal balls
at the office.

488
00:20:14,346 --> 00:20:15,414
Big ones, all different.

489
00:20:15,414 --> 00:20:19,218
Quartz is frequencies
I have about six different Tibetan bowls.

490
00:20:19,218 --> 00:20:22,454
Do you hit it and say, hey, breathe
until you can't hear it anymore?

491
00:20:22,454 --> 00:20:23,055
Or do you do.

492
00:20:23,055 --> 00:20:24,690
I use an intuitive.

493
00:20:24,690 --> 00:20:27,759
So a part of me to 
me is I'm very intuitive.

494
00:20:27,759 --> 00:20:31,897
So, you know, I have all these tools
that I can work with and identify

495
00:20:32,264 --> 00:20:33,298
and whatever calls me.

496
00:20:33,298 --> 00:20:39,037
So, I do have them organized
by like the chakra that we work with.

497
00:20:39,037 --> 00:20:41,240
So each chakra,
these are like energy centers

498
00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,243
that the human, you know,
has, has a different frequency.

499
00:20:44,343 --> 00:20:46,712
And so these crystal balls
are all different frequencies.

500
00:20:46,712 --> 00:20:49,481
So the a the dino, the
oh you hit a certain.

501
00:20:49,481 --> 00:20:51,683
Way, it'll. Affect the ideas and.
Someone's body.

502
00:20:51,683 --> 00:20:53,385
Working on somebody's body part.

503
00:20:53,385 --> 00:20:54,786
Yeah, yeah.

504
00:20:54,786 --> 00:20:56,855
Now what do you say to a skeptic.

505
00:20:56,855 --> 00:20:59,024
So I'm not. Scared. No,
I hear you, I believe.

506
00:20:59,024 --> 00:21:00,926
But what have you say? Someone like.

507
00:21:00,926 --> 00:21:01,860
Come on, are you serious?

508
00:21:01,860 --> 00:21:05,130
I rub here
and it affects, a body part down here,

509
00:21:05,130 --> 00:21:08,133
or I hit a sound
and it affects your your your stomach.

510
00:21:08,133 --> 00:21:09,801
What would you say to someone?

511
00:21:09,801 --> 00:21:11,937
I would say
you have to experience it first.

512
00:21:11,937 --> 00:21:14,840
Because it's don't want to go to shrines,
you know,

513
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:18,277
also, I'm not here
to convince anybody of anything.

514
00:21:18,277 --> 00:21:18,610
Okay?

515
00:21:18,610 --> 00:21:20,112
Honestly, at this point in my life,

516
00:21:20,112 --> 00:21:22,247
my career, I'm very clear about what
I'm providing.

517
00:21:22,247 --> 00:21:23,782
And I'm here for the world.

518
00:21:23,782 --> 00:21:25,617
And whoever wants this, great.

519
00:21:25,617 --> 00:21:28,553
I'm not trying to step outside of it
or rationalize.

520
00:21:28,553 --> 00:21:31,089
Good answer. I love that. Answer.
Yeah, that's the truth. Yeah.

521
00:21:32,457 --> 00:21:34,660
Also, you set up a booth at Johnny SCG.

522
00:21:34,660 --> 00:21:35,694
Yeah, two years in a row.

523
00:21:35,694 --> 00:21:37,429
Yeah. No, look, four is it four?

524
00:21:37,429 --> 00:21:39,598
We've been next to each other for years
the whole time.

525
00:21:39,598 --> 00:21:41,466
Oh yeah. Pretty much. Okay.

526
00:21:41,466 --> 00:21:43,268
Yeah. Like at least three, four years.

527
00:21:43,268 --> 00:21:45,637
Oh, nice. Yeah. Sorry. No it's okay.

528
00:21:45,637 --> 00:21:47,339
No, no. Yeah. Yeah.
I definitely have seen you.

529
00:21:47,339 --> 00:21:48,840
Yes I don't know. That's
all right. My bad.

530
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:50,409
It was more than two.

531
00:21:50,409 --> 00:21:52,377
I think so, yeah. We've been doing it
like five years now.

532
00:21:52,377 --> 00:21:54,780
Oh nice. Yeah.
You had, you had your singing bowl.

533
00:21:54,780 --> 00:21:56,782
You had a lot of things out. Yes.

534
00:21:56,782 --> 00:21:58,083
So I like to shuffle.

535
00:21:58,083 --> 00:22:00,052
Is purple a certain color
for a certain reason?

536
00:22:00,052 --> 00:22:02,554
Purple is like one of the branding colors.

537
00:22:02,554 --> 00:22:05,791
But I would also say
it's connected to the third eye.

538
00:22:05,791 --> 00:22:07,526
So there is a connection to.

539
00:22:07,526 --> 00:22:11,229
I've a purple shirt
on to the opening of the Third

540
00:22:11,229 --> 00:22:14,733
Eye, the, amethyst stone,
which are very healing.

541
00:22:15,100 --> 00:22:18,103
So yeah, there's definitely
and it's just a color I resonate with.

542
00:22:18,103 --> 00:22:21,239
Like I have certain colors and numbers
that I connect with that mean

543
00:22:21,239 --> 00:22:23,408
certain things to me
that I express myself through.

544
00:22:23,408 --> 00:22:25,777
So it's a wonderful color, I love it.

545
00:22:25,777 --> 00:22:28,246
Yeah. Well, you pointed out the shirt,
so I might as well give it.

546
00:22:28,246 --> 00:22:31,116
Yeah, I got to give my guy a shout out.
That's right. This is Parker

547
00:22:32,150 --> 00:22:33,085
Parker's posse.

548
00:22:33,085 --> 00:22:36,088
Parker's from Bristol. A little guy,

549
00:22:36,788 --> 00:22:39,624
has diagnosed with arthritis,
but he raised.

550
00:22:39,624 --> 00:22:43,295
And we walked at the Hartford
Athletic Stadium for arthritis.

551
00:22:43,295 --> 00:22:46,832
Five k Parker,
one and raised the most money.

552
00:22:46,832 --> 00:22:48,834
So shout out to my guy Parker.

553
00:22:48,834 --> 00:22:50,869
He's a great person and a great friend.

554
00:22:50,869 --> 00:22:54,573
His mom, Mary, and his dad, Paul,
they call him his last name is

555
00:22:55,874 --> 00:22:58,276
positive. Santo a messenger. Yep.

556
00:22:58,276 --> 00:23:00,078
So there's Paul one and two.

557
00:23:00,078 --> 00:23:02,948
Mary Paul and Parker Pope. Sweet.

558
00:23:02,948 --> 00:23:05,150
So shout out to Parker purple.

559
00:23:05,150 --> 00:23:07,419
And he raised the most.
So congratulations again.

560
00:23:07,419 --> 00:23:09,221
He was on with Renee Tenino.

561
00:23:09,221 --> 00:23:11,490
He's a great kid. Great kid.

562
00:23:11,490 --> 00:23:12,891
And I was really honored
to be a part of it.

563
00:23:12,891 --> 00:23:15,494
We're on the back.
It says parents, friends. It's brand new.

564
00:23:16,628 --> 00:23:17,496
School.

565
00:23:17,496 --> 00:23:20,499
Yeah, I see them super cool friends.

566
00:23:20,599 --> 00:23:22,567
That I can't get out of.

567
00:23:22,567 --> 00:23:25,637
Mount Southington and friends and family,
but, Yeah, Mount Southington.

568
00:23:25,637 --> 00:23:27,139
Yeah, they work at Mount.

569
00:23:27,139 --> 00:23:30,142
So I'll do it again. But.

570
00:23:32,177 --> 00:23:32,677
Got it.

571
00:23:32,677 --> 00:23:33,612
Boom.

572
00:23:33,612 --> 00:23:35,781
Yeah. That rock light is.
That was very cool.

573
00:23:35,781 --> 00:23:37,015
So thank you again for that gift.

574
00:23:37,015 --> 00:23:39,518
Yeah. 
Thank you for being our room parents.

575
00:23:39,518 --> 00:23:40,986
You and Karina did a great job.

576
00:23:40,986 --> 00:23:42,120
Thank you.

577
00:23:42,120 --> 00:23:44,055
Is Kinsley still cool with Christian?

578
00:23:44,055 --> 00:23:44,923
Yes. Yeah.

579
00:23:44,923 --> 00:23:47,459
Yep. Is Kinsley still cool with Gus? Yes.

580
00:23:47,459 --> 00:23:50,462
Oh my God, yeah, that's the crew grow.

581
00:23:50,996 --> 00:23:53,999
I want to say Gus and Christian.

582
00:23:54,466 --> 00:23:55,767
Did I have them in second grade?

583
00:23:55,767 --> 00:23:58,770
I had a couple kids I moved up with.

584
00:23:59,504 --> 00:24:01,139
Maybe they were Christian.

585
00:24:01,139 --> 00:24:01,740
Who knows?

586
00:24:01,740 --> 00:24:02,474
It's been a while.

587
00:24:02,474 --> 00:24:04,476
Yeah, I looped with five kids.

588
00:24:04,476 --> 00:24:06,478
Okay. Second grade to third.

589
00:24:06,478 --> 00:24:08,447
Kinsley was not one of them.

590
00:24:08,447 --> 00:24:10,782
No, no, no,
you were his first male teacher.

591
00:24:10,782 --> 00:24:11,683
Because, yes.

592
00:24:11,683 --> 00:24:13,819
I was his best. Best male teacher.

593
00:24:13,819 --> 00:24:15,020
Tell Mr. Dicks that.

594
00:24:15,020 --> 00:24:19,057
He, No, he had a great time with you
in that classroom.

595
00:24:19,090 --> 00:24:20,258
Really? It was really.

596
00:24:20,258 --> 00:24:21,460
He's a great. Kid.

597
00:24:21,460 --> 00:24:23,562
It's easy to have a good time
with good kids, right?

598
00:24:23,562 --> 00:24:24,329
Yeah. Yeah.

599
00:24:24,329 --> 00:24:27,632
Kind good. Kid, good kid. Yeah.

600
00:24:29,034 --> 00:24:30,235
Oh, and then Kinsley dad,

601
00:24:30,235 --> 00:24:34,105
once at drop off, was wearing
an American Dream Team hat USA hat.

602
00:24:34,105 --> 00:24:37,242
I'm like, oh, that's that's an awesome
first day of school.

603
00:24:37,242 --> 00:24:40,212
I said that last day of school.
You know what I got as a gift? What?

604
00:24:40,212 --> 00:24:41,480
The hat you did.

605
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:42,347
Oh my guy Mike.

606
00:24:42,347 --> 00:24:43,682
Thank you. Awesome.

607
00:24:43,682 --> 00:24:45,984
Oh, so you. Guys hooked it up.
So thank you so much.

608
00:24:45,984 --> 00:24:47,085
She's going to it's going to it's

609
00:24:47,085 --> 00:24:49,921
going to get a lot of hats
and a lot of sneakers.

610
00:24:49,921 --> 00:24:51,990
My dad he's a collector. Yeah. So.

611
00:24:51,990 --> 00:24:54,259
Oh yeah I complimented his J's too. Yeah.

612
00:24:54,259 --> 00:24:55,427
Jordans. Yeah. Mike.

613
00:24:55,427 --> 00:24:57,562
Nice hat, nice sneakers.

614
00:24:57,562 --> 00:25:00,298
He wears, like a size 15 or something too.

615
00:25:00,298 --> 00:25:03,268
Yeah, because I'm a size 11,
and I was like, maybe.

616
00:25:03,268 --> 00:25:04,669
You're like, no. I'm not going. To work.

617
00:25:06,505 --> 00:25:07,372
What are some.

618
00:25:07,372 --> 00:25:08,840
So I had some questions.

619
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,609
I looked on mine.

620
00:25:10,609 --> 00:25:13,378
Body medicine and energy medicine.

621
00:25:13,378 --> 00:25:14,145
Yeah.

622
00:25:14,145 --> 00:25:16,548
Can you compare and contrast those two?

623
00:25:16,548 --> 00:25:17,916
Yeah. So it seems like a.

624
00:25:17,916 --> 00:25:21,653
Those are two of the main modalities
that I'm trained

625
00:25:21,653 --> 00:25:24,656
in, in terms of complementary
and alternative medicine.

626
00:25:24,756 --> 00:25:30,962
And my body medicine is really
any techniques that are either kind of

627
00:25:30,996 --> 00:25:35,200
being used from the body to help the mind
or to use the mind to help the body

628
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,503
or techniques that support
both the physical and the mental.

629
00:25:38,837 --> 00:25:39,204
Right.

630
00:25:39,204 --> 00:25:43,742
So, meditation can be a mind body
technique, right?

631
00:25:43,742 --> 00:25:48,013
I do a lot of meditation using the body
to induce a deep relaxation.

632
00:25:48,013 --> 00:25:48,547
Right.

633
00:25:48,547 --> 00:25:52,250
Or again, using the imagery
to relax the body so you know, different.

634
00:25:52,250 --> 00:25:54,085
The tapping is another example of that.

635
00:25:54,085 --> 00:25:55,086
What about okay.

636
00:25:55,086 --> 00:25:55,654
Yeah.

637
00:25:55,654 --> 00:25:57,122
So spirituality.

638
00:25:57,122 --> 00:25:58,223
Spirituality. Yeah.

639
00:25:58,223 --> 00:26:00,458
So you praying to a god or something else.

640
00:26:00,458 --> 00:26:01,359
So with the mind body though

641
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:05,263
I want to just talk about like I know
biofeedback is another kind of practice.

642
00:26:05,263 --> 00:26:09,034
I don't know if you're familiar with it,
which is so freaking incredible.

643
00:26:09,234 --> 00:26:10,502
It's an older model.

644
00:26:10,502 --> 00:26:11,870
It's been around like for PTSD,

645
00:26:11,870 --> 00:26:16,408
the vets, you know, from many, many, 
kind of, times ago.

646
00:26:16,641 --> 00:26:21,079
And it's very, very powerful,
and a technique for,

647
00:26:21,112 --> 00:26:25,650
you know, working with PTSD
and these kind of things, so I can that's

648
00:26:25,650 --> 00:26:27,852
I feel like that's a whole world
speaking about how that works,

649
00:26:27,852 --> 00:26:28,353
but it's really

650
00:26:28,353 --> 00:26:31,356
like working with the brain waves
or muscle tension, your heart rates.

651
00:26:32,157 --> 00:26:35,694
And through imagery and breathwork
meditations, really learning

652
00:26:35,694 --> 00:26:40,231
how to calm your brainwaves down
to different levels,

653
00:26:40,432 --> 00:26:44,436
really working with the muscle tension
to help relax and and diety.

654
00:26:44,769 --> 00:26:46,771
So it's super, super cool.

655
00:26:46,771 --> 00:26:49,774
And there's a lot
within that Eden energy medicine.

656
00:26:49,975 --> 00:26:52,744
I come up. Sorry. Yeah. Go for it.

657
00:26:52,744 --> 00:26:53,478
So now

658
00:26:54,546 --> 00:26:56,281
let's go.

659
00:26:56,281 --> 00:26:58,016
It's one of my faves. Gymnast.

660
00:26:58,016 --> 00:26:59,884
You're still being a gymnast?

661
00:26:59,884 --> 00:27:02,621
Not anymore. I you keep. Track.

662
00:27:02,621 --> 00:27:04,823
Awesome. Come say hi to the camera.
Come on. Say hi.

663
00:27:04,823 --> 00:27:06,091
Right here.

664
00:27:06,091 --> 00:27:08,159
Hello, son. Are you.

665
00:27:08,159 --> 00:27:09,527
Do you like me? We're doing a pod.

666
00:27:09,527 --> 00:27:11,696
This is. Jenny's
one of my students parents.

667
00:27:11,696 --> 00:27:15,600
So psychotherapist
may is mental health month.

668
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:19,170
Yeah, yeah, yeah, which is awesome.

669
00:27:19,170 --> 00:27:21,740
Yeah, it's called
Feeney Talks with friends on YouTube.

670
00:27:21,740 --> 00:27:23,842
This is episode 137.

671
00:27:23,842 --> 00:27:25,910
You're going to be on there? Yes.

672
00:27:25,910 --> 00:27:28,480
You know, no. It's great.

673
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,349
What grade are you in there? I was, okay.

674
00:27:31,349 --> 00:27:34,586
Yeah, I went to your gymnastics thing
and you came in first place.

675
00:27:34,586 --> 00:27:37,022
It was amazing. That's awesome. All right.

676
00:27:37,022 --> 00:27:39,290
Love that. I want to keep you up.
So great to see you.

677
00:27:39,290 --> 00:27:42,594
Nice to meet you.
Take care. Okay. Oh, yeah.

678
00:27:42,661 --> 00:27:43,628
I love that.

679
00:27:43,628 --> 00:27:44,462
Yeah, that was great.

680
00:27:44,462 --> 00:27:46,231
I've seen old clients though. Yeah.

681
00:27:46,231 --> 00:27:48,800
If this out of me.
So I'm like I can't say hi to them.

682
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:49,801
They have this anime.

683
00:27:49,801 --> 00:27:50,268
True.

684
00:27:50,268 --> 00:27:52,804
That's a little I know one of the many.

685
00:27:52,804 --> 00:27:53,672
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

686
00:27:53,672 --> 00:27:54,305
Who's this guy?

687
00:27:54,305 --> 00:27:57,208
I don't know this guy. I'm like hey you.

688
00:27:57,208 --> 00:27:59,377
Oh no. She. Oh that's tastic.

689
00:27:59,377 --> 00:28:01,179
So add that in.

690
00:28:01,179 --> 00:28:02,514
So what's Kinsley in now?

691
00:28:02,514 --> 00:28:05,283
Seventh grade. He's sixth grade,
sixth grade, sixth grade.

692
00:28:05,283 --> 00:28:07,986
And then going through
all those nice changes.

693
00:28:07,986 --> 00:28:08,720
But he's doing good.

694
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,288
He's got. The mustache. Yeah.

695
00:28:10,288 --> 00:28:12,691
Oh yeah. It's coming
in. Is he talking like this? You know.

696
00:28:12,691 --> 00:28:14,926
Yeah. Well, what's for dinner?

697
00:28:14,926 --> 00:28:17,429
Did try to get in my bed last night.
I was like, you are way too big.

698
00:28:17,429 --> 00:28:20,331
I'm like, get out of here, okay.
We can't sleep like this anymore.

699
00:28:20,331 --> 00:28:22,834
Oh my God.
He's like, come on. I'm like, not go.

700
00:28:22,834 --> 00:28:24,002
So anyways, yeah.

701
00:28:24,002 --> 00:28:27,539
So the eat the eat an energy medicine is
another, you know, kind of training.

702
00:28:27,539 --> 00:28:30,775
It's really working with like nine
energetic bodies of the human

703
00:28:30,775 --> 00:28:32,210
that's like beyond. It's
not in the textbooks.

704
00:28:32,210 --> 00:28:35,013
It's stuff
that like it's just so hard to explain,

705
00:28:35,013 --> 00:28:37,749
but it's also working
with Chinese medicine and,

706
00:28:37,749 --> 00:28:40,952
you know, just a mixing
of a whole bunch of different things.

707
00:28:40,952 --> 00:28:44,723
So that is another technique where again,
we do the tapping, we do the acupuncture,

708
00:28:44,956 --> 00:28:50,962
we do a lot of like more like moving the
body, shaking it, sweeping energies away.

709
00:28:51,029 --> 00:28:53,298
Oh yeah. So we
we must live in the same neighborhood.

710
00:28:53,298 --> 00:28:56,234
But when I see you walk. Yes.
You're reaching up.

711
00:28:56,234 --> 00:28:58,737
Yes. You're going,
you're doing arm movements.

712
00:28:58,737 --> 00:28:59,671
You're not just walking.

713
00:28:59,671 --> 00:29:02,373
No. So is that something
that you're talking about?

714
00:29:02,373 --> 00:29:05,343
So I do qigong.
Qigong is a practice. It's like.

715
00:29:05,343 --> 00:29:05,977
Qigong.

716
00:29:05,977 --> 00:29:10,181
Qigong Kee yong gong a g o energy

717
00:29:10,248 --> 00:29:13,151
Q you g like there's like technical
way of doing it.

718
00:29:13,151 --> 00:29:14,285
Just like depending on the language.

719
00:29:14,285 --> 00:29:15,854
I think you're speaking. Gotcha.

720
00:29:15,854 --> 00:29:19,758
But I think it's technical as Q
you Gyeonggi could be wrong.

721
00:29:19,758 --> 00:29:20,558
Can't remember now.

722
00:29:20,558 --> 00:29:24,295
But yeah, so that's just like again,
a lot of like, You do a lot of.

723
00:29:24,529 --> 00:29:26,197
Physical.

724
00:29:26,197 --> 00:29:28,233
Everything's very smooth
and fluid with your.

725
00:29:28,233 --> 00:29:28,633
Moves, right?

726
00:29:28,633 --> 00:29:31,636
Like everything like yoga. Right.

727
00:29:31,669 --> 00:29:32,971
Can you do walking yoga.

728
00:29:32,971 --> 00:29:35,774
Is that what you're doing? Yes,
I do that as well. Yeah, that's a thing.

729
00:29:35,774 --> 00:29:36,274
Yeah.

730
00:29:36,274 --> 00:29:37,142
You didn't just make it up.

731
00:29:37,142 --> 00:29:39,744
No walking yoga or sitting yoga.

732
00:29:39,744 --> 00:29:43,615
So we do a lot of like chair
yoga is a big one right now for people.

733
00:29:43,948 --> 00:29:46,785
Can't move too much. I can bend heavier.

734
00:29:46,785 --> 00:29:47,352
That might be.

735
00:29:47,352 --> 00:29:50,855
But literally you can do a nice 30 minute
session of yoga on a chair.

736
00:29:50,989 --> 00:29:54,459
So I'm trained in that also like
aromatherapy is another big one

737
00:29:54,459 --> 00:29:57,662
that I use or plant medicine
I have like the best essential oils.

738
00:29:57,962 --> 00:30:00,098
I feel aroma that just came in and out.

739
00:30:00,098 --> 00:30:02,000
Like, well, that's an aroma.

740
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:02,600
It's a good one.

741
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:03,601
Depending on what's going on.

742
00:30:03,601 --> 00:30:08,940
But you know, so yeah, so doing 
so I tailor like my oils in the office

743
00:30:08,940 --> 00:30:09,908
every day.

744
00:30:09,908 --> 00:30:13,912
I kind of intuitively make blends
on what I'm feeling,

745
00:30:13,912 --> 00:30:16,915
but other oils that I have are working
on different parts of the brain.

746
00:30:17,248 --> 00:30:19,784
So, like, I'm pretty research in that.

747
00:30:19,784 --> 00:30:22,487
And I know kind of the clients,
the press. I'll pull one out special.

748
00:30:22,487 --> 00:30:24,022
Let's let's start with this.

749
00:30:24,022 --> 00:30:25,356
Let's shake up a little bit

750
00:30:25,356 --> 00:30:28,593
and then or at the end to ground back in
after a stressful session.

751
00:30:28,593 --> 00:30:29,928
So I use that in so many different ways.

752
00:30:29,928 --> 00:30:32,931
But that's super impactful
and sustainable, right.

753
00:30:32,931 --> 00:30:37,435
So a lot of the work that I do is it's
really cool because yes, at the beginning

754
00:30:37,435 --> 00:30:41,072
the practitioner needs to facilitate,
and I very much use it in clinical ways.

755
00:30:41,372 --> 00:30:44,542
But I teach my clients everything
so they leave or they,

756
00:30:44,576 --> 00:30:45,977
you know, start to create this.

757
00:30:45,977 --> 00:30:47,212
What I literally I have them do in

758
00:30:47,212 --> 00:30:50,582
their homes is like this huge board
mind body spirit practices.

759
00:30:50,949 --> 00:30:52,951
So when I wake up, how am I feeling?

760
00:30:52,951 --> 00:30:56,588
I teach them how to check in, checking
in everything, assessing their energy,

761
00:30:56,588 --> 00:30:59,490
and then, okay, I'm feeling this, I'm
going to do this, this imagery,

762
00:30:59,490 --> 00:31:00,391
okay, I'm feeling this.

763
00:31:00,391 --> 00:31:02,493
I'm going to go do this body
work. I'm feeling this.

764
00:31:02,493 --> 00:31:06,764
So they they if this do that,
they have this organized system

765
00:31:06,998 --> 00:31:09,901
of all these techniques that we use
because there really are so many.

766
00:31:11,069 --> 00:31:11,669
Do you ever see the

767
00:31:11,669 --> 00:31:15,206
ones where it's like take ten
deep breaths, look in the mirror, say,

768
00:31:15,206 --> 00:31:18,576
I love you, drink some water
or read a book, do some push ups.

769
00:31:19,310 --> 00:31:20,912
I've I done that one.

770
00:31:20,912 --> 00:31:23,147
How's that one sound?
I saw it on Instagram.

771
00:31:23,147 --> 00:31:24,782
I think I do mirror work.

772
00:31:24,782 --> 00:31:27,986
So again me as a clinician
how I do things is very different.

773
00:31:27,986 --> 00:31:29,554
It's much more tailored.

774
00:31:29,554 --> 00:31:32,023
It's much harder,
you know clinically focused.

775
00:31:32,023 --> 00:31:33,892
So I'm all about the mirror work.

776
00:31:33,892 --> 00:31:36,828
Yeah I think look. In the mirror and say.
Mirror.

777
00:31:36,828 --> 00:31:38,329
It's never that easy.

778
00:31:38,329 --> 00:31:41,199
Who, depending who we're talking to
that could actually backlash you.

779
00:31:41,199 --> 00:31:45,603
If you tell a person to look in the mirror
and their self-talk is so dark and deep,

780
00:31:45,603 --> 00:31:47,505
and then it could lead to,
I don't want to be.

781
00:31:47,505 --> 00:31:50,108
I mean, I'm saying it's, dependent
who are working with,

782
00:31:50,108 --> 00:31:50,608
you know what I'm saying?

783
00:31:50,608 --> 00:31:55,246
But a client mirror work is a very,
you know, sensitive technique.

784
00:31:55,246 --> 00:31:56,514
It's not for everybody.

785
00:31:56,514 --> 00:32:00,151
So I think maybe when you see
these TikToks and these, they generalize

786
00:32:00,151 --> 00:32:03,721
these techniques, that's the difference
between somebody doing an TikTok versus

787
00:32:03,721 --> 00:32:07,825
a practitioner who's trained and knows
when to use these certain technique.

788
00:32:07,825 --> 00:32:08,359
Interesting.

789
00:32:08,359 --> 00:32:08,593
Yeah.

790
00:32:08,593 --> 00:32:12,163
I'm glad you said that
because I could be found as Joe Schmo

791
00:32:13,564 --> 00:32:16,200
and it might not work the way it should.

792
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,636
No, because he has no background,
no training.

793
00:32:18,636 --> 00:32:21,272
He's just some guy on YouTube
telling, right?

794
00:32:21,272 --> 00:32:22,740
Tell yourself you love.

795
00:32:22,740 --> 00:32:24,676
I love myself is going to be a great day.

796
00:32:24,676 --> 00:32:26,377
I think there's a time
and a place for that,

797
00:32:26,377 --> 00:32:28,179
but I just not everyone's going to be

798
00:32:28,179 --> 00:32:30,048
see that, understand
that, be able to do that.

799
00:32:30,048 --> 00:32:33,551
It's so it's it's depending on where you
are truly with yourself and you're like

800
00:32:34,118 --> 00:32:36,821
self-awareness and you're healing
and you're where, you know what I mean?

801
00:32:36,821 --> 00:32:39,157
Like your, your, your current state.

802
00:32:39,157 --> 00:32:42,193
That would dictate kind of like
if that could be beneficial or not,

803
00:32:43,194 --> 00:32:45,163
but it's. All. Intersubjective.

804
00:32:45,163 --> 00:32:46,831
Yeah.

805
00:32:46,831 --> 00:32:48,166
What would you say?

806
00:32:48,166 --> 00:32:51,002
I it's a tough question, but what would
what would be your first advice

807
00:32:51,002 --> 00:32:53,972
for someone
that has anxiety or depression.

808
00:32:54,205 --> 00:32:54,839
That tough.

809
00:32:56,374 --> 00:32:57,375
Recognize that you have

810
00:32:57,375 --> 00:33:00,378
it and name it, name it, name it.

811
00:33:00,378 --> 00:33:03,381
Name it one or the other,
or give it a name like Charlie or Bob.

812
00:33:03,381 --> 00:33:07,251
No, no, like not name it like, give it a
name, but like know that you have anxiety.

813
00:33:07,251 --> 00:33:10,421
I have a lot of clients that have been
functioning in these energies,

814
00:33:10,421 --> 00:33:13,624
in these ways for so long
that they will often say, this is me.

815
00:33:14,092 --> 00:33:16,327
And I'm like, this isn't you.

816
00:33:16,327 --> 00:33:19,130
This is the condition
that that you think is you.

817
00:33:19,130 --> 00:33:22,133
You're you're like deeply in in there,
but that's not you.

818
00:33:22,266 --> 00:33:25,303
So a lot of people have just get so used
to this state of being

819
00:33:25,303 --> 00:33:28,539
frazzled, worried, stressed out you know.

820
00:33:28,539 --> 00:33:30,208
Yeah. And that's their
that's the baseline.

821
00:33:30,208 --> 00:33:33,244
So when I say like name
it it seems simple.

822
00:33:33,244 --> 00:33:36,280
But you know a lot of people
don't even know this is like their norm.

823
00:33:36,714 --> 00:33:40,084
So coming to therapy and validating
know you have a diagnosis.

824
00:33:40,084 --> 00:33:41,252
This is what this is,

825
00:33:41,252 --> 00:33:45,089
is that alone is a life changer
because it's like oh my God, really?

826
00:33:45,089 --> 00:33:47,225
I never even knew that this isn't normal.

827
00:33:47,225 --> 00:33:48,793
This isn't all supposed to be.

828
00:33:48,793 --> 00:33:50,495
I'm not supposed to be acting this way.

829
00:33:50,495 --> 00:33:54,399
So a lot of times we just accept
it's just yeah, the naming it

830
00:33:54,399 --> 00:33:58,169
and the acceptance is another aspect
that I have clients that still 1

831
00:33:58,169 --> 00:34:01,172
to 2 years, three years cannot accept it.

832
00:34:01,439 --> 00:34:03,474
And when I see that
in that their conditions. Right.

833
00:34:03,474 --> 00:34:05,843
And that could be any medical condition
because at the end of the day,

834
00:34:05,843 --> 00:34:09,047
we're dealt with whatever we're dealt with
and not everything's going to go away.

835
00:34:09,047 --> 00:34:12,583
But learning to live with things in peace
and happiness is what we can do.

836
00:34:12,884 --> 00:34:14,352
Those are our choices.

837
00:34:14,352 --> 00:34:17,855
So the accepting of it, for some people
with a lot of trauma

838
00:34:17,889 --> 00:34:21,726
who've been judged their whole,
you know, their whole lives, the,

839
00:34:21,726 --> 00:34:25,496
it's it's this kind of like, 
what's the word like,

840
00:34:25,496 --> 00:34:29,200
defensiveness of like, I'm not going to
keep changing who I am, I don't I

841
00:34:29,233 --> 00:34:30,902
the whole the world always told me I'm

842
00:34:30,902 --> 00:34:33,571
not good enough,
and now I have to accept this.

843
00:34:33,571 --> 00:34:35,440
And, 
you know, so it's within that context.

844
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,109
And, like I hear you that we're kind of,
you know, bundling this

845
00:34:38,109 --> 00:34:41,112
into all the negative
you've heard about you your whole life,

846
00:34:41,145 --> 00:34:42,980
and you're here,
and that's why you don't love yourself.

847
00:34:42,980 --> 00:34:45,383
And you have such a negative,
you know, self script.

848
00:34:45,383 --> 00:34:49,854
But in this case, this is a condition
that was read that resulted from trauma,

849
00:34:50,721 --> 00:34:53,724
her abuse in your life and the mind.

850
00:34:53,858 --> 00:34:57,295
You know, I mean, God created
a whole new script based on what you heard

851
00:34:57,361 --> 00:34:58,830
that was very not healthy.

852
00:34:58,830 --> 00:35:00,932
So it's like helping people see, you know,
you're not

853
00:35:00,932 --> 00:35:03,534
we're not blaming you like,
this is nobody's fault.

854
00:35:03,534 --> 00:35:05,403
This happened
because you're like a sponge.

855
00:35:05,403 --> 00:35:08,005
Humans are.
We just absorb, absorb, absorb, absorb.

856
00:35:08,005 --> 00:35:09,841
And when you have parents
that are fighting all the time,

857
00:35:09,841 --> 00:35:10,608
that are not happy,

858
00:35:10,608 --> 00:35:13,611
that are miserable, that maybe sometimes
don't even connect with you,

859
00:35:14,112 --> 00:35:17,849
which is sadly that a lot
that exists, you know, that becomes

860
00:35:17,849 --> 00:35:21,586
like your own script and that becomes
like your own self-perception.

861
00:35:21,752 --> 00:35:22,253
Right?

862
00:35:22,253 --> 00:35:26,791
So it's it's powerful
to help them empower them by

863
00:35:27,758 --> 00:35:30,495
naming it, but also knowing that there's
so much more behind this.

864
00:35:30,495 --> 00:35:31,262
But we have to know

865
00:35:31,262 --> 00:35:34,465
that this is a deep layer that's not you,
and you have to know this, you know.

866
00:35:35,133 --> 00:35:38,102
And then does it a certain age,

867
00:35:38,469 --> 00:35:43,708
you know, affect mental health different
like younger or older when you get like

868
00:35:44,408 --> 00:35:47,678
old or older this mental health affects
you differently.

869
00:35:47,712 --> 00:35:51,115
Obviously I don't know 
I don't know if it affects you differently

870
00:35:51,115 --> 00:35:53,284
because I
mean, depression is depression, right?

871
00:35:53,284 --> 00:35:56,821
But I mean, in terms of the
the typical common kind of symptoms.

872
00:35:56,821 --> 00:36:00,391
Yeah, I think the more life you have them

873
00:36:00,691 --> 00:36:05,530
and the longer you live in that pathology
and more hurtful

874
00:36:05,530 --> 00:36:09,000
experiences happen because you are living
from not feeling worthy enough.

875
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,602
So you're an unhealthy relationship,
you're miserable,

876
00:36:11,602 --> 00:36:13,171
you don't have a relationship
with your kids,

877
00:36:13,171 --> 00:36:15,973
you don't go after your career,
you're not happy.

878
00:36:15,973 --> 00:36:21,279
So you can see the older
person has more layers of pain, trauma

879
00:36:21,279 --> 00:36:24,582
that's still rooted from the same thing
that they are, you know, depression.

880
00:36:25,082 --> 00:36:28,419
So it gets more it's more complex,
many more layers

881
00:36:28,419 --> 00:36:31,923
to kind of unravel from, 
but healing is possible.

882
00:36:31,923 --> 00:36:33,691
And I think that's a big piece
of what I want to say.

883
00:36:33,691 --> 00:36:37,428
Like why I'm so passionate about
this is like healing can happen to anyone.

884
00:36:38,329 --> 00:36:38,963
And they are the.

885
00:36:38,963 --> 00:36:42,733
Age, no matter what age,
no, it's a subjective word healing.

886
00:36:42,733 --> 00:36:43,467
It really is.

887
00:36:43,467 --> 00:36:45,736
I don't see it as a black and white word,
you know what I mean?

888
00:36:45,736 --> 00:36:50,942
I think healing can be knowing your
condition, knowing how to keep it at bay,

889
00:36:50,942 --> 00:36:53,377
knowing how to tend to it,
knowing how to prevent it.

890
00:36:53,377 --> 00:36:54,979
But you still may have symptoms

891
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:56,647
and that's

892
00:36:56,647 --> 00:37:00,451
healing, you know, I mean, for
some people who are minerals,

893
00:37:00,551 --> 00:37:04,288
very stress variables
just had maybe one situation happened.

894
00:37:04,288 --> 00:37:07,592
Every good support system,
more protective factors.

895
00:37:07,959 --> 00:37:13,531
They will be able to move through things
faster or eliminate symptomology.

896
00:37:13,698 --> 00:37:15,633
So when a client's like
how long am I going to be like this?

897
00:37:15,633 --> 00:37:16,601
I'm like, tell me,

898
00:37:16,601 --> 00:37:19,470
like I can, I can tell you within
six months you're going to be here.

899
00:37:19,470 --> 00:37:20,738
Within a year you'll be here.

900
00:37:20,738 --> 00:37:22,373
Within a couple years you'll be here.

901
00:37:22,373 --> 00:37:24,275
So my treatment is usually 2 to 3 years.

902
00:37:24,275 --> 00:37:27,278
So it's very long term
deep, deep, deep work.

903
00:37:27,645 --> 00:37:28,813
But it's life changing.

904
00:37:28,813 --> 00:37:30,548
They don't have to come back to therapy.

905
00:37:30,548 --> 00:37:34,585
A lot of my clients come after 15,
20 years of therapy,

906
00:37:34,585 --> 00:37:37,588
you know, and just have not been able
to move through.

907
00:37:37,688 --> 00:37:41,359
And then I, you know, they come in with me
and it's like, it's a life changer.

908
00:37:41,459 --> 00:37:42,159
Nice. Yeah.

909
00:37:43,427 --> 00:37:43,728
All right.

910
00:37:43,728 --> 00:37:46,731
You heard it here first. 998

911
00:37:47,231 --> 00:37:48,666
enlightened counsel setting

912
00:37:48,666 --> 00:37:51,669
our integrative psychotherapy.

913
00:37:51,902 --> 00:37:53,537
Jenny and Nicole.

914
00:37:53,537 --> 00:37:54,238
Yeah.

915
00:37:54,238 --> 00:37:56,674
So, Nicole, my motto is be a good friend.

916
00:37:56,674 --> 00:37:57,775
Hold the door.

917
00:37:57,775 --> 00:37:59,377
Pick up trash. It's not yours.

918
00:37:59,377 --> 00:38:01,412
Give compliments. Be charitable.

919
00:38:01,412 --> 00:38:03,914
Smile, smile I love smiling.

920
00:38:03,914 --> 00:38:06,350
What makes Nicole a good friend?

921
00:38:06,350 --> 00:38:09,353
What makes Nicole a good friend is her

922
00:38:09,854 --> 00:38:11,856
support. Unconditional support.

923
00:38:11,856 --> 00:38:12,990
She knows me.

924
00:38:12,990 --> 00:38:15,393
She knows my energies.
She knows my passion.

925
00:38:15,393 --> 00:38:20,131
She trusts me and believes in me and
really gives me a lot of space to create.

926
00:38:20,431 --> 00:38:23,901
She has her, you know, role within
the practice, which she's very happy with.

927
00:38:24,201 --> 00:38:27,338
So we're both very balanced
and happy in what we're doing.

928
00:38:27,338 --> 00:38:28,472
So that's great.

929
00:38:28,472 --> 00:38:33,444
Like, I feel, you know, just support
and openness and honesty of it.

930
00:38:33,544 --> 00:38:36,514
Yeah. Nicole, you're a good friend. Yeah.

931
00:38:36,514 --> 00:38:38,516
What minute are we.
So we could send this to Nicole.

932
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:44,488
Then at 39.

933
00:38:44,488 --> 00:38:48,092
What about someone that's like, oh, you're
depressed, you got to get out and move.

934
00:38:48,092 --> 00:38:49,727
You got to get out and exercise.

935
00:38:49,727 --> 00:38:54,565
But that person that's depressed is like,
I can't I'm like stuck, I can't move.

936
00:38:54,565 --> 00:38:55,399
Or when someone

937
00:38:55,399 --> 00:38:58,703
it's so easy for the outsider to say,
hey, you got to move, you got to move.

938
00:38:59,136 --> 00:39:00,871
What, what where's the challenge?

939
00:39:00,871 --> 00:39:04,675
Where's the where's the suggestion
or advice for that situation.

940
00:39:04,675 --> 00:39:05,843
Compassion.

941
00:39:05,843 --> 00:39:10,081
Is the first step understanding
that it's not by choice

942
00:39:10,314 --> 00:39:13,417
and, and really you know, holding space
for how hard that must be

943
00:39:13,818 --> 00:39:17,355
that you can't move your body, you know,
and that if you could, you would.

944
00:39:17,722 --> 00:39:18,122
Yeah.

945
00:39:18,122 --> 00:39:21,692
So I always tell people like oh you're I'm
like, you don't people don't understand.

946
00:39:21,692 --> 00:39:24,695
I just like there's so much
depth in everything.

947
00:39:24,762 --> 00:39:27,365
It's not of a person
just refusing to be lazy like I.

948
00:39:27,365 --> 00:39:30,368
I hate that
because that's there's such a story there.

949
00:39:30,401 --> 00:39:32,103
It's not
I don't want to be lazy, you know?

950
00:39:32,103 --> 00:39:35,339
I mean, it's there's so many other
variables and factors that go into that.

951
00:39:35,339 --> 00:39:39,643
So compassion, validation of what they've
been feeling with how hard that must be.

952
00:39:40,111 --> 00:39:42,513
And then,
you know, through that connection again,

953
00:39:42,513 --> 00:39:45,015
if I was a therapist, it's
that would create that space

954
00:39:45,015 --> 00:39:47,585
and they start to open up
about what's going on.

955
00:39:47,585 --> 00:39:49,987
And it's, there's
so many different stories and things that,

956
00:39:49,987 --> 00:39:52,790
you know, you wouldn't even imagine, like,
oh, I don't have clothes to fit in.

957
00:39:52,790 --> 00:39:53,657
I don't have clothes anymore.

958
00:39:53,657 --> 00:39:56,093
I have one client, one client
that has this condition.

959
00:39:56,093 --> 00:39:59,497
Now she sweats just walking
from the stairs to the elevator,

960
00:39:59,864 --> 00:40:01,632
you know, I mean,
so she's super embarrassed.

961
00:40:01,632 --> 00:40:04,402
You know, I have other people
that don't have a space to walk

962
00:40:04,402 --> 00:40:06,270
because they live in, like,
huge buildings.

963
00:40:06,270 --> 00:40:09,073
And there's, you know,
I mean, so there's just so many scenarios.

964
00:40:09,073 --> 00:40:12,176
And humans, some humans are so,
you know, easy to judge and be like,

965
00:40:12,176 --> 00:40:13,644
that's bad, that's good.

966
00:40:13,644 --> 00:40:15,513
And I'm like,
you guys don't even know shit.

967
00:40:15,513 --> 00:40:17,982
You know what I mean?
There's so much else going on.

968
00:40:17,982 --> 00:40:19,917
So validation. Yeah.

969
00:40:19,917 --> 00:40:25,623
How would someone that's struggling
with aging like getting older is tough on

970
00:40:25,623 --> 00:40:26,824
some people have, you know,

971
00:40:26,824 --> 00:40:27,491
do you have clients

972
00:40:27,491 --> 00:40:31,762
that struggle with that or does that lead
to anxiety and depression?

973
00:40:31,762 --> 00:40:34,832
And what suggestions and advice
do you have for someone like that?

974
00:40:35,099 --> 00:40:38,702
Yeah, I mean, I have
one of my new clients is in her early 60s

975
00:40:39,069 --> 00:40:42,973
and she's looking at retirement
and, you know, she wants to travel.

976
00:40:42,973 --> 00:40:44,942
She's gained a lot of weight in the last,

977
00:40:44,942 --> 00:40:47,945
you know,
whatever amount of, of months or years.

978
00:40:48,179 --> 00:40:51,849
And so she is depressed, right.

979
00:40:51,849 --> 00:40:55,352
And she obviously, you know, wants to
and she's focusing on the aging.

980
00:40:55,953 --> 00:40:59,457
And I'm helping her read,
you know, change that picture because

981
00:40:59,457 --> 00:41:02,893
it's not the aging, it's the body's
still strong and doing its thing.

982
00:41:02,893 --> 00:41:03,160
Right.

983
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:07,364
It's the decisions of choices that
we're making because of the idea of aging.

984
00:41:08,999 --> 00:41:10,801
So you then you start to build
and you really it's

985
00:41:10,801 --> 00:41:14,071
not about the aging, it's
the energy connected to the idea of aging.

986
00:41:15,306 --> 00:41:19,076
So once we explain that,
which again, is very central nervous, the.

987
00:41:19,076 --> 00:41:19,877
Idea.

988
00:41:19,877 --> 00:41:23,147
Of aging, that makes it scary.

989
00:41:23,247 --> 00:41:23,981
Yeah.

990
00:41:23,981 --> 00:41:26,851
But so it's more up here than yes here.

991
00:41:26,851 --> 00:41:28,719
Yes, yes. Interesting.

992
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:32,623
And I mean,
I do believe that the body is made to last

993
00:41:32,756 --> 00:41:35,326
and can I often
will say I want to die healthy.

994
00:41:35,326 --> 00:41:38,496
That's what I say about myself,
because I don't think I need disease

995
00:41:39,029 --> 00:41:42,032
to, you know, equate getting older.

996
00:41:42,066 --> 00:41:45,269
I want to die healthy
because the system is made to support us

997
00:41:45,269 --> 00:41:46,270
for some amount of time.

998
00:41:46,270 --> 00:41:50,274
And it has this beautiful, automatic way
of taking care of itself

999
00:41:50,274 --> 00:41:51,542
and being so horrible.

1000
00:41:51,542 --> 00:41:53,511
This avatar, I call it sometimes, really.

1001
00:41:53,511 --> 00:41:58,082
And so yeah, so aging doesn't equal that.

1002
00:41:58,449 --> 00:41:59,216
Not in my mind.

1003
00:41:59,216 --> 00:42:01,452
It doesn't, you know,
but there's a lot of other aspects.

1004
00:42:01,452 --> 00:42:04,288
So as a therapist, we can't change
the reality of things like your aging.

1005
00:42:04,288 --> 00:42:04,989
Yeah.

1006
00:42:04,989 --> 00:42:07,658
But it's really helping them,
you know, reframe

1007
00:42:07,658 --> 00:42:09,326
reframing is everything in therapy.

1008
00:42:09,326 --> 00:42:12,096
And a lot of my clients be like,
what you just said, just this,

1009
00:42:12,096 --> 00:42:15,266
is that reframing is like,
oh, she never saw that perspective.

1010
00:42:15,299 --> 00:42:18,235
Yeah. And then that just gets them
into a whole different understanding.

1011
00:42:18,235 --> 00:42:20,771
It's a different, you know, angle.

1012
00:42:20,771 --> 00:42:22,473
It gives them more power to do new things.

1013
00:42:22,473 --> 00:42:24,174
It's just so, so amazing.

1014
00:42:24,174 --> 00:42:26,310
So aging is part of life.

1015
00:42:26,310 --> 00:42:29,480
You know, all of us,
I mean, I'm getting I'm getting older and

1016
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:31,382
and I see it, I'm just like,
oh, it's so beautiful.

1017
00:42:31,382 --> 00:42:32,850
Like, I mean, what do you get to do?

1018
00:42:32,850 --> 00:42:34,718
Okay. For like, interesting. Yeah.

1019
00:42:34,718 --> 00:42:36,287
I got the receding hairline going.

1020
00:42:36,287 --> 00:42:37,588
I got the gray hair going.

1021
00:42:37,588 --> 00:42:38,155
Oh. Me too.

1022
00:42:38,155 --> 00:42:40,791
The gray hair got. The comb over.

1023
00:42:40,791 --> 00:42:42,693
Oh, I have my aging things happening too.

1024
00:42:42,693 --> 00:42:43,661
What about.

1025
00:42:43,661 --> 00:42:44,328
Oh, so I.

1026
00:42:44,328 --> 00:42:46,830
Just so humbling I love it I think. Yes.

1027
00:42:48,332 --> 00:42:49,567
And I'm telling all the third

1028
00:42:49,567 --> 00:42:52,603
graders because this is the first time
they take Spanish and I'm, like,

1029
00:42:52,836 --> 00:42:56,073
learning Spanish or learning
another language is like a superpower.

1030
00:42:56,407 --> 00:42:56,907
Totally.

1031
00:42:56,907 --> 00:42:58,609
What would you say to students

1032
00:42:58,609 --> 00:43:01,412
that are learning a new language,
or how does this help you in your field?

1033
00:43:01,412 --> 00:43:02,646
Because I know you're bilingual.

1034
00:43:02,646 --> 00:43:04,982
I am, yeah, right. Yeah. Yeah.

1035
00:43:04,982 --> 00:43:06,917
Well,
I love the superpower that just the term

1036
00:43:06,917 --> 00:43:08,619
they use superpower
because I'm all about that.

1037
00:43:08,619 --> 00:43:10,220
Like, what are the superpowers
that we don't have,

1038
00:43:10,220 --> 00:43:12,723
whether it's foods
that are superpower foods

1039
00:43:12,723 --> 00:43:16,827
or aspects of ourself of like deciding
and choosing that's a superpower.

1040
00:43:16,827 --> 00:43:19,330
Like to decide is power, right?

1041
00:43:19,330 --> 00:43:21,899
So anyways, I played with that word
a lot. Superpower. Yeah.

1042
00:43:21,899 --> 00:43:24,268
But in this case you're asking me
about what being bilingual.

1043
00:43:24,268 --> 00:43:25,336
Oh, bilingual. Yeah.

1044
00:43:25,336 --> 00:43:26,170
So I.

1045
00:43:26,170 --> 00:43:29,173
Think you advertise that on your website
to bilingual.

1046
00:43:29,273 --> 00:43:30,708
Psychotherapist. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

1047
00:43:30,708 --> 00:43:32,910
I mean, Spanish was my first language,
not English.

1048
00:43:32,910 --> 00:43:35,145
So I speak to them very fluently.

1049
00:43:35,145 --> 00:43:37,348
My parents did a really good job
at maintaining

1050
00:43:37,348 --> 00:43:40,117
that Colombian energy in our home
our whole lives.

1051
00:43:40,117 --> 00:43:42,219
The customs, the language, the everything.

1052
00:43:42,219 --> 00:43:47,157
So I really have felt like this beautiful
balance of Colombian and American energy.

1053
00:43:47,157 --> 00:43:48,459
I've been saying this my whole life.

1054
00:43:49,660 --> 00:43:51,061
So and, you

1055
00:43:51,061 --> 00:43:54,932
know, any other language
just gives you more access to more people,

1056
00:43:54,932 --> 00:43:58,602
more community, more ways of viewing life
and seeing life, which is powerful

1057
00:43:58,602 --> 00:44:01,538
because there's just so much outside
of where we are.

1058
00:44:01,538 --> 00:44:05,643
And client Spanish clients
love working with a,

1059
00:44:05,843 --> 00:44:09,213
you know, like originally Spanish
clinician because and a lot of them,

1060
00:44:09,213 --> 00:44:13,117
I do work with a lot of women right now
who will say, no one understands, like,

1061
00:44:13,117 --> 00:44:16,120
for example, the Spanish mother,
like a Spanish woman.

1062
00:44:16,220 --> 00:44:17,021
Yeah, literally.

1063
00:44:17,021 --> 00:44:18,055
You know what
I mean? I've already planned.

1064
00:44:18,055 --> 00:44:20,791
She's like, I need a woman
that can understand the the Colombian.

1065
00:44:20,791 --> 00:44:21,392
I'm like, I'm cool.

1066
00:44:21,392 --> 00:44:23,927
I'm like, yes,
I do understand the Colombian mother.

1067
00:44:23,927 --> 00:44:26,230
So that alone was what she needed
for engagement.

1068
00:44:26,230 --> 00:44:28,532
Didn't care about my experience.
She's like, are you Spanish?

1069
00:44:28,532 --> 00:44:29,933
And do you know what is Beatriz mother?

1070
00:44:29,933 --> 00:44:32,670
I'm like, I do, so that alone is great.

1071
00:44:32,670 --> 00:44:36,440
So that just connection
is, you know, just allows more people

1072
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,743
to come in to work with me,
to work with our therapist for Latinos to

1073
00:44:39,743 --> 00:44:43,914
and to get really good support,
you know, clinically savvy support.

1074
00:44:44,048 --> 00:44:45,716
So, yeah, it's a great,

1075
00:44:47,151 --> 00:44:49,520
Shout out to our third grade teacher,
Monica.

1076
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:51,722
Senora, mama bear. She's Colombian.

1077
00:44:51,722 --> 00:44:54,224
She's there.
You talk to her about that, right?

1078
00:44:54,224 --> 00:44:56,593
We did talk over the years.
Yeah, when she was there.

1079
00:44:56,593 --> 00:44:58,328
She's all this way. Yeah.

1080
00:44:58,328 --> 00:45:00,564
She teaches all the kids
and she does a wonderful job there.

1081
00:45:00,564 --> 00:45:03,200
She's kids are so engaged and excited.

1082
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:06,070
Oh, they really are. 
So I love that. Yeah. That's great.

1083
00:45:06,070 --> 00:45:09,073
I wish my daughters just took a test
that honored

1084
00:45:09,540 --> 00:45:12,209
their certified bilingual.

1085
00:45:12,209 --> 00:45:13,377
Oh, my. Oh.

1086
00:45:13,377 --> 00:45:16,380
It's by, literate too. By literate.

1087
00:45:16,580 --> 00:45:18,682
Wow. Like it.

1088
00:45:18,682 --> 00:45:20,918
So there's a certification now
in high school.

1089
00:45:20,918 --> 00:45:22,686
Yeah. They took like an hour test.

1090
00:45:22,686 --> 00:45:24,855
They had to record a voice.
They had to read.

1091
00:45:24,855 --> 00:45:26,356
Wow. Really intense.

1092
00:45:26,356 --> 00:45:29,493
It was like 2 or 3 hours,
but good for them.

1093
00:45:29,593 --> 00:45:30,627
I'm very proud of them.

1094
00:45:31,829 --> 00:45:33,530
So I actually went to school in Spain.

1095
00:45:33,530 --> 00:45:34,264
This is fine.

1096
00:45:34,264 --> 00:45:38,268
In college, I did a summer abroad
and I went to an actual university,

1097
00:45:38,268 --> 00:45:40,738
you know,
all in Spanish, University of Alicante,

1098
00:45:40,738 --> 00:45:43,674
which is like right north west
by the ocean.

1099
00:45:43,674 --> 00:45:44,341
Mediterranean.

1100
00:45:44,341 --> 00:45:48,812
Freaking amazing that I remember
taking lit courses and history courses

1101
00:45:48,812 --> 00:45:52,483
and all this stuff and like,
so I got a minor in Spanish that I guess.

1102
00:45:52,683 --> 00:45:53,383
Yeah. Nice.

1103
00:45:53,383 --> 00:45:55,552
Yeah, yeah, it's a good, good thing.

1104
00:45:55,552 --> 00:45:58,555
So now and then, have you
how often do you go to Colombia?

1105
00:46:00,157 --> 00:46:03,393
When we were younger we would go
more often as we became adults.

1106
00:46:03,393 --> 00:46:05,796
You know, it was a lot of other trips
kind of happening.

1107
00:46:05,796 --> 00:46:09,433
So I went two years ago and prior to
that had been like five years.

1108
00:46:09,433 --> 00:46:12,302
So, you know, my aunts come here too.

1109
00:46:12,302 --> 00:46:15,572
So they kind of rather come here
because all the sisters are here.

1110
00:46:15,572 --> 00:46:17,908
So it's just kind of where we travel
different parts of each other. Different.

1111
00:46:17,908 --> 00:46:20,644
How many family members
do you have a brother?

1112
00:46:20,644 --> 00:46:22,946
I have a brother and a sister.
Where? All your part?

1113
00:46:22,946 --> 00:46:25,549
Yeah. Oh, wow. Where are your part?
We were Connor.

1114
00:46:25,549 --> 00:46:27,785
Connor. Right. So the three of us were.

1115
00:46:27,785 --> 00:46:30,821
We're pretty well known in West Hartford
because we're all year far.

1116
00:46:30,821 --> 00:46:33,390
And we were fun people,
if you know what I mean. Yeah.

1117
00:46:35,025 --> 00:46:36,326
So I got some questions for you.

1118
00:46:36,326 --> 00:46:39,062
Oh, okay. Who's your favorite niece?

1119
00:46:39,062 --> 00:46:40,397
Oh, really?

1120
00:46:40,397 --> 00:46:42,833
I have to answer that I can.

1121
00:46:42,833 --> 00:46:45,302
Who's your favorite?
Oh, wait. What's your favorite thing is.

1122
00:46:45,302 --> 00:46:47,504
Oh well let's see.

1123
00:46:47,504 --> 00:46:50,507
This was written by someone too.

1124
00:46:50,507 --> 00:46:51,809
Oh, I'll tell you later.

1125
00:46:51,809 --> 00:46:54,444
Okay. Someone out walk. It. Oh.

1126
00:46:54,444 --> 00:46:57,447
Who's your what was your favorite thing
as a therapist?

1127
00:46:58,649 --> 00:47:00,450
My favorite thing as a therapist.

1128
00:47:00,450 --> 00:47:03,754
I mean,

1129
00:47:03,754 --> 00:47:06,757
I do love seeing parents, children

1130
00:47:06,857 --> 00:47:10,360
heal and, like, say,
they love each other after, like,

1131
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:12,429
a lot of stress and trauma
and to really feel.

1132
00:47:12,429 --> 00:47:13,997
Oh, so you do parent child. Do you do.

1133
00:47:13,997 --> 00:47:15,566
I also do. Marriage?

1134
00:47:15,566 --> 00:47:17,367
I don't do fam couples work right now.

1135
00:47:17,367 --> 00:47:18,001
I've done it all.

1136
00:47:18,001 --> 00:47:22,206
I mean, right now I definitely do women's
mental health, primarily, parent work,

1137
00:47:22,372 --> 00:47:25,442
you know, with the moms that I'm working
with, maybe have the kids come in and do

1138
00:47:25,442 --> 00:47:29,446
some family work with them, or husbands
come in to support their wives? Yep.

1139
00:47:29,513 --> 00:47:31,915
Depending on what we have going on. Yeah.

1140
00:47:31,915 --> 00:47:33,450
Do you have kids?

1141
00:47:33,450 --> 00:47:34,718
Yep. So I have Mr.

1142
00:47:34,718 --> 00:47:37,321
Kingsley Gallagher, who
we just talked about. Where are you from?

1143
00:47:38,322 --> 00:47:40,824
So I was born in Hartford and in the South

1144
00:47:40,824 --> 00:47:44,027
End, and I moved to West Hartford
in my freshman year of high school.

1145
00:47:44,027 --> 00:47:45,929
Who's your favorite sibling?

1146
00:47:45,929 --> 00:47:47,631
Oh, really? I can't.

1147
00:47:47,631 --> 00:47:48,799
You got to answer both.

1148
00:47:48,799 --> 00:47:51,802
No, I know I can. Again.

1149
00:47:51,835 --> 00:47:53,971
What's your favorite food
that your mom cooks?

1150
00:47:53,971 --> 00:47:55,072
Sun. Gaucho.

1151
00:47:55,072 --> 00:47:56,073
Oh, okay.

1152
00:47:56,073 --> 00:47:56,640
So San.

1153
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:58,909
Gotcha. Is a typical Colombian place.

1154
00:47:58,909 --> 00:48:02,813
Just like a hearty soup
with corn and plantain

1155
00:48:02,813 --> 00:48:05,682
and Jukun chicken or beef and carrots.

1156
00:48:05,682 --> 00:48:07,918
Just like this nice, chicken broth.

1157
00:48:07,918 --> 00:48:09,953
Where can you get it? Around here?

1158
00:48:09,953 --> 00:48:10,320
Franklin.

1159
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:12,322
I mean, there's a couple,
a Colombian restaurant.

1160
00:48:12,322 --> 00:48:13,857
So it's a typical plate.

1161
00:48:13,857 --> 00:48:15,125
Cinco, cinco.

1162
00:48:15,125 --> 00:48:17,661
Cinco.

1163
00:48:17,661 --> 00:48:18,495
I should interview.

1164
00:48:18,495 --> 00:48:20,063
Oh, your mom, her mom.

1165
00:48:20,063 --> 00:48:22,699
Why are you a therapist?

1166
00:48:22,699 --> 00:48:23,267
That a question?

1167
00:48:23,267 --> 00:48:26,236
This might have been written
by your eldest niece.

1168
00:48:26,236 --> 00:48:27,471
Oh, no. Way.

1169
00:48:29,039 --> 00:48:29,840
Am I correct this year?

1170
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:31,341
Oldest. She's my oldest.

1171
00:48:31,341 --> 00:48:34,044
Oh, she. She's the one.
The one today. Oh, that's so cute.

1172
00:48:34,044 --> 00:48:36,179
She came in for a sticker. Yeah.

1173
00:48:36,179 --> 00:48:38,282
And I'm like, hey, I know she knew.

1174
00:48:38,282 --> 00:48:40,884
She goes, I'm. You're interviewing
my aunt.

1175
00:48:40,884 --> 00:48:43,420
I'm like, write down some questions.

1176
00:48:43,420 --> 00:48:45,722
That's a good. Job on your questions.

1177
00:48:45,722 --> 00:48:46,924
Who's my favorite? Awesome.

1178
00:48:46,924 --> 00:48:49,393
That's your first question I love it.
Oh I love her.

1179
00:48:49,393 --> 00:48:51,662
And sibling was a good call to brag.

1180
00:48:51,662 --> 00:48:54,665
She's like my. Dad.

1181
00:48:54,965 --> 00:48:57,668
That's so cute I love that.

1182
00:48:57,668 --> 00:48:57,968
Yeah.

1183
00:48:57,968 --> 00:48:59,870
No it's a great family
I have a great family.

1184
00:48:59,870 --> 00:49:02,105
Yeah. Great family. Great kids. Yeah.

1185
00:49:02,105 --> 00:49:03,573
They're great kids too.

1186
00:49:03,573 --> 00:49:06,209
Yeah I missed the boat on Ella.

1187
00:49:06,209 --> 00:49:07,577
And who's the youngest Maya.

1188
00:49:07,577 --> 00:49:09,947
Maya. Maya is going to be fourth
grade now.

1189
00:49:09,947 --> 00:49:11,448
Next year she's are coming.

1190
00:49:11,448 --> 00:49:13,650
She's coming
in. She's in third going is she.

1191
00:49:13,650 --> 00:49:15,886
Yeah. Or second. Not going to third.

1192
00:49:15,886 --> 00:49:17,187
Yeah. She's in second grade.

1193
00:49:17,187 --> 00:49:19,456
She's so bright and such a sparkle
I'm like.

1194
00:49:19,456 --> 00:49:20,424
Yeah on second.

1195
00:49:20,424 --> 00:49:22,392
So maybe fingers crossed Maya.

1196
00:49:22,392 --> 00:49:24,061
Oh yeah. The trouble. Get me.

1197
00:49:25,195 --> 00:49:26,363
You know, be great.

1198
00:49:26,363 --> 00:49:27,397
No. Great. Ella.

1199
00:49:27,397 --> 00:49:28,598
Ella. Great questions.

1200
00:49:28,598 --> 00:49:31,301
Oh, that's so cute I love her.

1201
00:49:31,301 --> 00:49:34,304
You love humans.
I love you also love dogs.

1202
00:49:34,471 --> 00:49:35,806
Oh, where am I going with that?

1203
00:49:35,806 --> 00:49:37,107
Oh. The dog.

1204
00:49:37,107 --> 00:49:40,844
Yes. The Berkeley,
the famous day that was.

1205
00:49:40,844 --> 00:49:44,982
My dog is a labradoodle, and he's
still here on this earth because of Jenny.

1206
00:49:45,315 --> 00:49:47,884
And I want to thank you.

1207
00:49:47,884 --> 00:49:49,720
Not only were you a great room parent.

1208
00:49:49,720 --> 00:49:51,822
Oh, I'm a great psychotherapist.

1209
00:49:51,822 --> 00:49:53,357
No, great at yoga.

1210
00:49:53,357 --> 00:49:55,926
But you saved my dog's life.

1211
00:49:55,926 --> 00:49:57,928
Oh, he must have escaped out of the house.

1212
00:49:57,928 --> 00:50:00,263
And he was on New Britain Avenue,
running back and forth.

1213
00:50:00,263 --> 00:50:02,499
Stop traffic.

1214
00:50:02,499 --> 00:50:04,234
My daughters are crying.

1215
00:50:04,234 --> 00:50:05,802
You're in the street like this.

1216
00:50:05,802 --> 00:50:06,837
Like what's going on?

1217
00:50:06,837 --> 00:50:10,173
Yes, that's like my emergency doctor
kind of thing.

1218
00:50:10,173 --> 00:50:11,475
I just come in in crisis and I.

1219
00:50:11,475 --> 00:50:13,543
Can someone call me crying or something?

1220
00:50:13,543 --> 00:50:15,946
I drove down,
I left school early. That's right.

1221
00:50:15,946 --> 00:50:17,948
I remember you coming this way.
Coming down.

1222
00:50:17,948 --> 00:50:20,584
I'm like, you want to go for a ride?
And you open the door. Berkeley.

1223
00:50:20,584 --> 00:50:22,753
Wonderful ride. And he hops right in.

1224
00:50:22,753 --> 00:50:24,421
You saved the day.

1225
00:50:24,421 --> 00:50:25,922
So my wife thinks you.

1226
00:50:25,922 --> 00:50:27,924
Oh, I thank you, of course.

1227
00:50:27,924 --> 00:50:30,927
No, there is no other choice. I had to.

1228
00:50:31,028 --> 00:50:33,096
I mean, jeez, someone has to help out.

1229
00:50:33,096 --> 00:50:35,098
I changed, I changes everything.

1230
00:50:35,098 --> 00:50:36,633
Oh, you have a wonderful Instagram.

1231
00:50:36,633 --> 00:50:38,602
Let's talk about your Instagram
and your first post.

1232
00:50:38,602 --> 00:50:39,636
I want to talk about two.

1233
00:50:39,636 --> 00:50:42,572
Well is it Instagram Facebook
I mean so we have so that's the thing.

1234
00:50:42,572 --> 00:50:44,374
So I have the Enlightenment
Counseling Center right.

1235
00:50:44,374 --> 00:50:46,410
That was obviously
doing the promotion for it.

1236
00:50:46,410 --> 00:50:49,413
But then I also have kept
my private practice separate from there.

1237
00:50:49,413 --> 00:50:51,982
So I treat them
as two different businesses.

1238
00:50:51,982 --> 00:50:54,117
Oh you know so that's
yeah that's enlightenment.

1239
00:50:54,117 --> 00:50:54,684
Yep yep yep.

1240
00:50:54,684 --> 00:50:56,253
So I thought it was very interesting.

1241
00:50:56,253 --> 00:50:59,022
Yeah. You must have just posted
from earlier.

1242
00:50:59,022 --> 00:51:01,058
All the events you're. Doing.
Today. Yes. Yeah.

1243
00:51:01,058 --> 00:51:02,926
This was from Saturday
because. It's the bottom one.

1244
00:51:02,926 --> 00:51:05,896
I thought three myths about
fear. Therapy debunked.

1245
00:51:07,531 --> 00:51:08,598
Number one,

1246
00:51:08,598 --> 00:51:11,168
you need to hit rock bottom
before you go to therapy.

1247
00:51:11,168 --> 00:51:13,804
True or false? False.

1248
00:51:13,804 --> 00:51:16,173
It will wake you up, though
when you hit rock bottom.

1249
00:51:16,173 --> 00:51:17,441
But don't wait.

1250
00:51:17,441 --> 00:51:19,910
But whatever you need to go through,
you need to go through.

1251
00:51:19,910 --> 00:51:22,345
But yes. Two way that.

1252
00:51:22,345 --> 00:51:23,613
Do you remember what two is?

1253
00:51:23,613 --> 00:51:26,216
No. Therapists just tell you what to do.

1254
00:51:26,216 --> 00:51:28,919
You know how much I'm going on my brain.

1255
00:51:28,919 --> 00:51:30,854
Therapists just tell you what to do.

1256
00:51:30,854 --> 00:51:32,022
True or false.

1257
00:51:32,022 --> 00:51:33,590
If they do turn around.

1258
00:51:33,590 --> 00:51:35,759
It's not all about giving answers.

1259
00:51:35,759 --> 00:51:38,428
Now your therapist partners with you.

1260
00:51:38,428 --> 00:51:41,498
Yeah, I mean, I help
you come to your own answers.

1261
00:51:41,498 --> 00:51:43,500
I'm not telling you anything. I love it.

1262
00:51:43,500 --> 00:51:46,503
Three talking about it
will just make it worse.

1263
00:51:47,504 --> 00:51:51,208
Sometimes I think that that's
where the somatic work or the energy

1264
00:51:51,208 --> 00:51:54,744
work comes in, because talking
sometimes is to charge with emotion.

1265
00:51:55,078 --> 00:51:58,081
So what I would do is either
tapping technique like we did.

1266
00:51:58,115 --> 00:51:59,883
Yeah. If they come in.

1267
00:51:59,883 --> 00:52:00,884
Oh right.

1268
00:52:00,884 --> 00:52:02,552
So I'm not going to talk at that point.

1269
00:52:02,552 --> 00:52:03,954
I'm going to relax their system.

1270
00:52:03,954 --> 00:52:06,323
So validate how they're feeling.
Look at me.

1271
00:52:06,323 --> 00:52:09,126
Keep them engaged okay. Follow me
now let's go. Let's start doing this.

1272
00:52:09,126 --> 00:52:10,760
They don't even need me
to know what I'm doing.

1273
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:13,630
They don't need to understand that.
I know that it's calming the system down.

1274
00:52:13,630 --> 00:52:15,499
Then maybe we can check in.

1275
00:52:15,499 --> 00:52:17,501
I just want to sit down.
All right, you sit down.

1276
00:52:17,501 --> 00:52:21,071
You know, I have, like, different stones
they can hold on to or have an oil.

1277
00:52:21,071 --> 00:52:23,507
They can decide
so they can ground a little more.

1278
00:52:23,507 --> 00:52:25,308
How are you feeling now?

1279
00:52:25,308 --> 00:52:26,676
Oh, a little better.

1280
00:52:26,676 --> 00:52:28,645
So. Well, what do you want to talk about.

1281
00:52:28,645 --> 00:52:31,181
You know,
so that's the beauty of this approach.

1282
00:52:31,181 --> 00:52:32,649
It's like,
you know, I can even imagine like.

1283
00:52:32,649 --> 00:52:35,585
Something different. Every time.
And you're like, okay, tell me about it.

1284
00:52:35,585 --> 00:52:40,157
I have to read the energy, you know,
and these, these a lot of these do Reiki.

1285
00:52:40,290 --> 00:52:41,892
I do Reiki as well. I do Reiki.

1286
00:52:41,892 --> 00:52:43,360
Well I'm certified in Reiki.

1287
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:44,427
I haven't done much

1288
00:52:44,427 --> 00:52:48,665
because I've kind of had a challenge
with, knowing because it's like a very,

1289
00:52:48,698 --> 00:52:51,101
you know, kind of physical
where you can touch the client.

1290
00:52:51,101 --> 00:52:53,637
Sometimes you can be outside,
they're feeling a little bit.

1291
00:52:53,637 --> 00:52:56,673
So I just haven't like really crossed
that line yet between like, you know,

1292
00:52:56,673 --> 00:52:59,943
the mental health client ethics of that
and kind of figuring out all that.

1293
00:52:59,943 --> 00:53:04,080
But but I very much work with the energies
I got trained in and certified.

1294
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:05,982
So I received,
you know, all the, the energies

1295
00:53:05,982 --> 00:53:08,084
from the skies
to be able to provide the support.

1296
00:53:08,084 --> 00:53:11,321
Nice. So, yeah. So I do all that.

1297
00:53:12,289 --> 00:53:13,256
Is there anything you think I

1298
00:53:13,256 --> 00:53:16,259
missed
that you'd like to share or talk about?

1299
00:53:17,427 --> 00:53:20,030
You're doing great work,
and I'm so honored to talk with you today.

1300
00:53:20,030 --> 00:53:24,301
Being Mental Health Awareness Month, where
in May, it's mental health is important

1301
00:53:24,301 --> 00:53:27,137
every month, but it does
stand out and get it's recognition.

1302
00:53:27,137 --> 00:53:29,105
Do you know I may.

1303
00:53:29,105 --> 00:53:31,875
I don't know why I may
I'm sure there's a reason why.

1304
00:53:31,875 --> 00:53:32,976
I. Know.

1305
00:53:32,976 --> 00:53:34,377
Memorial Day.

1306
00:53:34,377 --> 00:53:36,746
Well, I learned more of these months.

1307
00:53:36,746 --> 00:53:37,781
Now it's more like the,

1308
00:53:37,781 --> 00:53:39,950
you know, the marketing kind of stuff
in these last years.

1309
00:53:39,950 --> 00:53:40,350
It's not like

1310
00:53:40,350 --> 00:53:43,253
I like work my work around these months,
but I mean, so

1311
00:53:43,253 --> 00:53:45,255
it's like they all have
meaning and reasons.

1312
00:53:45,255 --> 00:53:48,024
But either way, it's an opportunity
to highlight.

1313
00:53:48,024 --> 00:53:48,592
Right.

1314
00:53:48,592 --> 00:53:53,330
And I think, you know, awareness
is the word that I like live for.

1315
00:53:53,330 --> 00:53:53,730
Right.

1316
00:53:53,730 --> 00:53:57,500
Awareness of yourself, awareness
of how you feel, awareness

1317
00:53:57,500 --> 00:54:00,570
of what you're doing, awareness
of how you're being with others.

1318
00:54:00,570 --> 00:54:03,373
Like a lot of people don't even know
what's going on with themselves.

1319
00:54:03,373 --> 00:54:06,376
So I start off sessions with everybody.

1320
00:54:06,576 --> 00:54:08,912
This might be something,
you know, to start getting a baseline.

1321
00:54:08,912 --> 00:54:12,115
So putting an alarm on or something, 
depending on the environment,

1322
00:54:12,115 --> 00:54:13,950
the work stuff, weekends
we go more with it.

1323
00:54:13,950 --> 00:54:15,252
But I'm like, okay, set an alarm.

1324
00:54:15,252 --> 00:54:17,587
And every three hours,
if you're in a school, your teacher,

1325
00:54:17,587 --> 00:54:20,790
this goes off and you take a minute or two
and you do a check in.

1326
00:54:20,790 --> 00:54:22,892
Where's my breath right now?

1327
00:54:22,892 --> 00:54:24,561
How is my body feeling?

1328
00:54:24,561 --> 00:54:25,929
What do I need right now?

1329
00:54:25,929 --> 00:54:28,798
You can see where's my breath right now?

1330
00:54:28,798 --> 00:54:30,533
How is my body feeling?

1331
00:54:30,533 --> 00:54:31,801
What am I needing?

1332
00:54:31,801 --> 00:54:35,272
So imagine just until that becomes
automatic, you know,

1333
00:54:35,272 --> 00:54:36,273
and of course looking balanced.

1334
00:54:36,273 --> 00:54:38,708
But so say kids, go to lunch.

1335
00:54:38,708 --> 00:54:40,143
In my classroom.

1336
00:54:40,143 --> 00:54:42,279
I'm by myself. Mother. Eat lunch.

1337
00:54:42,279 --> 00:54:44,381
I ask myself that question. Yes.

1338
00:54:44,381 --> 00:54:45,382
Where am I at right now?

1339
00:54:45,382 --> 00:54:48,151
Where's my breath right now?
Hold my breath. Where's my breath?

1340
00:54:48,151 --> 00:54:49,352
How am I feeling?

1341
00:54:49,352 --> 00:54:50,153
And what do I need?

1342
00:54:50,153 --> 00:54:53,056
Yes. Wow,
those three questions. That's it.

1343
00:54:53,056 --> 00:54:54,190
I'm going to try it.

1344
00:54:54,190 --> 00:54:57,794
Do it I, I'm going to challenge
everyone listening.

1345
00:54:57,794 --> 00:55:00,764
Yeah. Do those three. Ask yourself
those three questions.

1346
00:55:00,764 --> 00:55:02,766
How's my body feeling?

1347
00:55:02,766 --> 00:55:05,068
How's my breath. What do I need right now.

1348
00:55:06,503 --> 00:55:06,870
All right.

1349
00:55:06,870 --> 00:55:09,806
I challenge my listeners
to write handwritten notes

1350
00:55:09,806 --> 00:55:12,342
and take very cold showers.

1351
00:55:12,342 --> 00:55:14,911
But now we're going to do
where's my breath.

1352
00:55:14,911 --> 00:55:17,414
Well how am I feeling. What do I need.
What do I need.

1353
00:55:17,414 --> 00:55:18,081
Yeah I love it.

1354
00:55:18,081 --> 00:55:19,416
You're here to hear comment

1355
00:55:19,416 --> 00:55:22,519
and and let us know how you feeling
with those three important questions.

1356
00:55:22,519 --> 00:55:23,086
Yeah.

1357
00:55:23,086 --> 00:55:24,487
And that's really good with anxiety

1358
00:55:24,487 --> 00:55:27,991
because we're trying to kind of,
interrupt the patterning a bit.

1359
00:55:28,224 --> 00:55:31,227
And with anxiety
breathwork is the number one for me.

1360
00:55:31,227 --> 00:55:33,296
Right.
So a lot of times we have short breath.

1361
00:55:33,296 --> 00:55:34,831
We have an idea of short breath.

1362
00:55:34,831 --> 00:55:37,200
I just feel it.

1363
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:38,101
Oh yeah.

1364
00:55:38,101 --> 00:55:40,203
You're panting and nervous.

1365
00:55:40,203 --> 00:55:41,705
So you considered long so deep.

1366
00:55:41,705 --> 00:55:42,772
Once I get better. Yeah.

1367
00:55:42,772 --> 00:55:48,411
And do the nose for for hold it and out
through the mouth for five.

1368
00:55:52,349 --> 00:55:55,352
To see.

1369
00:55:57,987 --> 00:55:59,356
I know I do that in my classroom.

1370
00:55:59,356 --> 00:56:00,423
I hit the singing bowl.

1371
00:56:00,423 --> 00:56:02,959
Sorry, I hit one. Stop what you're doing.

1372
00:56:02,959 --> 00:56:05,829
Two eyes on me. Three. Big breath.

1373
00:56:05,829 --> 00:56:08,565
And we all take a collective breath
as a class, I love it.

1374
00:56:08,565 --> 00:56:10,266
And then sometimes we do five

1375
00:56:10,266 --> 00:56:14,003
deep breaths because these kids, like,
you know, the huffing in the.

1376
00:56:14,437 --> 00:56:17,807
But just that alone, like, it's already
a little brighter in here it is

1377
00:56:17,841 --> 00:56:20,944
after you take a deep breath,
you feel a little more relaxed.

1378
00:56:20,944 --> 00:56:23,313
The shoulders are feeling better again.

1379
00:56:23,313 --> 00:56:24,414
It's brighter.

1380
00:56:24,414 --> 00:56:26,583
The brain feels like clearer.

1381
00:56:26,583 --> 00:56:28,284
More clarity, a little.

1382
00:56:28,284 --> 00:56:31,287
Yeah, yeah.

1383
00:56:31,488 --> 00:56:32,021
And breathwork.

1384
00:56:32,021 --> 00:56:34,190
I was going to say again,
it's a whole chapter on its own.

1385
00:56:34,190 --> 00:56:37,160
It's a whole world. Right. But like, it's
interesting doing the biofeedback.

1386
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,263
So I was actually receiving biofeedback,
which is I talked about it earlier

1387
00:56:40,263 --> 00:56:44,868
on kind of coming out of my own stuff,
my own stress response, my own anxieties.

1388
00:56:44,868 --> 00:56:46,503
And then the last couple of years,
I was like, you know,

1389
00:56:46,503 --> 00:56:50,340
I think it's time for me to receive
a little bit of what I give to the world.

1390
00:56:50,340 --> 00:56:53,209
So I, you know, started my therapy again
with my own therapist,

1391
00:56:53,209 --> 00:56:55,812
and I started doing biofeedback,
just really going strong.

1392
00:56:55,812 --> 00:56:57,881
And I know that I could handle both.

1393
00:56:57,881 --> 00:57:00,950
And with the biofeedback, it's,
you know, you're you're you're connected.

1394
00:57:00,950 --> 00:57:03,153
Your brain's being measured on a computer,

1395
00:57:03,153 --> 00:57:06,356
your heart rate, your body temperature,
your muscle tension,

1396
00:57:06,356 --> 00:57:07,957
and you're seeing the data
on the computer.

1397
00:57:07,957 --> 00:57:10,160
And you can see how you're manipulating

1398
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:13,430
the different parts of the physiology
through different practices.

1399
00:57:13,763 --> 00:57:17,901
So the AI, for me, based on my breath
and what was going on with me,

1400
00:57:17,901 --> 00:57:21,871
we identified the five by five breath,
which was exactly what I needed

1401
00:57:21,871 --> 00:57:23,740
based on my symptoms.

1402
00:57:23,740 --> 00:57:25,308
For some people, the diaphragm breath.

1403
00:57:25,308 --> 00:57:28,478
So, you know, breathing in for
for belly out, hold it.

1404
00:57:28,978 --> 00:57:30,814
Breath out for 5 billion.

1405
00:57:30,814 --> 00:57:33,216
It could be a very good technique
from somebody else.

1406
00:57:33,216 --> 00:57:34,651
There's a nostril breathing.

1407
00:57:34,651 --> 00:57:36,553
Oh breathe in one of the other.

1408
00:57:36,553 --> 00:57:38,521
Yeah I do that I do that.

1409
00:57:38,521 --> 00:57:42,192
So now so but all of these have different,
you know, techniques to feed.

1410
00:57:42,325 --> 00:57:43,660
Exactly, exactly.

1411
00:57:43,660 --> 00:57:45,161
So it's not I'm saying
it's a world on its own.

1412
00:57:45,161 --> 00:57:48,631
So how precise. It could be.

1413
00:57:48,665 --> 00:57:50,700
They see the point to be general
to start with.

1414
00:57:50,700 --> 00:57:53,403
Anybody just education on breath.
But I'm saying it could go so deep.

1415
00:57:53,403 --> 00:57:55,271
And that's why there's breath for,

1416
00:57:55,271 --> 00:57:58,141
you know, facilitators that just do that
because it's such a.

1417
00:57:58,141 --> 00:58:00,310
Wow. Technique. Yeah. Wow.

1418
00:58:01,778 --> 00:58:03,713
Any closing remarks before?

1419
00:58:03,713 --> 00:58:05,482
Because I got a gift from my last guest.

1420
00:58:05,482 --> 00:58:09,085
My last podcast was Ben Fuchs,
financial advisor.

1421
00:58:09,085 --> 00:58:12,188
So if you're looking for financial advice,
Ben Fuchs is your man.

1422
00:58:12,188 --> 00:58:16,326
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1423
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1424
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1425
00:58:22,165 --> 00:58:23,333
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1426
00:58:23,333 --> 00:58:25,869
Stress balls. He'll do stress balls. Okay.

1427
00:58:25,869 --> 00:58:26,503
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1428
00:58:26,503 --> 00:58:31,808
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1429
00:58:32,175 --> 00:58:34,844
So awesome. But closing remarks first or.

1430
00:58:34,844 --> 00:58:36,713
Closing remarks, I think it's, you know,

1431
00:58:36,713 --> 00:58:40,550
the message that healing is possible
at any stage, any level of life.

1432
00:58:40,550 --> 00:58:43,520
You know, it doesn't mean it's easy or.

1433
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:45,088
You know what I mean?
It's a process. It's a journey.

1434
00:58:45,088 --> 00:58:49,092
But you can come to peace with life and
being the now, because life is just now.

1435
00:58:49,325 --> 00:58:51,961
The eternal now is what I say
it is just now.

1436
00:58:51,961 --> 00:58:56,432
So just to bring that hope to people,
you know, obviously we're around as well.

1437
00:58:56,432 --> 00:58:58,801
We are here. We have our office right
across the street.

1438
00:58:58,801 --> 00:59:02,038
We're on 660 Prospect Avenue
and it's called therapy rods.

1439
00:59:02,038 --> 00:59:05,008
A whole bunch of therapists
been there for about five years.

1440
00:59:05,008 --> 00:59:06,776
We do have openings in both offices.

1441
00:59:06,776 --> 00:59:08,478
We take all insurances.

1442
00:59:08,478 --> 00:59:11,514
We have opening for adolescents for,
you know,

1443
00:59:11,548 --> 00:59:15,952
women's issues, Perry,
postpartum, couples and families as well.

1444
00:59:15,952 --> 00:59:18,955
So, you know, give us a call,
check out the website,

1445
00:59:18,955 --> 00:59:21,157
and we would love to connect with you
guys.

1446
00:59:21,157 --> 00:59:23,693
Jenny, thank you so much for being here.

1447
00:59:23,693 --> 00:59:26,429
Again, Mental Health Month in May.

1448
00:59:26,429 --> 00:59:29,332
So I'm glad we got this
podcast in is very important topic.

1449
00:59:29,332 --> 00:59:31,501
Yeah. I love your family.

1450
00:59:31,501 --> 00:59:33,002
Kinsley is amazing.

1451
00:59:33,002 --> 00:59:34,604
Tell him I said hi. You're the man.

1452
00:59:36,706 --> 00:59:39,709
And where am I?

1453
00:59:40,109 --> 00:59:41,511
How am I breathing?

1454
00:59:41,511 --> 00:59:43,079
What do I need?

1455
00:59:43,079 --> 00:59:44,714
Let's remember that take away.

1456
00:59:44,714 --> 00:59:47,717
It's a huge take away today in breathing.

1457
00:59:48,284 --> 00:59:49,819
And the tapping. Right?

1458
00:59:49,819 --> 00:59:51,588
Oh, I gotta get the kid from Cody.

1459
00:59:51,588 --> 00:59:53,489
Yeah.

1460
00:59:53,489 --> 00:59:54,223
So. No. Great.

1461
00:59:54,223 --> 00:59:56,392
And I also got some work here.

1462
00:59:56,392 --> 00:59:58,194
Ted, talk on butterflies.

1463
00:59:58,194 --> 01:00:00,964
Oh. Air by Kinsley.

1464
01:00:00,964 --> 01:00:04,067
Monopoly. Compare and contrast. Monopoly.

1465
01:00:04,067 --> 01:00:04,968
And. Sorry.

1466
01:00:04,968 --> 01:00:07,770
Oh, you wrote about the Medal of Honor.

1467
01:00:07,770 --> 01:00:10,873
Oh, just amazing work
that was on the Google Drive.

1468
01:00:10,873 --> 01:00:12,241
I want to share that with you.

1469
01:00:12,241 --> 01:00:14,310
Oh, I can can you take this course?

1470
01:00:14,310 --> 01:00:14,911
Please do.

1471
01:00:14,911 --> 01:00:16,245
Oh, he's going to love it.

1472
01:00:16,245 --> 01:00:18,047
Let going do a little unboxing.

1473
01:00:18,047 --> 01:00:19,549
Anyone do your box. Let's do the.

1474
01:00:19,549 --> 01:00:22,552
Unboxing from Cricket press. Beautiful.

1475
01:00:22,685 --> 01:00:23,686
Let's see what we got here.

1476
01:00:25,622 --> 01:00:28,591
Got all this.

1477
01:00:32,295 --> 01:00:35,298
I'm going to unbox this from cricket.

1478
01:00:35,298 --> 01:00:38,768
I'm very excited to see what it is. So.

1479
01:00:52,982 --> 01:00:54,584
You got to get the crinkle one.

1480
01:00:54,584 --> 01:00:57,587
Crinkle crinkle crinkle crinkle crinkle.

1481
01:00:59,188 --> 01:00:59,756
Listen to the.

1482
01:00:59,756 --> 01:01:01,557
Sounds good.

1483
01:01:01,557 --> 01:01:03,960
Yeah. You could you you hit the dialog.

1484
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:06,963
I'll check it out

1485
01:01:07,163 --> 01:01:07,430
here.

1486
01:01:07,430 --> 01:01:10,433
The plastic coming out of the box.

1487
01:01:15,505 --> 01:01:18,508
The covers coming off.

1488
01:01:18,541 --> 01:01:20,143
What is it?

1489
01:01:20,143 --> 01:01:23,446
Oh, that is gorgeous cricket press.

1490
01:01:24,180 --> 01:01:26,783
Oh, wait. Hold on. And then.

1491
01:01:26,783 --> 01:01:29,686
Oh, amazing.

1492
01:01:29,686 --> 01:01:31,954
That is beautiful. That looks really nice.

1493
01:01:31,954 --> 01:01:34,357
Thank you. Greg I really appreciate that.

1494
01:01:34,357 --> 01:01:37,360
Thank you. Cricket, I could I should.

1495
01:01:37,727 --> 01:01:40,730
Are you doing the the.

1496
01:01:45,068 --> 01:01:45,435
Oh yeah.

1497
01:01:45,435 --> 01:01:48,438
Not much better.

1498
01:01:50,940 --> 01:01:51,340
Forgot.

1499
01:01:51,340 --> 01:01:53,576
Yeah. Good little nails.

1500
01:01:53,576 --> 01:01:55,144
Not ready for.

1501
01:01:55,144 --> 01:01:55,411
Baggy.

1502
01:01:55,411 --> 01:01:58,414
Wasn't good? No.

1503
01:01:59,982 --> 01:02:00,283
All right.

1504
01:02:00,283 --> 01:02:02,118
Thank you for allowing me to do that.

1505
01:02:02,118 --> 01:02:04,020
Went on for another hour. Yeah, right.

1506
01:02:04,020 --> 01:02:05,755
For sure I think. Greg.

1507
01:02:05,755 --> 01:02:07,190
Awesome. Jenny.

1508
01:02:07,190 --> 01:02:08,491
Yes. Wonderful challenge.

1509
01:02:08,491 --> 01:02:09,392
Thank you so much.

1510
01:02:09,392 --> 01:02:12,295
Don't forget to check in with yourself.

1511
01:02:12,295 --> 01:02:14,664
What are you feeling?
What do you. Need and what do you need?

1512
01:02:14,664 --> 01:02:15,932
How's your breath? Yeah, we.

1513
01:02:15,932 --> 01:02:17,867
Were going to say be a good friend.

1514
01:02:17,867 --> 01:02:18,468
One, two.

1515
01:02:18,468 --> 01:02:18,901
Three.

1516
01:02:18,901 --> 01:02:22,438
Be a good. Friend. Always and forever.

1517
01:02:24,507 --> 01:02:26,042
Yeah, that's a wrap.